Editor's Note: Each week, one of the three "L.A. Shrinks" will comment on a topic addressed in that week's episode. Dr. Greg Cason kicks us off with a discussion of open relationships.
Welcome to LA Shrinks! In the first episode you get to meet the three doctors. The two smart and beautiful blonde women are Dr. Eris and Dr. V and the dude with the brown hair is Dr. Greg (me).
The professional scoop on me is that I have my PhD in Counseling Psychology from University of Houston; I also did an Internship in Professional Psychology at University of Texas at Austin and a Postdoctoral Fellowship in Clinical Psychology at UCLA. I also have a Master's Degree in Community-Clinical Psychology from California State University, Northridge, and I have a Bachelor's Degree from UCLA. Wow -- that was a mouthful.
Also, just so you know, I am a licensed psychologist in the state of California, and I have been in private practice in the neighborhood of my fave Real Housewives (Beverly Hills) since 1998.
You also might have heard me mention that I practice Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT for short. There are so many approaches in the therapy world, but it is one of the biggies. I love it because it is focused on what people are dealing with in the present and gives them practical tools to achieve their goals, have better relationships, and have happier and healthier lives.
In so many ways, CBT has shaped the way I approach my life and my relationships. (I know, I really practice this stuff!) I learned flexibility of thought and making agreements in relationships, not having expectations or making demands. You heard Dr. Eris brilliantly state, "expectations are just future resentments." And, we wouldn't want any of that. So in my relationship, we talk about what is workable for us and we make agreements for how we want to live. (Sounds simple until you try it at home!)
I love this show! It explains more about the fact that we all just human being who still need help from others where even the expert such as therapist need other therapists to help solve his/her personal problem. We just have to admit our weaknesses and ask for others to help us.
Currently, I’m interested to your concept about “monogamish”. It sounds to me you just trying to soften the tone of being “open relationship” which is actually common for both homosexual and heterosexual. However, “open relationship” can be judged as negative perception and I do feel you try to avoid that by promoting such new concept. I guess the option is simply whether having “monogamous or open relationship” with your partner. There is no such thing about “monogamish”. Why should make that more complicated? I believe your job is help people by simplifying the problems they have in life. I’m actually quite surprise that such “monogamish” came from you and I’m wondering whether you have talked about your relationship issue to other therapists then they came up with such “monogamish” solution. Having said that, you also stated about planning to get married with your partner soon. Then my question become, this “monogamish” will be applied after your marriage also? In that case, what is the purpose of getting married where in the same time you are going to violate the very essence of marriage which is having committed relationship?
Nevertheless, I do believe in marriage either for same sex marriage or opposite sex marriage. It is because we as human need to claim ownership over our asset where it can be illustrated also by having legalized paper over land, house, car, spouse and even children (birth of certificate) so no one can take that away from. Moreover, such legalized ownership makes us feel to have more responsibility and obligation for taking care also protecting that asset. In terms of marriage, such legal piece of paper is extremely important as evidence of ownership to your spouse as well. It doesn’t matter whether it may divorce or separate because no one can predict the future. But surely the marriage itself is part an effort to keep maintaining the relationship. To be loyal, respect, appreciate and treat well each other. So we will able to value more our existing relationship and spouse because of having sense of greater responsibility and obligation from such legally binding creation.
You are such a calming presence and this came through in the first two episodes. I feel like I'm in therapy as I'm watching. I have learned so much already. You're so open about so much and I'm so intrigued, beyond feeling like an eager student. That exposure exercise in the car with the patient on the second episode was so good. I love how you point out that angry thoughts appear and it's a matter of giving those thoughts attention and thus 'generating anger,' or accepting those thoughts without giving them any added attention, because after you scream and lash out in anger, the thoughts will resurface and the pattern will continue to repeat itself until you accept your angry thoughts and emotions as normal reactions. It was equally as enlightening when the patient driving the vehicle called upon her own experience giving birth and how she persevered through the pain and accepted it, rather than resisting the experience, like the woman down the hall screaming for the baby to get out of her. It was then that she had the a-ha moment and was able to experience a sense of peace and her anger dissipated from 10-2 while in traffic. That was so amazing. I can't wait to see future episodes. You've taught me that exposure is necessary and avoidance is not the answer. I've tried it out tonight and I feel so much better for it. I can't thank you enough.
