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    Mariah: "This Was Not a Game!"

    Mariah Huq explains why she is ready to forgive.

    18 hours ago

     

    Watching this episode, I am reminded of the importance of forgiveness. Life is a journey and the one guarantee is that mistakes will be made along the way. I know I have made plenty! When Dr. Simone pulled me aside to give her perspective about the situation and apologize, I was completely receptive because I felt it was genuine. I was glad that she understood my disappointment that she hadn’t been there for me during my time of need, and finally recognized the true value of our nine-year friendship.

    As we rode home from the winery, I felt as if a huge weight had been lifted when it was finally acknowledged that the conversations about my daughter had indeed taken place. I was tired of the lying, gossiping, backstabbing, and fighting amongst the ladies. More importantly, I was tired of having the same discussion over and over again in front of the camera. Despite what anyone may believe, this situation made my entire family uncomfortable. This was not a game! We could have dealt with the media or audience discussing it, but it was a dagger to our hearts that the pain was inflicted from within our circle of friends whom we trusted. But as with anything else in life, time does heal all wounds.

    Watching Aydin at Dr. Simone and Cecil's home was heartbreaking for me. It was very evident that Aydin is not at peace with the situation and will require more time. He is hurt and feels betrayed. But it was also a classic example of how men deal with situations totally different from women. There’s an old parable which says, “Men forget, but never truly forgive and women forgive, but will never ever forget!” I must admit, I was extremely pleased after Aydin departed when Cecil explained my husband’s sentiments to the other men. He was right on point. Aydin and I have so much respect and admiration for Cecil. He is definitely a stand-up and stand-out guy who has charisma and character galore! It takes a ton of courage to go against the popular vote, and stand up for what's right. I'm convinced he helped Simone see things more clearly as well, which is what great spouses ought to do. Hopefully, the other husbands fully grasped the message that Cecil conveyed about a father’s unconditional love.

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    shysharon 1759 pts

    I see next week looks like a mess all over again!

    RevLALAAA 306 pts

    I think the problem is Toya's unwillingness to take responsibility.  Even if you didn't mean to if you make someone upset you should apologize. And she has just as much responsibility for the fight.  Then she just sat back and acted like the victim. not cool

    ESinAZ 2230 pts

    From what I saw, Toya never had any ill intent.  I am paraprasing, but what she said was that Aiden was a good man for adopting Mariah's daughter and raising her as his own. 

    Didn't any of you ladies aever play that game in first grade where you whisper a phrase in someone's ear, then it goes around the circle and the last person says it out loud?  It never comes out the same.  Probably why 3rd party testimony is not allowed in court. 

    CarlaB 404 pts

     ESinAZ I disagree. Do you remember in the interview how Toya made a comment about how she had her children after being married, whereas Mariah did not? I don't remember the exact wording, but it was very snarky. Also, no matter how good of a man she things Ayden is, she did give out information that was told to her in confidence. That is not okay. 

    serenc 5 pts

     CarlaB  ESinAZ I agree CarlaB and not only that but did anyone pay attention to the party when she walked up to speak to Mariah and played in Mariah's hair first......So when they walked off to talk on the side y wasn't it ok for Mariah to do the SAME????Instead it was considered as Mariah putting her hands on Toya first when from what I saw Toya then knocked Mariah's hand away and that really created the first blow....

    Gingertee21 697 pts

     ESinAZ

     The Problem is that initially Toya denied saying anything. Had she done that in the beginning, things could  have been resolved sooner. But it was good that it came out.

    bigmama9 5 pts

     ESinAZ I also disagree! As a matter of fact I disagree with the whole thing! First of all, Toya was as wrong as 3 left feet! She knows hair stylist gossip about all of their clients, exclusive and non exclusive. She should have just pushed Toya in the pool to make her keep her mouth shut about gossip with kids' lives. Aydin probably feels that Mariah should have never said anything to any of her friends or anyone outside of their marriage. Now that is where the real fault is. Mariah don't tell your business to everybody unless it's about business!!!!! Your children are you and your husband's concern, not Toya and all of the free world as we so found out.

