In the fast paced world of todays relationships, more so in Miami, a week is considered to be an anniversary (Michael and Diego's date), 6 years is not enough to get married and have babies (Hardy and Trixia), 13 years is enough to break up (Kat and Ben), 2 years is not enough to establish the basics of respective communication ( Lina and George) and one night is enough to have a walk of shame morning after (=we all have been there, I am sure). All of the above mentioned could have been avoided, softened, lived through and enjoyed so much more if we all were the masters of assertiveness.
Like the birds in the sky in the beginning of episode clouding the sky screaming wildly we get carried away inside our brain when we don't have enough self respect to stop for a second and assess the situation. We yell because we dont know better (Lina and George). We agree nodding when we really should speak up (Ben telling Kat he can't wait for her things to be out of the house). What we should do is start loving ourselves enough to REALLY ask ourselves what is that:" I WANT" and after we answer that question politely, make a statement to the rest of the world of our knowledge and feel accomplished, because that is where success in everything in our lives starts. Respecting ourselves we immediately respect other peoples wishes, desires and aspirations without feeling squeezed, pinched, ultimately defeated because someone has the guts to do what we cant put our mind to. BEING OPEN AND HONEST WITH OURSELVES.
I know this is my lesson for the next few months, and I'm practicing every day. ASSERTIVENESS. I hope you will try that too and let me know how that worked out for you?
Maria, you are one of my favs on the show...Cool, layed-back, calm, a super sassy. I love your effortless sexy style.
I think your idea for single mothers is excellent. I would love to be part of something like that and help in any way I can. Please tell us more! Keep it moving because the idea and action is much needed.
Hey Maria.. Where did you get your sunglasses from that you wore on the show??? LOVE LOVE LOVE them..x
Hello Maria!! just wanted to say I love reading your blogs. You are so well spoken and have alot of insight about humans. I love yourd words of wisdom. Also, I love your idea for a charity. I know alot of friends who are in marriages or relationships because they are stuck there by not having the proper schooling to get a job that would support her and her children. So I hope that you are successful in that endeavor.
Maria, you are the epitome of Miami... Love your style, your flair and your drive. The next time Ariel calls himself giving you and lesson on what your "passion" should be, tell him to put a sock in his mouth. It's clear to me what your passion is (your daughter) but, if he would just shut up for a minute and listen to others when their speaking he would have known the answer to that question already. I understood clearly what you were trying to convey to the room, that your work is a means for you to educate and care for your daughter and yourself and, I applaud you for your honesty. I would have hired you on the spot... Am I the only one who thinks Ariel is full of himself. "He's an arrogant, self centered, pompous, jerk!"
Maria, I loved your comment to Michael at Ariel's show-"I see coochie." I thought I was the only one to use that! I'm super jealous you get to hang out with Michael, your sooo lucky. He has such a banging personality. The two of you are lucky to have eachother to hang with. Good luck with next season, I look forward to it!
hi Maria, good point on assertiveness. but, we as humans must always work on everything within us and than maybe the world would be a better place. love your show and your relationship with Michael. i think everyone wishes him all the very best and to find that special someone. i also hope that you will have more in your life then just your work and friends. as a mother of two, i do not know how you can stand being away from your daughter. i am not judging, just feeling for you. but, i can only imagine how difficult it must be to be a single mother with your whole family somewhere else. though, it's nice to see that you are pretty successful in your field. anyway, enjoy Los Angeles. love California!!! good luck with all your plans and hope you guys come back for another season. ciao.
by the way, thanks for that little excerpt about assertiveness. its not okay to be aggressive or passive. i grew up mostly passive and did not like that about myself, because the aggressive people took advantage of me. i thought that others would like me better and respect me more if i was aggressive, when in reality, showing respect and assertiveness to others will give you the respect you deserve
You are a remarkable woman. You are truly profound in your words and work. I look to your blogs to give that positive push that one needs to get through the day. Don't stop what your doing girl, cuz it looks SO damn good on you!!!
Maria - hands down you are my fav on this show thx for ur words of wisdom, 1. I so need to practice being assertive and 2. I am a single mom of 2 trying to pull everything together and sometimes, I would love to heard what other women are going thru becuase although I know I'm not the only person doing it on my own - I do have those moments where I stop and ask why me and can I continue doing what I do.....please keep us updated if this goes thru. thx
what's with all the jibes againts Katrina? She's is just being herself as are you from what I see. It almost seems as though you are a bit jealous of her.
you are my role model... I took up phototography as pasr of my job working for a 4 stqar combatantr general for NATO and Joijnt forces command. I tood m initioal ppphootos with a fugi dispsable camera,but I was creative. I have a viion of being able to project an emotions.
I would llike to know more about tyou and if that meanst coming down to visit you that is fine.
I have just accepted a job on the Wind Serverces C0mercial operations team for GE but would like to pursuei this other optiojn!!!!!
Keep me away frm Lina - she has no business sensel.
Maria, I really like you on the show, because you seem real. The others are extremely shallow, all about looks, money, how wonderful they think they are. I am also a single parent and would like to start a foundation or charity for single mothers, but I don't know where to start. Please e mail me. Thanks.
I can't believe you blew it on that interview Ariel got you...I know you where jsut being honest, I give you credit, but I hate to tell you this...people don't want to hear the truth they want to hear what they want to hear and if that what it takes to land the job than that's wah tyou have to do.
Maria, love your blog and your life story. A word regarding assertiveness: it seams very hard to me to exsersize assertiveness and self-esteem during low times of despair, it is much easier to be assertive during better times and think about your full of tears past as unnessesary senseless suffering. Going now through difficult times myself I was wondering: is it really possible to be assertive and positive when you don't see a solutions to a problems and life is a total mess, is't it always that we can only be assertive, positive, full of self-esteem and honesty to ourselfs only when all the bad times are in past? Would you really beleive if somebody told you back then when you were broke and lonely to stop worrying and crying and start being assertive and positive? No jugement here, just a desire of deeper understanding