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Drops of my favorite mimosa (champagne and orange juice) on my keyboard, liquid cooling my throat, bubbles having a prolonged party traveling the roller coaster of my throat as if immediately transported in my blood stream that is flowing into my brain, the view of great Los Angeles at my feet from the Penthouse floor of my famous hotel. Breeze is touching my shoulders lightly, sun is warming my bronzing skin. My mind is free after an hour of invigorating yoga at West Hollywood Equinox followed by the no less invigorating Michael Levine's industry breakfast. It is now 3 p.m. on Tuesday in the time of forever. Could it be more perfect?

My mind is holding onto this one thought that had lived in my brain since last week's happenings of my life reinforced by the viewing of the current episode of Miami Social.

A thought about assertiveness ....

Assertiveness is linked to self-esteem and considered an important communication skill. As a communication style and strategy, assertiveness is distinguished from aggression and passivity. How people deal with personal boundaries; their own and those of other people, helps to distinguish between these three concepts. Passive communicators do not defend their own personal boundaries and thus allow aggressive people to harm or otherwise unduly influence them. They are also typically not likely to risk trying to influence anyone else. Aggressive people do not respect the personal boundaries of others and thus are liable to harm others while trying to influence them. A person communicates assertively by not being afraid to speak his or her mind or trying to influence others, but doing so in a way that respects the personal boundaries of others. They are also willing to defend themselves against aggressive incursions. (Wikipedia)

Comments

23 Comments

: 08/18/2009 - 2:01pm; Anastasia; I need to know what that little black camera you always have on you is. It looks like a point and shoot. Please tell!!!!

: 08/17/2009 - 4:41pm; Viewer; Maria, love your blog and your life story. A word regarding assertiveness: it seams very hard to me to exsersize assertiveness and self-esteem during low times of despair, it is much easier to be assertive during better times and think about your full of tears past as unnessesary senseless suffering. Going now through difficult times myself I was wondering: is it really possible to be assertive and positive when you don't see a solutions to a problems and life is a total mess, is't it always that we can only be assertive, positive, full of self-esteem and honesty to ourselfs only when all the bad times are in past? Would you really beleive if somebody told you back then when you were broke and lonely to stop worrying and crying and start being assertive and positive? No jugement here, just a desire of deeper understanding

: 08/15/2009 - 10:40pm; lory; I can't believe you blew it on that interview Ariel got you...I know you where jsut being honest, I give you credit, but I hate to tell you this...people don't want to hear the truth they want to hear what they want to hear and if that what it takes to land the job than that's wah tyou have to do.

: 08/15/2009 - 10:08pm; joycr; Maria,
I really like you on the show, because you seem real. The others are extremely shallow, all about looks, money, how wonderful they think they are. I am also a single parent and would like to start a foundation or charity for single mothers, but I don't know where to start. Please e mail me. Thanks.

: 08/15/2009 - 12:11am; Viewer; i STILL THINK nyc prep HAS THIS CAST BEAT ON MATURITY!!

08/14/2009 - 10:06pm

Viewer

you are my role model... I took up phototography as pasr of my job working for a 4 stqar combatantr general for NATO and Joijnt forces command. I tood m initioal ppphootos with a fugi dispsable camera,but I was creative. I have a viion of being able to project an emotions.

I would llike to know more about tyou and if that meanst coming down to visit you that is fine.

I have just accepted a job on the Wind Serverces C0mercial operations team for GE but would like to pursuei this other optiojn!!!!!

Keep me away frm Lina - she has no business sensel.

: 08/14/2009 - 9:41pm; Karen; what's with all the jibes againts Katrina? She's is just being herself as are you from what I see. It almost seems as though you are a bit jealous of her.

: 08/14/2009 - 2:41pm; Viewer; I love watching you on the show. You and your daughter are adorable and smart.

08/14/2009 - 1:58pm

I love your black bracelets with the charms? Who makes and where can I buy?

Thx.

: 08/13/2009 - 2:56am; Cindi; Maria - hands down you are my fav on this show thx for ur words of wisdom, 1. I so need to practice being assertive and 2. I am a single mom of 2 trying to pull everything together and sometimes, I would love to heard what other women are going thru becuase although I know I'm not the only person doing it on my own - I do have those moments where I stop and ask why me and can I continue doing what I do.....please keep us updated if this goes thru. thx