    lfaunt52 11 pts

    Cecil should have apologize to Ayden for call you a B**ch and the other on should have apologize for bring you a divorce.  However, neither of them are man enough to admit they were out of line.

    lfaunt52 11 pts

    Let those idiots be what they are IDIOTS!!! You and Quad are the most fashionable and by far the prettiest so you can expect those less admirable to be envious.

    howgrays 642 pts

    Miriah you and your husband showed grace, class, and professionalism! I truly believe Toya and Kari are jealous and don't mean you any good, yet you forgave them both! Good for you, just watch your back and move on. Forgive, don't forget, and watch your back!

    gjsimon3256@gmail.com 459 pts

    I'm so proud of you when you and Toya hug.  However, in the next episode, you're talking to your mother and it seems that she may have changed your mind about Toya's intent.  You can listen to what your mother has to say and keep it on the back burner.  But it your decision not her's whether you want to forgive Toya or not.  There's no way to tell at this point if Toya told your family secret to hurt you or not.  At this point, just move forward with the ladies and stop throwing shade, etc.....The Doctors (husbands) really need to heal and  build their relationship/business.

    kuuipo 74 pts

    Mariah I wish you would STOP complaining and making fun of Toya and open up your heart more to accept her apology. I can tell Toya was really sorry and her apology was sincere. Toya is serious and you're still beating around the bush.

    CarlaB 404 pts

     kuuipo She has that right, it was her child being talked about. I never see sincerity in Toya's eyes or facial expressions. I think she puts on a good act in front of the other women, but she is not one to trust.

    Whatnow 491 pts

    Your husband did not have the courage to tell those men how he really felt. It is the same way he behaves around you. He sat there like a dog with his tail between his legs, flashing those sad eyes and saying "it's all good."  If he was so hurt, why not let the guys know how he was feeling and resolve it? I am sure that Toya's husband would have apologized for saying things that were meant to be kept private. I don't know if Toya or her husband meant to hurt your child, I would hope not and I doubt that this was the intention. But, rather than fist fight and call names, why not do what civilized people do, talk things out in a calm, rational way?  

    My guess is that he was worried the men would react like you do, throwing childish insults and punches.   

    lfaunt52 11 pts

     Whatnow Maybe he is not ready to talk about it.  Maybe he is to angry still and the emotional part of him might explode people do things in their own time so as to be calm enough to have a discussion instead of fighting.  Cecil caalled his wife a bitch why didn't he apologize for it.  The white guy insinuated that he would divorce his wife.  Oh Please!

    Neszoe 890 pts

     lfaunt52  Whatnow

     lol lol lol  you do know that what you are watching is Taped right.....this happened months ago. The things that were said were not said to them but between each other...the husbands and wives.... Dang ......so frustrating so realize that people think they are watching and hearing LIVE events.

     

    They will address that at the reunion.

    RevLALAAA 306 pts

     Whatnow

     What show are you watching Toya threw her drink and punches too.  Why is everyone acting like she just sat there and got her butt kicked.  As for Toya's husband if he thought he should apologize he should have man'd up and said sorry he shouldn't need to be told to do it and if he doesn't think he needs to why would you want him to. 

    Gingertee21 697 pts

     Whatnow

     Maybe we watched something different because to me he sat there like a man, like a father. He listened, he said his piece, he shook hands, and he left to go to the job that supports his family. He really doesn't need to make a speech, his silence spoke loud and clear.

    hannah79 523 pts

    I was so impressed with your behavior and willingness to forgive.  You are truly a classy lady.  Thanks for being an example of how important it was to forgive.

    cappy69 185 pts

     hannah79 until the next episode, don't hink you'll be calling her classy then!

     

     

    kuuipo 74 pts

    @cappy69 LOL... you got that right

    tuhtuhdayjunya 10 pts

    Mariah, forgiving someone is for the better of you. not them. She said it was not a malicous attack. if you said ive done nothing wrong to toya and for her to be saying all this out of an attack is weird. because in order for someone to attack you maliciously, you would've already done something towards them.. so hmmmm.. anyways, toya is still my favorite. bye boo.

    cappy69 185 pts

    it's so refreshing to hear you with all the simple "catch phrases" it's annoying (just my opinion) Anywho, I do feel bad for your husband, clearly he is VERY hurt by all this. Toya's husband should have apologized, on the behalf of his wife, based off principle alone.

