Kari Wells

Kari says she didn't ask Mariah for money -- until Mariah recended what she had already paid.

on Apr 21, 20130

After the party at my house, I had a lot of cleaning up to do after Mariah's fight with Toya. There was glass in the pool. Lamps and glasses were broken. Worst of all, friendships were shattered. I spent a lot of time on the phone apologizing, and I sent out letters doing the same, to our guests and the staff who worked that night.

I really, truly thought that I would get an apology from Mariah. But, nothing, nada, zilch. What she did provide is a lesson in how to not manage your finances, something I blog about frequently on kariwells.com on the subject of what I call "the business of living for women."

So I had to laugh when I watched the conversation Mariah had with Aydin when she told him that "Kari sent me a PayPal bill for the damages." I am amazed how disingenuous Mariah can be: I never sent her a bill for my damages!

What Mariah failed to mention was that after the party, instead of receiving any type of apology from her, I received an email from PayPal informing me that funds (her payment for the half of the party) had been withdrawn from my account, because she had filed a petition with them demanding her money back.

241 comments
blkcoffee46
blkcoffee46

Kari stay classy...I really enjoy watching you and how you handle business.  Don't stoop to Mariah's  level.

grianagh50
grianagh50

Mariah brought her agenda (fueled by her family) to the party at Kari's. She was disrespectful from the start, not only to her guests but also to the hosts. If she was really co-hosting this party, she would have been there helping Kari all day, not ignoring texts and calls. Kari was right in having them removed. Mariah's mother committed assault and battery on Toya, not to mention being disrespectful to guests. The entire group that came with Mariah were too volatile to remain there. As the show has shown, Mariah is an angry young woman, who lies. Sad to see women who were given so much acting like common thugs.

vforbes
vforbes

Can not anyone see that the disrespect of bringing issues to someone else's home supersedes any anger issues...What are you thinking! Yes, she should be removed!!!!

Dat.Diva28
Dat.Diva28

I'm sorry but none of you ladies previously commenting own a house because I do and if a fight happens it everyone involved is going to jail.  That is just plain disrespect.  I pay alot for my home and many coins when my husband and I have a party, but I wish someone would come into my home and disrepect it. 

tia.e804
tia.e804

Kari,  all of you women come from a place of prestige and should be setting a better stage.  However, Mariah was attacked by Toya - yet it looks like you all flocked to HER (Toya's) side.  You kicked Mariah and her husband out, you continue to meet up with the co-conspirator (and if you have now watched the actual footage - Toya is the instigator and cause of the outbreak), but you expect Mariah to come crawling up to you to apologize...you made your position very, VERY clear, any one in her shoes would not have presented an apology either.  Toya is a thug!  she hit her in the face with a wine glass and then Almost all of Marian's friends turned on her....talk about being alienated!  You and your husband seemed gleeful that Aiyden will divorce Mariah for recking your party, you and Duncan really disappointed ALL of us viewers that was very trashy of both of you to make such a statement (last week you were good friends with Mariah - this week you wish her divorced).  I am so glad I do not have ANY friends like you.  Shame on you and your husband!

 

KatiainHB
KatiainHB

I don't blame her. You kicked her out of her husbands party. Called the police and never even tried to find out what happened. Stop making this about you!

Thinkbeforeyouact
Thinkbeforeyouact

I'd like to know what you would do if someone assaulted you and threw a glass at your face Kari? Would you just stand there and let her smash it into your face because that would somehow be more dignified? I have a feeling you'd do the same as Mariah and defend yourself. Watch that taping again. You were very hasty in judgment about Mariah and, as you said, went on a campaign after the party of phone calls and letter writing to further slander Mariah's name. It's very apparent you are jealous of Mariah and trying to bring her down. You made a huge deal about this little 30 second fight. The only real drama in the whole thing was Toya throwing the glass but you kind of skipped over that fact and quickly moved your agenda to ruin Mariah along. I'm a doctor's wife as well and I find your snobbish, elitist behavior to be disgusting. You need to humble yourself because you really aren't the big deal that you believe you are.

