Mariah Huq

Mariah Huq explains why she is ready to forgive.

on May 13, 20130

 

Watching this episode, I am reminded of the importance of forgiveness. Life is a journey and the one guarantee is that mistakes will be made along the way. I know I have made plenty! When Dr. Simone pulled me aside to give her perspective about the situation and apologize, I was completely receptive because I felt it was genuine. I was glad that she understood my disappointment that she hadn’t been there for me during my time of need, and finally recognized the true value of our nine-year friendship.

As we rode home from the winery, I felt as if a huge weight had been lifted when it was finally acknowledged that the conversations about my daughter had indeed taken place. I was tired of the lying, gossiping, backstabbing, and fighting amongst the ladies. More importantly, I was tired of having the same discussion over and over again in front of the camera. Despite what anyone may believe, this situation made my entire family uncomfortable. This was not a game! We could have dealt with the media or audience discussing it, but it was a dagger to our hearts that the pain was inflicted from within our circle of friends whom we trusted. But as with anything else in life, time does heal all wounds.

Watching Aydin at Dr. Simone and Cecil's home was heartbreaking for me. It was very evident that Aydin is not at peace with the situation and will require more time. He is hurt and feels betrayed. But it was also a classic example of how men deal with situations totally different from women. There’s an old parable which says, “Men forget, but never truly forgive and women forgive, but will never ever forget!” I must admit, I was extremely pleased after Aydin departed when Cecil explained my husband’s sentiments to the other men. He was right on point. Aydin and I have so much respect and admiration for Cecil. He is definitely a stand-up and stand-out guy who has charisma and character galore! It takes a ton of courage to go against the popular vote, and stand up for what's right. I'm convinced he helped Simone see things more clearly as well, which is what great spouses ought to do. Hopefully, the other husbands fully grasped the message that Cecil conveyed about a father’s unconditional love.

307 comments
Parsanea
Parsanea

Mariah, I am so happy that you wrote the above.  I am also happy that you are moving on, but I think you should get rid of Toya.  She clearly threw the glass w/liquor in you're face, and discussed information with others about you're family that was hurtful although you shouldn't have trusted her with that type of information anyway (anyone).  Also Kari needs to go because she is truly not you're friend and neither is her husband.  It was your party too for you're husband....Toya should have been asked to leave the party.... Kari's husband saying that clearly your husband is going to divorce you, was very stupid on his part, because throwing a drink in someone's face, she should have been deault and was, with either wiping her up on the floor and/or dealing with her another time.  Because clearly you're friend should not have told you about this, if she knew you at all, until after the party was over....because that information would have made anyone angry!  Kari or whatever her name is, is a terrible person to betray her friend and she really doesn't like Toya anyway.  Toya is trying to be where you are and clearly Mariah she is not.  Replace them! 

lakeishamwilliams
lakeishamwilliams

All I know....is that if Mariah has the power she can get rid of the two cancers (TackyToya and BigLipped Ceri) and bring on more people like Dr. Jackie/Simone and Quad into the mix. I think if that happens, then Mariah won't have to be so over the top. Oh and no offense but keep her mama off the show too. Shes doesn't help represent who Mariah is. #TeamMariah

valjem
valjem

What is the big deal with telling a child that she was adopted, are we saying that this is not a good thing? The child should have been told already and if it was such a big secret why tell anyone, a secret is a secret and hello but we live in a modern society where this is not a taboo subject.

valjem
valjem

This is an embarrassing display of ignorance, "ghetto" is a better fitting word and something must be wrong with these Doctors who married these women, is it that bad in Atlanta when it comes to finding a quality wife? Dr. Jackie and Simone why on earth are they socializing with theses rachet women, omg! I cant watch this ignorance that only fits to drag black women further into the ground.  I see more and more why a man would place black women at the bottom of the list when it comes to choosing a partner, if I were a man I would probably do the same , even though it is unfair and stereotyping but these women plant such negative seeds about black women, what a shame.

RealWomenRevealed
RealWomenRevealed

1st & foremost this was a great blog article. I definitely enjoyed when Dr. Simone pulled you aside & offered her apology. That was big of her and big of you to accept it and move forward. I do understand that you were hurt and your friend didn't come to your side, I'm big on loyalty so I felt your pain, but sometimes friends don't always see it clear the 1st time so I truly believe her apology was sincere. I was very upset when Toya's husband called you the B word - Wow! Show's the type of man he is. Also, when I saw your hubby with the men, hurt was clearly in his demeanor and you are right. Cecil is a stand up guy he seems to be the clear head - the level head in the group and I believe to he may have made Dr. Simone see somethings clearly. I like the show and was looking forward to it before it aired. I just don't like the un-necessary cattiness. I get it - women we won't all get along but 2 of the ladies on the show seem to want to "hate" and think they are better than others. What it shows to us Real Women Revealed out here is that we are all the same in many ways no matter the status (i.e. financial, education, marital & etc) Overall big ups to women and you Mariah for being a entrepreneur and heck of a business woman. #RealTalk - 

yvonnegraham
yvonnegraham

when did phaedra parks date quads husband

yvonnegraham
yvonnegraham

i fell out when toyas bff kari threw her under the bus atleast three times. i didnt say that toya did, i didnt say that it was toya, i didnt say that toya said that. ahahahahahahahaha. toya looked as dumb as ever

dehope
dehope

if you have been a parent any type of way you understand how it feels to be a mother and you were very insulting to Dr Jackie, but you are a rude person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

123456al
123456al

At the end of the day queen b will be able to end contracts! And alone will decreased the drama!

