Toya Bush-Harris

Toya is not interested in talking about Mariah, but she will tell you about her Puppies in Paris outfit.

on Apr 27, 20130

To begin, if you take anything away while watching this weeks episode, please know that it is very important to me to shield and protect our children. I acknowledge the damage that fighting has on children and do what is in my power to keep my kids from witnessing conflict. Parenting means protecting children from witnessing actual arguments, and also managing conflict so that it does not interfere with parenting decisions or with the childrens' ability to enjoy their time and build positive relationships. My effort to manage the conflict is in itself the reason for Mariah's dis-invite to the Harris' Spookie Ookie!

Children's needs are ongoing and conflict can interfere with meeting the daily needs of our children. When I decided to have children, manage a home, and marry my husband, I decided to be the woman God called me to be. With that being said, you may have caught me slipping when put in a position to defend myself, but you won't catch me again. At this point, speaking to Mariah is seemingly a challenge that I chose to just avoid. SO NOT INTERESTED!

"So not interested," seemingly just applies to me. . .You've probably noticed how in every scene Mariah has, she references ME. No really, watch the episode again. It's kinda scary:

--baking cookies, "Toya"
--Planning dog party, "Toya"
--Mariah in the car with her husband and yes kids, "Toya"

185 comments
dehope
dehope

toya I agree just let it go it had gotten boring to me, when someone apologizes and the person doesn't receive it let it go you done what the word of God has required you to do, keep it real and don't say anything else about those 2 silly women!!!

kenzie08
kenzie08

Toya you are a joke! Have you ever heard of denial? Your immature and you put on a façade. Take responsibility for your actions and act your age. Your a mother and know damn well if the shoe was on the other foot you would be upset. Get a grip and get off your high horse. At the end of the day your still a black woman on television acting like trash and feeding into the stereotypes women of color face.

mayleren
mayleren

Dont condone fighting. Sometimes ppl need to know that there are consequences to their actions. If they are allowed to keep bumping their lips about ppl and never get checked the crap would never end. Sometimes you need to get everything out in order to get clarity learn alesson and heal.

bizgurl
bizgurl

first off you talk like you have no sympathy for anyone but yourself...you threw that glass first by mariah play fixing your hair was not hitting you first....how you gon check her about her mother telling you off....you have showed yourself to be a mean girl from the jump....you will never win being dirty.....im sure you hand picked that husband of yours, only you can wake up to a face like that,because after all he makes enough money to bypass all that....you only showed your true color t that table ready to get it cracking at any giving moment...kari think of you the same way she does mariah....rough around the edges.....meaning in a lower class than her... and she was a mistress before a wife...

Juju.Babee
Juju.Babee

You need to get a full grip of yourself... Ms Toya... because you have to be taught the rules of friendship... you can speak 100 different kinds of shit about a woman but when you gonna go talk about her child/children? naw you drove right off the train tracks.. just shut up and everything will be good... don't talk about no one so no one will have bad things to say about you.. simple

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

Furthermore, when you speak of puppets, does Kari have a PPO plan attached to your strings when you dance around on command?

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

You protect your children but gossip about another innocent child.  It was NOT your place to discuss the paternity of Lauren.  And to deflect and say that it was Mariah's fault for not tellling Lauren made it Mariah's fault, was immature and repulsive.

You gossiped about an innocent child.  It doesn't make it ok where you did it.  It got out and that wasn't your place.  None of the other women were so classless to speak of it.  Only you did.

Your lack of empathy for an innocent child and refusal to take responsibility for it, made you look beyond the depths of the ghettos you say you came from.  Even women in prison know that children are off limits.

Side note:  Interrupting your husband's business meeting was emasculating to say the least.  You have a lot to learn.

LadyK2507
LadyK2507

By the way Toya it's not ok that you think it's funny and ok that your husband called Mariah a bitch.  That shows very poor judgement and ill manners on his part and yours for laughing at it as if it's ok.  You and your husband need to show more class.

shysharon
shysharon

ok you almost lost me till I saw the Maltese....makes a difference! LOL!

