Jeff Lewis

Jeff regrets that he lost control and looks for new strategies in dealing with his team.

on Sep 27, 20100

Sarah has been employed by JLD for almost a year and a half. She has been a cheerful and fun addition to the office. She is well-liked by my clients and employees. When she is allowed to work on her own and at her own pace, she is very productive. When working by my side, she is not as successful. She continually forgets to write things down and remind me of important calls and appointments. She makes mistakes on the to-do lists and miscommunicates information to sub-contractors and clients. I have been more patient with her than any other employee in the 11-years I have owned my own business. I have made great strides to control my frustration and intolerance of her repeated mess-ups. I have had hundreds of rational, reasonable discussions with her in attempts to explain my needs and requirements. Unfortunately, I finally blew.

It was not just any explosion, it was one of epic proportion. It caused major damage in that it hurt Sarah's feelings forcing her to flee to the bathroom in tears. She stayed there for almost 30- minutes. It was very uncomfortable for the other employees, mostly because that is the only bathroom at Valley Oak they're allowed to use. I realize this is starting to sound redundant, but I again feel terrible. I never wanted to hurt Sarah. My goal has always been to mold and train her to be the next Jenni. What I realize now is that's never going to happen.

Every one of my employees has their own unique strengths and talents and it is up to me to find them and utilize these gifts. With some employees, discovering their talents is like a never ending scavenger hunt. While I figure out exactly where Sarah fits in at JLD, I must find another way of dealing with her "off days." Lately, if there are mornings where she is prone to making mistakes, I simply make a list of errands and send her out for the day. She really shines on those days, but unfortunately there are times when I need her by my side. I continue to look for more healthy and productive ways to deal with my stress and frustration. Although the progress has been slow, I am trying.

74 comments
Maggietish
Maggietish

Jeff, I realy like your show but you really need to start paying attention to what Gage is doing to your business.  I understand that you are in love but he blatantly undermines each and every other person that is close to you.  Its your bussiness and your money - not his - and the decisions to who stays and who goes is yours and yours alone.  He has singularly gotten rid or everyone who is close to you except Jenni and Zoila - but he treats them with little or no respect at all.  They have, in their way, helped you with your success and its like Gage resents that.  You, my friend, need to get control of your temper and the way you seemingly feel you can treat people.  Jenni is as much the show as you are with Zoila running a close second.  If Jenni goes - there goes your show.  No one wants to see you freak out each and every week and make victims of those employed by you - get a grip.

Diane11281951
Diane11281951

Jeff,my dear man.....I hate Andrew for having that poor little pooch in the car....ETC.I also see his behavior is childish,immature,God love him...BUT....does it belong as a reflection for you???I was sooo proud of you when you paused& spoke reason to him.You brought me back to taking a kindly view of Andrew Child.I had become soooo protective of the dog that I lost all forgiveness...thanks for reminding me that love&tolerance is my creed...even when watching Reality T.V.<3 <3 <3

Y.D. Logan
Y.D. Logan

Briefly, Jeff, I was extremely impressed with your New York kitchen project. Big Goal and Huge Accomplishment!! Since I am also a perfectionist, I am beginning to believe that you are a "Leo" (astrology sign) primarily due to your stage presence, charisma and magnetism. Since your personality remind me of myself (especially in my earlier managerial years), I sincerely hope your personality (somewhat chaotic) will mellow out. Keep in mind, you play a major role in your employee's lifes, which equates to you possessing a great deal of control over their psychological, financial and even medical well being. Therefore, take it easy.......and remember to "over-communicate not under-communicate" your daily expectations to your entry level employees (especially Sarah and Trace). Lastly, and more importantly, be grateful and relish your present position in life and always demonstrate your appreciation for your employee's loyalty. Best Regards.....

slbraddock
slbraddock

This is an absolutely fabulous reality show. The music you have chosen is horrific and so ridiculous from the view point of your audience. It JUST grates on the nerves. Why??? You have the ability to access the best in the industry and someone needs to take control and make change that enhance your show and is pleasing to the viewers.

Lulu's Mama
Lulu's Mama

OMG, I love your show and am very disappointed that the latest "season" was only what, maybe 6 weeks long???? Whatever happened to Sept to June? Anyway, we watch you faithfully and am thankful to be retired. In my opinion, Sarah doesn't appear to have the level of maturity I think she should have to better support you. SHE'S GOT TO GET RID OF THE GUM!!!! Looking forward to next season.

Dianne from PA
Dianne from PA

Jeff, I totally would have flipped out on Sara too! I wanted to scream when she didn't ask what's-his-name what his excuse was for not showing up... instead just telling him right off the bat you were going with another bid? WTF?? Was she totally not listening? I guess by some people's standards you may have gone too far. Sara cried. Perhaps I would have cried too if it were me, but I totally understand where you are coming from. I've taken a lot of crap from previous employers, thank god I'm self employed today! But it seems like work ethic isn't what it used to be? And it really seems like the west coast work ethic is just... I don't know, pathetic. You wouldn't have so many sensitivity issues if your office was located on the East coast. But then, you wouldn't have a reality show either!

