Watching this episode, I am reminded of the importance of forgiveness. Life is a journey and the one guarantee is that mistakes will be made along the way. I know I have made plenty! When Dr. Simone pulled me aside to give her perspective about the situation and apologize, I was completely receptive because I felt it was genuine. I was glad that she understood my disappointment that she hadn’t been there for me during my time of need, and finally recognized the true value of our nine-year friendship.
As we rode home from the winery, I felt as if a huge weight had been lifted when it was finally acknowledged that the conversations about my daughter had indeed taken place. I was tired of the lying, gossiping, backstabbing, and fighting amongst the ladies. More importantly, I was tired of having the same discussion over and over again in front of the camera. Despite what anyone may believe, this situation made my entire family uncomfortable. This was not a game! We could have dealt with the media or audience discussing it, but it was a dagger to our hearts that the pain was inflicted from within our circle of friends whom we trusted. But as with anything else in life, time does heal all wounds.
Watching Aydin at Dr. Simone and Cecil's home was heartbreaking for me. It was very evident that Aydin is not at peace with the situation and will require more time. He is hurt and feels betrayed. But it was also a classic example of how men deal with situations totally different from women. There’s an old parable which says, “Men forget, but never truly forgive and women forgive, but will never ever forget!” I must admit, I was extremely pleased after Aydin departed when Cecil explained my husband’s sentiments to the other men. He was right on point. Aydin and I have so much respect and admiration for Cecil. He is definitely a stand-up and stand-out guy who has charisma and character galore! It takes a ton of courage to go against the popular vote, and stand up for what's right. I'm convinced he helped Simone see things more clearly as well, which is what great spouses ought to do. Hopefully, the other husbands fully grasped the message that Cecil conveyed about a father’s unconditional love.