Simone Whitmore

Dr. Simone explains why she didn't call Mariah after the fight and why she's not on anyone's side in this fight.

on May 5, 20130

The doctor is in and having mixed emotions.

This is definitely one of the best weekends of the year when Cecil and I get to hang out for Morehouse and Spelman's Homecoming. You were only able to see a small part of a fun weekend with friends we have known for many years. Also, you got a glimpse of Cecil's pride and joy, his new bar. The bar was built by Classic Bars in Atlanta and the owner, Bob, is a true artist. If you want a custom bar, I would highly recommend Classic Bars.

We had a great time at our homecoming kickoff event with our friends. I was glad Jackie and Toya joined us and met some of our friends. We were sad to miss hanging with Dr. Eugene. Toya is definitely hurt regarding the fight and seems to be sincerely concerned about her relationship with Mariah. Her conversation with Dr. Eugene makes it very clear how much this is affecting her.

Jackie's idea for hosting a Lemon Squeeze seemed to be a good plan for getting the ladies together to see if we could meet at some crossroads and move forward as a circle of friends. However, watching the ladies’ reactions at the Lemon Squeeze is very disappointing. Sour attitudes were a mainstay and made for an uncomfortable and tense gathering.

151 comments
ajsblessed
ajsblessed

The questions that comes to mind while I read some of these responses are how old are these people and where do they come from?  I have never seen so many comfused people in one place.  Dr. Simone, keep being the great lady you are and let these other folks get a life.

berniebee
berniebee

ur picking sides...If ur both Toya n Mariah's friend ..u should be neutral..I feel like ur stand offish from Mariah since the incident. You should have called Mariah, emailed something even if she didnt. Thats what a friend does. Its seems u had a verdict as soon as u heard Toya's side of things. tsk tsk

antoinette.brownridgesims
antoinette.brownridgesims

dr Jackie is o unfair she never even asked Mariah what happen as she did toya.  She used her nephew for  her own use then when she was finished she was ready for him to go home.  My my do not that tell u a lot about who she is.  She is not someone I would want to call a friend Mariah is better off without her, Mariah keep on climbing the ladder don't let them tear u down good luck.    I meant to say Dr. Somon

 

melinda912
melinda912

Hi Dr. Simone,

     I have watched your show and have watched you as a role model for ALL young women of All ethnical backgrounds.. I have and and am SO glad that there is a show that demonstrates extremely competent African American women as role models.

 

     I grew up in a VERY depressed area. My single father passed of heart attack before they divorced) and she cleaned houses for a living to help keep us alive. This was back in 1955.until 1967, .the year I was born (55). I'm a white woman, that grew up with MOTOWN in my soul..  ;)  (the Beatles Too.. :)   <grin>  ...  However, what I learned that "Grace" willl get you everywhere.

Well, study does too...I'll never forget Dr. Martin Luther King and the struggle for equality. My mom and I cheered for him and all for the cause. She knew that it would help ME too, as a human being. 

 

     In closing, I would just like to remind everyone to thank God for all of our blessings. Do not 

waste time, Time is the gift hat God has given us. Use it, work hard, but smile while you're doing it.

reeny26
reeny26

Dr Simone, by the way its so weird for me to call u a doctor. you called your son's supposedly girlfriend a little bitch, can u imagine how that child must feel. how would you feel if u had a daughter and someone called her out her name and you call yourself a doctor. I know whose vejj you wont be looking in. you should be ashamed to call yourself a doc. the only true and sincere person on that show is dr Jackie. am still trying to figure out why someone ike her would even sign up for this trainwreck that this show has become

DariusMommie
DariusMommie

Dr. Simone, please stop drinking vodka. With prolonged sobriety you will see that these "actual doctors" wives are LOSERS. Which makes you guilty by association. Please move over to the RHOA. Those women represent black women of the south well.

