Stefanie Skinner

"You need a thick skin to survive in this business and that is what they are all teaching me as I move along in this business."

on Mar 8, 20100

What en episode! A lot happened tonight -- I hope you loved the Jeremy Scott show as much as I did! As I've mentioned in my first blog, following your dreams is not always what it seems once you are making them into a reality --  there are many bumps along the way as seen in tonight's episode. At the end of the day I'm only human and not a robot, and with the staffing changes and my workload almost tripling, there were not enough hours in my day to get every single thing done. Crying was probably not the best thing to do, but as Kelly says, If You Have to Cry Go Outside, which I was trying to do, but Emily wouldn't let me. Ha. In all honesty, I hit my breaking point, like a crossroad, and in that moment I had to really think about what I was going to do and needed to speak with Kelly. Did I want to give up and walk away...? No. Did I need to figure out a solution in order to get the work done and stay at People's Revolution? Yes. When I went back into the office, Emily and I had a really great moment and sorted out everything that needed to get done because of course she is the color-coded genius and she is here to help me and mentor me as I grow professionally. You need a thick skin to survive in this business and that is what they are all teaching me as I move along in this business. Later that evening we had an event with Ina and it was extremely successful. High Five to the Rev!

Life is full of lessons and I've learned a lot of them at People's Revolution. In the words of Kelly: tonight's episode was not a breakdown for me, it was a breakthrough!

See you next week!

24 comments
Mrs. Bridget
Mrs. Bridget

You are truly one of the best workers in the company you truly the one that is running the operation. I wish I had 4 of you in my company. I would of been a millionaire by now. One thing please get some kind of like out of work you might pop working so hard. You only live once live your life girl. God is going to bless you with your own business after all the hard work you put in!

mj
mj

Stephanie: Tell them they need to give you a big raise to stay on because of all the abuse. Make it clear that you will stop working. Look for another job. You are a well educated professional person. If you quit now they are sunk. You deserve to be in a professional enviroment. Your workplace is toxic waste dump. I have been there done that. My advice move on ASAP. The sooner you move through it the better things get!

pika
pika

I think that the way Emily treated you was unfair. Emotions can get in the way of things but those emotions aren't going to go away unless you take those 5 or 10 minutes to step outside and let it out. Is holding you hostage in the office and not allowing you to just let it out really anymore productive? Cause I know that if I don't do what I need to do to get my stress out, I'm not going to be able to concentrate.

manton
manton

Management should discuss work related issues in private. First time watcher- did not enjoy the humilating treatment given a staffer.

fADjAM
fADjAM

Stefanie Skinner hang in there you can do it.

Gigi4703
Gigi4703

Steph! I so feel for you, girl. I've been there too, but I have to say not every high pressure environment completely throws you out there as it appears has happened to you. I work in the high pressure environment of television production and I have been extremely lucky to have worked with women who were highly knowledgeable, supportive and knew how to get the best work out of you without breaking you down. Seems like your office is dysfunctional (of course, that's why it's a reality show)and that the management is seems a little at sea as to how to run a smooth ship. There's no way you should be constantly inventing the wheel if all of this stuff has been done before. I do think Kell has your best interest at heart but some of your co-workers seem to get their idea of how to behave from other reality shows. So buck up, learn all you can then leave and start your own business making the promise that you will never treat anyone as you have been treated. That is the promise I made and it's been pretty easy to stick to and has led me to some wonderful work experiences.

Beth_Levy1
Beth_Levy1

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE you on the show. It is clear to the viewer that you are putting in your best effort and constantly trying to grow as an employee. You do a great job, and it's obvious Kelly, Em, and Robyn think highly of you (since they trust you with so many projects!). Keep up the great work, SKINNER! YOU SHARK!

unfashiongirl
unfashiongirl

Stumbled on the show by accident and looove it, Skinner is a bottomless pit of guts and gusto: YYYAAAYYYY Skinner!!! skin em alive! oh and Cutrone is a rare wise llama!

WiscoBrad
WiscoBrad

You are incredibly hard working, dedicated, and most of all, gorgeous. Something about you that I'm so attracted to. Good luck with work, keep knockin.

Jersey_CityViewer
Jersey_CityViewer

I love your work ethic and you are an shining example for young women. Keep up the good work--I love watching you on the show. You are sure to go far in the fashion world!

Viewer 82
Viewer 82

Where do you shop? I love your classic style.

BIGBOIFATCAT
BIGBOIFATCAT

Skinner, I admire your work ethics. I know sometimes it's hard to delegate. You know if you do it, it will get done. It is hard to trust people to pull through on your behalf. Keep your chin up and be strong.

