Cry on My Shoulder
Gary talks about Brad's propensity to get emotional and mourns the demise of 'One Life to Live.'
Thanks so much for watching! And thanks so much for your comments regarding the show, I was really touched by so many of them. To be honest I never think of myself as being in a gay relationship, to me it's just being in a relationship. But I'm really happy if just by watching us share our lives you get a sense that, gay or straight, we all kind of go through the same stuff.
This continues to be a strange experience for me, as I think it is for anyone who suddenly sees their personal life on TV. But everything you see is what was going on in our lives at that time, and sometimes I'm sure I'll act in ways that I'm not too crazy about seeing on TV, but I guess I'll just deal with it.
I spend a lot of this episode in London (a city that I love so much, like obsessed) so it was really interesting for me to see what was going on with Brad as he started his business. It's really great to have the opportunity to actually get to see so much of what he was going through, and I, like you guys, now have an even greater understanding of what he does after watching. Most of us don't have cameras follow us when we go to work, so when we come home it's kind of like a "how was your day?" "fine, yours?" situation. But I get to watch Brad's day on TV, and I'm so impressed with how he handles himself and how hard he works and just his whole thing. My sense of humor is kind of dry and sarcastic and we never take ourselves too seriously, but I don't want that to be is construed as not caring or being somehow above what Brad is doing. Nothing could be further from the truth. I am Brad's biggest champion and I think in any good relationship you should want to push your partner to reach all of their potential in whatever it is they want to do. Believe me, if Brad did not pursue his goals our relationship would not be as strong as it is.
I'm always so happy to be in NY, it's where I'm from and I always kind of feel like myself when I'm there. Love LA, but there's something about being in the place where you grew up. Especially, I think, for New Yorkers (yeah, Queens!). We've been staying at the Mercer hotel in NY for many years and we know everyone who works there, it's like coming home to family.
When Brad and I are apart for a week or so we always get kind of shy with each other when we're seeing each other again for the first time. Weird, right? I love Brad's mom, Debby, and his sister, Mandy, so much and was super happy that they were visiting the city, especially Debby who'd never been to NY. (Even though Debby had never met my parents, Brad and I have spent a lot of time with each other's families through the years. But, yes, strange they still hadn't met -- and stranger still it will happen next week on TV).
After Brad gets the news from Details that he got the job, I remember sitting there thinking, "Oh, god, he's not gonna cry is he?" And then he does start crying and I'm thinking, "Maybe I'll wait it out -- it might be a quick cry." But nope I soon realized this was going to be a longer one, the kind of cry that required me getting up from where I was sitting. I'm not a much of a crier myself, and I don't really know what's going to set Brad off a lot of the times, but I love how in touch with his emotions he is. We also spend a lot of time laughing about it. At least I do.
Next week we go to the house where I grew up in Queens for Sunday dinner (always at 2) with both families, really looking forward to seeing that one. Let me know what you think, OK? But please keep it positive, I'm also sensitive.
And on a sad note, for any of you out there that watch soaps, you might have heard me mention I was watching One Life to Live on last week's episode. Well, I've been watching One Life almost my entire life and this Friday it goes off the air for good. I'm totally bummed. (When I wrote for Will & Grace I made Karen a One Life to Live fan and on Family Guy Stewie has referenced watching it.) I don't know what I'm going to do without Viki! And for those of you who haven't seen Judith Light as Karen Wolek admit to being a prostitute on the stand or Erika Slezak struggling with Viki's many alters or fighting with Dorian over the decades you don't know what you missed! So this is my little salute to One Life to Live -- you will be missed!
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