Jacqueline Walters

Dr. Jackie sees some progress.

May 10, 20130

After last episode, I am just not sure I can keep trying to make peace within this group. I feel like I've failed at trying to reunite this group of ladies. Maybe this is truly a job for Iyanla Vanzant. It's been a long time, and we have not been able to heal from what Mariah feels was an evil, wicked, intended blunder, and Toya feels it was very unfortunate, unintended to "hurt," but intended to praise by sharing what she didn't know was a secret. Whether it was intended or not, we have got two very hurt ladies. I have attempted to assist the ladies in talking through their hurt, but it just seems like we are not getting anywhere.  

Now surprisingly, all the ladies agreed to take a road trip to a winery. Now I just didn't feel comfortable traveling in this close setting with the ladies. Against my better judgment, I went on this trip to a north Georgia winery. Yes, I am sitting close to the door, because at any point if this bus gets too hot, I am getting off. Simone and I had talked about separating Mariah and Quad to calm down the energy they bring to each other. Now I do see some baby steps with the ladies trying to be kind to one another. This is GOOD!!! We all had light conversation. Now Simone's big mouth decides to share girlfriend secrets (ahhhh, here we go again, sharing secrets!) I had shared some photos with Simone that I had taken for my husband for our 10th wedding anniversary and she decides to tell it. Now somehow it looks like I shared them, but I can't recall it happening that way. Now I would have rather kept that for my husband's eyes only, but now the world has gotten a glimpse. Simone, I'm gonna get you, girl!!! I'm gonna share some of your pictures.

Simone and Mariah were able to talk through their differences surrounding the "fight of the century"!!! It appears Toya really is ready to talk. Now Simone and I have worked hard to keep these ladies from reaching the point of possibly fighting again and Toya decides enough is enough and gets out of her seat and approaches Mariah. Now why is she touching Mariah again? Isn't this the thing that got the fight started the last time? Both of the ladies were able to express themselves and both of them were able to own their parts with this issue. I wanted to make sure Toya apologized to Mariah. Maybe we are finally getting to a place of healing for both of them. I don't want to get excited too soon, but I'll take this first phase of HEALING!!!!

47 comments
ElegantLady
ElegantLady

You are an adorable woman. I value your representation of what a classy, elegant, intelligent woman should be.   I admire you calmness and composure in all situation.  I wish I could meet you in person. 

lfiggy1
lfiggy1

Dr Jackie, I have to give you a shout out for being classy and focused on showing woman in a positive light. You truly are a classy woman and others can learn from you. I know you tried, but with the woman (Toya, Kari and Dr Simone) they wanted to stir the pot and not move on....Dr Simone not allowing Mariah to speak and share her feelings was shocking....thank you for showing what an education, great mind and class really looks like! Keep up the great job, you are a great role model!

Sewa67
Sewa67

It's amazing how ppl take this nonsense so seriously. It's impossible to sell a TV show without sex or drama. Married to medicine has chosen drama!!! So there's the good ladies and the bad ladies and the plan is for the audience to take sides because craziness and drama sells. In real life these women are probably all friends. My advice is to watch married to medicine laugh at the nonsense and realize its just that, nonsense and entertainment . Personally I would prefer that these professional African American women would be cast in a way that shows them as intelligent and well educated women of color that are positive and support one another and weren't so catty and immature. I'm so tired of us being portrayed negatively but I can understand the allure of being on TV at all cost. I just wish we would turn down these type of roles because they feed into the negative stereotype.

elizabeth.boudreaux.9
elizabeth.boudreaux.9

Dr.Jackie,your the best. I don't have children ,and when crazy yes I said crazy said you will never know because you never gave birth to a child. that would be Mariah,how could she even let that come out of her mouth you give life for others everyday ,and I don't know you ,but would like to think you .you have so much class ,and hold on to Dr. Simone shes so funny ,but I don't want to see her act like these trolls .and yes I like a little slang ,but I can't understand what thre talking about ,it makes no since ,Didn't these girls go to collage .there too smart for that ,they just think it's cool ,but so stupid .and Mariah is grown why is she letting her mom bring her backwards? a parent should lead the child grown or not in the right place .she started that crazy fight again ,I pray Mariah sees herself on t,v and understand that's not a good look for anyones wife ,Dr.or garbage truck man .good luck and God Bless 

chachame
chachame

Stay sweet. Stay out the drama.

