Love the show and seeing your commitment to your clients. Understand your struggles with your father, have my own road with that. It is extremely important. But I worry watching you. Your wedding is coming up. Hopefully a joyous occasion??? Sometimes you sound doubtful and it looks like you are (sorry but unconsciously) are sabotaging it. Why not focus on planning a wonderful day with your partner, and those that fully accept and love you - your sisters your friends. !! Instead you are putting your sisters in a position of not going and hurting you or going and hurting themselves. Just talking about him caused painful tears. Your announcement dinner left them with pain. How are you going to be free on the day of your wedding if you are wondering what is happening with him. (Is he upsetting your sisters or using negative names in front of your friends. He is a very wounded person who became an abuser and it is great how you are working with him. Your partner deserves a wonderful wedding with his partner focused on him. Why risk so much at your wedding? Maybe accept where he is at right now ("I can't take it when the gays shove it in my face").
Or is that the point of this.
Good luck with your choices, have a joyous wedding!!!!