eyeAM
eyeAM

How can you claim to have not picked sides, but is clearly BESTIES with Toya because she is kissing you and the rest of the girl's ass for sympathy. You chose sides when you immediately rushed to Toya's aid at the party and clearly befriended her right after the smoke cleared, with still no phone call or inquiry of Mariah and her feelings. You my dear aren't loyal, nor would I consider you a friend. People's true colors always comes out and yours have. I used to like you but you are becoming just as phony as Toya. Let's see how long the ass kicking works for you and Toya's friendship.

charnorm
charnorm

You did turn your back on Marriah, and reached out to Toya. What program are you watching? All of a sudden you and Toya are best BFFS. Fighting is not good no matter what age, and the fight should lack of class on both sides. However, Marriah was already upset about what Toya had revealed, but she did not approach Toya when she got to the party.(most women would have confronted her right away). Toya confronted Marriah about her mother, so as far as Marriah was concerned this woman has already pissed her off, and now her she comes confronting her about her mother. Seems to me Toya was looking to start something with Marriah, and you (Marriah's friend) was right there feeling sorry for Fake Crying Toya!

Marriah should not count you as a friend. Ever. Your husband was the voice of reason, even he understood if Marriah did something like that, something serious must have happened.

charnorm
charnorm

The reason I started watching this show, because instead of just anyone being on the show. This show had two professional women. Watching you has given me pause, not about your being a doctor,but because you have shown that even with a "md", you still can be classless. You did not see Toya setting you up against Marriah. You were Marriah's friend, of course Toya would want to hurt her the most by having her own friends turn against her. Marriah is something else, but Toya is sneaky and phony. You fell right into Toya's trap, and that was to turn Marrriah's own friends against her. Our friends are not perfect, but if I had a friend of 9 years, I sure would not jump the gun against her.

The one thing you have going for your self and that is a sensible husband. You should have seen Toya's face and yours when he read both of you.

alma13
alma13

Happy Mother's Day to all!

mayleren
mayleren

You are not a loyal person or friend. You kicked you nephew to the curb aftet using him to shuttle your kids back and forth to sports, you put your son on super blast about a girl friend he's too young to have and then called "her" the b word then you talk about Mariah to HER friends at the party and when tacky toya starts a fight with Mariah, you take toya's sidevwithout getting "your friend's" side of the story. You looked real sheepish at the lemon squeeze because you know you are wrong. Mariah needs to kick youcto the cure. You are low down.

anita.shamblinmaraugha
anita.shamblinmaraugha

I agree! it was uncalled for! thanks for standing by dr jackie. i felt so bad for her when mariah insulted her so

CarmenE
CarmenE

WOW LOVE your husband!! SO sensible.  So glad to hear he is not on the “lets hate Mariah boat”.   He let you, Toya and her husband have it when he said he is not going to treat Mariah bad, he does not know her to be as you all aresaying she is and for all of you to get over it and move on and treat her right.  Agree to disagree.  BOY Toya's face said it all, she will now probably be hating him too. LOVED IT!! Too bad you two don't make a good match, you could sure learn A LOT from him. 

biglorri
biglorri

Hey Doc, I truly agree with you on all of your statements above.. I had to write Mariah and tell her how I felt, #1 she lied why they were late, I feel they were wasted... #2 The people that were at the party waiting on her for 2 hrs werent cutting her a break and she felt it and went into street mode and made up the reason why she started attacking Toya,,,,, Im sure she felt that would turn it around for her at the lemon twist and before, BUT obviousely it did not as nobody was falling for it.. 

 

For her to go after Dr. Jackie like that just shows her true colors !!!!!! I mean Im a women who is 52 and never had her OWN child as she put it, but believe me Ive been Aunt Lorri to alot of kids whos REAL parents werent worth anything....... that was sickening to me how she threw that in Dr. Jackies face/////// and just shows another example of what a piece of trash she STILL is....

 

Remember MONEY CANT BUY YOU CLASS......

 

Your a treat on this show, and make it fun and interesting but also you do bring it right down to whats really going on....

