Ryan Brown

Ryan breaks it all down and tells you his side of the story.

on Sep 30, 20090

I heard from a lot of you this past week and after seeing this week's episode, the truth is still not told. During the filming of that scene, I simply got tired of Jeff shouting over me as I tried to make my point clear. Since the accusations are ludicrous, I’ve been trying to take the high road on all of this by not giving it any energy. Unfortunately, that’s not really getting the truth out, so to address Jeff’s half-truths head on I’ve complied a list of his statements followed by the truth of what really happened.

Jeff: “Ryan is stealing business from me."

Truth: I have never misled anyone into thinking they were contacting Jeff. In my line of work, people do not steal jobs from other designers. If you were trying to call the Honda dealership to buy a Honda and reached someone at Mercedes, wouldn’t you notice? The people that are attracted to Jeff and his work are different from those that want to work with me.

194 comments
detailsny
detailsny

i'm glad things did not work out between you and jeff.  he doesn't deserve your friendship.  i'm sure you know what he did to jenni and i'm sure you can feel her pain.  he is a very sad person.  so much damange

Lyon B
Lyon B

They just started showing season 4 in Canada, and it's not the same without you. I'm really sorry you're not on the show anymore, but I applaud your decision to not contact Jeff. If he'd had all those suspicions about you, a real friend would have spoken to you directly and wouldn't have used it as fodder for a reality show. He's a creep, so you're better off without him.

Davene
Davene

Aloha Ryan - This whole is sad to me especially considering your daughter and how much she and Jeff seemed connected to each other. Because Jeff is clearly such a hothead and quite unstable emotionally and mentally it seems as if your side of the story could be true. Although experience has taught us all, who want to learn, there are usually 3 sides to every story if not more. So none of us will ever know probably, including Jeff or you, what really went on. :(

Cindy Gutierrez
Cindy Gutierrez

Ryan, I missed you this season you are truly best and this season not the same without you hopefully you get own spin off show that would cool.

Starla
Starla

Mr. Brown,

Those of us who are fans of the show cannot even begin to understand exactly what happened regarding your friendship with Jeff Lewis, nor how either of you must feel about it. I just really enjoyed watching both of you and felt there was alot of love between the two of you and your families. It is sad when fame, fortune, and ego contorts one's life. I have often wondered what role these three things played in the fallout?

julie powers
julie powers

Ryan,

I love the show but...because you are not on this season I will probably not be watching. I love your tender heart and you are a beautiful designer...so please start your own show not to compete but many of us will miss seeing that smile and you give us great design tips for free by watching. Just a thought but i hope you consider! ;)

tenn.girl
tenn.girl

as the bible says those without sin throw the first stone. but I would move on to.good luck.

Davidjp
Davidjp

Hopefully we will be seeing you in your own show..... would def watch.

Cindy R
Cindy R

Yes Cool and Gang - well said and very true!

Patrick james
Patrick james

Hello Ryan so sad to see how things ended last year. You are the hottest and sweet looking guy who can be trusted and jeff was a fool to lose you. I bet he was very sorry for saying all that he said he's got trust issues. I would love to know what happened to your friendship, as season 2009 just ended here in Melbourne Australia. Love the show and all the cast but I like you the most your good looking,a great dad,good designer and sweet. lots of love and respect don't worry about jeff he knows the truth patrick James.

Dianne Robinson
Dianne Robinson

It's always sad to see a friendship crumble. I think Jeff is obsessing and it's costing him ... not just financially. Good Luck Ryan!

seville
seville

First of all, I am no Jeff fan! I cannot stand how he treats other people, and, how he snickered when those tw became ill from chemicals. He is lucky that they didn't sue his arss off. I don't believe that you stold anything from him! I think that you stopped lissing his arzz and that is what he is so mad about. Keep up the good work!

An-Tuan
An-Tuan

I think it is unfortunate that you and Jeff could not resolve this matter. However, I must agree with Jeff in thinking the behavior Ryan displayed was very suspicious. However, I don't think Ryan stole business from Jeff. As much as I do like Jeff, he seems to be a type A personality and has tunnel vision. He see's what he wants, hears what he wants, and believes what he wants.

