Toya Bush-Harris

Toya discusses where she stands with Mariah, Jackie, Simone, Kari, and Quad.

on May 29, 20130

Where we all stand...

Mariah: I hate that we have left such a negative impression in some peoples minds of how we solve problems. Mariah and I truly have been on an emotional roller coaster this season, but what we continue to view as "most important" is our children. We both have endured a lot this season and are choosing to focus on our children seeing positive going forward. Even if it takes her and I having a fun day at the park with the family to show them how important their perception of their moms are to us. No matter what, Married to Medicine, motherhood, and being respected wives within our community is of the utmost importance.

CLIP

331 comments
miagibson28
miagibson28

mariah really was wrong for putting her hands on toya the way she did in first season one at the party also  as well.     mariah is female bullie  drama queen as well she needs to really learn how  to     also                       as                well. shut up   keep her mouth shut  be quiets  shut her mouth also as well shes very rude ignorant shady disrespectful. this is the reason why really she not my favorite because she doesnt know hows to shut up keep her mouth shut.        shes too old at behave acts the way she alway acts behave as well she needs to go be gone leave  fired as well.     Kenya Moore Porsha Williamson really need to also learn how to          also                  as  well   on                rhoa.     shut up  keep their mouth shut   be quiets  shut their mouth also  as  well on rhoa tv      show            as     well.      i

marnell.kames
marnell.kames

Mariah is just plain ghetto trash. In my opinion She is probably bi-polar. I truly hope that Bravo kicks her to the curb. I for one am done with the show. It's supposed to be about classy Black women. What is has shown in my opinion is. That no matter how much education you have as a black woman or how much status you have in the community. You just can't take the ghetto out of black women. Toya you have shown class through out this season. You are very calm low keyed and don't need to be the center of attention. Mariah on the other hand has to be the center of attention by being loud and say ugly things to get a reaction out of others.  Stay strong Toya you have done nothing wrong.

blkcoffee46
blkcoffee46

Toya keep your head up. You apologized and know that your conscious is clear.You did a great job! Proud of you.

Whatnow
Whatnow

This entire show was a disaster. I hope the first season will be the last season. What an astronomical embarrassment to the medical community of Atlanta. 

Kaceytoo
Kaceytoo

Toya is one of the most narcissistic people I have ever come across! She has absolutely no regard for anyone else's feelings whilst expecting everyone to be totally cognisant of hers. To say "I don't need to apologise to a child, I am an adult" was one of the coldest things I have ever heard. She talks over everyone else and acts like she is so much better than anyone else. Who does she think she is? She and Kari deserve each other!

quinome
quinome

Toya,

As a mother and an educated woman, how do you phantom that you could keep coming after someone and they not have same gesture returned.  The first episode I say you and Kari on attack after Quad.  You both expected her to bow down to you guys.  Iif you come from where you said you come from you should know that if you jump you better be able to handle it.  Apparently, you can’t, and to me Quad has been real all the way around.

You also have a problem with dealing with things within your means.  You kept bothering your husband for a bigger house, because everyone else had one.  You are insecure and childish.  And, last your husband does not make more than Mariah’s husband.  If it was not for the opportunity she gave you your name would mean nothing.

OhMyEyes
OhMyEyes

 'speech is silver; silence is golden'

DeeDee5304
DeeDee5304

Toya the true test will come if Kari doesn't return to Married to Medicine next season. I wonder will you follow your friend by not returning.

I personally feel if Mariah really feels that you went over the level with her regarding her daughter, she will have the standards of not returning to the show if you are still part of the show.

I know if it was me, I would have nothing to do with the show, if I felt as strongly as Mariah seemed to be taking the situation.

You were never sincere with your apology to Mariah and her husband and you were also disrespectful to Quad from the beginning.  This showed your true character.  I know this is reality TV, but all of you have to realize that you have to be careful not to jeopardize your character and careers for 15 minutes of fame.  All of you have to realize your children will one day seeing their parents acting like juvenile delinquents.

willydog
willydog

Toya, why do you treat your family so bad, you talk to your husband as if he is an employee, I have worked with many docs who do not seem to resent their families as much as you do, maybe that is why you need to be on a reality show

@LifeSizeBarbiii
@LifeSizeBarbiii

Toya darling! I am glad to see how well you held yourself together while under the attack. Reminded me of #Pheadra on #RHOA Reunion. You like all the ladies have thrown shade and has done some messy stuff. I do hope however that you learn from such a dramatic experience and also grow from it. After this reunion, you definately saw who your friends are and who has your back. I dont support your bragging about #prices about what things cost. It makes you look real ignorant. Yes some of the ladies have mentioned it also, but dont be like them, you need to stand out. That 1.3 mil house, i dont think is necessary tho. Your home is beautiful... save this money for harder times rather. You dont have to prove anything to anyone.  Dont let drama bring you down, things will get better in time.

