when one makes a true  apology there is no BUT behind it......... if its truly sincere, who we are your referring to about the adoption not being common knowledge???? To my recollection you are the first person to discuss this on tv  not Mariah so  to us the general public we  found  out about this via you, so she had to have told you in secret with no camera around

Toya, I felt for you at first but after watching the episode twice don't you agree that you were the problem here? You and Mariah were both wrong. Apologize to each other and become friends again. You shouldn't have approached Mariah in the first place, especially when she was talking with the other couple. You should've wait for the right time and place to have a private conversation with her. You were acting childish and immature. You're not in high school anymore. If I were you, meet Mariah in person, solve your problems for the sake of your families especially your husbands. Don't listen to Kari or anyone else anymore, just be yourself. We're not perfect people, we all make mistakes, and we learn from our mistakes. Wish you the best!

Sadly it looks like you are an instigator. I think both of you are wrong in this.

What people don't realize is that when you stroked Mariah's hair I think you were being innocent and friendly. However, Mariah was definitely aggressive when she flicked your hair. Clearly, she was drunk, and probably sent that tragic momma of hers over to antagonize you. #Mariahneedstocatchfire

You walked up to Mariah with that BS n thro a glass at her! you burn her gift for the child. You are less than a human being. stop trying to put it all on Mariah!

I was  very disappointed to her you husband called Mariah a bitch.  I think we everyday people hold people like doctors to a higher esteem.  You husband's words were more than i expected.  i thought he would classy but oh well.  You were just as responsible as MariAh.  You talked about Mariah and Quad behind their backs.  You wanted to chat in everyone else's ears.  You want friends really bad.  Everyone see's who you are

U ARE A LIAR!!!

A true lady does not fight physically.  You should apologize to Mariah and do some soul-searching.  You and Mariah were both wrong in your behavior.

I think I am going to stop watching this show and tell my friends and colleagues so the ratings can go down if they dont have Toya take some ownership over her part of how backstabbing Toya is and she has no class and Mariah was real and she deserves an apology.... Toya seems like your regular hood trash who seems like she is using her husband for his money....Toya also dresses a mess she is trash....

At the end of the day that still dosent justify the fact of why the entire altercation started. Some things are better left unsaid. PERIOD

That was not self-defense.  You were telling anyone who would listen all night, especially Kari and her husband, what Mariah's mother said. Mariah told you about her daughter in confidence, you had no right to repeat it, especially in a beauty parlor of all places!  Then at the party you stated, "I just have to say something to Mariah...,"  That conversation should have waited until an appropriate time -- not at a party.  You are a liar and a troublemaker.  We saw the show and watched you at it all night.

I don't know why you burned the gift because I couldn't read your "self-defense" BS blog, but it was tacky.  You should have returned it to Mariah.  SMH. 

I'm thinking the whole pack needs to attend a few AA meetings. 

Oh and Kari-please keep a close eye on her, she has many faces....

You started the fight you need to look at the show.  Why the other women are thinking you were right so wrong.

Oh you should be ashamed of yourself.  Plenty of people bring children into a marriage.  You are not perfect by any means.  You need to apologize.   I saw the video you threw the first slap!

One more thing....watch the program when Kari met with Quad and Miriah, she talked about throwing you in the pool!!!

You are delusional if you think or want us to think it was self-defense!! You truly started that fight! You are messy and love to stir up controversy!! Let's be clear, YOU started that fight! You went up to her and talked about her mother in front of her other guest! You should have talked with her after the party! All those negative things you talked about in your above communication are all the things you do! GET a grip on life, if you think this was Miriah's fault you are crazy!!!!

Toya,

Your remarks about how you somehow feel better than Mariah because you waited to get married before starting a family was absoultely horrific!  You are not better than her, or any other single mother out there!  You make it hard to like you wih your  insenstive remarks and behavior.   I am surely no fan!  

I like you Toya! At least you apoligized for everything, Mariah blamed everything on you! If she kept flipping my hair like that I don't know what would have happened. If she didn't want any of this known then why did her sister say it on TV in the 1st place? For a story line? She sold out her own daughter for a story line, for fame. I know you ain't that kind of mama. She talks like she has all this class when she don't even know how to spell it! LOL Shes nuts stick with Kari!

wrong...

No one saw Toya gossiping about Mariah's children. I believe Mariah's mother is to blame for all of this.

Toya, I wished the fight didn't get physical, you and everyone knows Mariah is Straight Hood Rat.. She's fake and truly makes me sick, I can hardly watch her. I hope her husband kicks her to the curb. I think you are a great person.

Toya,

It's unfortunate that you were in that situation.  Mariah and her mother are trash!

You are low level. You are also jealous of Mariah. Your husband is suppose to be professional but He called Mariah a bi---. Not OK. You are trying to get on the level with Kari and mariah so I understand why you are using Kari and hate mariah.

