All You Need Is Love

Maria gives her take on Miami Social's complicated relationships.

I wanted to write about friends and friendships in this current blog based on episode three. But really all episode 3 was about was LOVE. The goddamn love :) The sweet love. The oppressing love. The love of a man to a woman. Love for life. LOVE was the main thread that I noticed being sewn into the episode's fabric throughout.

The third episode clearly shows that life on the beach is not all that and not all about the beach. It's about us being normal and doing normal things in our abnormal life. I couldn't help but think how each one of us truly are yearning to be loved and love someone. Even when all we can think or talk about is sex (all the while wanting to just be cuddled late at night by our lover before or after or during the period of physical satisfaction) .

Or when we envision ourselves very powerful (just so we never get denied to have sex — be loved on that desk that not even Donald Trump can have, helllooo he has already gotten himself a lady to love him :). Or when we dress to be powerful and put a lot of make up on to support the appearance of looking older and perceived wiser and distract ourselves with our huge goals of making that deal today, that will make a difference (when truly all we want is our soon-to-be husband to tell us he missed us during the weekend instead of enjoying the lap-dances at the bachelor party). When we feel empowered after sex, or after we finish writing about celebrities "totally not getting married" (all the while aching to marry a nice guy who will love us as much as we would love him) . Or when we cut our lover's pants to make a statement and tell them to not play with our heart (during which we think 'is it really the right guy for us?' Because if we have to wonder what his reaction to our pregnancy will be, then maybe you are not in the right kind of phase of a relationship to have babies yet) .

Or when we exercise vigorously on the lawn with our fiance and dont want him to waste rare time shared together on some stupid phone calls discussing furniture? ( We really dont want them to pick up that phone at all and instead tell us they love us just as we are with or without extra pounds). Or when we converse with our child over the internet via skype asking them whether their outfits worked and if they met someone nice they liked (while really wishing they would do better than you did and that is the reason you work so hard and give it all you can).

Pheewww. Can you tell I am ready for love now?

There are a few things I hope I will never forget whether life will grant me love or not :

1. Treat yourself with respect. Because no matter how much love you have got in your heart the only way to truly be able to give is ask yourself if you are loving what you're doing and if there is enough respect (not pride) for yourself in all your actions and desires. If the answer is YES then go for it and no matter what others say (even your best friends), somehow you are on a right path.

2. Take chances. Right after you responded yes to that question above feel free to take that chance. My life experience (living on various continents and having friends and past lovers from various parts of the world as well as my ability to analyze, and many many conversations with people close to my heart about all that stuff) has proven to me that taking chances is the best thing we can do for ourselves. More times than not we are pleasantly surprised, in some instances we discover something so totally new and unknown that our life perception changes so drastically that we cant go on the way we did before and we embrace the new and ultimately become happier human beings. WE are given lives to explore and challenge and I truly believe that is the best part of it!

3. Do the things you love. At least once a day. It breeds the good practice of understanding we all need this time for ourselves to make ourselves feel better. And we are more accepting of something like that in others (like someone wondering what you would think of a silly new desk) or someone stuffing their face with chips (when they really shouldn't, but oh they taste so good) or someone wearing incredulous amount of arm bangles that might irritate us sometime (albeit they do look cool in certain circumstances). We all of a sudden see the world in different colors. We are filled with love and we project love and the world loves us back in every sense of this word, granting us meeting of amazing people, great weather, love of our children and a simple sense of belonging to the human race that you would rather love than hate. I have wanted to express my profound gratitude to all of you my newfound friends who keep finding time to comment on the blog and watch the show. Whether you are a TV junkie and you live through us on the show  or you simply got stuck on Bravo flipping from BBC news to CNN. THANK YOU.

To give something back,  I would like to share some advice on how to make better pictures at parties (because taking pictures is what I do excellent :)

1. Position the camera high up to shoot from the higher point and set up flash to overexpose slightly. The night snapshot mode with slightly overexposed flash compensation gives the best result no matter how tired or drunk the party goers are. On the beach shoot against the sun flash ON.

2. Powder skin under the eyes, this is the part that ages us most on pictures. With current make up offerings (OK, on the show I made a couple mistakes but we all live and learn and that is why i have chosen to write about it) it's easy to cover this area up without it looking too caked , but trust my words you will see the difference as in looking 10 years fresher when u do how I suggest. Currently I use foundation (my fav is lasting silk UV foundation with spf 20) and powder options from Giorgio Armani and it works MAGIC!

3. Shoot from further than the length of your arm (use zoom if u must) because anything closer with lens's distortion will make your objects nose HUGE and disproportionate. Well, have a great shooting and report back how my advice worked!

Maybe I will create a special part of my blog on my website or fan page where you can upload your own pictures to show! Now last but not least is my response to various questions that had been coming in the form of commentary here on bravo's blog as well as in my emails.