Anyway, I totally get you Jeff. You are my mentor. Scary huh?

mtunn
mtunn

I agree with Lisa and I hope you consider why you were shocked but did nothing. It appears, and may very well not be the case but it seemed, you are desensitized to violence. I understand you have not witnessed Chuck being drunk and violent but I have a suspicion that his loved ones have seen this side of him. He as one more aspect of life where people enable him.

Lisa Peterson
Lisa Peterson

Jeff - the client that hit Trace should have been dropped on the spot! You need to draw the line somewhere, and you need to defend your team when the time arises. He was out of line with Trace AND Jenni and you should have stepped up and done something (anything would have been better than nothing at all.) Although Jenni smoothed the situation over, it should have been delt with much differently and by you directly. Sorry, - I like you, and love your show, and I've NEVER commented on anything before in my life, but I just cant help it this time. Lisa

jsbach5000
jsbach5000

Jeff, i saw a rerun of the show with your awful ex best friend last night. your willlingness to put your heart and all your sincerity on the line was very moving. he just sat there and lied like a major weenie. pathetic. You showed extreme class, he showed extreme unworthiness. i hope he is out of your life and you have filled that loss with friends who are worthy of your loyalty and affection. You are a much nicer person than you even know. peace.

vanburen
vanburen

Jeff , quit being such a mean boss. Your amazingly talented but impossible to work for.

austingirl
austingirl

Jeff, I love Flipping Out and I think that if you were to lean more towards the lady pond, you and sarah would have been a very cute couple! Just saying! I also think since that is highly unlikely, perhaps you and Chaz the hairstylist could also make it work. We need a love interest somewhere for someone, since Sarah has now taken a step towards settling down.

Amber Shepard
Amber Shepard

I don't understand why Jeff is not updating his technology for the office. He keeps hand written directions and makes his assistants keep track of them, if he would keep a GPS device he would not have to worry about someone not having the directions or getting lost. Also, if he kept a hand held organizer then he would always have a back up and could sync his appointments.

Love the show, but I think if Jeff would update technology it would cause him a little less stress.

Mini Jeff female version
Mini Jeff female version

Jeff I just think you are so awsome. You say the wildest things. We would work great together.

Angela M.
Angela M.

Me too, I think that Jeff as a funny sense of humor and I think he is hott. I also agree with Sarah getting rid of the gum...yeah get rid of the gum.

julie/Viewer
julie/Viewer

I Love Jeff and his sense of Humor! Sarah get rid of the GUM!

Nicholas Carter Art
Nicholas Carter Art

Nothing to loose,..everything to gain,.. Would love to be a very dedicated part of Jeff's team for Season 4 and 5;) Perfect ideas, and new avenues for us all.

Joy in working with Jeff!!!!

Thanks to the entire production team, and all people who make this possible, please forward my contact info to the right persons. NC

Roger Bemiller
Roger Bemiller

The show flipping out is a very good one, thank you guys for all your hard work,and for all the viewers, keep up the good work. Remember America's watching to see you guys threw, no matter how bad life gets, a new days brings a new beginning, giving yourself a second chance, bringing joy to those around you.P.S. I think the market will pick up in 2013 after the new election takes place.later.

tabtab
tabtab

i just love Jeff Lewis and can't get enough of his crazy world!

tabtab
tabtab

i absolutely love Jeff Lewis and am addicted to his show, although his antics are a little out there, just can't get enough

tearsa
tearsa

I use to have respect for Jeff, but when he seen the drunk client Why didn't he think of a reason to leave? Not sat there and watch Jennie get grab and trace gets slapped. And laugh which makes it worst, I know you didn't know what to do, but any uneducated person would make up a reason to leave before it got that bad,I think when other people see how Jeff can speak up to people thats working for him, but let clients treat his staff bad for a dollar. Maybe Zora should been there to take care of things,

Rach2010
Rach2010

Jeff, I love you and Jenni! I love everyone on your show. You and Jenni are my favorite though. You just gel so perfectly. Zoila is awesome too. I watched you on "Watch What Happens Live" recently and you totally cracked me up. I think you are fabulous!!!! I was really worn out by the Real Housewives of New Jersey and I must say "Flipping Out" is so refreshing and lot of good energy. Love you guys! Keep doing what you are doing. You guys rock!!!!!!

