After seeing this episode, all I can say is WOW! I am truly astonished by all the scheming and plotting taking place. It was so obvious that I have to make light of it, to keep from getting upset. As I thought about it, it really is comical and reminiscent of Austin Powers or a bad James Bond movie. We were on a mission to celebrate my husband's birthday and to have a good time. However Agent Broke Blond, Dr. Duncan DoLittle, and poor little Agent 00-DumbDumb were busy conducting a mission called "Operation Push Mariah in the Pool." #MissionNotAccomplished #Backfired
Let me explain how the plot unfolded: Dr. Duncan DoLittle repeatedly said someone will be in the pool, before the night ends. Kari ordered the hit, "Let's go push Mariah in the pool" and scurried off as Agent 00-DumbDumb attempted the hit and failed miserably. Kari definitely succeeded in here initial plot, "Scam Mariah Out of Her Coins." LOL.
On a more serious I am appalled at what happened that night.
I remember feeling so hurt, ashamed, and disappointed in myself "initially"after the fight. I felt as if I truly let myself, my family, and friends down. How does a grown educated business woman/mother/wife get into a tussle at a black-tie event? How did I allow a negative girl, with no morals, values, or boundaries bring me down to her level? Not sure what the politically correct answer is, but I know what my truth is. In that moment I was truly hurt and full of despair. Astonished by the lengths people will go to become more relevant. Children are off-limits, point blank, period.
I was extremely infuriated and distraught about Toya constantly discussing my daughter's step parent adoption, by Aydin. First, her husband brought it up at the Docs on the Dock, then she had several open conversations about it in two different hair salons. I disclosed that information to Toya more than two years ago, we never really truly discussed it since. I was shocked that it was now resurfacing. Why is it coming up now? What you see is what you get with me. I'm an open book, and I refuse to play any games and pretend when it comes to my child.
The sad truth of the matter is, Toya could not find anything else to criticize, so she decided to hit me way below the belt. She and Eugene knew that was the one thing in my life they could use to make me uncomfortable. We were not ready to discuss this subject with Lauren. Toya and Eugene took this option away from us. Telling my daughter with an audience around was the last thing I wanted to do.
So, I say all that to explain that I really didn't want to attend the party, and have to mask my pain. It was my husband's birthday, I had already arranged to surprise him with a Brand new Mercedes GL 450, at the end of the party, so I had to attend. We truly went there to have a good time. We decided to rent a limousine, (since there was a group of us) as we always do for large events because we refuse to drink and drive. We live an hour away from Kari's house and I had a late start because earlier that day I was helping Kari. I paid in full and delivered the flower arrangements, crystal platters, vases, candles, votives, and a full bar of alcohol to Kari's house for the party.
In addition, I had already paid on the food and music, so I'm a little confused as to how much more help she was expecting. Quite frankly, I could not see where all my money went. I never saw any food, besides the lettuce she was eating. Then on top off that she purchased a store bought sheet cake after we budgeted for a 3-tier designer cake. I'm not a party planner, and I always hire professionals to design my events, so forgive me if I'm a little taken back by the fact that I PAID TO GET PUT OUT.
When we arrived at the party the energy was all wrong. Our guests were fine, we had already contacted most of them with our apologies and let them know we were running behind. Aydin is never ever late for anything, so they knew something was wrong. The limo driver really did get lost and had us off schedule. In addition to the brawl, what made most of our guests uncomfortable, wasn't our tardiness, but Simone constantly antagonizing them about it. As we walked in it was almost like the party was on pause, because we weren't there. Most people would be partying, drinking, eating, socializing, and having a great time regardless of who was there. I know I would, but then again, I am the life of the party.
I truly should have followed my first mind and not attended this party. All the signs were there from the very beginning, but I thought I could do it. What I did not know is that there was obviously, a plan being put in place, to "push me in the pool" as Duncan and Kari repeatedly ranted.
In addition, what I did not consider was my mother LUCY! I did not think of the fact, that she was livid about Toya spreading our personal business about my child. I really did try my best to avoid a confrontation, with Toya. I did NOT want to let her know that she had hurt me to the core. My mother however, didn't give a damn. She did NOT want Toya, to look at her or speak to her. She has always been nice and respectful to Toya, since I considered her a friend, but she was always distrustful and had strong reservations about her.
From the moment Momma Lucy met Toya, she sensed that Toya had a deep disdain for me and so much envy in her veins, that she would do anything to elevate herself and diminish others. Well, hindsight is 20/20 and my mom was probably right the entire time. Now that I see things unfold on TV, It's ever clear. It was evident that she never really could fathom me, I just chose to believe otherwise. I thought Toya was misunderstood. I believed that I could help her be a better person and a stronger friend, wife, and mother, as others have done and continue to do for me.
When she confronted me about my mother, I was minding my own business, talking to friends. I hated the fact that my mother said one word to her, because that gave her the ammunition she needed to start a war. I didn't want to give her any attention that night. She had just caressed my hair, but when I reciprocated her actions she smacked my hands and threw a drink on me. Wrong move! I felt as if a time bomb went off inside. I exploded and the rest is a blur. I really truly wasn't trying to fight her, that's not what I wanted, especially at Kari's home. If I could turn back the hands of time I would walk away. She wasn't worth it. As I said to her, It was my husband's day, and I looked way too beautiful to have a stand-off with her.
Contrary to Duncan's wishes Aydin did NOT divorce me! LOL. My husband always has and always will stand behind me. In fact, he was just as hurt, and angry with the Harris family as I was. Although we don't fight in our family, we will fight for our family. I am not condoning my actions, but I am a mother before anything else. In that moment, I was a lioness protecting my cub. I truly wish, that Kari would have had more empathy and not called the police. I would have never in a million years threw her out of my home. As a friend, I would have pulled her in my bedroom, and asked "What the hell is going on? This is not you." At the end of the day I gave her the long-awaited opportunity to throw me out like trash because I was in her territory.
This situation was an eye-opening experience for me. I hold myself to a much higher standard and truly hate that I set a poor example for my kids. I hope and pray it has been an equally valuable lesson in words, consequences and character for Toya as well.
Character isn't something your born with. It's something you must take responsibility in forming. It took a lifetime for me to grow into the woman I am today, and I will not allow one mistake to demean or dictate who I am. I learned long ago that it isn't where you come from, but where you are going. People typically attempt to look back, and focus on your past, because you look ahead at your bright future. It doesn't matter, if I came from the ghetto, the gutters of England or the biles of Detroit. What matters is that I made it! Yaaaasss babe, I am here! My Chattanooga, TN foundation, made me the woman I am today, so I will not allow others to use it as an insult. It's a compliment! Thank you, for recognizing my perseverance.
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