 

Keep it up

 

AUNT LORRI

charmaine.gibson2
charmaine.gibson2

Well i am happy Miss Simone you could look back and see on tape what Mariah said was hurtful to your friend and colleague Dr. Jackie but why have you not shown this same side to your friend of how many years Mariah???? Instead of heading for the hills, yes they were both wrong no excuse......... Toya however knew that Mariah  did not hit her but just  touched her hair  and she threw her drink on Mariah go watch the tape.  You could have reached out to her and yes express your disappointment in her behavior, granted we  are all not perfect and subject to making mistakes at some point in life and do stuff we alllllll live to regret no matter how old. Why were you so quick to judge and kick Mariah to the curb?????  I was really disappointed in you and how you dealt with this Toya  and Mariah  fiascal. My friend"s sometimes do stuff  I am not pleased with and I do come out and say it like it is......like it  or not and we move forward because I value true friendship. But u must learn to be genuine and true........I  am not seeing  this in you at all with regards to this situation.

byrd55@comcast.net
byrd55@comcast.net

here's what i believe: doctor reached out to toya because she was weeping but look closer there are no tears before toya slams bathroom door. toya is a manipulator and has been so all her life, so she can fake cry on cue. knowing that most people will be sympathetic to someone crying. after years of seeing an alcoholic father do crocodile tears i know people can cry manipulatively. mature people respect 9 year old friendships and confront friends when things like this happen doctor or not. no especially a doctor! who studied human behavior! the point is toya betrayed a confidence . toya cannot see her faults and prefers living a lie regarding her character. toya made the first physical blow and touched mariah's hair first.what person would not react to a glass being thrown at their face? please somebody comfont toya!!!!

Viola13
Viola13

I think you are Lame Dr. Simone. I watched the preview of the upcoming episode and I am appalled by your comment that you delivered Lauren and everyone knew she was adopted. I assume that is true for the circle of friends that Mariah keeps. What makes you think that it's okay for Toya to broadcast and/ or publish to her stylist this information knowing that stylists of that kind that work in hair saloons don't know when to zip it? Are you saying in turn saying that Mariah should be okay that the whole world now knows her child is adopted and give thanks to Toya and by extension now yourself in justifying Toya's actions? You claim you are neutral in this fight but you have clearly taken sides without listening to the other. I respected and admired you at the beginning to be an example to young black women aspiring to be something regardless of their backgrounds but I have no respect for you anymore. Your actions and comments speak volumes, do you even watch yourself? Your husband was right to say and ill quote ".....my feelings towards Mariah have not changed...." Simone you come out as an instigator and in my opinion, you are a snake just like Toya. It will only be a matter of time before we watch you eat yourselves up like a frightened cat eats her own kittens!!

Starbucksmama
Starbucksmama

Dr. Simone you show being a doctor has no bearing on professionalism. As an adopted child, I understand Mariah protecting her childs future reaction to learning of her adoption. Children are so vulnerable and should be protected until they are able to understand adult situations. As a child I knew i was adopted but was deeply hurt when family and friends talked about it. As a physician delivering "children" you should undertand this far better than others. It was appalling to see you take Toya's defense when she was so very wrong in her decision to gossip about such a life changing subject. She threw the first swing and the first offense. The entire cast needs to apologize. 

charlie@company
charlie@company

Dr. Simone........Iove Cecil's new Bar & I use that same delicious "Trailmix".......LOL!!!!!

hlgraham1016
hlgraham1016

I feel you r wrong how u did ur nephew. you used him to help with ur kids then u throw him out. He looked so pitiful when u said he had to go he look like he swallowed a lump and u should not do that. he looked like he really looked up to u and ur husband

hlgraham1016
hlgraham1016

Toya is messy her husband is too for calling another woman out her name before you check someone else wife check your own her mouth is lethal. Kari and her husband talking about Mariah husband going to divorce her tomorrow, he is not like you

hlgraham1016
hlgraham1016

then you all got together with toya and scary kari and asked them first what yall need to do like they just been beat up on you are wrong. You and Dr. Jackie need to get off your high horses and have compassion because that is what doctors do. Toya child was not talkedabout , your child was not talked about, but Mariahs' was I can relate with her and Quad , but I can not relate to the rest you, that is not bcause of education or money but, being a mother and a true friend.