    You have alot of growing up to do, I thought you were claiming to be the one to wip everyone into shape, including Quad, but so far you act out the worse! What's really sad is Quad is so busy tryna sound cute with all her catch phrases, neither of you can see that you're both ghetto with money! I'm expecting you to stand up for yourself, however you create so much of the drama! You say you want to move forward, but then when you get around Quad, you talk about Kari. NOW I see after talking to your mom, your questiioning whether or not you should forgive???!!!!!!!!! What type of family values do you guys come from???????? So Sad!

    Neszoe 890 pts

     cappy69

     so true...from the start I could see what those two were about. Anyone who calls herself a "Queen B" is delusional anyway. Referring to themselves in "third" person as if they don't have to be responsible for their actions because "she" did it... is telling.

     

    This Mariah is a piece of work...she is extremely immature and then to tell her daughter to ask a grown woman why you couldn't come to her party was ....unbelievably irresponsible. Hard to watch. They call Toya "tacky" because of her clothes....but what about their personalities. That's "tacky"

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    CarlaB 404 pts

     MsLeilah Did you watch the episode? They both apologized to each other! 

     

    PTE1110 883 pts

    Maybe this all happened for a reason....  Maybe it was time to tell your daughter that she was adopted.  Some children never forgive their parents for not revealing it.

    ejd7 148 pts

    What I don't understand.... we (the viewers) would never have known that your daughter was adopted if you hadn't decided to keep making an issue about it.  You easily could have had the original conversation with your sister off-camera.  Aren't you a producer on this show?  Then you ask your daughter to go to Toya to find out why she wasn't invited to a party?  And now I'm supposed to think that you're the victim here, that the potential damage that was done to your daughter's psychological health is in the hand's of others while your's are clean? I don't think so.  

     

    I wonder what Toya's original conversation about your daughter actually looked like.  Was that filmed? Recorded?  Because I have a feeling that it was much more harmless than you're letting on, and it might be the only piece of this puzzle that you decided to keep on the editing floor.  Not to protect your daughter, but to create drama and Toya seem like the bad guy.  

     

     

    brownsuga21 100 pts

     ejd7

     you need to watch the show from episode one and you will know, her conversation with her sister was not the original conversation. We the viewers all   heard it from toya and her husband, they had the first conversation. Yes let her tell her why she did not attend the party only toya could have given her an answer since she was missed (lying toya). All she had to do was tell Mariah have your husband bring the children or I'll arrange for them to be picked up and dropped off because you're not welcome.

    Neszoe 890 pts

     brownsuga21  ejd7

     lol lol    "'"" (lying toya). All she had to do was tell Mariah have your husband bring the children or I'll arrange for them to be picked up and dropped off because you're not welcome."""""

     

    Is that all she had to do...???? She did the right thing by not allowing the family to come because the minute the immature Mariah arrived it would have been mayhem and Mariah would have been trying to embarrass Toya and HER family. She has to be the center of attention whereas Toya doesn't need that attention. She the other one that's not Mariah would have acted out and Mariah would have claimed "innocence".  Who me ...???????

     

    Whatever .....

     

     

    Bravofan333 5 pts

    @ejd7 you hit the nail on the head. I was thinking the same thing. The sister conversation could have taken place off camera if this was such a secret.

    LillyOfTiger 46 pts

    Mariah, you are so ghetto. You lie, can't control your emotions, and if you are not the center of attention....tantrums erupt! Thank you for telling us your brand name because my "coins" won't be something you ever "catch"! Yasssss!

