Ryan's Not So Sexy Style

Jenni recounts Ryan and Jodan's relationship and design issues.


Ryan and Jordan live in Encino, California.
According to Jeff, Ryan is a huge prick married to a pushover.
His decorating is cheesy and early ‘90s.
The living room has 1989 details that have to go.
Ryan tells us his home is his idea of sexy: it says "take your clothes off."
A titty vase and books of butts and boobs.

Turns out Ryan is obsessed with sex and being thin.
This inspires Jeff and I to go out to eat and max out on carbs.
Fettuccine Alfredo, anyone?
We bring major carbs back to share, and Ryan is not amused.

His beautiful wife Jordan endures Ryan's way or the highway technique.
"You should have seen her body before I married her."
Her "Dumbo" ears are sore and healing after a fix that he demanded.
"Stop being so strong or I'll knock you out."

Ryan wants Jordan to get a boob job and eat salads, which she does not like.
Jeff wants Jordan to stand up.
Her husband is clearly comfortable being arrogant and highly abusive.
Jordan is comfortable backing down, a skill she says she learned early in life.

Ryan has no filter and dumps on Jordan's decorating ideas.
The living room is our target for design compromise.
Removing, donating, and giving someone else power has Ryan hyper-ventilating and shutting down.
He barks at me, "Do not touch my stuff without asking."
Trust is not his thing, so he does his best to steamroll.

The remodel is to bring his wife Jordan into the home.
She is very in love but unhappy with the inequality in the relationship.
Jeff sees himself in Ryan's communication and control issues and admits he doesn't like it.
Jeff lays it down for Ryan, no sugar coating (which is OK because Ryan doesn't like sugar...or carbs).
"I have a lot of failed relationships because of the way I behaved."
"You hurt people in the process of being hyper critical as a way to ‘help’"
"There is a need for serious change under this roof, and I don't know you're going to like it."
When we go shopping Jeff thinks Ryan naturally gravitates to the ugliest thing in the room.
Jeff questions why this man is overselling his "cool and sexy."

The breast book gets Zoila's attention and it's all about the big chi chis.

A skill set consisting of hurt, disrespect, and alienate seems to appeal to Ryan.
I have a talk with Jordan about speaking up and Ryan is dealt with by a brutally honest Jeff.
We all go out to eat Jordan orders fries because she wants to gain weight.
Ryan sulks with his salad.
Jeff thinks Ryan would like to feed her "a carrot a week." 

At the hotel Jordan confronts her husband: "... it's not OK anymore."
She does not want a parent, she wants "less controlling" and more compromise.
"I need your help" is Ryan's response to his truthful wife. Ryan and Jordan are stunned how Jeff combined their differences into an elegant living room. What seemed impossible to blend is now beautiful:  "A different idea of what sexy can be."
Finally, they are moving toward marriage equality.
Ryan shocked us: "I'm willing to learn."
Jeff and I are too!

Did you learn something along the way? Hope so! We are so grateful you joined us on the Interior Therapy with Jeff Lewis Season 2 journey!

Until we come knocking on your door...

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Jeff's Childhood Nightmares

Get Jenni's take on the toy-filled house.

Flying Sofas

We venture to Echo Park California.
Jessika is an artist and Christian a Visual FX Producer.

The place is full of Jeff's childhood nightmares.
They were married by the Easter bunny, which Jeff finds freaky.
Disturbing dolls and shocking art is not Jeff's idea of serene.
Eyes are everywhere and Christian is worried they are headed to Grey Gardens.
"Piling up crap," Jeff says.
It is a kitchy e-bay explosion.

Christian is completely uncomfortable in his living space.
He has a bar and a beer before going home. Jeff says it looks like an insane asylum.
Shock value and attention.
Cutting because you don't have a voice.
Cluttered, dirty, and dark.
This is not a grown up space.
It’s dark and some of the art is depressing.

Christian wants a space to entertain, but Jessika has a hard time letting go of the clutter.
Cutting yourself as performance art.
Giant soup tins come crashing down the stairs.
Daddy issues are mixed with decorating.
Christian needs to express himself in the décor.
He needs an adult living space.
But he’s a pushover with Jessika...can he be more present?
He wants to open up and have a voice.

Dinosaur with a doll head is now in the dumpster.
Interesting, Jessika does not need to work to be that way.
Let go of the toys....causes a fight.
They need a balanced relationship, 80/20 is not where it's at.
Christian and Jessika go to the hotel.

The scary rats have to go, so do the creepy dolls.
No more eyes here, there, and everywhere. Jessika says leaving your comfort zone is a proof of love.
Art is subjective.
This is an "ah-ha" moment. I can see clearly now...there is evidence with that eye test.

The reveal leaves Christian "speechless" and Jessika says it is "amazing, sophisticated... mind blowing."
Bringing the family together.
Making Jessika's art something that can shine and Christian now feels at home, which hopefully will help their issues and relationship

Interior Engagement:
Two ladies en route to a proposal.

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