Toya,  I hope that you and Mariah sit down and have a grown woman conversation about what took place at the party.  Maybe you should've called Mariah to lunch the day after to discuss the issue?  I thought it was totally wrong for Mariah's mother go hit you upside your head because that fight was only between you and Mariah.....not momma ghetto.

As my grandmother use to say, "With friends like these, who needs enemies." If you were at the beauty salon talking about paternity issues about Mariah's daughter, what did you expect the outcome to be? You just don't drag people's kids into petty jealousy issues on TV.

Also, Mariah didn't really talk with you or engage you at the party so it was pretty obvious she was upset when she arrived at the party. When you approached her and then tried to say things about her mom, as my daughter's high school friends say, "You asked for that FADE." I guess you wrote a check, you couldn't cash and you hit her in the face with a glass so from what I can saw you wanted the situation to escalate.

Toya if someone backed me against a pole and a table touching and pushed me I would use any means necessary to get them away -- including smacking them------ if mariah does it again smack her

Toya you were perfectly right for smacking Mariah ,she had you in a corner --- you kept telling her to stop flipping your hair and she kept doing it and then she pushed your shoulder - all this while you kept backing up telling her to stop , once you couldn't back up anymore and your back was against a table and the pole -- you had the right to use any means necessary to get her away --- I would have smacked Mariah too----Team Toya

i'm sorry it was self-defense not on your part but on mariah's part. you approached mariah, you touch her hair then, you threw a glass at mariah. in any court you would be gulity of throwing 1st punch. unlike you we viewers believe what we see not the lies in are head.

watched the show a couple of times and I must say you started  everything first you wanna read her for being late then start on her about her MaMa and you talked about her child not cool you know better first off you touched her hair trying to be funny and I don't think you feared for your safety but she was in your face you should of left well enough alone it was not your place to figure out why she was late if keri didn't say anything you should'nt  and hey girlfriend you need some new pots what you fried the bacon in was not up to standards of a Dr's Wife ijs!

I can't believe how you are playing the victim.  Had you not approached her at the party none of this would have happened.  You started this hot mess and it's sad that you won't own it. 

you have a  lot of nerves to try and portray a victim. you run your mouth too much and you spend a lot of time putting other people down . This  mess again was your mouth. you had no business repeating what she told you in confidence. what happens to the daughter. you really need to apologize. and you say things and think nothing of it  then run back to your husband and claim innocence. you are a trouble maker..you need to stop and try pulling together with the other ladies.

Toya, Your apologies are a small step in the right direction, keep heading the same way, and you'll be on the path to being a better person. Asking God for forgiveness and guidance will also help you. Don't give up, everyone can be saved. While I do not think it is productive to reiterate your mistakes, there's one that I must say was truly shocking and insensitive - the burning of the christening gown. A truly dark moment and one I hope you'll repent for.

Toya, you are low class and you started the fight by throwing the glass.  A fight is what you wanted.  You deserved what you got for spreading gossip about a child.

Toya you say that you asked Mariah not to touch you but you had just touched her when you walked up to her and asked her why her mother was being rude to you. I feel you had a right to defend yourself, but you allegedly said things about her daughter that from a viewers point was supposed to be held between friends. You are not the victim in that fight. If someone took what you said in reference to your child and told it how would you feel.

It's not about the fight, but how it could have been avoided in the first place. Yes, Mariah was wrong for fighting, but everyone has a breaking point. Toya, you pushed Mariah beyond her breaking point. First, you betrayed Mariah's trust by talking about her personal information to others, and then you just had to be the one to walk up to Mariah at the party. You should have left her alone, and let Kari talk to her about her being late. That was not your business. She was late because she was upset that you would be there. Toya, you need to apologize to Mariah for hurting her feelings and not being a good friend. Even though you were fighting back as self defense, you need to own up to starting the whole and entire thing. It's sad to see grown women not know how to be good and loyal friends to each other. 

Run along Toya and go kiss the ring....

I think that you need to accept the fact that you told some private stuff about Mariah that she confided in you about. You had no business telling strangers at a salon or make a comment about her having children outside of marriage and how you didn't. That is judging and you should be ashamed of yourself. I think that Mariah should have walked away and talked to you about the issue she had with you, but I can see why she was upset. You need to take more of a responsibility than throwing a drink. Kids are off limits and stop acting like a victim. You attacked Quad because she chose to marry her husband after the text he sent and now this. You are no better than anyone. You bleed and use the bathroom just like everyone else. Get off your high horse.

With all the money your husband has, he should seriously get you an English tutor cos you do not know how to speak it. I also know you do not write your own blogs. You cannot even form a sentence on the show without grammatical errors much less write a perfect blog with words that we all know you are unfamiliar with. You are ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!