re@lity
re@lity

You are so fake inside and out!!! To blame Mariah ugh Watch the Footage THATSALL

randrew
randrew

Face it, IMO Mariah is a hawt mess, pure and simple...

hodnettharris
hodnettharris

I personally don't care for Kari or her husband after this incident.  How dare they speak on someone else's marriage and how it might turn out.  So your husband guarantees that Aiden will divorce Mariah?  Really?!!  People who live in class houses should throw stones.  That old saying still applies today.

vadagirl
vadagirl

I'm so confused Kari when you speak you sound so smart and for some reason with all that happened at the party you sound dumb. The reason is I know that you all are watching the season as it unfolds and are you not seeing what Toya did in disrespecting Mariah's family and oh yeah that she through the first blow a drink in her face. Get a clue girl Mariah was wrong for fighting but defending her family she wasn't . Watch that espisode honey and get a clue.

LadyT04
LadyT04

Okay, a couple of key points. Kari it was your home your prerogative. Toya was dead wrong for instigating the fight and tucking tail about the facts of what happened. Mariah was wrong I wish she hadn't have even entertained Toya.Kari your husband went waaay to far with his comment, that was very distasteful. Lastly with "friends"  like Toya and Kari who needs enemies?!

cherishme24
cherishme24

Kari grow up and stop acting like you are God. Theres a heaven or hell for you too. Be mindful and watch how you treat people.

dulcelatina27
dulcelatina27

Kari...You had every right to kick WHOMEVER out of your house if they acted up. But sweetheart, you truly do act as if you are PERFECTION and you are far from that. You talk about class and being ladies and blah blah blah but from what I recall, wasn't your now husband married when you met him? Hmmm..yeah, real class. 

 

Just because you have an accent and it sounds classy, doesn't make you classy. You throw low blows at all the women, but yet you claim class. Get over yourself...and stop being such a snob...you're NOT better than anyone! 

Adrian08615899
Adrian08615899

Kari, you are a condescending snob, stop pretending to be Mariah's friend you classless shrew!!!

fiyah
fiyah

And what? Miss Kari did you really expect her to pay for a party you kicked her out of??? Really? Get over yourself lady!! You have no class!

thesanctuary
thesanctuary

You are a beautiful, elegant, intelligent, and competent  woman. You have this so wrong though. Toya started it. Just as she did at the other party. So you're a snob. Some people get to be. At the same time, it's Toya, not Mariah or Quad, who is the snake.

justmyview
justmyview

Hindsight is 20/20. I think everyone regrets how they handled some portion of what went wrong at the birthday party. HOWEVER, I don't understand how Mariah could offer to help you with the prep and then have it just totally slip her mind and/or not even bother with so much as a phone call.   Regardless of what happened with the fighting, she is responsible for funding the portion of the party that covered the guests she invited.  I think withdrawing her portion will cost her in a lot of other ways.   To me, her credibility has been ruined and everyone knows now that she just might not be dependable.

aloha2013
aloha2013

Kari, I think you handled things appropriately and with class. Don't worry about all these other comments telling you otherwise. As you said, your babies are top priority and that type of behavior does not belong in your home.

Hitgirl
Hitgirl

Kari you are a snob, and a disloyal friend!  With friends like you, who needs enemies?!?!

howgrays
howgrays

Let me get this straight...because you are a doctor's wife that makes you better than everyone else???  What happens when your husband divorce you? It shows that your identity is in being a "Doctor's wife"??? Get a life, go and get a career of your own and become your own person!!!!!!!!!

angel22
angel22

I am sure you watched the episode. Toya started the fight. She approached Mariah, touched her hair and threw a drink in her face. Due to your delusion, and Toya's inability take responsibility to for her actions I have stopped watching the show...