VryPrettyBrnLady
VryPrettyBrnLady

Question,  has anyone thought that  Mariah and her severely looks challenged mommy are making such a big deal drama out of the baby daddy issue because; maybe they are not looking forward to telling the child who the daddy is because she doesn'tknow who it is? The baby daddy drama is too explosive to be as simple as; they wanted to wait until the child was older, Mariah knows  what will follow is the child's questions wanting to know  who her dad is; and where he is and i am thinking that will most likely be a Maury show issue!

Otherwise, that child does not care if everyone knows her moms husband is not her biological father, if he is good and loving to her. This is reality television someone would have discovered it sooner or later thats part of the game of opening your life to the world for scrutiny.There is much more to this baby daddy drama than the storyline has  presented so far. Toya made an error by discussing a private matter between herself and her friend in front of outsiders; but seriously, itsnot the end of the world just serious bad judgement call one good friendscan forgive and move on. And Mariahs husband needs to stop hanging around the girls squabbles and go play with the men.

blessed09
blessed09

Toys u were wrong and u know this so u need to face the truth and fix it ,put ur big girl panties on and do what needs to be done.

gina2066
gina2066

Toya, just stay away from Mariah, for your own sanity!  She is messy and probably a little jealous of you.  You apologized and that should have been enough for her but it wasn't so move on!!  She is ghetto and loud and her mother is a HAM (hot azz mess)!

keeshboo
keeshboo

Kari, quad, toya, and Mariah all had moments where they were out of line. All women need to apologize and go their seperate ways if they can't be civil in each other's company.

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

Toya,

At the re-union, the way that you talked to Ms Lucy was disrespectful.  How can you form your lips to say that you're trying to forgive her for portraying  such  a bad mother or something like that.....Anyway, you were cursing throughout the episodes as well as re-union, got a DUI, fighting and leaking Mariah's family secret which hurt her daughter. Someone needs to forgive you.   You really need to think before you open your mouth... You are not snow white.

janmother01
janmother01

Trashy Toya was really full of herself on the Reunion Show.  She didn't show any respect for herself or anyone else, including you Andy.  What a nasty mouth and so flippant.  She has been mean, gossiping, putting people down and all about herself and what she has from the beginning. PLEASE continue to be a stay home Mom, and stay home and off the show.

travelaalinda
travelaalinda

If I were you I wouldn't want to be on the show. Mariah is a clown. Does she really think people are so stupid? She is the producer ....she didn't have to say a word on the show about her daughter's situation. She didn't have to keep it going all season either. Does she really think she looks half Indian? Please.....and what about all the people in her life when she had the daughter and no baby daddy? Did they all forget?  Was it really a secret???? She just wants you and Kari off the show because she is envious. She tries too hard and she is attractive and doesn't need to.IE no clue

methinks
methinks

Karma.  Hope you realize you've set your children up for heartache at the hand of your own careless friends.  The only way you're going to know the extent of the harm you've done, is if you and your children experience it yourselves.  Is your pride worth it?

liz675
liz675

Toya I wish you and ur family the best. In my opion you will be better off not coming back next season you ,Kari or any one for that matter dose not derserve the comments and treatment of some of ur castmates castmates and viewers that have been made. Everyone has let something slip out their mouth and later really degraded saying it,and for something thats was such a big secret was sure known by a lot of people. But anyways you said sorry so all you can do now is move on and see what happens from their and watch the next set of castmates get into with Marya from your couch without the stress of haveing to relive this B.S. 