1. thank you all for complimenting me on being a strong woman. SHHHHH nobody supposed to know lol

2. I do sometimes go to the russian store Gastronom in Sunny Isles, there are a few around the area that are good, but NOTHING can compare to my mom's cooking when I go back to Russia (was there in june ).

3. There will be more behin- the-scenes of my work and shoots as time progresses.

4. I moved to Miami in 2005. I lived in Hermosa Beach in CA before that and in London UK before LA. I have traveled to a LOT of places on this earth and there is no place more comfortable for me than plane's seat and airports where you can watch people passing by with their lives packed in roll-ons and heading into different chapters in their lives. It's a great time to catch up on all the reading I have missed as well.

5. I do not know if the Eastern European vibe was planned for the show's cast, but i doubt it was. It was first time I have heard Ariel calling himself Polish in first episode. I appreciate his pride in his ancestry. However Ariel is Jewish born in North Miami Beach. I have moved to Miami from LA, natural transition :) Listen to my favorite song EVERYBODY'S FREE by BAZ LUHRMANN and you will get an idea.

6. I do work on assignment basis. I am a freelance photographer. I love shooting portraiture features for magazines, celebrity fashion portraiture and work on my own fine art that I have been working for over a year and its almost finally ready to be let out in the world whether thru my own gallery or via exhibiting at art fairs like Art Basel.

7. I am growing my hair longer. Look at the images on HERE

8. I have sent my daughter to Switzerland for several reasons. I feel Lugano is far more international then any boarding school in America merely for the reason of being located on a border or Italy, Germany and France. She has better chances to learn third and fourth language without too much effort ( everyone speaks italian in Lugano for example). Within just her first year as a boarder she travelled almost every weekend to a different part of Europe with her classmates and discovered new cultures for herself. Friends she made in that school span all over the globe and I truly believe that you are who your friends are and so that is what I have wanted to give her along with great education. Amazing friends from all parts of the world.

9. The brand of sunglasses I wore in a scene at the airport were D&G I think its last year's collection :) It has purple metal frame.

10. I am Russian. I was born in old russian city filled with churches, russian trees BERESKA and situated on one of the largest rivers of Russia, VOLGA. My mom moved me and my older brother to Saint-Petersburg Russia when I was 5. She wanted us to grow up surrounded by culture and wonderful European architecture. I love my mom for that.

11. When I feel the need to bitch slap someone, I do just that :)

12. I am not MAYBE bisexual. I certainly am. I speak openly about that because talking about sex or anything else for that matter comes easy for me. I am genuinely interested in other people's stories and lives. I love to listen and i love to talk about mine as well. I like to entertain people with stories from my life, since there had been so many that u would have hard times making up but that did in fact happen in reality. Life amuses me every single day. I had two girlfriends in my lifetime. I find men easier to build relationships with. There can only be one estrogen filled moody person in relationship — me :)

13. You can see my work at http://www.marialankina.com or simply google my name.

14. For most of my work i use Canon cameras and lenses, lighting for most of my personal projects natural light, studio light is from Alienbees and Profoto.

15. Yes indeed i was "homeless" (as in not having place to live, no car, no money, dept, no profession, no support system in a new city in foreign country) in 2006 and i found myself in least favorable position in life, or so I thought back then. I learned that everything that we perceive as BAD happening in our lives is really leading us up to something challenging and GOOD. I am glad things happened the way they did. If i had to go back and change it up the only things i would change is i would pat myself on a shoulder back then and ask myself to cry less and spend more time positively thinking instead. The challenge would have been slightly easier then. Tune in next week, gosh i can't wait for you to see all the before and after that scene with me and Ariel in regards to working together. you can see the preview HERE.

A Hair Raising Season!

Michael takes you inside the best of the best with his very own Miami Social Awards!

WTF FANS??? DID WE NOT BRING THE HEAT BITCHES OR WHAT? I was burning up after watching that. Actually, I was almost ready to cry. That was sort of an emotional experience for me and all of us ‘socials.’ Our lives, just unfolded, just like that. But I’m not going to sit here (like I suspect Katrina or Maria may) and make you read all these life lessons to pick up from Miami Social. I’m here to have fun. With that said, here is my very own Miami Social Awards:

BEST OUCH! MOMENT

MY hair! I know you are wondering why I did it! I just felt like having more hair. Did it hurt? I don’t know! I was uh; a little shall we say, high? Anyway, it was just one of those little self improvement things like going to the gym or seeing my shrink but hello that out tops any surgeries I have ever seen on Bravo!

BEST A*SHOLE INTERVENTION

Katrina and Hardy trying to knock some sense into Ariel. Things didn’t go as planned – as Katrina called it an “uphill battle.” I just loved when Ariel channels Madonna with that British accent thing: “Some people think I’m obnoxious when they first meet me…”

BEST CANDIDATE FOR A BEAUTY MAKEOVER

LINA: NO MORE WHITE EYELINER! PLEASE! IT’S KILLING ME!!! BEST USE OF SUB TITLES

Lina To George: “You’re going to be a Daddy!”