LadyVegas
LadyVegas

Wow, I feel as if I'm living in an alternate universe reading some responses. Why would people feel as if you didn't have a RIGHT to ask people to leave YOUR home? Its your home and a co-payment for a party doesn't mean that the co host can do whatever the hell they want, especially getting into a physical altercation and damaging property. The fact you say she hasn't apologized is ridiculous. The fact that she was so late and her guests were there prior to her arrival, drinking, etc and she believes she shouldn't have to pay is illogical. When your husband made his comment about Mariahs marriage, I was shocked but...I figured his comment was based off the prior interactions he's had with Mariah's husband and not off this one incident. Was his comment appropriate to say publicly? No, but for those commenting who think he would make that type of statement based of that one thing aren't putting two and two together. The drama between Mariah and Toya (who was so wrong for publicly discussing the paternity of someone else's child) shouldn't have exploded at the party. Mariah's mom shouldn't have confronted Toya, Toya should not have chosen that venue to discuss that (especially with liquor in their system), Mariah shouldn't have pulled on Toyas hair and Toya shouldn't have thrown a glass at her. RIDICULOUS! Your reaction wasn't inappropriate and most on here commenting would have cleared a party that ended in a fight also.

Kmm66623
Kmm66623

I am married to a Doctor..I am a Doctors wife for over 16 years now and I have never seen a Doctors wife act like YOU did Kari.., you only cared how things looked for YOU...first of all you should have gotten both sides of the story And second of all you should not Judge other woman who are your friends And forget the fact that you are all Doctors wives cause that shouldn't matter... Friends should come first ... I am embarrassed for you ..you portray a poor example of Doctors wife ... I am still friends with all my friends before I married and when I have parties I only include people I care about and not Doctors wives they I don't know just so I look good ..Mariah looks more of a person that I would invite to one of my parties ... You would NEVER be invited!!

ChristopherB
ChristopherB

Kari  I think you need to know what the problem was before talking behind Mariah's back. You are no friend to anyone but yourself. You look down on everyone and think you are better . You need to learn what real friendship is

Daniell36532524
Daniell36532524

Words are just as powerful as blows.  I've heard very ugly, hateful words spoken among this group of "housewives".  It is really unattractive.  

Lolita2012
Lolita2012

You're so ridiculous. I might have a tiny bit of sympathy if your party was for charity but it wasn't. You're an awful hostess. Hollywood glamour when people are crowded around a pool? Dumb. Get over yourself. Also, you're husband is a little b*tch. He should have been defusing the situation, not making awful remarks about someone's marriage. I would hate to see the two of you react to a real crisis. If you showed a little grace and maturity, the scuttle part of the evening would've blown over a little better but the whole party was a snore fest.

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Kari,  you should always work to get both sides of the story...not just one side.  If I were in your position,  I would invite both ladies and their husbands over (with security) to talk things out and to come to a conclusion. That's how issues get resolved.

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Even though I don't care to much for Kari, I must agree that Mariah should've been there to help Kari plan for the party instead of Kari doing it alone.  Mariah showed no class and didn't apologize to the guests for arriving late. That's a shame.

dmsga
dmsga

Has the relationships with the doctors changed since your party?

dmsga
dmsga

Were you aware that Toya had been gossiping at a salon about Mariah's child & husband?  I think part of the problem was that Mariah was livid about Toya discussing Mariah's private family situation for all to hear, when Toya knew that Mariah's child hadn't been told about her adoption.  Also, you were very quick to forgive Toya and blame the entire thing on Mariah.  After you found out that Toya had done all these things, did your attitude toward Mariah change?

MelindaK.
MelindaK.

I don' t understand when everyone is complaining about throwing Mariah and company out of your party, because how were you supposed to keep the party going after the fight occurred?  As you said, many guests left because of the brawl, and how do you continue to party after that fight--is everyone still supposed to go around making small talk? My point is the party was over once that took place, and Mariah said nothing to her guests, and what could she say? The evening was ruined.  Neither woman was right, but Toya did contact you more than once to apologize and talk to you, before you even took her calls.  Also, Mariah's mother started with the nasty behavior by talking to one of your guests the way that she did.  Mariah's e-mail said that you failed to protect her from an attack--how ignorant, when she was involved in the brawl.  She clearly was trying to throw Toya in the pool to clearly try to embarrass her more, but Toya was able to fend off Mariah enough to prevent that from happening.   Actually, both women went to the ground when  Quad jumped in, and she had the nerve to say she was glad she completely stayed out of it. 

byrd55@comcast.net
byrd55@comcast.net

toya should have paid for the cleanup afterall she started the fight. mariah too should pay her part for the expense of the party. mariah is owed an apology as well.