JM67
JM67

Ryan,

After watching the reunion show and seeing the interaction between you and Jeff, I find it sad that the situation has not resolved. I understand your position, but imagine if something happened to either yourself or Jeff and you were not able to speak with each other again. I had a similar situation and live with regret every day knowing that I cannot ever speak to my friend again. If I could go back, I would find a way to work out the issue - which now seems very small. Granted, I have no idea what the total scope of the issue between the two of you is, and I have no idea what it's like to work with Jeff in reality, but I can tell that Jeff will not be the one to step up and admit he was wrong on any level. You would need to be the person to end this since you are far more stable than Jeff - he needs help.

I wish you health and happiness!

Vicki Lynn
Vicki Lynn

Ryan, I have watched the show the last two years and have loved the antics of Jeff, but this year I could see the cracks in his facade and I am so sorry that it all came down on you, you are a decent man who has had the misfortune in getting caught up in the train wreck that is Jeff's life. You will go on to have a wonderful life with many friends, I don't see that as a possibility for Jeff. Best wishes to you and yours.

Natalie-NY
Natalie-NY

Ryan, I love Flipping Out and yes we are all Jeff Lewis' fans. I am saddened by the end of your friendship, but with every closing door another one is opened. I hope you both can get past this in private. Apologize to Jeff about the web links even if you intended no harm. Good luck on all your future endeavors.

Syndi NY
Syndi NY

I will say this, JEALOUS, Jeff is jealous of your success, which has always been design, but you did share some house flips together and made good money doing that. You chose to shy away from flipping & concentrate on your design business. Now he is jealous, and resentful, that you have moved forward. You are best to part ways, he was only bringing you down for not continuing to be a part of his tyraids. Best of Luck for you & your family!

Kizzy
Kizzy

I wish both of you would just go back to the beginning, and remember why you were friends in the fist place. I lost a very dear friend over a misunderstanding, and it's an awful feeling. Don't let money come between you, OK. Trust is the key word here. If you can't tell Jeff what is going on, then honestly SHOW HIM!!!!!

S.Pee Pee
S.Pee Pee

Ryan, I think you touched subtly on many points of a celebrities power and wrath. I admire your integrity throughout this entire situation. That said, if I could afford it I would hire YOU for design work. I think I will continue to watch the show, I enjoy the cast and tolerate and am sometimes amused by Jeff. Thanks, Ryan and Good luck!

Dennis6
Dennis6

I love your hairstyle on t.v. Where can I get mine done?

becka
becka

I really believe in you Ryan because you could see the pain it was causing you to hear him say all of those ludicris statments! Jeff just lost a great part of his family!

ChuckD
ChuckD

Bravo to Cool&Gang for the post. These are my exact sentiments. Sponsoring links with someone else's name and driving that traffic to your own website is more than deceptive, it's downright slimey. What didn't you address this issue for the world to see? Were you ashamed?

Viewer-West Palm
Viewer-West Palm

Ryan,

Best of luck between you and Jeff patching things up, it appears the both of you are hurting about this dispute.

Maybe you need Jenni to mediate the reconciliation between the both of you.

GCT in The ATL
GCT in The ATL

Jeff is an idiot. I believe you Ryan. Your grace under fire spoke volumes. You have a life. You have your partner and your child. That is your family. Real Family does not put your business in the street because they got upset. I noticed Jeff did not tell people what his mortgage payment yes. Be strong, stay focused, love your child and it will work out in the end. Jeff used you to get ratings. Real friends don't do that.

Cool&Gang
Cool&Gang

I think the real point was again skipped over in your explanations Jeff. You never answer the question: Why did you purchase google links with Jeff's name and then direct all those hits to your website? You have not answered this question!!! Why did you do that? Can you see how incredibly horrible that looks, and how misleading it is? Why do you continue to dodge this? It is the main thing that has floored the audience, and apparently Jeff. You used his name in a very specific and proven way. You would obviously have planned this -- that every time someone googled Jeff, they would find links that brought them to your website. And then they would think they had reached the two of you when in fact they had opnly reached you. It seems to me you were purposely directing clients to yourself and using Jeff's name to get them there. This is how jeff kept explaining it on the episodes, and it seems to me that, at least by what the show presented, you never ever admitted it, explained why you did that, or apologized. It's sleezy, to put it mildly. It would be a relationship death for anyone involved. I can see why Jeff's heart is broken. He felt you were his best friend, he says on the show you are his family. It just seems you have a million other topics to set straight, except you are silent on the main point, the main accusation: which are the google links and the web site. You need to respond to this.