MamaJoe72
MamaJoe72

Jackie, see you next season. You are the bomb dignity. Keep doing you. Keep being a fitness and food snob. I love it. It makes me do planks while I watch the show.

SunShineMarae
SunShineMarae

Dr Jackie I love you. You are too good for these ladies. You are to glue to them all. Mariah and Quad are jealous of you because they want to be what you are. You are a lady making it on your own. They are only poplar because of their husbands. Keep doing what you do Dr Jackie. Love you

redy
redy

im sorry, I do admire u for being a doctor, but damn u are creepy ass hell,

Militarybrat
Militarybrat

Dr. Jacqueline you are an angel from above. You are a good role model. I'll always admire you.

Teabagggy
Teabagggy

You are such a class act! Why are you with these women? I hope it's only to springboard your own show starring you.

charris75141@yahoo.com
charris75141@yahoo.com

I just saw a preview of you talking about Quad is different without Mariah.  They aren't twins or anything. What I don't understand if you, Toya, Kari,and Simone don't like her why in God's name did you come on her show? Just like I thought you are messy too. 

mbcarter89
mbcarter89

Dr. Jackie as a mother of a bi-racial daughter who wants to go into medicine that you are a breath of fresh air!!  It is so nice to see such a positive role model in the midst of such questionable behavior especially on such a platform as this show!  Please know that everyday people admire you and appreciate the positive influence you have displayed for minority women :)  Thank you!!!!

Fayeth
Fayeth

Jackie, I think you are a class act!  It seems like most of the shows on Bravo (yours included) feature atleast one woman who just can't grow up!  One who "thinks" they are classy but could surely benefit from a nice long stay at a finishing school!  You seem to be so mature and the voice or reason although, unfortunately, sometimes no one can reason with some people.  You also seem like the kind of doctor I wish I woud have had when I was having my family.  You are refreshing and make the show worth watching.  I enjoy Simone also but you are my absolute, hands down favorite.  I hope you and Simone never leave the show because these other women need someone to teach them some class and the show wouldn't be worth watching if you weren't on it.  Thanks for making this show worth watching!

kshizzle
kshizzle

The women clearly look to you for good judgement and truth.  Good for you for being such an adult amongst immature women who refuse to hold themselves accountable for their own actions!!  Wow those women have NO SHAME!!!  Mariah and Quad really take the cake, they can dress up and get nails done, but if your hateful and inappropriate and shame your own kids and family on TV by your actions???  Shocking!!!

pinktiger
pinktiger

Dr. Simone, I want to respect you but what was the purpose of separating Mariah & Quad on the bus? Seems to me that you guys are intimidated by these two strong minded women. Are you guys trying to break up their tight bond? You guys should try to follow Mariah & Quad definition of being a true friend!

ash326
ash326

The fact that grown women have a problem with how Dr. Jackie carries herself is very telling of how manners, decorum, and self-respect are becoming lost personal values.  I don't blame her, I would be extremely cautious of the situations I put myself in when there are grown women behaving the way some of the cast mates behave.  Grown women fighting...fist-fighting??  It's definitely not something I see in my personal life.  I don't know how old Dr. Jackie is, but to expect her to behave in any other manner than how she behaves leaves me utterly confused and sometimes speechless.  To borrow a word from my mother, there is no need, cause, or justification for women to behave "unseemly"...especially on national television.  Some women need to be better and do better.  Kudos to Dr. Jackie (and Dr. Simone) for setting a higher standard. 