PESS
PESS

JEFF I LOVE YOU , WHEN YOU START ON ZOILA IT CRACKS ME UP. KNOWING SHE IS GOING TO COME BACK WITH SOMETHING. I WAS VERY SWEET OF YOU TO BUY HER A CAR .YOU AND JENNIE SHOULD FIX HER UP ON A BLIND DATE. THAT WOULD MAKE A GREAT SHOW. LOVE YA////////

Kate_T
Kate_T

Jeff Lewis, Can I work for you for one week?!!! I think you are the first gay mean I'm attracted too!! Love you.

ViewerJoan K
ViewerJoan K

Hi Jeff, First of all I have to admit that I Love You, you are funny and I think I get you but you shouldn't be so hard on your employees. My husband and I have had our own business since 1982 and I can't imagine talking to anyone of them the way you do but then that is you and they shouldn't take all of what you say to heart. I wish you the best and hope that you make millions, no not millions, Billions. Oh yeah if I was you I would not allow gum chewing, it is very rude especially if the person is constantly cracking her gum.

JenniFan
JenniFan

Love you Jenni! Can I date you if you’re not dating Jonathan?!?!

State051
State051

Jeff, I'm growing weary of your show. I have loved the show for the last 3 seasons because of you and Jenni. She's hilarious and you make me laugh as well. It's just not there Jeff. I don't know what else to say. Bring me back to the humor and entertainment of the last 3 seasons.

MeMeats
MeMeats

Jeff...what's going on with your show?...I used to love looking forward to Flipping Out on Tuesday nights, but I'm a bit bored. I don't see Jenni as much. Sahah's a sweet girl but not for TV. Jenni makes the show! Bottom line!! Do you see what I'm saying?

Work Smart
Work Smart

Jeff, You have such a tremendous sense of how to make space come alive or create calm in a background of clutter and distracted lives. Your work space, however, is antithetical to that which you produce for your clients. It is positively claustrophobic, both in its physical space and personal space. Different personality types draw energy and recharge in considerably divergent ways. Some are invigorated in being around people and constantly engaged, while others under the same conditions are completely drained. And your personality is far too big to expect you will not impact others or even find yourself responding like a caged inmate lashing out at all that surrounds you. No matter the argument, whether you believe being so close facilitates communication, the reality has been demonstrated. In your quest to become a better, more professional business owner, I would urge you to rethink your work space – separate yourselves a little. Give your team (and yourself) more room to breathe, focus, decompress, and function at their best. As with any small business facing resource constraints, it is more important to work smart than to work hard. Start by flipping out your space, and give yourself and your team a much needed renovation. Best of luck, Jeff. And thank you for all that you have given your viewers.

Work Smart
Work Smart

Jeff, You have such a tremendous sense of how to make space come alive or create calm in a background of clutter and distracted lives. Your work space, however, is antithetical to that which you produce for your clients. It is positively claustrophobic, both in its physical space and personal space. Different personality types draw energy and recharge in considerably divergent ways. Some are invigorated in being around people and constantly engaged, while others under the same conditions are completely drained. And your personality is far too big to expect you will not impact others or even find yourself responding like a caged inmate lashing out at all that surrounds you. No matter the argument, whether you believe being so close facilitates communication, the reality has been demonstrated. In your quest to become a better, more professional business owner, I would urge you to rethink your work space – separate yourselves a little. Give your team (and yourself) more room to breathe, focus, decompress, and function at their best. As with any small business facing resource constraints, it is more important to work smart than to work hard. Start by flipping out your space, and give yourself and your team a much needed renovation. Best of luck, Jeff. And thank you for all that you have given your viewers.

Katay
Katay

HEY JEFF....It would be a much more efficient use of your time to have someone else drive....you can then make your calls, make your lists, confirm this or that in the full luxury of the passenger seat or back seat...just a suggestion! You're wasting all of that time...surprised you have never thought of this...

Maggie's Mom
Maggie's Mom

It is hard to comprehend that you have anyone working with you at all. You obviously feel you have the right to abuse them (hope you're paying them lots of money - they deserve it) and intrude into their lives. You should count your blessings that you have people like Zoila, Jenni and Sarah around you. They help your business. Wonder what your clients would think of just dealing with you - probably not so good if you were on your own with that critical conscending attitude of yours. The way you abuse Zoila, Jenni and Sarah is hard to watch. The fact that you think that's OK justifies your seeking psychiatric help. Treat people with respect - that's not hard to do. I feel sorry for you - you need to change your ways or you'll be alone the rest of your life. Who would want to spend time with someone who constantly criticizes them and demeans them - no one.

