Dr. Jackie Chooses to Forgive
Dr. Jackie hopes Miss Georgia Plus can forgive her -- and that Quad and Mariah can forgive each other.
Forgive or Forgive Me Not: I choice to forgive!
A true war starts because opposing sides are certain that they are right. What makes it real dangerous is when each side speaks and acts based solely on being right. If we practice the art of forgiveness, wars would be a lot shorter. We should learn to forgive and release any ill feelings. These negative feelings breed an explosive environment.
Now Dr. Heavenly thinks that I was wrong for talking to Chavias, (Ms. Georgia Plus) about her weight in the bowling alley. I have explained to both Dr. Heavenly and Chavias that my approach was not done with malice. I admit that the approach seemed brash and insensitive, but I never intended to be rude.
I will make NO apology for trying to educate any female about the prevalence of heart disease in the female community and obesity is a risk factor. I apologized to Ms. Georgia Plus, and she was able to offer forgiveness. Dr Heavenly is a different story. Like most opposing sides, Dr. Heavenly thinks she is right. Because Dr Heavenly has struggled with her own weight loss, she has apparently internalized the situation with Ms. Georgia Plus and made it about her insecurities. At some point, I hope she realizes that forgiveness offers a release and allows for relationships to move past the negative feelings. Gandhi stated "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." I found myself speechless and could offer no more and it just ended with still no real resolve. I pray we can move forward.
Now there are two more relationships that need forgiveness! I try not to tell another person who she needs to forgive, but as I've said above, forgiveness is for the strong! Simone and Toya have been friends only for a short period and both have very strong wills! I do think there is a deep rooted cause to this anger and unforgiveness. I think with time they will work through their conflict! My friend Simone struggles in this area but is getting better! When she loves she loves hard, but when she is angry it comes in like a tsunami. I am hoping with time they will walk in forgiveness!
Quad and Mariah have been "best friends" for a long time and invested a lot of energy in their relationship. It seems like these ladies are so broken that they can't even been in the room together with a physical altercation. I can't imagine what would cause another person to have that kind of power over me, but this was some real pain I've seen. There is so much pain that it is causing problems in their personal lives! #destructive
The destructive paths we are on now has destroyed nations and can destroy these six lives if we don't find a way to get through these conflicts! Forgiveness doesn't excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart! #beyondordinary. I am not saying we forget the names of people who hurt us but for our own healing we have to release the hurt and pain.
"When you hold on resentment toward another you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free." -- Katherine Ponder
My choice is to forgive and hope I can be forgiven! Come one ladies join me and let's all forgive!