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Toya....why did you not pursue assault charges on the pink clad woman who was slamming her purse into your head and back? I get that you and Mariah were fighting each other, but clearly the footage shows this woman taking advantage of you...that is the worst kind of person in my view...to strike someone when they are not able to be self defensive...it is basically like a mob beating...horrible reflection on this person....I am sure there is a file downtown on this person....if not for the slam dunk she made repeatedly on your head, she should have been charged for that dreadful dress she was wearing, that most likely came from the back of Mariah's closet....it looked like one of the gowns that one of my Holiday Barbies is wearing....sorry if this blunt...but we comment on what we see...I understand that you did donate money for Paws for Cause....from another poster...for that..I thank you..

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

I like watching you and Eugene. People who always try to do right will always win. About slipping as you worded it. We ALL do honey. We Christians ask for forgiveness and try harder. Many Blessings

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

Could someone give me the episode in which they saw Toya speaking about Mariah's daughter?  I see a number of posts referencing Toya doing such but I have not seen the footage.  What I have seen is Mariah's sister stating she heard something at the salon, but I have yet to see any footage to support the claim.

e_previtera
e_previtera

I actually really love Toya. I really don't understand why everyone is hating on her. Mariah attacked her and Mariah's mother (who's how old??) attacked her as well, or does everyone not remember that? Toya did own up to her part and apologized or did everyone miss that also.  Also, this is a reality show people if Mariah didn't want her family secrets to come out of the closet then 1) don't tell people as Jackie stated 2) don't get on a reality show for the world to find out and 3) don't put your kids on camera if you want to protect them. Tacky Toya is a very childish name and that's bullying sorry. It's sad that I am younger than all of these ladies and don't call people names. Mariah sounds childish and definitely doesn't seem like a good role model for her kids just watching this show. I'd be embarrassed if my mother acted the way Mariah acts. I feel bad for her children. Also I would have definitely called the police on anyone who acted that way in my house. That wasn't just a slap or a punch it was a ghetto, trailer park trash beat down. 

SpeakingTheTruth
SpeakingTheTruth

Sadly, they all were quite wrong in their approach and opinions of one another.  Toya could have stayed away from Mariah (even though she would have found another reason to have an issue with her). Mariah could have walked away from Toya. Simone could have shut her mouth and minded her business.  Jackie could stay neutral and tried to sit with everyone or each person individually.  Kari, well, please....Kari made the scene more dramatic than it needed to be especially with the police on hand and dismissing Mariah/Ayden from her (their) party and spending little to no money on the event.   

 

Funny enough...Quad was the only one that had no participation in this mess, other than trying to break it up.

 

Please remember, their education, money, status, occupations have nothing to do with emotionally charged human reactions.  These shows remind the rest of us that indeed, we're all subject to falling short. Be careful not to judge too harshly.

miami_to_atlanta
miami_to_atlanta

SMH.. She doesnt take any responsibility for the fight with mariah. GIRL, I dont know who's worse, YOU or KARI.. You two belong together on your own little planet with your husbands! 

Purple86
Purple86

I see Mariah did not blog this week.  She knows that she looked very petty in the last episode. Especially when she urges her daughter to ask Toya about the party invite.  She is a very petty woman.

judy@london
judy@london

Girl please! I just watched the preview for next weeks episode=you are OBSESSED with Mariah.You couldn't even let your husband enjoy an evening out for saying"Why hasn't Mariah called?It's been weeks,she should've called by now".Honey,it'll probably be a cold day in hell before Mariah EVER speaks to you again and I don't blame her.

gracebay1
gracebay1

You talked about Mariah in your home, out with your husband, and your guest were hiding in the kitchen talking about Mariah. Why weren't you entertaining Kari, Duncan, and Simone so they didn't hide in the kitchen gossipping.

vfmcc
vfmcc

I was so surprised to hear on the show and read in your bio that you are a college graduate and have a Masters.    I would not have known that by the way you speak and carry yourself.  Getting in a physical fight at a professional party was so tacky.  You should not have stirred the pot by walking over to Mariah telling her about her mom.    You both could have talked about this at a lunch (another opportunity for the camera).  But at a party was completely tacky.