hlgraham1016
hlgraham1016

Dr Simone, I think that you was never a friend of Mariah. Before she got to the party you talked about her to her friends about her being late and you talked about what she arrived in.I want to correct some people on the fight night, the first person to put her hands on someone was Toya she first was flipping through Mariahs hair when she approached her. No, No, No, NO, No, Mariah should not apologize to Dr. Jackie for a thing. You want to say that Mariah was unsensitive about Dr. Jackie not being able to have kids was wrong, because Dr. Jackie do not understand she act like she dnt have a heart for Mariah child who now probably know that the man she thought was her father is not. I was told a man was my father and found out he was not and it devastated me. How could you all sit around the table and point fingers at Mariah and sweep what toya did under the rug.

Flowerchild1980
Flowerchild1980

I can't like you. I hate good weather friends and females who call other females b$;)ts. Saying that word in front of a boy is telling him is okay to used that word. Maturity makes used see and heard all sides prior to making a judgment or form an opinion.

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

At the lemon squeeze meeting, Toya stated that she wanted to know why Mariah felt she could touch another women and disrespect her.  Here's the problem "touch" can mean something different to someone else.  When  you were explaining what Toya said at the meeting  to your husband and Toya's husband,  you changed the "touch" to swung at her. Toya caught what  you said but didn't correct you on it.  Cecil said that he's known Mariah for many years and doesn't believe that she would do something like that.  Again, Mariah only touched Mariah's hair, but she never swung at her first.   Next, Toya threw the glass at Mariah and she was defending herself.  Note: Toya touched Mariah's hair earlier at that party.  

 

I believe Toya's purposely not explaining the steps that lead up to the fight.  Please look at the fight episode.

 

larhondaw1
larhondaw1

Dr. Simone you were one of my favs UNTIL I learned that you were actually a friend of Mariah’s prior to the show. So to watch you NOT have your friends back in this situation regardless of how disappointed or confused you were as to her reasoning, is just unforgivable to me. I get that Toya reached out to you, but if Mariah was truly your friend you don’t turn your back and participate in the assassination of her character even if you disagree is just wrong on every friendship level. You said, you could not believe that your friend of 9 years was at an event fighting even more reason for you to reach out to find out what happened and if she were alright. This situation says so much more about your character than it does either of the other ladies.   

9japride
9japride

You are fake. Jealous or resentful of Mariah and it shows. You are not loyal nor are you a true friend at all. You are the most difficult for me to watch. Even more difficult than Toya, and that says something

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

According to your blog above, you still blame Mariah for starting the fight. Please take a close look at the shows tape.  I am not understanding why you did not look at the tape before you made a decision on who started the fight.  Mariah was  stroking Toya's hair, but she never hit her. Next Toya threw the glass at Mariah. Basically, Mariah was defending herself.   If that glass had hit Mariah and she was injured, Toya could have went to jail.  So obviously, Toya didn't balance the impulse with a rational thought.  In addition, when Toya first approached Mariah, she touched her hair.  

 

After the fight, you reached out to Toya, so she in return reached out to thank you.  However, at no time did you reach out to Mariah.  You mentioned that you were upset with Mariah due to something she said about you.  If you can get angry about something that minor, can you imagine how mad Mariah was when Toya told  her family secret to her hairdresser?  Yet she still  did not confront Toya at the birthday party.

 

Here's what Toya and you  are not understanding.  Mariah was not fighting Toya because she told  a friend/hairdresser  her family secret. Yes she was extremely mad about that, but she had to defend herself due to a glass being thrown at her.  Both women should have handled it differently, but unfortunately that didn't happen.

