Stefanie Skinner

"It was in this moment that I realized I'm pretty much ridiculous and need to make some adjustments because eventually it would ruin all of my personal relationships and friendships."

on Mar 15, 20100

In tonight's episode there is a lot that goes on -- from everyone getting more of a glimpse into our daily lives to a photoshoot for our client Xeniya to the departure of Tandrew and Andrew M.'s Addams Family inspired dinner party... So, where should I start?? First, I would like to say my favorite laugh out loud moment was when Andrew S. is talking about how Robyn will talk to others in the office and laugh, but when it comes to him she has zero patience. In this scene the camera cuts to Robyn laughing at her desk and Im sure at this moment Andrew S. thinks it is the perfect time to ask Robyn a question -- as soon as he turns her head, the laughter dies from Robyn.

I died laughing watching this scene. When Andrew S. lets us all know that he is going to be going to Los Angeles to visit his grandmother that is sick, I knew in the back of my mind that he was not going to come back to work at People's Revolution. He really shows that no matter what you are doing family always comes first, even if it means that you have to put what you are doing on hold for a minute to be around the people that have made it possible to allow you to go and live your dreams. I will admit, I really did think, "so now who is going to do my hair and actually get me out of the office to take care of these things," but also understood the situation he was in.

After Andrew S. left, my workload was about to triple again since now we would be looking for another employee to work in our office -- Kelly noticed and delegated work to Andrew M for the Xeniya photoshoot. He did a really amazing job with this specific task and I felt like he was really proud of himself for a job well done!

Finally, I just want to go back to my point about Andrew M. really becoming the voice of reason in trying to teach me that it is important to have a life outside of work. Andrew puts a lot of work, time and details into planning his Addams Family-inspired dinner and I was really looking forward to it. On Fridays I have to submit weekly reports to clients and ended up working at the office until a lot later than expected, which resulted in me being late to Andrew's party! It was in this moment that I realized I'm pretty much ridiculous and need to make some adjustments because eventually it would ruin all of my personal relationships and friendships. Andrew, you know how sorry I was for showing up so late with Michelle and although it stinks how it happens it was this evening that I realized I need to make some changes -- I guess you've finally gotten through to me. :) Also, thank you so much for having such a great party and as usual, I overate on the desert and wore lipstick!

Viva la Revolution!

XoXo, Stefanie

22 comments
Aly Marie
Aly Marie

Stephanie, Please dont let Emily or anybody else abuse you. You are way too good of an employee.

Your work ethics do seem great. I agree with others.

Super stylish too :)

Julie Martin
Julie Martin

Stefanie, We've watched you each week on Kell on Earth and we think you are fabulous. You epitomize the work ethic we all aspire to at the Autism Science Foundation as we strive to improve the lives of children with autism. We'd love you to join us at our event on Saturday April 10, 8:30pm, at the Canal Room in New York (285 West Broadway). The event, called Banding Together for Autism, will feature the bands "Instant Classic" and "Rubix Cube" and will bring young professionals like yourself together to raise funds for autism research. As you may know, autism now strikes 1 in 110 children and we don't know why. What we do know is that we need more funds for research to develop new treatments so that individuals with autism can lead more fulfilling lives. We hope you can join us as a special guest at our event. We'd love to have you introduce the bands and draw the winning raffle prize. We know you would be an inspiration to all our attendees, as you are to all of us. An invitation is attached, but tickets for you and a guest would of course be complimentary. Please let us know if we can count on you to be there to support children struggling with autism. Keep up your great work! We all love watching you. Best always, Julie

Julie Martin Autism Science Foundation Events and Media Manager jmartin@autismsciencefoundation.org

KrazeeBrod
KrazeeBrod

I have watched the show for a long time now and I see both sides of the issues you are having with Kell and the rest... let me just say this...

Their business is a high-pressure business, and I have worked in several of those in the 40 years I have been working. Some bosses are "higher maintenance" than others and Kell and the others seem to be that.