Militarybrat
Militarybrat

Why do you call yourself queen B? I have no clue. You should be queen "G" "Queen of GOSSIP."

marie3548
marie3548

Well I understand it was wrong for Toya to repeat the info publicly if she did.

But y is it ok for Lakesha's sister to repeat it on tv with the cameras rolling when the viewers would not have know if it was not for Lake bcause the viewers were not n the shop to hear this info. So Lakesha u could not have removed this content from the program this was filmed months ago u r not a victim.

SShaylynn
SShaylynn

Im a great judge of character and your too over the top! now arnt you a bit too old to cause drama the way you do? I just doesn't make sense that a doctor would even marry you! Grow up lady!

joy2daworld
joy2daworld

don't listen to these hating heffers on here. You do what you can to move forward and focus on your family.  I will always support you mariah.

 

pyin
pyin

It is Ridiculous to constantly  hear you refer to yourself as the Queen Bee!! You keep giving yourself credit for brining all of these women together? Funny, because you are the one person constantly scheming to pull these women apart! You are constantly planning pay back! It is so distasteful and it makes you look petty and highschoolish!! Grow up! You are not all that! Yaaaaas, honey that's what I said you are NOT all that!!

Jamaican_kat
Jamaican_kat

Kari is condescending and boring. Toya is deceitful. They are trying to destroy your image in the eyes of everyone cause they are insecure and petty. Toya was foul for discussing your child's paternity.

mzztee09
mzztee09

She didn't invite Toya and Carrie to make peace, she invited them to throw more shade. And Quad is messy

mzztee09
mzztee09

Mariah blew this out of proportion. Why did it become necessary for her and her husband to tell her daughter? She always has an attitude. Her mother is wrong and bitter as well. Mariah acts like she's mad because she really is not the queen Bee. She doesn't act lady like at all. How did she make Toya a doctors wife????? Toya is married to a doctor that is what makes her a docs wife......

mayleren
mayleren

You are the queen bee. Kari is using toya to try to take your spot. It won't happen because kari is so uninteresting and not pleasant to look at. And toya is jealous of your home and your marriage. Your husband really loves you and has your back. Toya's husband is a a-hole and will lash out at her and disrespect her like he did you when he called you a b. So pls move oneand leave the haters behind. Quad is true blue so appreciate her.

mayleren
mayleren

Mariah, kari and toya are jealous of you, period. I'm glad you are moving forward. You should never deal with ppl who are jealous of you. Also, pls try to stop explaining to jackie and simone.

BrooklynBravo
BrooklynBravo

Here is a miraculous idea. A) If you have a family secrets don't do a reality TV show B) as a parent you are supposed teach your children to not lie, as head of the household shouldn't you lead by example? C) you and your husband made the conscious decision to lie to your daughter..own it and stop trying to assign blame. This mess is entirely your fault. Kids do not come with hang ups. That you projected that nonsense about your daughter not understanding about the adoption. Had you been honest from the beginning none of this would have come to fruition.

ahjh22
ahjh22

Mariah you definitely do not act like a doctor's wife. Being a nurse and working in an office myself, I have never seen a doctors wife act the way you do. You say Toya and Kari are starting things with you but you're the one that makes rude comments every time you are around them. The way you act is very immature and would not be accepted of any other doctors wife. You told Kari not to call you darling, but you call everyone honey. You really need to act more mature and stop constantly causing drama. In every show you are the one constantly starting something and running your mouth.

girlpuhleeze
girlpuhleeze

Girl, please. If you were so concerned with your daughter finding out about her parentage, then you shouldn't have brought this  story line to Bravo for them to exploit. You  have traded your daughter's innocence and privacy in return for your desire to be famous. Shame on you. Don't try to claim innocence either, you are transparent. 

KarenH63
KarenH63

I think your husand was embarrassed by your actions at the party.  Ever think about that?

 

ajsblessed
ajsblessed

I think that Mariah grew a lot on the last episode.  Mariah may not realize it now, but there is never a right time to tell a child they are adopted.  However, they earlier they learn the truth, the easier it is for everyone to accept.  My brother was adopted and my uncle told him when he was 13 years old because my father wouldn't cosign a loan.  It sent him into a tailspin for years although he never knew or was shown a difference.  From watching that experience, I believe that had he been told at a young age, things would have turned out entirely different and he would have handled it in a much better way.  Kudos to Mariah

cgdg00
cgdg00

Why are you constantly blaming Toya? It was your mouth that started talking about it, you should have never talked about something so private if you didn't want it out there.  It's your fault and no one else's. So move on...........

larrydean
larrydean

Both you and Aydin have much to be commended for. Each of you handled yourselves in your respective situations exceptionally well!

kosven
kosven

Great thoughts bring great energy, and you've got all of it! #TeamMariah

Parsanea
Parsanea

 @valjem

 It's not a big deal.... Mariah should have told her daughter instead of telling her friend.  Mariah felt betrayed but Mariah put it out there. Point very well taken!  Adoption is beautiful!!!!!