 

At the lemon squeeze meeting, it was a mess from the start.  When Mariah and Quad arrived, you did not say hi to her at all.  After Mariah explains that Toya told her family secret.  There was no compassion from any of the women. Toya finally admits that she told Mariah's family secret to her hairdresser.  There was no compassion from any of the women.  I was shocked.  Kari says that everyone knew that secret.  I'm sure that Mariah's friends and family may know this secret.  However, somehow this family secret made it to the hair salon, etc.  Basically,  now everyone knows this secret.  Toya should apologize to Mariah for the fight as well as gossiping about her family secret.

 

I agree that Mariah should have not made the comment about Dr. Jackie's inability to understand.  I do believe that Mariah will apologize to her.

joy2daworld
joy2daworld

Simone, I will say, you not hearing mariah's side of the story and taking Toya's side was not  right at all. You were not being a good friend. you not calling her up because of you being stubborn was so uncool. Friends be there for each other and put their differences aside  to make sure each other are ok. You didn't do that. shame on you.

alma13
alma13

Dr. Simone you did the right thing. Just follow your heart. Wish you and yours the best.

creeves11
creeves11

Dr. Simone you are AWESOME!! You are real, relateable and honest. Your personality on the show is a breath of fresh air. I love you, Dr. Jackie and Simone. The other women need to crawl back to the gutters they came from. They are too old to behave in the manner in which they do and they make all women of color look bad. I was going to stop watching the show because of them but I like you so much I will tune in just to watch you. Keep up the good work and I will keep you in my prayers.

charris75141@yahoo.com
charris75141@yahoo.com

You don't have mixed feeling. You said it all last night when you said if you're  the Queen B, you need to act like it. That's your problem, Ms. Boss, that was so unneccessary to say to your staff. You really act as if you have been pretending to like Mariah, since you being knowing Kari for 5 minutes. I don't have respect for women like you. You may have the know how to deliever a baby, heck a lot of people can do that. They did it for years its call midwives, and they had no traing. You make yourself look bad taking sides and you where at the party being messy to. You don't show class at least Dr. Jackie tries to. I assume because she has dealt with real lfe and death issue with her health. So I can see she appreciates herself and all she has accomplished, in her life. But Simone you are so wrong on this one.

talkingrealgood
talkingrealgood

 Dr. Simone

I first have to tell you I love you. I think you show that you can be a professional with a relaxed fun side and all. Now to the Tea. I don't think you not speaking to Mariah is right. Hear me out, you and Mariah were friends before you and Toya. I feel that if nothing else sit down with her and hear her out. I see you as a woman with an edge and if the shoe was on the other foot I think you could have reacted similar. Also I know you at the party but take a close look at that take Mariah was twirling Toya weave, she never hit her. I think she was being a little bit intimidating. But Toya hurled the first GLASS. That was tacky. I don’t think Mariah wanted to fight she just wanted to let Toya know she knew what had been said. Now Toya played the victim after it was all said and done. And she is the victim that dress she had on, that girdle that was not working, that hair and that costume makeup. All said victim from the moment she walked in. I mean everyone else had on gowns. She had on a after 5 dress from penny's. I did not like her from the jump when she went in on Quad. So that is my feeling about the entire thing. Also friends stick with friends even when you don't understand there actions. Now you don't have to uphold them in there wrong doing but you got to stick with them. Kari is tired. I haste she just turned on Mariah as well. She lied at the lemon Squeeze too. She didi tell them to get her out of there. That was wrong. Both of you all should have made sure both ladies were ok , and then from there decided to sit down. Tell Dr. Jackie I don't think Mariah meant to be hurtful with that baby birth comment. It may not have been stated the best way though. Finally my true opinion. It presents to me as if Toya, Kari( What is going on with that lip)  are both jealous of Mariah. I mean Toya is trying to get her husband to build a $1.3 million dollar house and she had the nerves to say the price. That is classless. Everybody knows you don't drop prices. I hate to seem one side but look at the facts and just think things over. Ill be checking the office of professional standards for Toya Teaching Certification. Signing off If I ever run into you at  a restaurant I got you on one Vodka Shot.

firefly404
firefly404

Super disappointed. I am really shocked and saddened by it. Do you feel the same way now that you have seen the actual footage of the fight.  You really owe Mariah an apology. Toya lied to you and you fell for it without even consulting with Mariah. pretty sad.

