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    Dr. Simone on the Definition of "Apology"

    Dr. Simone Whitmore looks back on the Lemon Squeeze.

    May 10

    Now on to the show: Jackie was definitely disappointed in the outcome of the Lemon Squeeze. Her intentions were good, and I know her sorority has used this event to work out many problems and issues. Our group wasn't ready for this meeting and the result was predictable. Jackie is one of the strongest women I know, and she truly understands the concept of accepting an apology gracefully. Some of the comments made at the Lemon Squeeze were very mean spirited and hurtful, but Jackie didn't take offense. Stay tuned for more on this subject.

    I'm glad we had a chance to have Toya and Eugene over to our house to discuss the details from the Lemon Squeeze. As you can probably tell, I married a man (Cecil), who also is very opinionated and was happy to share his feelings with us on the reason the Lemon Squeeze was not a success. He made some great points regarding truly listening to the feelings of all parties and not discounting their beliefs. Toya and Eugene are very adamant that no harm was meant in their discussion regarding the family secret. However, based on Mariah's comments the conversation was malicious. My only hope is we can get to a resolution soon.

    I would like to talk about the word apology. The definition of the word is "an admission of error or discourtesy accompanied by an expression of regret." A sincere apology is a very humble act. Now, the acceptance of an apology is an individual decision and should not be taken lightly. It is a true disservice to the person to accept the apology to claim forgiveness and none is actually felt. These points are going to be very important on this show and going forward with all of the ladies.

    The wine trip was an event that I had some apprehension leading up to the day. These feelings were based on the outcome of the Lemon Squeeze and our track record on getting past the family secret. However, as you can see we had a great time on the wine tour and everyone appeared to let down their guard for a brief moment. So, I guess alcohol at the Lemon Squeeze might have been a good idea. Just kidding!  

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    rednfluffy 5 pts

    Dr. Simone I am a bit confused because I don't feel like you took sides but how you reacted on that bus was not you at all makes me wonder how you really are as a person so yes I am questioning your character. As a Doctor yourself you should not be involved with women like that unless that is the way you are ghetto hot mess like the others.

    elizabeth.boudreaux.9 5 pts

    Dr.Simone your so funny ,but greatness .much love to you for the help you give to people .and you and Dr. Jackie have good bedside manners. well as for Mariah I could never  understand her side because I never could give birth to a child ,I was on her side for a minute ,but when she said that it hurt .It still hurts I had a lot of female problems and could never get pregnet you see I can't even spell it sometimes ,it makes me so sad when someone makes that comment and woman say it all the time to me ,just right out ,you will never understand love like that ,well maybe not but I have two lil boys my God children my neices kids that are like my own and there 3 houses down and have there own rooms at my home .I love them with everything god gave me in my heart to love ,so to you Mrs. Mariah you really need to watch what you say .your words hurt other people and you should understand sometime we speak without thinking .and shame fighting like that at a party .or fighting at all for that matter ,the show is great ,but we will no longer watch if theres any hands on fighting ,we have ladies night and watch it ,so much fun and of course we love drama ,but no hitting ......................God Bless oh and Happy mothers day to you all .

     

    sha_1 507 pts

    So glad you & Mariah talked. I must admit .. I was feeling a certain way about the way you handled the fight. It certainly appeared that you sided with Toya. Which is your right...but with you and Mariah's history I thought you should have reached out to her. Cecil is currently my favorite on the show. You know how to pick em'...good job!

    Rio2000 11 pts

    You and Dr Jack are the only classy, real smart  2 people on the whole show, you guys give the balance to the insanity  from the rest of the cast.  that Quad woman and Mariahs mother GET TO GO!!!

     

    ccollier08 50 pts

    Dr Simone, I was disappointed in your appearance on Watch What Whappens... You said that you didn't contact Mariah because she was not acting like the person you know, but you know Toya enough to take her side and continue to befriend her after that party... You know called your so-called friend up at anytime, but you had so much sympathy for toya and her victim playing that you invited her and her husband to your sorority outting.. Yes, you are fair weathered friend, and Quad is correct in her assessment of you. All of you took Toya's side, because she was the first one to come try to clear her name, which is a clear sign of guilty to me... I would have went to my friend the next day to see what was the matter... Two people were fighting that day not just one. You may have seen something different in Mariah, but it should not have stopped you from calling her up and seeing what was going on. After days and weeks of not talking to Mariah, we, the viewers, saw you have dinner with Toya, go to Toya's house for a party, invited Toya to your Sorority outing, etc... Not once did you say - oh let me call Mariah to see what happened... The only person who did that was QUAD!!! You can say whatever you want about QUAD, but she is definitely a REAL friend unlike you. Lastly, stop saying that kari said that she didn't kick Mariah and her family out. GO WATCH the damn Video again.. She said that she wanted everyone out of her house!!!! She even called the guard over to remove them from her house. They guard said in the video that the owner of this house wants you GONE!!! So, i am dumbfounded as to how you can continue to say that - kari did not kick them out but the security did b/c they were acting a fool... Watch the video again! Mariah was sitting on the couch when the security guard came and said the owner of the house wanted them out!! Please stop trying to defend yourself, because you are continuining to make yourself look silly. Lastly, you do always seem drunk on the show, perhaps, you need to learn how to hold your Vodka as you are always asking for a drink when you are around the ladies.