TN viewer
TN viewer

Jeff,

I have to say first that I love you! You make me smile. I agree that Sarah is not the type of employee that you require and she is not going to be "molded" into the employee that you require, expect or need. If that is the conclusion that you have reached, you have to move you to another position is one is available or you have to let her go. Under no circumstances should you ever talk to an employee the way that you talked to Sarah. I've seen you talk to several employees in thjis manner. Frankly, I'm surprised that you haven't been sued for your treatment of employees and you are opening yourself up to a law suit if you don't curb it right away. I still love you because you entertain me but, I telling you if I was your employee and you talked to me like that I would walk straight out of the door and to a lawyer. That is if I didn't back hand you before I could get out the door! LOL!!!

eve4ever
eve4ever

I agree with the viewer you should not have called her names but the blow up was warranted. I sat there in disbelief as she totally screwed up that call. Jeff this is what happens when you do not address the issue at hand, it builds up then blows up.

I'm done!
I'm done!

Long time fan, but Jeff you messed up big time. I'm done with the show, you could you do that to Sarah. Calling someone out for messing up is one thing, but to personal attack someone just to degrade them and make yourself look is another.

Pity on you.

S. Jones
S. Jones

I believe that Jeff should have been forced to wear the "smock" for the day due to his "remarks" to Sarah (even though they are quite comical).......two-way street...

Patrice Baker
Patrice Baker

Jeff I love your candid personality, I look forward to laughing my ass off with your witty sarcasm. I act just like you and have to tone it down a bit or I pay for it later. But sometimes that is what it takes to get people to do their job, speak up, or get a pair. Love the show, keep them coming.

BAMA  GIRL
BAMA GIRL

I wait all year for my Flipping Out and I have not been disappointed once again. I really didn't think you were that hard on Sarah and you apologized really quickly. Poor Jenni has gotten it alot worse. Maybe your becoming a kinder and gentler Jeff Lewis. Your ture fans love you just the way you are!!

 Gloria
Gloria

Dear Jeff, I know you didn't mean to act like that. I can tell that you are a very caring person. Right away you are upset and can't stand that you hurt someone. Sarah is very sweet and I can tell that she wants to do a great job. The episode when you and Jenny and Zoila went to NY really touched me. You said that you would take care of Zoila when she turned 70. Jenny is wonderful too! God Bless you all.

JillyJo
JillyJo

Dear Jeff,

Buy yourself a pocket-sized digital recorder and record your instructions/orders for Sarah - have her transcribe them in a Word document and print them off. That way, there will be no question as to your specific directions/instructions for her - she will have your your instructions word-for-word. If she can't follow those directions, then maybe she is dyslexic? :-) Peace & Love to you!

BRB2
BRB2

great show!!!!

SandyW
SandyW

In my opinion relatives of my in-laws are not my family.

Sarah messed up in her message delivery. I would have been furious if an employee would screw up my message in front of me because I would be worried how they were when I was not there.

Just some free advice -- Praise in public, critique in private.

Greenee
Greenee

You were right in your message. Wrong in the delivery. But you have got to learn this part of life faster. You can't be attacking the cutesie, sweetsie. It's like attacking Bambi! And you are better than that and above it. So learn it and learn it faster. But I love you and your whole crew.

hmm...
hmm...

Jeff...did it ever occur to you that Sarah messes up more when she is with you because she is having anxiety about whether you're going to blow. Unpredictable people often make others so anxious they make mistakes that would normally not happen. I'm sure it's difficult for you to relate but surely you've been in a situation once in your lifetime where you didn't have the power and someone officially dressed you down. It's hurtful and humilating. If you can relive that experience it will help you walk away just before you go overboard with others. All that being said...I still love your show and everyone who works with you.

Anthony Sanchez
Anthony Sanchez

Do you know what I hate about life? I hate that when dealing with people you are forced sometimes to be a total douche in order to get anything done. It seems that people that can do this and are smart usually are very successful. I love how you talk to your staff. I know that you are probably really nice to them most of the time but they always play the video of you going off because it's entertaining to us. I wish you were my boss.

kritter
kritter

It's not what you say...it's how you say it. LOVE the show!

Fun
Fun

So, annoying! My cable is disconnected since last week, and I already missed two episodes! Sorry, jeff, my financial situation is not gonna help the rating of Flipping Out, more importantly, poor me, I won't be able to watch my dear Jeffery every Tuesday!!!!

Thanks to bravo to post some bounous clip; I still can have little tasete of Jeff's psycotic HILLARIOUSNESS! but I HOPE BRAVO posts FULL EPISODE!!!!! I'm dying to enjoy Jeff's world!! Pleeeese Bravo!!

Needless to say, Love You, Jeff!!

Cathy from Fort Myers, FL
Cathy from Fort Myers, FL

Jeff I can certainly understand your frustration with Sarah's mistake. She is very sweet and does try. I really think in time she will get it when she realizes she has to concentrate one each job and the details involved. I love watching your show - actually more than any other show. There is just something about you and the way you are that is really interesting and wonderful to watch. You are great at what you do. I can't wait to see your kitchen in Rockefeller Center. Good luck with that. Please plan a next season!