Buster1
Buster1

Ryan, You insult everyone's intelligence with your games. I can see that Jeff can be difficult (to put it mildly), but I have to say that Jeff is dead on with this website thing. He keeps saying he hasn't any proof but he does. You are in the wrong on this one and I can't believe you can't, or won't, own up to it.

I <3 Ryan
I <3 Ryan

I love you Ryan!! and Cloe is just adorable!! I was in tears when I saw the reunion. The whole situation is too sad, but I hope you guys work things out. Please, don't leave the show

much love to you and your family.

catward
catward

Ryan, We just wanted to let you know they you still have a great deal of fans out there. We are Jeff Lewis fans, but we know there is always two sides of the story, and the media typically shows only one of those sides. I hope you and Jeff can work it out some how because "true" friendship only comes once in a life time. Cat

MARK in TAMPA
MARK in TAMPA

Remember to stay the same Ryan you were when you were a young kid (before we had baggage), and you'll be fine.

kristina09
kristina09

Ryan stay strong and positive-i went through a situation to wear i lost a best friend and sometimes its for the best. You don't need to be friends with someone that doesnt trust you...once trust is out of the door there is NO friendship...stay blessed.

bcrisfiled
bcrisfiled

This year I to lost a very close friend over money. I am a realtor and it seems in this down market anything goes and everyone is out for themselves. My friend and I will make amends and I hope you and Jeff will to.

kagey
kagey

You cannot create a gem like Chloe by being devious or manipulative, your child reflects you and I think the proof is in the little puddin' face; Chloe. I hope that Jeff realizes what is really at stake here, some things are more important than him needing vindication.

SPB
SPB

Writing again to take it back... I wrote a post the other day defending Jeff. Then I stopped to think and realized that you (and Jeff) might be getting so many negative comments. The reality is, only you know your intentions with the links and the site. Who am I to judge? So instead, I'm sending you positive energy : ) wishing you and your family and Jeff and his family all the best.

luv you Ryan
luv you Ryan

Ryan, Love you, believe you and Jeff needs to let it go! Please, Please don't leave the show by moving away. Your a big part of Flipping Out and It would be so sad to not see you and Jeff reconcile and be in each others lives. You both have alot of healing to do and you just need time to be your healers. All my best for a happy life! Central Cal Gal :)

Amber Gbay
Amber Gbay

It does not matter who is right and who is wrong. There are always two sides to every story. That is the simple part. It doesn't matter whose fault it is when the end result is that both people are dead. This is a train wreck and it doesn't need to be. If you can not resolve why there is an issue, step past it, stop focusing on it and work on starting over. Focus on what is important. If your friendship is important to you both then move past this. It is that simple. It is a choice. One person may have to be the bigger person and bend a little. I guess you both will have to decide whether it is more important to be right or to be friends. You both know the heart of the other and you know the truth that lies within. You are both good people and great friends. The only obstacle I see is pride.

Puppy
Puppy

If there was a "Team Ryan" T-shirt I'd be wearing it!

lorraine.cairns
lorraine.cairns

Ryan,

I watched the show with you and Jeff the other night. I wish you both would make up. I know Jeff wont let it go, I wish he would move on and make piece. You were obviously very emotional and teary. Im hoping you both will remain friends as life is to short. I love watching your daughter's birthday party. Hang in there.

Im hoping there will be a 4th show and we will see you there.

Thinking of you Lorraine

Tish
Tish

Ryan, My heart broke for both you and Jeff the other evening watching the reunion show, so sad! I do not know if you and Jeff can ever be friends again by the actions of the other evening, but you can forgive, forgivness is such a great healing, one you both can use. I hope that Jeff and you can both move past this hurtfull event in your lives. Good luck and God bless. P.S. your precious little girl is most beautiful!

