The Doctor's In!

Dr. Eris had to learn to love herself too.

on Apr 8, 20130

I’m not saying that breast implants are bad. As you know from my story, I got them… loved them… got an infection and had to have them removed, which was not in my initial game plan. I spent four years hiding and covering my insecurities about my deformed breasts, which brought me back to the negative body image I had when I was young. Sometimes when we think that we are strong and have worked through our issues, life gets in our way and we become challenged to face them again.

As a young girl I was tall, chubby, and had no breasts. What I thought at that age was that I had three strikes against me. I cried out of embarrassment because the other girls were shorter, thinner, prettier, and it seemed as if puberty had been much kinder to them in the “breast department.” The boys liked them but not me. This led me to join Weight Watchers when I was 15 to seek a solution to be just as thin as the girls on the magazine covers because I was already just as tall as they were. Loosing weight was hard. It took time, commitment, and determination. It worked. I actually got some small-time modeling gigs but I still didn’t feel pretty enough. I felt insecure because I never make it on a cover of a magazine. By the time I was a senior in high school, I compared myself to everyone else in the world and I became bulimic and anorexic. I thought that might be the answer. In my mind I wasn’t pretty enough, my breasts weren’t large enough, my nose wasn’t small enough, my hips were too wide… I even allowed myself to believe that I wasn’t enough. Nothing worked…

As a young girl and teen, I was marked with body image disturbance, or body Dysmorphia. I had an imagined defect in appearance. I perceived myself as not pretty enough, even within. But, I wasn’t alone. According to the National Eating Disorder Association, 10 million women suffer from eating disorders. Through my own therapeutic work in overcoming these deep rooted issues, I had to replace my negative, self-defeating thinking about my body image with more realistic, self-enhancing self-talk. 

8 comments
plsoos
plsoos

Hi Doctor Eris,

I really like you but I do not like the way you treat your x playboy client. I think you are very critical of her looks, and honestly, you are very conservative....not everyone is like you. I think she can wear make up and be pretty and not look plain to make you happy. I would have found another therapist if it was me...she don't need to feel bad about herself. I think you are pretty but very plain and could use a little more spice. I don't want to be sound mean spirited but really you have not cared about her feelings...I think you need to rethink why you are putting her down...I thought she looked pretty and you made fun of her...almost petty. Well I said my peace...don't wound the wounded.

lbergs
lbergs

Hi Doctor Eris. I love the show. I wanted to reach out to you about TOFU and soy products in general. TOFU AND SOY PRODUCTS ARE A POWERFUL ENDOCRINE DISRUPTOR. AS SUCH, THEY MIMIC ESTROGEN, AND CAN CAUSE LOW TESTOSTERONE IN MEN AND TEMPORARY INFERTILITY IN WOMEN. I heard this on an in depth segment on NPR. Other endocrine disruptors are associated with plastics, especially heated plastics. But soy is a natural and much more powerful endocrine disruptor. Please look into it. best, LB

Abgrossinwi
Abgrossinwi

I absolutely love the show, LA Shrinks.  And I find the segments with your, Dr. Eris the most interesting.  I find my connection to my husband very similar at least in the show, to yours. This is a great entry.  As you know I wrote to you about body image and I can't wait to see it on your blog. We must think positive and accept ourselves for who we are

NMFAN
NMFAN

Dr. Eris:

Thank you for sharing your personal journey and that of your clients with us. Wow. I think there are many take home messages that relate to myself and many others (is my assumption).  I really enjoy each episode and find it very enlightening vs. peeping into the lives of others.

 

Thanks for sharing. I will indeed have to give your books a read.

jennifer

caroleann_austin
caroleann_austin

I really like this show!  I think it's interesting to watch other people discuss their problems, not just from a voyeuristic standpoint, but also to learn about the human condition and what makes us all tick.  Even though I might not share the same problem (like the guy who hates fat people, or the guy who can't stand that his twin brother is gay), it's still really fascinating to get inside someone's head and figure out what made them that way.

 

Dr Eris, you're doing a great job with your client who was the former Playmate.  I hope you are able to get through to her in the coming episodes.

Sainbury
Sainbury

OK, watched the last episode and I'm going to Shrink the Shrink. Here's what I saw.

* You go to your husband to discuss a subject (reproduction) that you know he isn't going to be comfortable with. You greet the dog and kiss the dog and then put the dog in your lap. You never really connect physically with your husband and then pow! You bring up the subject of getting eggs and sperm checked.

* You want to bring your mother as a buffer/support in an experience that is as personal an intimate as one could be instead of experiencing it just with each other.

 

??? Doc.

brushwud
brushwud

You are so intelligent and a great therapist! I am glad that you now love yourself for who you are.