bellatjhouse
bellatjhouse

Dr. Jackie, I am glad that you at least tried to make peace and you did reach out to both ladies. I wish you or Dr. Simone could have been my ob gyn for my daughter whom is 16 months now but I waited ten years between my children and I was terrified and my Dr. had retired, I am glad that you both seem to have such a passion for your jobs and patients, I wish I could have that this time, my experience was not so great this time around.

tolandcheryl
tolandcheryl

These women have the mentality of high school mean girls. Don't waste your time talking about the fight anymore. I liked the exchange between you and Quad. I think you judged her unfairly and it's good to see you getting to know her for yourself.

marilynandreggie
marilynandreggie

if you were really all about peace making  you would have broken up everyone from sitting with their "favorites", you are truly biased and how dare you and mrs cecil! change begins with you, when you change your own ways, watch a change in others!

RoxyDiamond
RoxyDiamond

You are absolutely one sided, and you hide behind the guise of being a so called peacemaker when u certainly are not impartial enough to be one. First of all you invite Toya to your house for dinner to talk about brokering peace and you completely ignored the fact that she threw the first violent blow. Secondly you summons Mariah to your office (which of course is already a slight since you invited Toya to your home) and you then ask Mariah what would possess a woman to strike another woman. How the hell would Mariah know that when clearly the video shows Toya struck her first? You then write in your blog that Quad and Mariah need to be separate in the winery trip, but Kari and Toya are free to sit and once again conspire with one another. You appear to be jealous of Mariah's charisma compared to your own dry brand of reserve and boring demeanor. For someone who disdains cattiness among women I have yet to see you in Mariah's company and refrain from either openly criticizing her or reminding her of your being superior to her. Quite frankly that kind of snideness is unbecoming a woman of your stature and education. You are in no way fit to be the peacemaker until you overcome your own insecurities about those who possess personalities that appear to make your own pale in comparison. I believe all women, including you, bring something unique and magnificent to the table of life. I think you are trying to believe the same in your talk now put that belief in your actual walk and maybe your attempts at peacemaking will succeed instead of fail miserably. P.S. Here's a hint (besides the video) that Toya was the aggressor in the first fight: She once again jumped in Mariah's face on the winery trip bus.

sha_1
sha_1

 I absolutely adore you Dr. Jackie. That's it!

Dr.AMBA2B
Dr.AMBA2B

Dr. Jackie,

I understand your dilemma. It is difficult to sit by and watch strong, black, educated women belittle themselves and each other on national television. I am an emergency physician and I believe that as black women, we must set a certain standard for others. No matter where we are, we are constantly scrutinized. The world is waiting for us to make mistakes so they can point a judgmental finger and say "I told you so. There's not much to them." Continue to be a positive influence on your cast members. Everyone has an opinion, whether it be right or wrong. Stay strong and be true to yourself. Much love to you and Simone!

Luxire
Luxire

Dr Jackie, I absolutely love the oversized green bag you carried in this week's episode. Where can I find it?

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

I learned something interesting years ago, in a management course, about different personas we take on when communicating.  The "heavy parent" persona does not work when dealing with other adults,no matter how well-intentioned. You are a bright, wonderful woman, and I do believe that all the other women see this, it just takes a few days because they are so put-off by the delivery.

prettynpink08
prettynpink08

You are the 'Voice of reason" in this group. I am glad Toya apologized to Mariah, however, I do not believe Toya had any malicious intent when she and her husband discussed the adoption. It is time to move on but in next weeks previews it appears Mariah's wicked mother may have been in her ear again, causing more drama.

hannah79
hannah79

I just love this show.  You all are an amazing group of women; you have your differences and may be mean to each other but you broke the ice with the lemon squeeze.  It was important to get them together.  So glad to see grown women communicate with each other -- not perfect -- but at least communicate.  Team Dr. Jacie!

Tazeda
Tazeda

Team Dr. Jackie!!!

MsLeilah
MsLeilah

This isn't a job for Iyanla Vanzant Dr. Jackie.  This is a job for Mariah and Toya.  In order for there to be peace between those two, BOTH women must heal.  You're NOT giving them enough time to heal. 