    02111938 73 pts

     LillyOfTiger Seems like Lucy controls her still even as a grown woman, which is sad.  I guess you receive what you allow.

    ksmalls 91 pts

    I don't think this has anything to do with a ghetto or being ghetto.  People are who they are.  I'm not treaten by Mariah I enbrace who she is and accept who she is.  I don't discrimnate when people are concern.  We are all mirrors of one another.  We've all lied, can't control our emotions at times, and sometimes envious of others who are getting all the attention.  I never met a person who didn't.  You must can't see yourself.

    misbehavin911 218 pts

     LillyOfTiger Mariah you is a classy business lady. I love your style and your sassy ways. I will be supporting your brands and keep moving forward. Your future will only be getting bigger and brighter. Im pretty sure she will be fine without your (Lillyoftiger) coins. LOL

    LillyOfTiger 46 pts

    @misbehavin911 @LillyOfTiger nobody who underestimates the IQ of the American public goes broke. Spend your coins!

    tanya.rand.16 117 pts

    You said that Toya did not exist before you came along. what did you do , give birth to her or something. that statement was totally ridiculous.

     

    sunshinelong 60 pts

     tanya.rand.16

     She sounds real "STUPID".............................

     

    sha_1 502 pts

    Mariah, I am VERY proud of you. It is time to FORGIVE only. Consider Toya's betrayal a gift...she has graciously shown you what she is...now handle her accordingly going forward. At the end of the day you ladies have to work together on this show, so it is best to focus on forward movement. As you mentioned...there are more deals to close, & more money to make. I am tired of hearing about it every time you ladies get together on camera as well. Get rid of that poison that is eating away at you...what's done is done. You family will be fine.. this is only your 1st season...should you be blessed with another season(my hope)...you will find this to be the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the prying, gossiping, ish talking, and just flat out "hateration" that goes on. So... Strap in...and keep it moving!

    ClassieTy 15 pts

    I thought it was great that u n Simone finally spoke and she realized her not reaching out to as a friend was wrong since you have been friends for so long bc that's more important then taking a side. If she really wanted to stay neutral she should have called you the very next morning at the latest but better late then never. As far a Kari n her husband u just have to deal with them with a long handle spoon bc they seem the most hypocritical of them all thy are using this platform to the fullest and putting on "Airs" and I sooooo getting on my nerves. She did not want to make things right anymore then Toya and to say you husband was being petty just goes to show how mean and hateful she really is nor does she understand how serious it was to the two of u bc it obvious that both of u were really hurt. U cannot change the past but that gives no one the right to judge or take jabs at ur situation when it concerns a child. Toya well I don't think she was sincere with her apology and only shed tears bc she was on tv n realized that the truth was out. However, let it go n let God I don't think you have forgiven too soon you will only be able to fully move on once you forgive thou u never have to forget. Toya and her husband are tacky together next to Duncan n Kari they are the least of my favs. Jackie can be a little belittling though I think her intentions in her mind are good but it's a bit too much she seem somewhat judgmental and has no right to do so but I respect her intentions to a certain extent. I do think she is one sided when it comes to you Qaud Kari and Toya you should never separate people that you are truly trying to build some type of working relationship. I thought Qaud pulling Jackie aside was sincere and much needed for Jackie. I didn't understand y her husband wasn't with the men I thought he may have been working late but now I see he wasn't invited not sure what that was all about and can se why Qaud and/or her husband would have been offended. I loved how though your husband may not have agreed with how you handled the situation he stood beside you as any great husband should. I believe that talking to your daughter now may actually be a little better bc he treats her as his own and she will see that it really makes no difference when it comes to your family life.

    Neszoe 890 pts

     ClassieTy

     They both as friends realized that nether one reached out to each other. Mariah should have called her fiend and apologized.. Simone should have asked Mariah what was up with her. But Mariah should understand since she didn't bother to reach out to Toya and ask her about what she had heard....