LeeCeeSees
LeeCeeSees

While I believe that the "fight" between Mariah and Toya was completely inappropriate and rude, you really did your friend Mariah a disservice.  YOU failed to find out both sides of the story nor did you try.  You were already angry with her and it was just icing on the cake that Mariah literally go into it with Toya at Toya's instigation.  It was quite clear that YOU asked security to escort Mariah from your home, but, in your blog YOU intimate that it was guests that were leaving that told security that two women were trying to kill each other.  You seem to think that you are better than those around you the same as Mariah does.  I suppose that is what doctor's wives would like to be perceived.  I still don't understand why I the world YOU would need a restraining order against Mariah.  Nor was it acceptable for your husband to make such a general statement that Mariah's life will be ruined and that her husband will divorce her.  Personally, I think that once your husband acutally watches this season and sees ho you completey disregarded his request to make things right with Quad (and thereby Mariah) as HE wanted to be friends with the husbands and not have any uncomfortable moments.

ViancaR
ViancaR

The fight was wrong everybody knows that but how can u take the side of someone u just meet recently than your friend of 4 years? U admitted at the party u didn't know who started it but u immediately wanted 2 kick Mariah out the house and put a restraining order on her without knowing what really happen. Have u ever thought that u hurt Mariah feelings 2 the point that she doesn't want 2 talk u. If my friend of 4 years picked someone else side over mine who they meet not 2 long ago I would be hurt. Why would she want 2 talk 2 u and apology. I know at the reunion u will feel so stupid when u see the footage and see that your classy friend Toya was the one who started the fight.

bravoladi
bravoladi

Okay, I can honestly say, you have every right to be embarrassed about what happened in your home. However, I think you should of extended the same courtesy to Mariah that you extended to Toya. On that note, you need to step back and take a good look at your friendship with Mariah and also a look at your own marriage. I do not understand how your husband can say that Mariah will get a divorce because of an altercation. Who gets a divorce over that? Okay, it was embarrassing for all parties involved but a divorce? Really? If you husband thinks that way about a friend than what would he think if you did something to embarrass him even if it was unintentionally? Mariah did not plan on fighting and neither did Toya, however, would Duncan divorce you if someone came at you and hit you in the head with a wine glass? Look at the tape. No, Mariah should have not put her hands on her hair or entered her personal space, however TOYA could have walked away in that situation, informed YOU, that she would be leaving due to a misunderstanding and gracefully took her leave. Also, lets not throw stones in a glass house, you did admit that you dated your husband while he was MARRIED, regardless of the situation, some women view that as trashy, I am not judging you, I just want you to know that everyone has made mistakes, everyone has a past, do not put on your robe and white wig, get a gavel, when there are some things in your past that if someone would bring up, you would be disturb and don't put on a holier than thou attitude, because when provoke, ANYBODY, can end up in a fight. 

Gotablve
Gotablve

Kari it was unfortunate that you and Mariah's husbands birthday was ruined.  I believe both ladies are to blame.  You only spoke of Mariah's fault and not Toya's and I believe that is because you like Toya and dislike Mariah.  You never spoke of having security find Toya and put her out.  I don't believe you didn't know she was in the bathroom.  The producers standing outside the bathroom taping the conversation that was going on inside the bathroom should have given you a clue.  You often speak of Quad & Mariah's upbringing and their financial beginnings.  You exhibit an air that you are better than them but you come off as snooty and fake.  No one can control their childhood financial status it is where you end up that matters.  It seemed that Toya instigated the situation.  She didn't have to talk to Mariah about her mother at her husband's birthday party.  You guys where talking badly about Mariah before she arrived at the party and I think that made Toya feel like she had the authority to talk to Mariah about her mother regardless of the occassion . It seemed to me that Toya started the fight by confronting Mariah and striking her when all  Mariah was trying to do was make light of the situation and move on.