 Take care always a fan ;))

bluebell
bluebell

You are one of my favorite wives, so I hope you do come back. You, Kari, Dr. Jackie & Dr. Simone all act like you have class, unlike the two drama queens. They are still acting childish & immature.

janetkath
janetkath

Am I the only one who noticed that Mariah's story line on this show was the adoption of her daughter by her husband.  That's what this whole show was about.  Her sister brought it up in front of the camera's not Toya.  I'm not defending Toya for telling her hairdresser but her sister knew the camera's were there.  She could've pulled Mariah aside and told her what she had heard.  This was planned from the start.   Seems that Mariah had nothing of interest to bring to this show so she used her daughter to get ratings and a story line.  So sad to use your own child to become famous.  Toya was the only one who showed true class after the brawl..  She apologized to Kari and, per her husband, offered a check to cover damages.  What did Mariah do.  Blamed everyone else for her bad behavior and was quite proud of the fact that she stiffed Kari on the cost of the party  Perhaps this is how a Queen Bee acts,  petty and classless.  As Mariah stated at the reunion she and Kari fell out over money.  Not so.  It was her ghetto behavior that appalled Kari, Kari's guests, Mariah's guests and the husbands.  

dluizza
dluizza

Toya, you truly have class. You are a beautiful woman, please, NEVER take up that gutter trash talk of Mariah and Quad. I love the show except they could easily dump Mariah and Quad!! They would never be missed. The two of them speak as though they have no education what so ever.  Really, what the hell?  They act like black trash. 

cbennett1
cbennett1

Toya are you aware that you talk out of the side of your mouth?

LoriCopeman
LoriCopeman

Toya I think your awesome Mariah and Lucy are both NUTS!!!!!!!!!  I hope they don't bring Married to Medicine back because Mariah makes everyone look like they are in very bad company.  Your amazing keep your head high and don't ever deal with Mariah and her mother again THEY ARE POISON!!!!!!!  I love you Kari Dr. Jackie and Dr.Simone

Lolaloo102
Lolaloo102

I think that M&Q are the mean nasty girls and whatever they can use to twist  they will.   Snakes.   You are a nice woman and I believe you.   They created drama for a story line.  You should remember what snakes they are in the future.   

goodwlb
goodwlb

I love you Toya, I think you handled yourself with the upmost class, after taking the verbal abuse Miriah and Quad was throwing out at everyone.  You are a class act, stay grounded and keep your family close.  The way Miriah explained everything it seem she is the only one that could make a mistake. 

nancy122701lol
nancy122701lol

@Kaceytoo I so agree because a like 75 percent of the time she didnt care what she said or who feelings she hurt when she said it. 

quinome
quinome

 @DeeDee5304 Amen!  She was truly disrespectful from the beginning. She clearly has an issue with being comfortable with what she has.  I want a bigger house.  Really.  The house, car, or clothes does not make you.  Your character will get you further.  The only reason she would make it further in the entertainment business is because Mariah gave her the opportunity.  She needs to bow down.

TheProvincialAmerican
TheProvincialAmerican

 @DeeDee5304  I agree with a lot of what you're saying except for the part about Mariah leaving the show. It's her vehicle, she's been working for a long time to get this show on air and serves as Co-executive producer, so essentially this her tv baby.  I think in order to truly realize her vision for what she wanted the show to be she should simply clean house and do a bit of re-casting. Frankly, I'd like to see a Bravo show with something more than a woman boasting about  money and designer labels...it's all too  boorish and passé and I would much prefer to follow what the doctors are doing, or seeing more charity activities like Dr. Jackie's work on behalf of cancer and Mariah's family day showing them in the community giving back. That is worth more than any home or constant talk about making money, which sadly, seems to be the only thing Toya represents.

vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net
vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

@VryPrettyBrnLady I thought about the very same thing, maybe she don 't know who her daughter's father is. Because the issue was over played. As far as Indian men, I've been to New Delhi and Mumbai several of times, the men are just as much drama as the women. I'm not surprise that her husband is so involved in the mess, as well as not accept the apologies that were extended at the gathering Cecil held. That 's what they do. Like I said I've been there many of times and is very familiar with the culture.

mstpadams
mstpadams

 @blessed09 I agree, you know you were wrong.  The way you handled this entire season is questionable...  I still don't get what you were trying to prove, but you sure showed us where you come from.

 

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

 @gina2066

 Mariah has no reason to be jealous of Toya.   Mariah has a beautiful family, home and successful business woman.  Toya is jealous of Mariah due to Dr. Simone and Kari were Mariah friends.  She had known Dr. Simone for awhile, but only at a business level and she wanted more from the relationship.  She was also jealous of Mariah's home and that's why she's building a 1.3 million home.  She wanted everyone to know that at the re-union.  However, Mariah's home is 1 million.  You can always tell when some people aren't used to nice things or money and when they get it, they have to let everyone know how much it cost.  Toya kept bringing up how much her house will cost.  I wouldn't brag yet, may not close on it.  Kari kept bringing up her money throughout the night.  I believe that when Kari was growing up her family did not have money as she says they did.  I can't understand how Dr. Duncan and Dr. Eugene can stand their wives.  Because I believe both men did not grow up with money. 

love14ever
love14ever

 @gina2066 Why would Mariah be jealous of Toya?  If anything Toya was a little jealous of Mariah, from her home to her position on this show.  That is why she continue to state the cost of this new home she is building, come on, who does that. She talked about leaving the ghetto at home, however, she was the main person cursing throughout the two part reunion.

