Women Behaving Badly
Kari doesn't think it's snobby to choose to not be around grown women like Mariah and Toya that resort to violence.
As I prepare my thoughts for this week's blog about Married To Medicine here on Bravo, I find myself filled with many things that I would like to say. But the words of my wise, old mother, run through my head "Least said soonest mended."
Of course the fight scene was very hard to watch. It happened on what was otherwise a beautiful evening. Please understand that I am seeing some of this footage for the very first time. I too was trying to piece together what happened in an attempt to still get my head around it.
It was one of the worst nights of my life, with the sorrow that I felt for all of those people at the party, for all of our guests, the staff, my dear husband Duncan, Aydin, the wonderful musician, but mainly for Mariah's guests. I shed many tears that night, and both Duncan and I were in complete shock.
I have never been exposed to anything like that in my life and I reacted out of shock and horror at seeing two, grown, educated, well-dressed, and married wives of doctors fighting. (Well, four women if you count Lucy and Quad jumping in.) I felt as shattered our lamps and the broken glass in our pool.
As a woman, and especially as a mother of young children, I am against violence of any kind, especially violence against women. There is never an excuse for this and I am a strong believer in conflict resolution. I am educated on the cycle of violence. I teach my children to talk things out and they know not to hit each other. As a family, we work out our conflicts verbally and civilly.
I have been called a snob for some of my previous comments and nothing could be further from the truth. I do not feel that I am better than anyone. I choose to not be around women behaving badly. I value my time and how I spend it. I have lived by "it is not where you are from but where you are going that matters.'
We live in a small and very beautiful Atlanta neighborhood. We have private security. As some of Mariah's guests were abruptly leaving they notified "Steve" our security man, that "two women were in there killing each other.' I am British and bound by duty, and, as hostess, it was my duty to secure the safety and well-being of our guests. It took five grown men a long time to get the ladies apart and I needed it to stop. Had this happened in a night club or other venue, they would have both been arrested and charged with property damage.
I realized that night how this would look to the viewers and I was devastated. I did not want to be part of show that makes women look bad, but this is reality TV. Looking back I think I was just very naive. The reality is that two women got into a very bad fight at my house. It could have so easily avoided, but it could have been worse, but things on Married To Medicine need to get much better.