Tamira45
Tamira45

All I can say is wow. Is this how doctors wive's are in "ATLATNA" ?

KikiLou
KikiLou

If by trying to broker peace amongst your castmates, portray and carry yourself in a manner worthy of who you are, people mistake that for you being snobby or condescending, so be it. Like you, a lot of women are tired of the negative behavior on reality TV. Not in a million years would I have thought that blows would be exchanged on MtoM!! I sure did not see all that coming. It sure has gone downhill from there. God bless you, and keep being you.

charris75141@yahoo.com
charris75141@yahoo.com

Just get off your high horse. You come off as looking down on people and that is not a good look. Just keep been a lady in the street and a you know what in the bedroom. You showed us you are a closet freak. Nothing wrong with it, just stop trying to act as if you are a empty head when it comes to dealing with people not on your so call level.  Because you put your panties on the same way other women do. You people want to talk bad about Mariah and Quad, at least they are real. My heart go out to you for having to go through your illnesses,  thank God he brought you through, but honey you are no better than anyone else. Remember that.

Viola13
Viola13

Love love you!! Keep on doing what you are doing you the best. I was happy to see you join the ladies in the wine tasting tour and I loved your chat with Quad, you two made me happy that's the kind of show we should be watching not people tearing themselves down. God bless you.

CarmenE
CarmenE

You seperate Mariah and Quad, yet allowed Toya and Kari to sit togetherand they are the worst.  You are so one sided and it sure is not on Mariah's side.  The way you treat Quad is so disrespectful.  You, Simon, Toya, Kari and their husbands should learn from Dr. Simon's husband, now that is a well balanced kind Godly man. He practices what he is preaching unlike you.

anita.shamblinmaraugha
anita.shamblinmaraugha

when I see you I think of how a medical professional is supposed to act.(((HUGS)))

KayMaria
KayMaria

Although your motives were pure and your intent seems genuine, why do you constantly feel the need to stand in judgment of these women's actions? What they do or do not do or say, has no bearings on you. Your job is to deliver babies and look after those who seek your expertise, therefore, your only responsibility is to be accountable for your own actions, not to heal the world. Again, I do feel that your intentions are pure, but sometimes you may want to give others a chance to resolve their own issues. Taking on the stress of others is not worth your health, be it physically, mentally and or emotionally. Diagnose, when requested and treat when solicited.  

Sewa67
Sewa67

@chachame Boo this is a TV show!!!! It's not for real!!!!

Sewa67
Sewa67

@mbcarter89 Momma don't look to TV for role models for your daughter there are plenty of intelligent biracial real life women that you need to connect with and introduce your daughter too. Please expose her to some real sisters that can mentor her and help her grow!!!!!!

Sewa67
Sewa67

@RoxyDiamond Lord have mercy, this isn't real it's TV drama

bellatjhouse
bellatjhouse

 @RoxyDiamond

 omg, lol what does a successful Dr. have to be jealous about, we all have different character traits it is called originality and please re watch again the fight episode, Mariah starts being aggressive toward Toya first, hello ladies their is different types of touch pay attention. Again watch and the reason Toya was invited was because she called everyone to apologize and at the time because Mariah was hurt and had not Toya was perceived as being the most receptive to moving forward. She did jump in her space to "Apologize."

marilynandreggie
marilynandreggie

 @RoxyDiamond so true, amen! did you see how she treated tamar on the braxtons for tamars doctor visit. dr jackie's nose was in the air the whole time, as if Tamar is a hot mess!

marilynandreggie
marilynandreggie

 @Tamira45 at first i wasn't going to watch the show, until i saw the one with Quad going off then i was hooked. i like the idea of the show, but i need to see more realness , i dont like the idea of seeing what is being done with my tax money, but hey i digress! lol

gen2wig
gen2wig

 @charris75141@yahoo.com I disagree...I don't think Dr. Jackie looks down...She's a voice of reason and that is necessary while dealing with a group of women (regardless of social/economic level) that are in conflicts.