Delores01
Delores01

 @gjsimon3256@gmail.com

 Toya is very tacky herself.  She doesn"t portray heself as a decent mom, everything that comes out of .. her mouth is a curse word , She needs to potty train her mouth.  She doesn't get it.  Poor child.

 

vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net
vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

@gjsimon3256@gmail.com You refer to her as Ms Lucy, she is as tacky as a mother can be! I don't think she deserves any better than what she got. What mother goes over and participates in the fight? Hitting Toya in the head with her purse, instead of trying to break up the fight, as well as keeping her daughter from making a fool of herself, at her husband's party in front of other doctors that he work with. They will always associate him as the doctor with the wife who was fighting at a black tie birthday party, ( his) she will never be able to live that down, and the ghetto mother who participated did not help. Please, I don't know people who act like that.

vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net
vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

@janetkath yes! You are so correct, it was her ghetto behavior as well as her tacky mother's actions that caused her and Kari to end on a sour note. I don't blame Kari on that one. I have said it once, twice and now, the guest at the party will always remember Mariah as the doctor's wife who was fighting at his party, period. That will stick with her forever. His co-workers and friends will be reluctant to attend another party that she's associated with. When you grow up with class, that doesn't mean, you won't have to put someone in their place, but not like that, where you embarrass yourself and your family.

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

 @janetkath

 Her sister did that because the secret was already out at the beauty shop which means the entire Atlanta area probably knows already....

nicole.lea.509
nicole.lea.509

 @janetkath My sentiment exactly! When Lake first approached Mariah about the situation ON CAMERA, my first thought was "why is she talking about this on camera, most especially if it's a secret they didn't want to get out?", and my second thought was "TRIFLING".... That whole scenario had "shady fame hungry desperate for a storyline" written all over it.

 

I found it to be an insult to my intelligence that Mariah and her Mom were pretending to be so out raged about this information getting out and back to Lauren, all the while Mariah and her mom were the only people talking about it .... CONSTANTLY!! Oh yeah, Mariah was soooo torn up about this information getting out. I guess she decided that if she couldn't be Queen, then she would settle for victim instead.

 

I will say though, to be fair, that Aydin seemed genuinely hurt about it ... but then again he is probably really hurt about a lot of stuff that happened this season.

judy@london
judy@london

 @dluizza

 Oh please..Mariah & Quad ARE the show!None of the rest would be missed.

drakey
drakey

 @dluizza Stop letting Lakeisha and Quadromaniac or whatever her real name is, bring out the Ghetto in you! STOP you are too classy for their trashy, ghetto, hood talk UGH!!!

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

 @goodwlb  Mariah admits when she's wrong.  But Toya denies everything and tries to justify it.   For instance, when Quad confronted her about the hit and run.  She wasn't driving drunk..  The accident was due to lack of sleep.  If there were no more incidents, you may believe that reason.

 

ABitOfKwansLife
ABitOfKwansLife

 @vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net  @VryPrettyBrnLady

 What apologies none of the men  apologized especially Duncan for his comment. you have to point out to me where any of them, besides Cecil b/c he had nothing to do with it, said I'm sorry. B/c Ayden not once called Toya out her name at least not on camera and never spoke ill will about their marriage.

keepit@80
keepit@80

 @gjsimon3256@gmail.com  @gina2066

 My thoughts exactly! I was turn off by the bragging also. She acts like a child w/ a new toy. Her husband he better watch the spending,he may need another gig. 'Toya, want 2 out do 'Mariah, she had 2 brag.'Mariah could care less abt.her 1.3 mil not built yet.She need 2 be thankful 4 what she have 'Now.

vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net
vcskygirl@sbcglobal.net

@love14ever @gina2066 let's get one thing clear, having a nice home is nothing, a lot of us have that. I can't see being jealous of anyone who has behaved the way Mariah's has,, not mention ghetto. Because you can take a person out of the norm, but their roots are there forever, and the husband, not my cup of tea, I been to India, he is a doctor, ( a lot of them are) but he is just as ghetto as his wife. "Check it"!