After the party at my house, I had a lot of cleaning up to do after Mariah's fight with Toya. There was glass in the pool. Lamps and glasses were broken. Worst of all, friendships were shattered. I spent a lot of time on the phone apologizing, and I sent out letters doing the same, to our guests and the staff who worked that night.
I really, truly thought that I would get an apology from Mariah. But, nothing, nada, zilch. What she did provide is a lesson in how to not manage your finances, something I blog about frequently on kariwells.com on the subject of what I call "the business of living for women."
So I had to laugh when I watched the conversation Mariah had with Aydin when she told him that "Kari sent me a PayPal bill for the damages." I am amazed how disingenuous Mariah can be: I never sent her a bill for my damages!
What Mariah failed to mention was that after the party, instead of receiving any type of apology from her, I received an email from PayPal informing me that funds (her payment for the half of the party) had been withdrawn from my account, because she had filed a petition with them demanding her money back.
A few days later, she sent me a letter titled: "Shame on you and Duncan" in which she complained that we did not protect "her in our home from being attacked by one of [her] guests." Actually we did, if you watch the video you will clearly see Duncan holding Toya back from engaging Mariah for the second time, as well as picking up broken glass stems the floor around her bare feet, to protect her from further injury.
And to top it all off, she informed us that she was not prepared to pay for a party! I guess if the "Queen B" has to leave, she feels she does not have to pay for her guests. Her thoughts that I was trying to "take her coins" as she stated, were as delusional as "we had a plan to throw her in the pool." I have always had great financial sense and followed my "Business of Living for women" advice, so I never, ever live beyond my means. It is a wonderful philosophy that all people should live by to alleviate financial stress from their lives.
What Mariah failed to consider was that, during the two hours her guests were waiting for her to arrive, they were enjoying the party, as her guests.
It was nice of Toya to offer to pay for the damages, but, of course, I was not going to accept any money from her: I did accept her heartfelt and sincere apology and it was a kind offer.
I was sad to see Mariah obviously hurting from her actions. I would not wish that kind of pain on anyone. I know that she has a good husband and a good marriage and I wish them the best. I can bet that Mariah and Quad will slam me for my comments (as they usually do) for joking about the "voices in her head" and the "orange suit," but really that was just me trying to inject some humor in a sad, stressful situation. I'm not sure that everyone gets my British humor.
I was really hard on Toya at the restaurant and I did not realize how strong that came across. In my defense, I was just still really upset. I of course wish that I had handled things much better with Mariah, but I reacted out of shock and lack of experience.
Several of the guests, as they were leaving the party informed the security officer that we had hired, "two women were getting killed in there,” and he responded appropriately. He asked the guests who were fighting to leave. I simply wanted it to stop, so I agreed with him. Toya was nowhere to be found, so Mariah unfortunately got all of his attention. I certainly did not mean to treat Mariah or Aydin disrespectfully—I just wanted peace in my home.
It was a shame that it had not been in a different venue, as I would have been able to just walk away, but because it was in our home and our two small children were in bed sleeping, I did not have that privilege.
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