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @Viola13

First they said there is no way Toya said it, now that she admitted it they say "everyone already knew". Toya can do no wrong when it comes to Simon, Jackie and Kari.  Women like that are not trust worthy.

Viola13
Viola13

@hlgraham1016 Totally agree with you, Dr. Simone didn't show empathy in delivering the shocking news to her nephew that it was time to go. She said she needed privacy with her kids and I am sure many people will respect her need feelings. It's strange she has not respected Mariah's feelings on what was said about her child. Dr. Simone that was another shady move on your nephew. It looked like an ambush and it was sad to watch your nephew look desparate and sad but again this is Dr. Simone we are talking about, she comes off as a person who doesn't empathize to the hurt she may course, she's a woman whose belly is filled with pride she overlooked all the good the poor nephew may have done to her.

@Lyndi1
@Lyndi1

 @hlgraham1016

 I sooo wanted to 'like' your comment , but had to stop short regarding Dr Jackie! I find her to be such a remarkable, compassionate, beautiful & classy lady as I've seen on any of our beloved Bravo shows to date! Mariah's words were the most insensitive, & truly cruel remarks a mother could possibly utter toward  another mother! I understand she must have been suffering so much pain, from so many different directions. My goodness, she had just learned of Toya's betrayal, which by the way we have since learned, was made with THE CAMERAS ROLLING, (don't understand why they couldn't acknowledge that while filming?) but to feel abandoned by one of her closest friends too? She & her husband were forced into a very difficult position before they believed was appropriate & ALL of her castmates could have been more understanding, imo. At any rate, I hope they can all pull together because I really have found great pleasure & see so much potential in a such different world for this curious viewers entertainment!

eyeAM
eyeAM

 @gjsimon3256@gmail.com Thank you! I'm truly wondering why everyone is acting like Toya initiating the fight wasn't CLEAR as DAY! 

chazzmother
chazzmother

you took the words right out of my mouth!!! She is like the loud drunk friend that tries to "act" sophisticated when everyone is looking and just looks messy. Simone and Toya are neck and neck in my least appealing cast members. @9japride 

MsDetta
MsDetta

 @gjsimon3256@gmail.com

 Don't touch anyone!  She was not "stroking" her hair.  She was flipping it and talking bull. Just be a lady and keep your hands to yourself. Yes, Toya should not have thrown the glass. If your family business is a secret than SHUT UP and stop talking about it.  Once you let the secret out, it's on you.

devfan13
devfan13

 @Viola13  @hlgraham1016

 C'mon ladies. Dr. Simone did the right thing.  Nephew needed to have a job or go to school.  He was doing neither. He wanted to sit back and play with the teens.  I'm with the doctor.  Gotta go! 

eyeAM
eyeAM

 @chazzmother  @9japride I thought Dr. Simone was cool until she referred to a lil girl as a lil bitch and then in watching how she just took Toya's side without ever speaking to her friend of many years (Mariah). Dr. Simone along with the other women come off very: Phony, jealous, envious and obviously threatened by Mariah!!!! But hey that's typical birds for you, it doesn't matter how far up the ladder you clime. They're still susceptible to reverting back to childish, catty, caniving ways

eyeAM
eyeAM

 @MsDetta  @gjsimon3256@gmail.com Either way if the person flipping your hair is someone you called a friend that wouldn't be a cause to feel physically threatened, especially if you're upset about something your friend's mother said. You would be a lady and address the matter at a later time, not pick a fight at a party!

charnorm
charnorm

Toya touched Marriah's first! Toya approached Marriah first! Toya had words with Marriah's mother, and then went over to Marriah expecting Marriah to chastise her mother! In what world would that happen where a grown woman has words with another grown woman, and then goes to that woman's daughter to tell on her? Expecting the daughter to do what? Give her mother a time out. Please.