    Viola13 78 pts

    Mariah in as much as we support you for what you endured from tack Toya's slanderous mouth, you are making it difficult for us to understand whether you have a mean streak in you. After the apologies on the wine tour why did you find the need to irritate others with mean comments? Tone it down a little bit, we are all happy for you and we all are hoping that you ashame the haters by rising above the negativity but then you come out and bring out the drama please! Your husband is still hurt and you should be very proud of him that he is still defending you, you know quiet well whose team he is on you saw it clearly at Cecil's he's with you. I am on your team because I do not like when people talk loosely and undermine others as Toya did. I also did not appreciate weapons being carried by Toya and no one said anything including Simone. This is not a time when a mother should display and brag about carrying weapons with intention of harming another on tv. This actions have consequences and Mariah you should stay away from Toya

    Neszoe 890 pts

     Viola13

     Viola....shouldn't you speak in singulars...the majority of viewers thought Mariah was wrong.  And to be clear...Mariah does have a mean streak and is immature to instigate a fight at a public event. .

     

    But one thing that gets me is that you go from knowing this is taped to present tense in your paragraph.

     

    Just my opinion.

    e2525 10 pts

    I think when you are dealing with children situations can be very sensitive. Anyone that intelligent enough would know that they should never involve children in a situation. I consider it a low blow. While I do not agree with the fact that matters got physical, I do understand why that would have hurt so much. Discussing something that was confidential in the beauty parlor was completely inappropriate. It is a blessing that Mariah was able to be the bigger person and move forward. If it were me, I would be very cautious and mindful of Kari and Toya considering the circumstances (birds of a feather flock together). 

    Sharronh85 732 pts

    Mariah - Please stop being so dramatic all the time. You are a total change from the quiet doctor's wife you presented in the first episode and the wife we see now. Toya was very very wrong in having a conversation with her friend about your business. Forgive her, she obviously needed something to talk about. I like Toya, but she look as if she don't have a lot going on after the kids go off to school. The same case for Quad.

    misbehavin911 218 pts

     Sharronh85

     I still feel she is a classy lady. Im pretty sure we all have discussed personal information with someone we considered a friend, but im sure she have learned a valuable lesson indeed. Im sure she will forgive Toya but it takes time, and unless  you are in her shoes regarding her daughter you will nvr know her pain. As far as Toya, yes she need to get a life, and for Quad she do have a job.

    Sharronh85 732 pts

    @misbehavin911 Mariah shouldn't have told Toya if it was that personal. Have Mariah learned anything from the Real Housewives? Everything gets aired out when filming starts. Also, if Quad have a job, she need to go to work more often so that we can actually see what she does for a living. What we can say thus far is that she talks to her dogs and gossip in messy businss.

    SpeakingTheTruth 94 pts

     Sharronh85  misbehavin911

     Actually @misbehavin911 is correct, Quad has a full-time job in pharmaceutical sales, in addition to the dog apparel line she's launching. Not sure what you're seeing but Quad doesn't create the gossip.  No comparison between her and Toya.

     

    Note: Prior to taping it was agreed upon by the entire cast, that the discussion of each other's children is off limits. It doesn't matter if she told her in confidence or not. (that's common sense) Clearly Simone knew having delivered Mariah's daughter; nevertheless, Simone nor others who knew didn't make it a conversation piece...but Toya did with her hairstylist. AND THAT...is the issue. #LooseLipsSinksShips  

     

    This is the same type incident that lead to Sheree's firing from RHOA for discussing Nene's son.

    sha_1 502 pts

     SpeakingTheTruth  Sharronh85  misbehavin911  I would also just like to add that I have seen footage of Quad at work. I have seen her in & out of Dr.'s offices...chumming it up with the Dr.'s... & putting on that southern charm of hers. In fact she is known for being able to get to the Dr....because she is so charming. Most pharmaceutical reps have difficulty getting past the front desk of a Dr.'s office. NOT QUAD...they like her, & look forward to her visits. The ladies have no final say on what is aired. They simply shoot footage...the network & producers decide what "makes the cut" during the editing process. Yes they know what footage they shot...but they watch the show when we watch. Of course any DRAMA is going to trump things like watching the ladies go to work everyday. Let's be honest... who's watching that???

    CarlaB 404 pts

     Sharronh85  misbehavin911 I think she told this to Toya before the show ever was considered. I thought I heard that she had told this to her several years ago. If so, then it was Toya being snarky for the show.

    Gingertee21 697 pts

     sha_1      

     You'd better preach!