    Mrs.AMBITION 14 pts

    I think you have an amazing husband he and aydin but toya's husband and kari husband are they are messy Eugene called Mariah a bitch on a few episodes back and kari husband said aydin will leave Mariah I think the husbands should act like husbands and stay out you women buisness

    LuvDeBar 341 pts

    What I find difficult to understand is you've known Mariah for quite some time but was so disappointed you didn't know what to say to her...but Toya you've known for a very short amount of time you ran to give support.  I'm so puzzled by that.  Your husband spoke w/wisdom and in kindness.  Big snaps to him...he SAW the hurt in Ayden and addressed it w/the men. Eugene is immature like his wife.  Hopefully all have learned from this...but somehow I doubt it.

    Mikez 10 pts

    You are such a fun party girl.  I like you when you drink.  You really like that Vodka.  I bet you could bring the house down any night of the week.  Love Ya!

    prettynpink08 37 pts

    I must of watched a different show because I never witnessed you, Toya or Toya's husband trying to throw Mariah under the bus. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and what Cecil gave is just his point of view, some points may have been in alignment with Toya's and her husband's and others may not. Only they know of their true intent, as a viewer watching, I don't think they did anything wrong. They were discussing what a great guy Mariah's husband was and the adoption came up, they said NOTHING negative about Mariah's daughter. Mariah and her family choose to sensationalize the innocent comment into something negative. I doubt Mariah's young daughter even watches this show as it is not a show for young children.

     

    I am sure just as Mariah claims to be hurt by Toya's words, Toya is hurt that Mariah is attempting to paint her in such a vicious manner.

     

    Quad is an insecure woman and can not hold a candle to you, do not even entertain her stupidity with a comment.

     

    I am glad you had the opportunity to clear the air with Mariah. I never questioned your friendship because I felt you knew more about the situation than we the viewers. Mariah kept questioning your 9 year relationship and I felt in 9 years you saw the good, bad and ugly and there was more to the story than we saw.

     

    I hope the ladies get it together because the show is much more enjoyable without all the high school drama but the previews for next week dims that hope. Mariah's mother is wicked, who would try to convince their daughter to not forgive?

    howgrays 650 pts

    Simone, first I want to say glad you made amends with Miriah, it showed how much of a woman you are. With that being said, you are a lucky woman to have Cecil, he is the voice of reason and seems to be the only male figure (along with Aydin) on the show. I was very impressed with him when he made the other men (I use that word lightly) see that Aydin was hurt! Clearly he doesn't think of Miriah's daughter as an adopted daughter! The other messy men supported their wives in the mess. Kari's husband, after bashing Miriah unjustifiably, voiced that Aydin was going to divorce Miriah, then he thought she should tuck her tail between her legs! A testimony to who he really is and Toya's Doughboy called her a b_t_h. My husband would have confronted him, but I applaud Aydin for not going there. Cecil, you are a true man, you didn't support the foolishness!

    lfaunt52 23 pts

     howgrays He is a better man than his wife is a woman she is definitely not his equal.  She needs to follow and not lead!

    MelindaK. 1705 pts

    You add a voice of reason with lightheartedness that I find very refreshing.  I just don't get it that people want to defend physical altercations and violence, no matter what the reason.  You only had seen one side of Mariah for nine years, and couldn't believe what happened when she was fighting, and were disappointed.  Understandable!  Cecil is a wonderfully calm man.  We can see from the previews of next week, that these women are not done with drama, and that is a shame!

    LillyOfTiger 50 pts

    Simone you continue to show grace around ghetto....the ghetto of Mariah and Quad. Keeping it real, Mariah should have done what Toya did -- reached out to everyone for her lack of self control...her ghetto out moment, but she is proud of it. You took the high road because even though Mariah wants separated sides it's just her and her lack of class. Thanks to Toya's ability to control herself or another fight would have happened by Mariah putting her hands all over Toya AGAIN. You nailed all the points in your blog. 

    ClassieTy 18 pts

    To me this episode was all about Cecil, Aydin, and Mariah and rightfully so, it was sooooooo refreshing to Cecil speak truth and point out the bigger picture and that was this is this mans child and some of the ladies including yourself down played that whole situation. He seems like the type that listen well digest it all and then formulates his opinion instead of jumping to conclusions or going along to get along he went against the majority rule and spoke the truth and Aydin sold his ground and I loved them both for it bc each of the men needed to do just what they did. I am glad you and Mariah made amends to though I believe it should have come sooner but better late then never.

