Cast Blog: #MARRIED2MED

Mariah Will Pick Some Better Apples

Mariah discusses her feelings about Kari and Toya and where the group can go from here.

Let me begin by expressing my gratitude for all the love and support so many of you have shown to me and my family. I am truly amazed by how many people have been touched by our story. Your tweets, letters, and emails sharing your stories about your own personal blended families have truly been a source of inspiration and healing. I also want to thank all of the viewers who tuned in to watch Married to Medicine's debut season. Because of you, the show’s ratings broke new records for a non-spinoff reality program on Bravo!

A lot of time was spent filming the six ladies and their husbands for this show. Unfortunately, the format doesn’t allow everything to be shown. The audience is only allowed to see the clips that make for "great and exciting TV." It’s like that for any reality show on television. I am disappointed that the storyline for my family centered on my child when there was so much more filmed that I would have liked everyone to see. I’ve read the comments that the viewers took the time to post and trust me, I shared your frustration! It has definitely been an emotional rollercoaster for my entire family. Looking back at all of the episodes, one would think that topic was the only thing discussed, analyzed and debated throughout the entire time of filming when it came to the HuQ’s. #IncredibleHuQ's

There are many other noteworthy aspects to our life including the successful blending of our multi-culturalfamily; our thriving careers and businesses; our dedication to the community and involvement with The Brian Jordan Foundation along with The Ryan Cameron Foundation. And like so many other parents, Aydin and I work together to develop the necessary balance between family, career, and home. I'm sorry that the viewers were not given the opportunity to see those things as well to make a true assessmentregarding our family. Perhaps, that footage will air for one of the "Lost Episodes." LOL!

Nevertheless, I am truly looking forward to the reunion show. It will be a wonderful opportunity to address some of the issues that were brought up this season and have yet to be resolved. After watching tonight's finale, I had to chuckle at a few things because I'm amazed at the lengths some folks will stoop to justify their actions or comments. For instance, I am totally bewildered how my name was put into the conversation after Quad and Toya met for lunch.

Kari or should I say, "Darling, you really like instigating stuff, don't you?" First, you "mistakenly" let it slip that Quad and I weren't invited to Eugene's opening. Even Dr. Simone called you out on that one. And for whatever reason, you fire up the laptop to come up with a diagnosis for me? Just because we're married to doctors doesn't mean that we can practice medicine or offer medical opinions. Instead of researching "multiple personality disorders" to discuss me, perhaps you should have read the definition of "delusional" for yourself. As much as I hate the situation that took place at your home six months ago, I'm over it. Both my husband and I apologized to you and Duncan so quite frankly I'm not sure what else you want. Why are you still so angry with me? And please stop with the lies about PayPal and the money. You and I both know how much I paid and that the paper you flung around at the Lemon Squeeze was nothing more than a smokescreen that I will be more than happy to address at the reunion with the real paperwork!

You are truly on a crusade to assassinate my character. All of a sudden I disclosed things about Quad to you? Was it before or after Quad called you a medical mistress? I can't imagine anyone holding their tongue during a situation that heated without firing back. And since you and I didn't converse much after the party, it’s actually pathetic that you would say that we had that conversation regarding Quad. I don’t discuss any of my friends’ personal affairs with you or anyone else. That's not my style. In fact, I neverconfided in you about my personal affairs, so whatever you’ve learned; it's by way of gossip or your favorite resource "Google".

Toya: Both of us realize that our friendship will never be the same. The issues that you have with Quad and the issues that you have with me are a direct result of you having diarrhea of the mouth. I know that I’m an easy target for you to blame anything negative, but we both know that Quad didn’t learn about that incident from me. Stop with the madness!

Over the last couple of episodes, several of the ladies have made comments that Quad is so different when the two of us aren’t together. How insulting. Quad is a college educated, successful career woman who is happily married. She has a mind of her own and cannot be manipulated. She is no one’s puppet or mouthpiece. Our friendship is not based on the two of us agreeing on every subject. It is not predicated that both of us have to like or dislike someone. As I have previously written, our friendship is based on respect. It’s sad that throughout the season these ladies continued to exclude her to events or gatherings because of our friendship. Every person has the right to be judged as an individual and the ability to make their own choices. I can only assume that’s not the case with Toya and Kari’s friendship since they both canceled for the dinner at my house after initially agreeing to attend. It would have been nice to have a final meal with ALL of the ladies before heading in different directions, but the olive branch that I extended was rejected.

Every circle starts at a specific point and ends at the same place. It was fitting that the last gathering took place at my home since that is where this journey begun. While some may not like it, best believe that I’m not going anywhere! And I’m not going to allow two bad apples to ruin the whole bunch. I’d much prefer to throw out the rotten ones and go pick new, ripe, shiny apples with A LOT more nutrients and A LOT less defects!

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Simone: Yes, I'm Still Angry with Toya

Simone says she's not a fence rider and thinks Toya lacks the "intellect" and "maturity" to be on Married to Medicine.

Whew! We made it through Reunion still alive and in one piece, but just barely. Mysteries remain intact, questions were left unaswered, old friendships were severed forever and some new friendships just couldn't get off the ground.  Where in the world does this mess leave this group?

I truly believe Married to Medicine has something to offer America. Right now, we are the only show with seven married African American couples who also happen to have seven doctorates. Our young Black America needs to see more of this on TV, not fighting, murders, scandals or mistresses. We have shown everything life has to offer, the good, the bad and everything in between. A few of you have been so quick to criticize our behavior but realistically, everyone walking this earth experiences difficulties in relationships. And everyone has reacted or overreacted to a situation. Surely no one can should assume that a doctorate changes human nature or human responses.

Some of you swear you would never act like some of us, but I know you have behaved poorly behind closed doors. We chose to open the door and let the camera in. The scenarios in life are all the same, the only difference between my life and yours are the people in it!

It was difficult AGAIN to witness Toya telling a lie about her intent to fight me in front of my son AFTER calling me a bad mother.  It is sad that she can throw jabs and insults on the lowest levels but can not handle them in return. She doesn't have the self control, intellect or maturity to be on a show called Married to Medicine.  I am so sure she would fit in quite well on some other shows which I will not name for you today. (This is pure shade and yes, I'm still angry with her.)

I must share some final thoughts on Quad and Mariah, even though I know you're tired of beating a dead horse.  I did not say much on the Reunion after Toya lunged "to give me a hug" because I felt some of the ladies couldn't handle others' opinions about them even though they're quick to offer their own opinions about me.

In Quad's opinion, I am a fence rider. Let me make myself and my intent for Quad and Mariah's issues very clear. The ONLY thing I ever wanted for them was peace and friendship. If we couldn't have that, I wanted civility for the entire cast! Every lady on this show was a vital part of it. In my angriest moments this Season, I could still be in Toya's presence. Didn't want to talk to or sit near her but I never refused to attend an event because she was coming. Even after she tried to fight me at the Reunion, I continued to film with and was civil towards her. Hint: it’s called being mature.  In real life, you must be cordial to your co-workers even when you don’t like them.

Let me also make this point: anyone who thinks in her head she is more important, more revelant or better than anyone else on this show has the game all twisted and played wrong. It has truly been the combination of many factors and faces that contribute to the success of this show.

The biggest factor of them all is YOU, the fans. Without you willing to tune in each week at various times (and now different days) and share your thoughts and opinions on social media, it would not be possible to share Married to Medicine with the world. I thank you so much!

It was an interesting Season to say the least. I'm glad it's over and I'm curious about the future. Take care until . . .

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