The comment I overheard Kevin say about my weight was during this difficult time. That comment hurt, but it did not spur me on to action, as the episode seems to suggest. What spurred me on was the realization my life was out of balance and that career advancement was not as important as relationship and health advancement. By changing priorities and focusing on the things that mattered most in my life, everything else improved. Whenever my priorities get out of whack, I just remind myself of that difficult time and redirect myself back to what's important in life.
The episode also shows my own breakthrough as a therapist in developing empathy for his presenting problem: "I hate fat people." This was a difficult one. But as a therapist, I know that people do "bad things" for "good reasons." My job as a therapist was to find out what those "good reasons" are so I can help him develop a better way. A boy who was both older and overweight had bullied my client as a child. The other child had an unfair advantage and terrorized my client for a long time. As a result, my client developed not only an aversion to the person who bullied him, but to all people he perceived as "fat." This was my "aha" as therapist. The aversion to all people who are overweight became his brain's way of keeping him away from getting attacked. This is the "good reason."
Dr.Greg, I understand your father went through abuse of his own, but I HATE that he minimizes what he did to you and invalidates your feelings. I don't understand why you want him at your wedding. while you seek to separate people from their actions, I think they ARE their actions.....
Doctor Greg your twitter was very hard to find if you could include a link at the end of your blog I'm sure that would be helpful for others.
I just think you're an awesome person, you are so humble it's refreshing. I love how soft spoken and rational you are. I do hope we have change soon, it's been a long time coming. I've been up and down with my weight part of my life. I became obsessed with exercise at points in my life. I've been lucky to live in California where fruit and vegetables are abundant. Interesting show last night, look forward to seeing the progress! Congratulations on your commitment I wish you the very best. Bless!
Dr. Greg: I really enjoy the show. It's not only entertaining, it's informative. I feel like I learn the most from you. You explain why you do what you do really well. Best of luck in the future and as a fellow Californian, I hope Prop. 8 is struck down.
Dr. Greg, I'd just like to say I really admire your style, honesty and professionalism in dealing with your clients. Also admirable is your restraint and calmness in your personal relationship. My comment is that I really felt for you when you recounted overhearing your partner discussing how your weight gain had so turned him off. For what it's worth, and I know you're in a long-term, committed relationship, I feel you are deserving of so much more from a partner. You are youthful, positive and so very hot; your partner seems almost jealous or controlling of you. Regardless, I just want you to know how much I enjoy your segments. Good luck.
BravoFanne I agree with all of your comments except the last one,I don't see Dr. Greg's partner as being controlling at all.To me,they both seem very loving and accepting of one another.I really enjoy this show and Dr Greg is my favorite.