 

Stop acting so snooty you are no better than any other lady on that show.  You didn't try to find out what happened before you evicted your co-host.  Admit you were already angry with Mariah and that gave you a reason to evict her from the party.  Why did your husband speak about Mariah's husband leaving her over this issue.  To speak of someone elses marriage and how it will turn out is not your business and be careful what you speak upon others relationship it could come back to yours.

 

You all need to apologize to one anther and move on.  PS no one is going to kiss your feet for forgiveness you are not a true friend anyway. Also if you did everything at the party next time hire a party planner that was a BORING party.

 

MissDixie
MissDixie

@fiyah Because showing up 2 hours late and then fighting in someone's home (I don't care WHO started it) is classy??

tatsu.love
tatsu.love

 @LadyVegas On some points i do agree about Toya shouldnt came at Mariah at the party that wasnt a good time to discuss there. But what Kari Husband said was very disrespectful and uncalled for to say that Mariah Husband going to divorce her like REALLY!!! Toya should have shut her mouth period!!!

tatsu.love
tatsu.love

 @Kmm66623 I so agree with you. I'm going to school for Physical Therapist and i would never stop being friends with my friends even if i making a lot of money i still would have them at my party and gatherings!!

Sonc
Sonc

 @Kmm66623 Nicely Played "K". If only more people, not just wives of doctors would take note!!

phoenix.rising.3517
phoenix.rising.3517

 @yolsmoo87 i think Kari should have hired a planner, that's what most people do when they throw parties, especially one of this scale, and the cake she purchased was awful, not something for a black tie event.

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @LeeCeeSees

A fight occurred between two grown women.  Help me understand the logic behind a host needing to know any “side” with respect to a fight?  At any other venue security would respond the same way whether the host asked them to our guests.  The altercation was a disgrace and an embarrassment.  Furthermore, let’s not confuse the way in which Kari carries herself (no pun intended), by maintaining proper etiquette, for being “better than those around you”.  It’s called maintaining a level of class and couth.  Dr. Jackie and Dr. Simone also maintain proper etiquette and carry themselves in a proper, respectable fashion and refrain from untoward behavior.   As for the divorce prediction, men talk and I am pretty sure there have been extended conversations behind the scenes.  Mariah appears to live well beyond her means.  The home she and her husband own, on an ER physician’s salary no less, is incongruent.  Who knows what kind of pressure her husband is under to maintain a lifestyle where they have to “keep up with the Jonses”.  And now that Mariah has embarrassed her husband on a national scale who knows what will happen.  I for one would never place my life in the hands of a man that cannot manage his home life.  And I am pretty sure Aydn’s colleagues that attended the party not only look at Kari from a different perspective “birds of a feather” they will also focus a critical eye on him as well.    

SharmagneW
SharmagneW

 @sknygirl3  @LeeCeeSees

Mariah is one of the executive producers of the show, Married to Medicine.  Further, she owns 2 companies.  As a result, I'm sure that they can afford the house.

Sonc
Sonc

 @sknygirl3  @LeeCeeSees And at any other event security would have escorted Them BOTH out!! and not just the one person who seemed to suck up best!

hereidbell01
hereidbell01

Honestly I do not agree period. Mariah defended herself Kari and Toya both are messy. I am glad to see that Mariah's husband is standing by her side. Trust me there is not one doctor on this earth that does not have personal problems. so if you think you are seeing a physican that is in control and does not have issues you are dreaming and very confused.

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @Sonc  @LeeCeeSees

 You are right, but how are they to escort anyone out if they are not around?  Toya removed herself from the situation, she was in the restroom crying.  Mariah and her family were still making a scene by the pool.

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @hereidbell01

No confusion.  You are right, I am sure many doctor's may have family issues.  The difference is their wives do not put on a public show about it.  Again, I would not deal with a physician that cannot control his/her family.  You private conflicts should be just that, private!