Jackie Tries to Define the Friendship

Dr. Jackie tries to figure out what sort of friendship Quad and Mariah are going to have.

Tonight we are still trying to suture together some severed and severely damaged friendships. I hope we are getting close to a healing or some kind of a breakthrough, but something tells me it is not really close to happening. Before we can move any further, it is important to examine the purpose of your friendship.

I read once that friendships are present for a reason, a season, or for a lifetime. I strongly feel that when you know the definition of your friendship, becomes easier to manage. Your expectations are different when you have a clear understanding of its purpose.

When you have a friendship for a particular REASON, that person has come into your life to meet a need. These are little short-term blessings. You may be equally drawn together by forces unknown or a specific life event. Usually they supply an immediate physical, emotional, or spiritual need. These friendships may start abruptly, but also end as abruptly. Sometimes, when friends feel they have served their purpose or have gotten their needs met, the relationship ends and not always will both person feel this at the same time. These friendships may be based on a certain circumstance, but they can bloom into a SEASON. I definitely think the bond I share with Lisa Nicole falls here -- where we met for a reason and have developed into more. I believe our paths crossed for a reason (50 Shades of Pink), but feel we are in our season of friendship. Watching Toya and Simone make up last week they also may be headed into a season of friendship. I am just not sure where Mariah and Quad are at this point. Was it for a reason or a season? The verdict is still out.

Seasonal friends come and you share, learn and grow together. I feel like these friends are important because they come and you may leave this friendship as a better person or have learned what not to be. Watching all the hurt and pain that some of the ladies have expressed tonight makes me wonder if they can recognize exactly where they are in this friendship spectrum. When you are that SEASON, there are wonderful blossoms and beautiful growth but there may be times when its cloudy and stormy. But like all season, they are meant to change. When your friendship season changes just like what was once pretty and alive can become drab, dried and die. Looks like the season has changed for some of the ladies. It seems like Mariah and Quad are in the hurricane and tornado season all-in-one and things are being tossed all over the place. I feel Simone and Toya are headed into a spring season and I see buds of flowers blooming.

I am not really sure where Dr. Heavenly fits into any of the seasons with any of the ladies, but some grounds are harder to develop before you can really see any signs of life come shining through. Now she appears to be in winter with her HOT WHITE FURRY COAT, but hey I did say we are in different season here!

The joy about the seasonal changes is there does not always have to be death. The blooms appearance may differ in winter and spring, but all blooms do not have to die when the change comes. This is a great example of my relationship with Dr. Simone. We have been through several seasons. She's held my hand through my battle with breast cancer (twice) and is supporting me with my desire to have a baby. I have also been through the raging storms with her. We have had major disagreements but have weathered those stones. Now she did not share her financial and marital problems with me initially, I feel she was not wanting to burden a friend. I know that she knows I am always available to her. Now this is a LIFETIME friendship. It is possible to have a friend to come in your life for a defined reason, and you weather some stormy seasons and develop a friendship for a LIFETIME!

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Mariah Is Ready to Plant New Seeds

Mariah is over this "shady grove" but does thank some of the ladies for their honesty and friendship.

The season is finally over and Lakeisha "Mariah" HuQ is still standing! #Yaaassss

Baby I was on the hit list this season. LOL! Well I'm still here, and please know I'll be the first to tell you when I decide to BOW out gracefully. #SideEye

Regardless of what was said on the Reunion each and everyone of the ladies know I am invested in this show, and they have known my position from day one. I have apologized for many things, but I will not apologize for withholding intricate details about my ownership.

The Reunion Part 2 did not disappoint. We are still in the Shady Grove, and amongst a very shady group. . .LOL!

Let's just start with Heavenly. Heavenly: You are a very strong, opinionated, and independent woman. I find it hard to believe that you would be swayed by anyone! NOW the swaying may actually come from your "special coffee." (Wink, wink.)

Lisa Nicole: Too bad we never really had a chance to get to know one another. You seem like a great spa pal! I wish you the best. (Nodding). Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. . .

Toya: Did you not learn anything from last season? KIDS ARE OFF LIMITS!

Quad: I wish you well with your future endeavors.

Jackie: I was never offended by anything you said. I simply wanted to know your true perspective. It almost seems that you are inhibited from showing true objectivity. Not voicing any opinion leaves the impression that you co-signed into all the negativity. From my perspective, your shade was from a different type of tree. I call it the hidden bush. #ShadeTree

Simone: Regardless of what others say, I do feel as though you have been a great friend. Thank you.

This has definitely been the shadiest grove I have ever encountered, but the one thing I have learned is to recognize a tree by the fruit it bears. #BitterFruit #SourApples #Sweet&Juicy #NotRipeOrReady #Ripe&Right #RottenTotheCore

Time to plant new seeds or grow another grove!

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