    Tamira45 13 pts

    Dr. Simone. None of us knows what gos on in any ones home. This is all tv, but I will say you have a "GREAT" husband

    crandahl 484 pts

    Simone you should be apologizing to your husband.  Have you seen how you behave?  I was stunned that an educated woman would publicly say she went down in IQ with her husband?  

    misbehavin911 226 pts

     crandahl

     Watching Cecil this week was so refreshing. You are lucky to be with such a gentlemen and I love how he is with the kids.

    crandahl 484 pts

     misbehavin911

     I know he's so calm too.  I think Simone is probably so tired most of the time she falls apart at the end of the day?  She's darling just exhausted?

    Penabutta 104 pts

    I'm glad you and Mariah got the chance to talk, but I can't help but wonder what took you so long and why?

    Viola13 86 pts

    Hey Simone, I'm glad you made an effort to reach out to your friend but with reservations. What I loved most about this episode is your husband's wisdom. He put all of you where you belong!! He is not a follower that's admirable.. Lastly I liked the way he shut loud mouthed Duncan for bringing up stuff in non suitable forums. Dr. Simone learn from your husband he is a leader I'm happy to see the show has sensible folks like Cecil..

    tanwayparker 914 pts

    Your husband is the only one who sincerely empathizes with the Huqs, and you seem very unreliable as a friend...

    techlady 62 pts

    You are two faced, why can't anyone see toya for who she is. Toya is the one bringing all the weapons.

    mayleren 225 pts

    Simone Im just happy your husband set all if yall straight about Mariah. I am so glad he chwcked every last one of you because you, toya and her bitch ass husband were about to throw Mariah under the bus once again. Your husband's reaction caused you to finally approch your friend Mariah and talk to her although you were not sincere. You told your friend of several years that you didnt know what to say to her but you were all up in toya's face. You are not trustworthy at all. You are sneaky and fairweather. The only reason you dont mind jabs is because you like giving them instead of behaving like a respectful adult. Toya is the mayor of "messyville" and you are the asst mayor.

    chazzmother 35 pts

     mayleren Snapping my fingers over my head and clapping my hands...yes maam!!! This is a wonderful comment!!! My sentients exactly!!!

    Gingertee21 705 pts

    It was enjoyable to watch Dr. Simone and especially her husband on this episode. Cecil is very wise in that he picked up what the other doctors in the room clearly missed. Dr. Duncan seemed to be the most clueless. Perhaps he should stop looking at the world and the people in it through his wife's eyes. Dr. Eugene apologized but it seemed that he did not look any further than his own words so he was not able to understand Dr. Aydin's hurt as well. Thank goodness for Cecil being the light in that room.

    bjunebug28 646 pts

    Tell it to Quad Dr. Simone.  Just because you are a professional woman does not mean you can't defend yourself from catty nonsensical comments of a woman who admitted dated "thugs" 

    charlie@company 692 pts

    Dr. Simone.........I'm just happy that you didn't pull-out a "40-ounce" from that brown paper bag....lol!!!! I just hope that you had your mouth closed, when the fluids squirted out of that patient's V-JayJay during the delivery........TOO HILARIOUS!!!!

    decaturgurl1975 21 pts

    to me i am amazed that you call yourself Mariah's friend but you made every effort possible to reach out to Toya.  you appear to be a fake person.  i don't care if my friend is right or wrong, i'm going to reach out to her and true friends always look out for their friends before anyone else.  i have a friend that will tell you right off the bat,  if she thought you were wrong but never would she invite someone else to her home she barely knows over her friends.

    you're fake as can be.

    Dr.AMBA2B 13 pts

    Simone,

    It's been a long time since I've talked with you. Our last conversation went something like, "Simone, who's Cooty Brown?" LOL. Anyway, I'm glad to see that you are doing so well. I've enjoyed watching you on the show. I know that you will continue to be yourself, while providing a positive example for the women on your cast. Keep up the great work!

    Shayshay1 22 pts

    Finally, a voice of reason.  It looks like you really listened to your husband.  He sounds like a very wise man.

    anita.shamblinmaraugha 1007 pts

    you are so sweet and real,simone! I truly respect that. you are correct about Quad.i think she likes to stir trouble and she wants to have Mariah to herself. she makes fun of everyone.especially kari and lately she is really chatting about toya when I don't recall toya ever doing anything to her. I hope everyone will wake up and see the truth. as for Mariah,she needs to stay away from the naysayers!

    misbehavin911 226 pts

     anita.shamblinmaraugha  I feel Quad is a true friend Mariah, as far as stirring up trouble I disagree. When Quad first came to Mariah party Kari and Toya was very hard on Quad and made her feel like a outcast. Now look how the tables turned.

    brownsuga21 103 pts

     anita.shamblinmaraugha

     I think you need to rewatch this show from episode one and then you will remember what toya did to Quad, all she and kari is getting is Quad's reaction to their initial actions.

     

    Flowerchild1980 123 pts

    Your husband is very very wise. He has been the only person to hear the under tone of people's words. Can you please stop referring to females as bitches.

    mayleren 225 pts

    You married a very smart man. I love the fact that cecile didnt take sided or allowed you all tobthrow Mariah under the bus. I also like that aydin didnt stay long when rhe men got together because he knew Eugene and kari's husband a re hypocrites.