However... I have also seen that you take so many things personally, and you just cannot do that when you are working for someone like that. And I do see their point about you having to learn to delegate. I am a Virgo and I am the poster child for wanting to do it all, just so it gets done properly. But you cannot do that and keep your sanity.

The trick here is going to be that you find a way to keep up with the demands and keep your head on straight. I do it by keeping lists of things and re-visiting that list EVERY DAY. (God bless the man who invented Post-itNotes, by the way.) Prioritize things in writing and mark them off when they are done (not when they are half-done etc.) If you have a problem with something, make a note of it on that list or go to Kell or Robyn or whoever. Don't be afraid to approach them. It's their business and it's in their interest to help you.

I know it seems like more work, but it really isn't. It takes maybe a few seconds every now and then to do this. I truly thing that taking that little tiny bit of extra time to make the list, update it constantly by crossing something off, adding something, or making a short note on it for tomorrow will help things go better.

And get OUT of the office at a reasonable hour!!! When I heard that you don't leave till 9pm and even later, I was astounded. Maybe it's because it's New York, but that is incredible to me. If the work is too much, you HAVE to go to Kell and let her help you figure out how to lighten and/or manage the load.

Good luck, sweetie, you seem like a nice girl and I hope things work out well for you. :)

Vieweramber pierce
Vieweramber pierce

I love you, keep up the hard work, and you are so pretty, you need to at least have time to dress up.

AsItIsWritten
AsItIsWritten

Not good that you take pleasure in someone else's pain. Just think about it...who is laughing at you, who is playing a game with you, when you're going through some office nonsense. Oh...just remember one thing and don't forget, it was mentioned "I don't want to FIRE her but" (meaning Skinner) ... So as much as you give they will take and in the end you could get fired. Take the experience all that you can find that is positive.

wtf
wtf

So Mallory only had two years of experience and Grace four years, like you, but both were offered more senior positions. Two years as a free intern and you're still getting taken advantage of.

MonicaC
MonicaC

Oh Skinner, Skinner, Skinner!

You need a bigger apartment. No wonder you are at PR 16 hours a day. You need to spend time creating a personal space for yourself. When I was able to I found a balance that help me to live my life better. I had a place I can truly relax and a place I want to spend time with my friends. I worked better because of it.

PR Girl
PR Girl

I totally get why you're staying late to finish work -- I did the same when I was your age. The truth is, right now you're doing that for you -- so that you can feel satisfied that you did your job well. But just realize that your bosses are exploiting that & they're taking out the frustrations they have with their own lives and jobs on you. That's not necessarily a bad thing at this stage of your career -- as long as you're getting something out of it, too (such as experience). But try to set an expiration date on all of that -- don't let it become your MO in this career. Trying to please people who can not be pleased is an addictive cycle. I did that & had to finally go out on my own to end it. So once you're ready to move on to a new opportunity, do it -- don't stay there out of loyalty. They gave you a job, you gave them your labor -- you're even.

Rickii
Rickii

I love your work ethic,Stephanie. Kelly seems to be an awesome boss. Let others take responsibility too. Don't weigh your self down

CoolSF
CoolSF

Stephanie, you need to learn to set boundaries for yourself and with work. Stop playing martyr by working until midnight while everyone else paints the town red. I did the same and burned myself out. When I got to that point, I made a change. I quit my job, accepted another one closer to home (for less pay), rekindled all relationships I had no time to nurture, apologized to my man for putting work first over him. Since then, the sun shines, my relationship is strong again, and my life rocks.