 

lakeishamwilliams
lakeishamwilliams

 @valjem wow...its NOT taboo. I have a family member whos' father was NEVER in the picture, and the only father she knew was the one that raised her since she was a toddler. However, her birth name is DIFFERENT than the stepfather. At 13 she started getting more curious and began asking questions and they sat her down and told her. You have to put yourself in the child's shoes. That's a HUGE thing to tell a child, that someone is NOT their real father. Unless you have kids you won't understand. Its not that its taboo, its timing. And the fact that they are on national television and someone is flapping their lips and its NOT their place, the child does NOT need to find out while watching TV. Mariah and most parents don't assume a close friend will go blabbing it to people when told in confidence.

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

valjem...get over it...they people...you know human beings...they live and breathe like we do...no one is perfect...not even you...

 

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

RealWomenRevealed...Bravo!!! You said it just right...I agree with you 100%....

ccollier08
ccollier08

@marie3548 the viewers already knew it, because toya and her husband had already said it in their head piece... mariah was upset about it and toya knew.... lake came to tell her b/c she had heard about it... Us viewers who watch the show already knew about it... where were you???

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

pyin...neither are you all that either...evidently you know Kari and Toya...go some where and jog....

ccollier08
ccollier08

@pyin Beyonce calls herself Queen B, why cant mariah??? If i want to call myself Queen C, then that's my prerogative

jazmine44
jazmine44

 @pyinFirst of all, Im sure Mariah doesnt realy think she is a queen. That is a term used when someone is the life of the party or at the center of all things happening or popping as I would say. So yes, Mariah is. She did in fact bring the ladies together and possibly on the show. I dont feel she tried to rip the ladies apart. I feel like something bad was done to her and she retaliated, and looked for her friends to have her back. However, Kari did not have her back. The women all looked at her as if she murdered someone. No one could really say what they would do if thery were in that situation. I probably wouldve beat Toya's a$$ too. All the ladies on all these reality to shows can do a little growing up.

 

sunnysideup@55
sunnysideup@55

 @pyin

 With her being a producer of the show I think that pretty much makes her the Queen Bee.

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

Jamaican_kat...you described Toya and Kari perfectly.... 

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

mzztee09...I mean messy09...where you from?

jazmine44
jazmine44

 @mzztee09

 She didnt say she made Toya a doctors wife, she basically was saying that she introduced Toya to the lifestyle of Doctor wives and took her under her wings and showed her the ropes. Upgraded her if you will. Mariah needed to tell her daughter because its was going to now be on National T.V. Her classmates parents probably watch the show and if they know their little friend is on the show or her parents they will watch tool, or at least over hear. We are in a time where the youngest of kids watch reality TV and know everything. You would be surprised. So its best they told her before someone at school ended up telling her first.

Militarybrat
Militarybrat

@mayleren Jealous of what?? Her makeup and the way she dresses?? She reminds me of the clowns at the circus.

Militarybrat
Militarybrat

@girlpuhleeze You made your point very well. Thank you!

Parsanea
Parsanea

 @lakeishamwilliams  @valjem

 Her child is also young and it is very difficult telling a child that they are adopted.  Nothing is wrong with it, it's just the timing and Mariah made a wrong decision in telling Toya something so personal especially when there is another sibling involved.  Just timing..... Idk why Mariah made the decision to share with a person that is clearly not her friend!  A secret is a secret until it's the time for it to come out or not! Sad!

 

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

ccollier08...you are so right...I agree with you 100%...

Silkfun104
Silkfun104

sunnysideup@55...It does makes Mariah the Queen Bee very much so.  When I think of Mariah's position, it is comparable to NeNe's.  She was the one that got the ladies together....However, it will be interesting if Toya and Kari remains on the show...I would like to see if their attitudes have changed in a more positive, caring direction toward Mariah and Quaid...just sayin....

    

pyin
pyin

 @sunnysideup@55  @pyin

 She is a producer, which means she finacially contributes to the show. She is nothing more. If she had any control over the cast and what was aired - she would not have allowed anyone to see her drunken ass beat on another woman. Yaaaaas, honey, she is NOT all that!!!!

pyin
pyin

 @sunnysideup@55

Well, as a producer she contributes financially to the operation of the show! Obviously, she does not control the content. If she did we would not have witnessed that low class fight she participated it. She doesn't have any power. Think what ever makes you feel better. But pretty much she is trash! Yaaaaaas honey, she is trash!!