Also, Mariah should have pulled you aside to have a conversation about you talking about her daughter’s paternity.  Why keep things like that bottled up, you get angry and then blow up at the most inappropriate time.  That is called immaturity.

BlackButterfly011
BlackButterfly011

Quad needs to change your nickname from treacherous Toya to Tacky Toya. The only thing you have in life to hang onto is being a doctors wife,you have nothing else going on. Your husband is just as tacky and classless to refer to a female as the B word,and coming from a professional! I hope all of his colleagues saw that.

REDF
REDF

Married to Medicine = Excellent insight into a society many are unable to be exposed to.

 

Ms Toya,

Your husband was gossiping with you about Ms Mariah's child ... period.

REDF

tatsu.love
tatsu.love

Toya you are a fake and a drama starter. Mariah consider you as her best friend and you went behind her back. You the one started the fight and you know it. Why you going to lied to people that she started the fight and you know damn well that you did. Very unclass and immature.

michelle.mccall
michelle.mccall

Did i JUST hear you say, 'I would never involve my child/or any child in something like that' in response to Mariah sending her little girl over to ask you why she was invited your party?Shame on your hypocritical self.  Why did all this start?  Seems I remember it was because you were discussing Victoria's adoption in public, knowing she doesn't know.  Mariah sending her child over to you, is not something I would do, but girl you are in NO position to criticize her for that. What you did was wrong on SO many levels.  First and most importantly, your lack of concern of the impact of learning of her adoption prematurely and from someone other than her parents is nothing short of CRUEL and MEAN.  You brought this on yourself so deal with it.  Add class and morals to your shopping list.

pray4u
pray4u

Toya..please..you fool no one..a waste of words..why didn't you give the outfit you and your tag along husband burned to some one that would have appreciated it. . I think he should have guided you in a more positive direction....but he went along with you and you both look like immature wannabe's..wakeup

randrew
randrew

Hello Toya. I'm a newbie to y'all's show... so I watched all of the eppys the other day and I just have to say... I don't think you did anything wrong except for outing Mariah's Daughter, did not like that... so not cool... but after the fight her Mom steps in and does her part, again so not cool. So far I like the way you handled your part. This kind of touch fighting is new to me because if I can think back I'm not sure if the HW Franchise has done it.

To say the least it was very embarrassing and hard to watch.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @LadyK2507 Only the newly wealthy / nouveau riche behave the way these women do.  It's like watching the reality series with all those gypsies living in traveling trailers, these women only have a better dwelling.

sha_1
sha_1

 @shysharon  LOL... dog lover...huh? Have to admit...he was just too freakin cute for words. 

mayleren
mayleren

@FlutterBy toya did not purse charges because she knew she started the fight. Whenever you go around getting in ppl's faces acting aggressive and running your mouth about ppl's children you will eventually get what you arelooking for in whatever way it comes. . So dont act surprised. Leave folks alone.

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @FlutterBy

 Most likely because Toya knows she'll be charged first for starting the fight, use common sense.

Fab@40
Fab@40

 @FlutterBy

 That was Mariah's mother hitting Toya repeatedly on the head.  The apple does not fall far from the tree.

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @sknygirl3

 LOL I guess you got your answer now when she admitted it herself.

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @sknygirl3

 So if you see her talking on camera to her husband while the camera's were rolling and it was told to her in confidence, the question you should be asking is why is it you believe Toya. Majority of viewers see her repeatedly lying so yes she has no credibility when it comes to truth but for those like you that choose to do believe lies even if you heard it with your own ears and saw it with your own eyes. It's not our fault she lies, we are just calling it as it is.

mayleren
mayleren

@e_previtera - so you like a bully? Do you not remember toya approaching quad trying to embarrass her about het husband calling off their wedding? Tota asks quad who would marry a man who would call off their wedding. What business is it of toya's?? And what real woman would allow her husband to call another woman a B? Toya is a petty and jealous of mariaj which is why her and her unattractive husband are building a new house.