JD
JD

Ryan, I just want to share something with you to help you through this. I have sisters that I am very close to, but we don't always agree with each other, nor do we always get along. We are all very independent and have our own ideas and opinions. With that said, we often hear what we want to hear instead of what is really being said. I honestly believe that you and Jeff know in your hearts that your are each right. It is so hard to say I'm sorry when you feel that you are right about whatever the issues are. But in the long run, sometimes we have to say yes this will never be cleared up, and we will never agree on what occurred, but what is more important in my short life that I have on earth to forgive and move on. Carrying grudges accomplish nothing, being stubborn proves nothing. Neither of you will have peace no matter how much you try to pretend until someone gives in. Being the bigger person and making the first move to resolution is always an honorable position. I think that you need to meet privately without the cameras, or any other influences, and sit and talk, yell, argue, then once all the emotions are out there, forgive. Period. Just do it.

Misty
Misty

The reunion show was so devastating. It had me in tears. My heart breaks for you, your family and Jeff. It is sad to see a friendship being torn so publicly. Jeff should have confronted you privately and you guys should have come to some sort of an agreement. Life is too short and friends are very few. I ask that you take a deep breath and ask yourself, "without Jeff in my life what impact will it have". As I sat in my living room crying and watching the pain you and Jeff are going through, I pray that you do work things out because you guys are GREAT TOGETHER you are not only partners, you are FAMILY! BLOOD is thicker than WATER, MONEY and FAME! I pray that you guys can work through this because I love you both.

K
K

I loved the birthday party, The baby guarding the cupcakes. How cute. I really think Jeff will miss you and the baby I really think Jeff is still in love with you. Otherwise he would not keep harping about it. I want you back.

MW in FLA
MW in FLA

Hi Ryan,

Hang in there. You are so right! I love Jeff and the show, but come on, he threw you under the bus for ratings. There wasn't much happening this year in terms of flipping houses, which was always so much fun to watch, so Jeff had to come up with some other way to create drama. How sad he chose to try to ruin your reputation. You were right... he was/is trying to hurt your good name. But the intelligent viewers can see rigth through this! But come back next season!!! And show us more of your work... I know, why not have your own design show!! Best to you and your family.

Courttenay
Courttenay

I saw the reunion last night and felt so bad for you. I believe what you are saying and I think most of America does too. You truly seem hurt and upset by all of this. I wish you and your family the best! Your daughter is beautiful!

Steve Kelly
Steve Kelly

LIFE IS TOOOO SHORT........MAKE AMMENDS WHILE YOU ARE ABLE!

JacobLashay
JacobLashay

I think Jeff got this one wrong. He's hurt about what happened prior to the accusations and he's invented this lying thing to make himself feel better. You're clearly an honest guy. Honest people don't just one day become dishonest.

Ron in Dallas
Ron in Dallas

There is no way it adds up. The reason people know of you is because of the show. Jeff is the reason there is a show. What you should do is man up and admit that you freaked when the market turned and did some things that anyone can tell by looking at how you react knew was wrong. Only time will tell if you are good enough of a friend of Jeffs to do the right thing.

Viewer786085763525
Viewer786085763525

I think your both acting like children, and if you really, really do care for each other as you claim then you both need to man up, work it out, stop accusing each other of crap, and start over with love instead of anger.

Monica
Monica

Hi Ryan....

It was so sad for us (my family) to watch the reunion... I saw tears in your eyes...I am sorry this situation got out of control. As you know, Jeff can be "difficult" at times but he's a good person ( you know that!!) he adores Chloe and you...it's obvious.

Please Ryan work it out! come back next season without you the show is not complete! Love from the ATL! Mon

Jana5522
Jana5522

My husband and I have enjoyed the show since the beginning, and especially love watching your daughter, who is the same age as our youngest.

I applaud your grace and attitude. Staying cool in that situation required a lot of patience on your part, especially when Jeff commented on your mortgage. I understand what it is like to have friends with a mental disorder, and as much as you try to stay their friends, sometimes it becomes just too exhausting, and with both of you in the spotlight, that makes it that much harder.

I hope the two of you are able to settle your differences at least to remain on a friendly level. Life is too short to wipe away those who have stood by us.

Good luck in everything you do!