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Tom shares the real reason he is single.

Jul 24, 20070

I have been hurt with relationships in the past. I think anybody who reaches a certain maturity or age, and you're doing it right, you'll at least open yourself up to that. And nine times out of ten, you're going to get stepped on. So yeah, I've been hurt, but it's actually good because it makes me appreciate what I'm really look for.

My last serious relationship was probably about six years ago, and that lasted about three years. The reason it ended was, probably like most relationships, I wasn't ready to get more serious, and actually she wasn't either, but she kept telling me she was. Now I look back, and it's a good thing that that ended...or there would be divorce papers now.

I used to get lonely, but now I think I've just gotten so old that it doesn't really matter anymore. I mean when I was younger I got lonely, but now I kind of enjoy the fact that I'm single because I see people. I see people get in relationships or marriages that shouldn't have, and I'm kind of glad because, like I said, I dodged a bullet on a few things. And thank God I did because I would be one of those unhappy people in a bad relationship right now. Until the right girl comes along, I'm just going to enjoy myself just being free right now. I'm certainly not anti-relationship. I just know now that I shouldn't run off just because somebody looks hot. I shouldn't just run off and try to pretend that there's a relationship there when there isn't.

7 comments
fixates
fixates

Late to the party, Tom, but I'm here -- I'm still catching up on D-List, but let me just say, I LOVE the idea of you and Kathy together. I think you guys have great chemistry -- you can work well together, and I honestly don't think she'd fire you if something didn't work out. Maybe if it ended HORRIBLY, like her and Matt, but I think you guys would be cute together!!

At least think about it. It's all about chemistry, and for as much sh*t as she gives you, she digs you and knows what you're about, and vice-versa -- and that's the key in a good relationship. Just think about it. ;)

Jujusay
Jujusay

Oh Tom, you and Kathy aren't fooling anyone. You guys are perfect together. Why is Jessica all over this page? She hasn't been on all season? WE love Tiffany and you Tom, LOVE LOVE LOVE Maggie! What a doll. Kathy was smart to keep her mom in the loop. She is a hoot and what a good sport. No doubt the reason that Kathy is so successful, her Mom may not agree with some of her antics, but she loves her and let's her be free and open, gotta love that. But back to Tom and Kathy, it is smart to keep the romance out of the picture and still spend all your time together. You don't need to share ALL your life with us, keeping some privacy to yourselves is really key. Stay happy and know we are watching and loving every one of you guys and hope you all keep going strong. I love how Kathy still makes us feel like you could sit down with this chick and just hang out and gab, have lunch and kick it, like she's one of the gang still. I'll really miss her if she changes. Don't see it though, I feel like she is pretty solid and focused on being someone we can relate to, like a good girlfriend. My husband Ron, 54, and two boys, Ian, 13 and Jude 7, and me Dawnie 47, all laugh so hard at you guys, we love you! Thanks for the laughs! The Grey's

Jette
Jette

I love Tom on the show!!! He is so lovable and loyal and funny. Keep your love life and your business seperate Tom. Just have fun with what you are doing. You are great. You and Tiffany just crack me up. She is such a giggle box, like me and you seem to be a jokester. Team Griffin Rocks!

elena
elena

the thing is that I was just watching kathy's show "Grammy's Schammy" and when they were leaving the after party I noticed that tom and kathy were holding hands! I thought that this was pretty interesting but was then thrown off when she goes to paula's house and flirts with bobby... any answers?

Charlotte
Charlotte

Tom what a crack up! No, don't go out with Kathy, I don't want you to get your ass canned, I like you on the show too much. You know, I think you seem really fun to be around and you are very on the cute-ish side. I like men with your body type (not too built, not too fat, not too thin) I'm a funny girl who also happens to be relatively attractive - no, what I meant was - gorgeous blonde from Florida (we southern girls know how to appreciate our men). So there you go, a woman of high standards is in your court - go get 'em tiger! Don't be scared, it's only love.