I wasn't planning on really watching this show. But I think the part I appreciate most is thatwe see the therapists real lives, not just thier patients. Intersting that I am finishing my degreee with a focus on CBT. I too believe it is the most helpful and scientifically proven type of therapy. I am doing a research paper on that exact point right now. Changing your thoughts and perceptions literally change your life. Not so much into old fashoined psycho-therapy. I wanna do work that actually gives patients a solution. I appreciate your honesty about your personal life and I hope your father can really admit that he was abusive. I know from experience that a childhood like that affects your life all the way into adulthood. So by 40-50 you are still trying to heal from the pain they created and learn to forgive at the same time. I learned one thing from my mother, that was that I knew exactly what NOT to do raising my children. I make sure that I do not criticize, laugh at and verbally degrade my children. I work hard to reinforce the most positive things I can for them. I do not want them to spend a lifetime in pain from an abusive childhood. I began healing myself when at a conference one time. The speaker (at about 65), said "sometimes you have to give up hope of having a happy childhood". That struck something with me and began my journey to healing and forgiveness.
monogmish = open relationship. 'nuf said.
i love you on the show i will stay tuned in
i like your realness and honesty '
stay that way please youll draw a huge fan base
how wouldnt you harbor internal jealousy if you knew the love of your life was example in a hotel with who knows who?
i mean really he doesnt come home and wouldnt it leave you a bit resentful that in and of itself or does that mean he did it so i get a free pass to as well?
I am a man that knows what it is like to be disconnected from his father. I am not gay, but have been asked if I am. When I asked him if he loved me he said no. However he would do anything for me. My Dad hates that I exist. I was an accident and he resents me greatly in his heart. It crushed my heart and I let it destroy my life. I have for my entire life let go of people. However I cannot let go of the loss of my Grandparents and Mom that raised me. I was fired from the job I lived since 22. Now I am 41 years old and struggling to eat. I am struggling to live. I just don't care anymore.
Dr.Greg, First I love the show and I nearly fell off the bed laughing so hard at your expressions while you was in the car with the lady that has anger problems. I think your an awesome therapist and im going to keep you in prayer.....
Wonderful show! I think that, probably, there's something in this show that resonates with everyone, whether they want to admit it or not. I set up my DVR.
DOCs love the show, I find it fascinating to see your lives and how you incorporate therapy into your own lives Dr. Greg my heart hurt for the pain was evident on your face. Dr V I love her witty comments, openness about your pasts is very endearing. Dr V first couple, I cringed for the husband. Sometimes a woman needs to be quiet and ENJOY, feel the experience. While his tool works, no man can keep up to that gadget, and so not fair"! Dr Eris, I so hope that you get your wish to have a child, however I think it's so important that you not be defined as woman, by what society sees as the norm. Your patients catty remark, about well when u have children, u can talk to me, was a kick in the gut, I could see it in your face,and ur come back was perfect! I have a deep respect for "shrinks", I think it takes more courage to see someone open ur mind, heart to listen and learn, then to believe we know it all, because we don't.. Too the haters, turn the dial, it's nice to see conversation, that's conducive to some positive result. I for one love the SHOW!
BRAVO, What were you thinking ? I love you and am a faithful viewer but LA Shrinks is so stupid and annoying. The worst Bravo show ever !
thecat I have to disagree....I think this show has real depth and finally doesn't focus on super rich, uber spoiled 20 something brats. Maybe you're too young for this show?
@thecat You obviously did not watch the show. It was very entertaining and I look forward to more.
thecat I wish you would put on your thinking cap and learn because there's a lot to be learned from this show.
Dr Greg! You are such an inspiration to me! I am studying to become a psychologist and I can only hope that I can one day be as good of an therapist as you are! After just watching the first show I can say without a doubt this is the best show Bravo has done so far. I feel like I can learn so much from just watching you and the other 2 cast members! You have such a great personality. :)
brita89 I felt the same way....finally some smart people on this network....
I watched your first episode yesterday (recorded on DVR) with my husband (his first time to watch a Bravo show) and we are hooked! I have always been fascinated with human behavior as well so I was looking forward to your show. And you did not disappoint. My husband said we might not need to go to therapy if we continue to watch your shows :). I look forward to learning some more while being entertained. Best of luck on your show and I will tell people about it.
You are amazing, I am cheering for you and your partner to have a wonderful happy life!
I loved the first show, and am so looking forward to watching the whole season. I was struck by how much you remind me of Jeff Lewis from Flipping Out. You could almost be a brother, cousin, or secret half brother to him! Am I the only one who sees the resemblance? In any case, I love you both! It would be great to see you together on Watch What Happens Live.
Watching you keep your cool with that very angry woman was a testament to your strength and also pretty darn funny! Is she actually enjoying the rush she gets from all that negative emotion? Is it possible to channel that energy into a positive emotion, or is there something organic in her make up that causes her to react that way? Or do I have to watch the whole season to find out?
In any case, lots of luck and good fortune to you, your mate, and cast mates, and I can't wait to see the next show!
@LittleBee I think she needs to go to Africa see some real suffering, to get some perspective lol. If traffic in LA, a non comitted relationship make her mad, can u imagine comitted relationshipIt was priceless his face. She was so pretty when smiled. I agree he does look like Jeff Lewis, but much nicer.. Shhhh
LittleBee I was also struck by the resemblance b/t Greg and Jeff Lewis. I think Greg is way more attractive, however. JMO.





Dr. G you are without doubt, my favorite on the show. while I don't quite "get" your relationship with your partner (he just doesn't seem that into you on camera), i wish you both many joyful days.
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