The pitbull
The pitbull

As I watched Monday nites episode, I found myself holding my breath for you and thinking I have so been there. I saw the same look in your eyes that I saw in my own many years ago as I set out to find a place in my choice of careers. I was a hospital unit sec. who came to be known as The Pitbull. Which I took as the compliment it was. It told me I finally got to where i wanted to be. I learned that I needed to surround myself with people who could support and understand my "Rock Moves" People I could trust to do what I trained them to do, people who covered my back when I needed it covered. I had to learn I couldn't do it all and learned to find the people I could trust to do what I needed them to do. I wish you luck and will be watching to ssee you succeed in what you have chosen to do/. Francine P.S. Tell Andrew he just cracks me up.

Jemima puddle duck
Jemima puddle duck

I agree with all the posters, you are great, and always the person to get things done. I was that peep too, and I watched the show on Monday and thought OMG I remember just what she is going through. Crying can be a good thing, gets all the crap out and you feel better, and I found that crying is like being the squeaky wheel, it gets things done. You can tell how much they depend on you, not a lot of people can continue at that pace, but you can.

Hope that by now things are figured out and you can actually concentrate on your job and not have to wear too many hats in the office. Glad to have you on the show

penny
penny

things may get tough but you do have the strength to make it God Bless you

Esteban
Esteban

Stef - you are simply awesome and amazing. Don't let yourself get pushed around though. Delegate - delegate - delegate you shouldn't have to do it all, even tho I am quite sure you are more than capable.

You need to toughen up though and try to put emotions aside - you remind me of someone I was once married to.

I agree you had a breakthrough and I totally respected how you put everything behind and sat down with Emily like a true professional.

I know it sucks to be under attack, but getting defensive doesn't help the situation - but you're learning and it is amazing to see how far you've come since your MTV days.

Follow your dreams wherever they take you. Walk towards the tree I always say.

Oh and as far as the Tweet thingy - I would have done exactly what Stefanie did. The girl was warned not to do what she did and so what if the show is on TV and there is a blog for the show, one has nothing to do with the other. She didn't even start working and already she was not listening to direction or following company rules and policies. That girl would have been nothing but trouble and all she wanted was to be hired to get on TV - Good Call Stef! Stef is one tough cookie -Junior Wolf- and pretty sure she's not threatened by someone who cannot follow simple instructions.

Luv the show, Emily? not so much - Andrew? He's got your back. Robyn? Seems okay but dresses unprofessionally IMO. Kelly? Gotta give her props, still think she's a lot crazy.

Tamdingdong
Tamdingdong

Now you see maybe the other Stephanie did more than you thought. Who knows if you would have helped her instead of ganging up on her things would be better for all. O well that is water under the bridge and we all learn. You are young and perhaps you will handle things different as you go. I do wish you the best and you must delegate there is no other option for everyone.

Viewer911
Viewer911

Learn to prioritize and delegate please in order to move forward. It is tempting to just feel having to do everything ourselves but in a fast stressful working environment, you will end up being a martyr with mediocre performances. Good luck.

IheartKelly
IheartKelly

Regardless of how out of line Emily may have been, she's still your superior and instead of giving her attitude, you should have just handed over the reports and then dealt with the other nonsense. I was cringing when I heard you talking back to her. She wasn't that much of a b to you and your defensiveness was a little insubordinate.

China
China

YOU GO GIRL!!!!! It's what you do after the breakdown that reflects your character and you proved to be a strong woman!!!!

Daemonella
Daemonella

I feel guilty even posting after seeing the kind of emails/workload you have, but I wanted to offer this tidbit as a fellow nice girl/workaholic amongst wolves..I too was pushed to the point of meltdown in the workplace (not as gracefully as u might I add) but from that I learned the importance of "NO!" and most of all- fear! Just make those slackers that leave their work unfinished for you fear disappointing you (much like you fear the proverbial phone call from the senior staff, he he)It is possible to be sweet and strong! Kudos Skinner!!

kat2809
kat2809

Stefanie, I loved tonights show, i saw a bit of me in you. It was nice to see everything worked out! I can't wait for next week. I like the breakthrough part! Your one of my favorite people to watch besides kelly of course! Keep your list beside you and a sticky note that saids your awesome! PS: you do more work than alot of us in the world and we get stressed out with less work than you actually do. That makes you awesome!

You know watching tonight's episode brought me back at first job. I worked as behvioral secetary and did everyhting my self nad by the end of the day more and more work kept pileling on. My boss tried to have me do work , that was not qulaified or certified to do! So I had no choice, but to quit. I have so much reswpect for stephanie and total admiration for handling so muc work and sticking it out! So I am a great fan of this partly because of her!

peacenlove
peacenlove

You remind me of a beautiful flower. You are so delicate but hold such presence. You are so dedicated to your dream and it shows. I know it takes a lot to handle someone like Emily but we AAALLLL have had Emily's in our lives at one time or another. Nobody does it like Kelly-bar none!! So to Kelly's "partners" - if you can call them that - it seems as they are also learning how to delegate. Emily is sick of the drama? Please, she IS drama. Hang in there-you are living your dream-bumps n all!