Hmmm...I just have to say, if you are saying something good about someone you are complimenting them, not complementing. (Look it up) And nothings runs rapid it runs rampant. If you are going to use the big words learn how to use them correctly, how to spell them and how to pronounce them (*Czar" is not pronounced "see-zar," I thought your husband was going to choke when you said that).
As for your "private conversation," you mean the one that was filmed and broadcast?
And you know darn well, walking up to a woman, interrupting her hosting duties and touching her hair while complaining about her mother was aggressive. Not that it warrants a slap down. But I have watched it several times and it looks to me like you threw a drink in her face first.
And lose the furs. You all need to lose the furs. I know black women think it gives them status but all women who wear furs are just displaying how vain and vacuous and callous they really are.