Hulali
Hulali

 @SpeakingTheTruth

 I agree with your statement that they since they qualify themselvs as married to medicine (excluding Jaqueline & Simone) they should not be held to a higher standard and allowed to express their emotions, but that does not excuse their trashy behavior.  It seems to me they were not raised with manners, restraint or dignity for onesefl and instead were taught that the loudest, most volatile and aggressive person gets her way.  What a shame.

mayleren
mayleren

@Purple86 your girl toya is so jealous of mariah it wad oozing out of her hysterically heavy eye make up at the lemon squeeze.

joy2daworld
joy2daworld

 @judy@london I doin't know how the hell she expects Mariah to call her after she asaulted her and disinvites her  (and her kids) to he kids halloween party. She is obsessed w/her for real. She needs to get over herself. She ain't nothin but a trouble maker.

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @judy@london

You are absolutely right. Even her husband got up set with her at that dinner because she's not letting it go.  Still crying over it.  I'm glad her husband just sat and did not try to comfort her.  Then to embrace him and his business partners as she did was humiliating for him and her. One guy mentioned they couldn't get a word in. SHAMEFUL!

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @judy@london

 You can't be serious.  Contractually, these women are on a show together, for all intents and purposes, they have to spend a certain amount of time with one another.  It is not about being obsessed with anyone. 

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @vfmcc

 Help me understand.  Toya did not have any knowledge that Mariah was upset with her so how was she "stirring the pot"?  If I knew Mariah on a personal level, and her mother was hostile and strange acting toward me, I too would ask Mariah what was going on.  Mariah should have been adult enough to tell Toya right then and there that she was angry with her and now is not the time to talk.  The altercation could have been avoided all together.

 

As far as the episodes to date are concerned, Mariah has yet to express to Toya why she was so angry the night of the birthday party.  Let's remember these shows are not real time but the blogs on what happened are.

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @BlackButterfly011

Based on what I have seen Quad has issues and needs the help of her mental health professional husband to deal with them.

 

While the wording was absolutely poor on Toya's husband's part, I am pretty sure all of their professional friends feel the same way about Mariah.

vforbes
vforbes

 @belleLA No I would never invite someone to my home that has attacked me! That relationship would end right then and there!

joy2daworld
joy2daworld

Well said. However, I'd say grow up would be the right choice of words in response to he and her husband's  immaturity.

RHOtheCaribbean
RHOtheCaribbean

@pray4u So very well said. Did you hear Toya's remark at the time? THe outfit was possessed. How simple.

sknygirl3
sknygirl3

 @randrew

 What episode are you referencing where Toya spoke of Mariah's daughter's adoption?  Only Mariah's sister has made that allegation.  Did it really even happen?

WinterisComing
WinterisComing

@randrew Hi Randrew, I didn't get the opportunity to see the episode of outing Victoria. Did they have it on film that Toya doing this? I thought we might have seen a flash back of her doing it but nothing. Been wondering if she really did the deed or is it one of those things that everybody is saying she said. Thx

YellowSunshine84
YellowSunshine84

 @CarmenE  @sknygirl3 tacky toya mentioned that Lauren was not Aydin's daughter during the "Docs on the Docks" party. If she could mention something that was told in confidence on camera, it is plausible that she said something at the salon

judy@london
judy@london

 @sknygirl3  @london

 I am serious,and I do understand that because they're on a show together they must spend time together.What I was referring to was the fact that Toya spends so much time TALKING ABOUT Mariah to her husband,her friends,basically anyone who will listen.

judy@london
judy@london

 @sknygirl3  @randrew

 Yes,it happened.Toya and her husband referred to the fact that Lauren isn't Aydin's biological daughter at Mariahs' party "Docs on the Dock".I think it was episode 2.But yes,it really happened,on camera.