Drops of my favorite mimosa (champagne and orange juice) on my keyboard, liquid cooling my throat, bubbles having a prolonged party traveling the roller coaster of my throat as if immediately transported in my blood stream that is flowing into my brain, the view of great Los Angeles at my feet from the Penthouse floor of my famous hotel. Breeze is touching my shoulders lightly, sun is warming my bronzing skin. My mind is free after an hour of invigorating yoga at West Hollywood Equinox followed by the no less invigorating Michael Levine's industry breakfast. It is now 3 p.m. on Tuesday in the time of forever. Could it be more perfect?
My mind is holding onto this one thought that had lived in my brain since last week's happenings of my life reinforced by the viewing of the current episode of Miami Social.
A thought about assertiveness ....
Assertiveness is linked to self-esteem and considered an important communication skill. As a communication style and strategy, assertiveness is distinguished from aggression and passivity. How people deal with personal boundaries; their own and those of other people, helps to distinguish between these three concepts. Passive communicators do not defend their own personal boundaries and thus allow aggressive people to harm or otherwise unduly influence them. They are also typically not likely to risk trying to influence anyone else. Aggressive people do not respect the personal boundaries of others and thus are liable to harm others while trying to influence them. A person communicates assertively by not being afraid to speak his or her mind or trying to influence others, but doing so in a way that respects the personal boundaries of others. They are also willing to defend themselves against aggressive incursions. (Wikipedia)
Maria, you are one of my favs on the show...Cool, layed-back, calm, a super sassy. I love your effortless sexy style.
I think your idea for single mothers is excellent. I would love to be part of something like that and help in any way I can. Please tell us more! Keep it moving because the idea and action is much needed.
Hey Maria.. Where did you get your sunglasses from that you wore on the show??? LOVE LOVE LOVE them..x
Hello Maria!! just wanted to say I love reading your blogs. You are so well spoken and have alot of insight about humans. I love yourd words of wisdom. Also, I love your idea for a charity. I know alot of friends who are in marriages or relationships because they are stuck there by not having the proper schooling to get a job that would support her and her children. So I hope that you are successful in that endeavor.
Maria, you are the epitome of Miami... Love your style, your flair and your drive. The next time Ariel calls himself giving you and lesson on what your "passion" should be, tell him to put a sock in his mouth. It's clear to me what your passion is (your daughter) but, if he would just shut up for a minute and listen to others when their speaking he would have known the answer to that question already. I understood clearly what you were trying to convey to the room, that your work is a means for you to educate and care for your daughter and yourself and, I applaud you for your honesty. I would have hired you on the spot... Am I the only one who thinks Ariel is full of himself. "He's an arrogant, self centered, pompous, jerk!"
Maria, I loved your comment to Michael at Ariel's show-"I see coochie." I thought I was the only one to use that! I'm super jealous you get to hang out with Michael, your sooo lucky. He has such a banging personality. The two of you are lucky to have eachother to hang with. Good luck with next season, I look forward to it!
hi Maria, good point on assertiveness. but, we as humans must always work on everything within us and than maybe the world would be a better place. love your show and your relationship with Michael. i think everyone wishes him all the very best and to find that special someone. i also hope that you will have more in your life then just your work and friends. as a mother of two, i do not know how you can stand being away from your daughter. i am not judging, just feeling for you. but, i can only imagine how difficult it must be to be a single mother with your whole family somewhere else. though, it's nice to see that you are pretty successful in your field. anyway, enjoy Los Angeles. love California!!! good luck with all your plans and hope you guys come back for another season. ciao.
by the way, thanks for that little excerpt about assertiveness. its not okay to be aggressive or passive. i grew up mostly passive and did not like that about myself, because the aggressive people took advantage of me. i thought that others would like me better and respect me more if i was aggressive, when in reality, showing respect and assertiveness to others will give you the respect you deserve
You are a remarkable woman. You are truly profound in your words and work. I look to your blogs to give that positive push that one needs to get through the day. Don't stop what your doing girl, cuz it looks SO damn good on you!!!
Maria - hands down you are my fav on this show thx for ur words of wisdom, 1. I so need to practice being assertive and 2. I am a single mom of 2 trying to pull everything together and sometimes, I would love to heard what other women are going thru becuase although I know I'm not the only person doing it on my own - I do have those moments where I stop and ask why me and can I continue doing what I do.....please keep us updated if this goes thru. thx
what's with all the jibes againts Katrina? She's is just being herself as are you from what I see. It almost seems as though you are a bit jealous of her.
you are my role model... I took up phototography as pasr of my job working for a 4 stqar combatantr general for NATO and Joijnt forces command. I tood m initioal ppphootos with a fugi dispsable camera,but I was creative. I have a viion of being able to project an emotions.
I would llike to know more about tyou and if that meanst coming down to visit you that is fine.
I have just accepted a job on the Wind Serverces C0mercial operations team for GE but would like to pursuei this other optiojn!!!!!
Keep me away frm Lina - she has no business sensel.
Maria, I really like you on the show, because you seem real. The others are extremely shallow, all about looks, money, how wonderful they think they are. I am also a single parent and would like to start a foundation or charity for single mothers, but I don't know where to start. Please e mail me. Thanks.
I can't believe you blew it on that interview Ariel got you...I know you where jsut being honest, I give you credit, but I hate to tell you this...people don't want to hear the truth they want to hear what they want to hear and if that what it takes to land the job than that's wah tyou have to do.
Maria, love your blog and your life story. A word regarding assertiveness: it seams very hard to me to exsersize assertiveness and self-esteem during low times of despair, it is much easier to be assertive during better times and think about your full of tears past as unnessesary senseless suffering. Going now through difficult times myself I was wondering: is it really possible to be assertive and positive when you don't see a solutions to a problems and life is a total mess, is't it always that we can only be assertive, positive, full of self-esteem and honesty to ourselfs only when all the bad times are in past? Would you really beleive if somebody told you back then when you were broke and lonely to stop worrying and crying and start being assertive and positive? No jugement here, just a desire of deeper understanding