Cess
Cess

Girlie, don't listen to those who are telling you how to manage your time, what to eat, what to think, be who you are and figure it out. You have an amazing teacher, watch her, get some sleep and things will fall into place. I bet it is amazing to work with Lady K. Sorry you lost your hair guy!!

vannakamoon
vannakamoon

So much interesting to watch "kell on earth" and wonder how you, Stephanie, can stand to eat same cookies daily. If I were in your shoes, I bring lots of fruit drinks or yogurts. I understand that you have no time to grab foods while working. I think that you are great worker but needs more cutoff errands to others, which is not fair to you under lots of pressure and others who aren't having under pressure. You are the most person under 6 feets ground pressure. I love to see you into light pressure and more happy. You need to stop say, "ok I do it" from others to tell you what to do. I do the same thing but cannot do that due too much pressures. Please get few errands off your shoulder and feel better!

VeryLinear
VeryLinear

If more than one person is giving you an assignment, ask that person to prioritize with the other boss(es) who have given you assignments. Your position at work is not the "work dumpee." Let THEM figure out the priorities among themselves so you can tackle Priority #1, then move to Priority #2, etc. If someone gives you something and says it has to be done right away, respond, "So does ___'s project have to be done right away, so why don't the two of you let me know which you want me to do first." Unless you are one of the partners, don't buy into and take on all of that responsibility. By the way, your bosses give women in the workplace a bad name. I am a female boss, and I have never reprimanded another employee in front of everyone, or relentlessly nagged/harassed an employee to where he or she had to get up and leave the room because the boss wouldn't shut up. Shameful.

inquireingminds
inquireingminds

Stephanie - are you seeing anybody? I feel like we see a lot about Robyn's and Kelly's attitudes about love/lust in this episode, but we never hear about your love life. What's the deal, chica?

Rewchan
Rewchan

Stephanie, I watched the show last night and though--with pride--this woman must be from Minnesota. (If you're not, you should receive honorary membership.) Great work ethic, attitude and style! And a real breath of fresh air compared with the uber-narcissism of most characters on these shows!

FabChick
FabChick

@Veruca

I am here for the same reason. I was wondering the same thing. WTF

DetroitViewer
DetroitViewer

I love your work ethic and can-do attitude. You remind me of myself 20 years ago. That said, I beg you to put your life in balance. If, heaven forbid, something happened to you tomorrow, I can promise you that Emily and Robyn WOULD NOT CARE, although Kelly probably would. Know what else? People's Revolution would get on just fine without you. You have a lot to offer, but you will burn out before you get the chance if you don't start putting yourself first. Believe me. I know.

Sus
Sus

Stefanie, This is a totally off the topic question, but...what color lipstick do you wear? I have similar coloring as you and LOVE your daily color? Sorry for the pettiness of my question!!

IheartKelly
IheartKelly

You really need to learn time management. If everyone else can get out of the office, why can't you? Instead of whining all the time that you have tons of work to do, you should just do it, and get out of the office. Also, you work in fashion PR. You aren't saving lives. Reports can wait. Before you know it your 20s will be over and you will have spent them all making slave wages to do reports for fashion shows. There's more to life.

mommy101
mommy101

Stephanie- You seem like a very driven person with a great work ethic. However, staying at work until 10pm on a Friday night is ridiculous. If the Senior staffers were able to get out of the office at a reasonable time to go to dinner, you should have been able to make it to Andrew's party on time. I can't figure out if you have terrible time management or the Senior staffers have a management style that is severly lacking. You are young and need a better balance in your life or you will burn out. I only hope you are being payed well to put up with the torturous hours you are constantly putting in. I really hope it pays off for you in the end!

ToXiC2MiNd
ToXiC2MiNd

I feel that I can totally relate to your position when it comes to work and personal time. Currently I am trying to revolutionize my town from a sunny retirement liver spot, and into the ambitious creative place that it really is. Taking so much of my time and dedication to my work, it really is my passion. But it's almost stressful to find the time to put all of that aside and reconnect with the people that make me laugh and throw a couple of drinks in my hand. Responsibility is such an enormous task and prying away from work almost feels like peeling off a second skin. Thank you for being the dedicated person that you are. You're coworkers are amazing!

Viva la Revolution!

-ToXiC2MiNd

LynnNChicago
LynnNChicago

Stephanie,

PLEASE stop saying "like" every other word!!!!!