BEST NON-GUEST, GUEST APPEARANCE

Who the hell was Lina talking to on the phone at the end of the show? Her pimp? I am like so confused! And who the hell is Robert? Yet, another boyfriend? What?

BEST LINA INSULTS TO GEORGE

“Jesus, Uptight Ass!”

“You Don’t How to Be a Man!”

“Dick, Just Dick (DEEK)!”

“You’re my biggest hormone!”

BEST SHOES

Katrina! Show open where she is in that fabulous YSL pump and then she sports that Louboutin when she is showing that pervert Edmundo’s house. Side note: KATRINA please take Lina shoe shopping. I can’t stand the white patent leather shoes anymore!!! HELP US!!!!!

BEST MAKE-UP

Maria, simply because I love her pink Chanel lipstick. I was going to give this to Katrina but she goes overboard – like how is this girls face always done in the Miami heat? I don’t get it!!!

BEST DRESSED

Hardy, but who cares? Who the hell wears suits in Miami??? No seriously that whole James Bond thing was really genius, but I sweat, and not in that way, looking at him. Katrina could win on this one too – tell me how this girl always is decked out. Heels and a pencil skirt – love that scene on the boat.

BEST TEAR JERKER SCENE

When Maria dropped her daughter off at the airport! Then, when she was driving down the causeway, you could just feel Maria’s emotions.

BEST EX MOMENT

Oh my god, remember when Sorah was in the park with George? When she he’s explaining how he called Lina and the phone went into a French speaking country? Well, the look in Sorah’s eyes was so sad. She just looked at George and said, “I don’t think Lina has ever been honest to you and you two bring out the worst in each other.” That was harsh, uh, but true. Of course, the runner up would be when Ben says to Katrina, “ I can’t wait to get your sh*t out of the house.”

BEST-UNINVITED GUEST ME!

Who can forget when I show up with Maria at George’s party and Lina and I have a fight over Jasmine. That was genius. But Lina, herself is a runner up. I still can’t believe she shows up at Gonzalo's apartment while he and Sorah are cooking a romantic dinner!

BEST DOG

I really thought about this one, uh, for less than a minute. AUSTIN !!!!! Best shot of him all season was one I was on the phone with Sorah telling her about Diego and there was this shot of Austin and that cute little face!

BEST EYE ROLL

Hello, I win this. I mean, you remember me planning my birthday party? Afro’s? Blinking things, what????

BEST ‘HARDY PARTY’

Surprise, it was at “the Gans,” when Trixia arrived and grabbed Hardy’s face (like my Jewish grandmother did mine..) and asks, not once, but twice “you like my dress???”

BEST REFERENCE TO MADONNA

My reference was pretty good when I was with Katrina and I was starring at all those dam bracelets and said how “Lucky Star…” But loved when Ariel looks at Hardy’s friend and tells her she looks like Sandra Bernhard and that’s a compliment because she is a friend of Madonna’s! WHAT? FOOL!

BEST EXCUSE FOR NOT GETTING LAID

Katrina! “I’ve been with the same guy for 13-years…” WE GET IT GIRL!!!

BEST ALTER EGO

Oh dude, it’s a tie between “Straight Mike” and “Lina #2”

BEST BESTFRIEND MOMENT

There were a few here! Loved when Maria was holding my hand during BOTH my surgeries. Once, at Lasik and once during my Chia Pet surgery. But, hands down, in the finale when Katrina comes to my house after she signs those divorce papers that was heavy.

BEST USE OF A TEXT MESSAGE

George to Lina: “I’m getting all these text messages saying you had an abortion!” But, that may tie with George writing to Sorah because he needed her after the season finale blowout with Lina and she hits ignore!

BEST OUTFIT STOLEN FROM ‘NYC PREP”

Maria! OMG – who was going to school here you or Anjelika? That was too much the white preppy shirt, the tie and the hot pink lips. Runner up, and I hate having Maria and Lina in the same award, but it’s true, Lina #2 outfit, the plaid cheerleader dress and all….

BEST MOTHER INTERVENTION

I really thought about this one. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my Campins girls. But Momma Campins, she’s gotta let go of Ben. Then of course there is when George’s mom came to town… When she said, “I didn’t raise my son to be broken.” OUCH, that wins.

BEST USE OF A QUESTION

Lina, that girl asks the funniest questions. She created a tie! When in the season finale George asks his Mom what she thinks of Lina and his Mom is well, sort of dumbfounded. “What do you want your mom to say I’m a bitch?” asks Lina. UM YES! Then, I love when she asks George in Episode five, “What do you think I’m a liar?” UM, YES!!

BEST-PERVERTED MOMENT ON THE JOB

“LET ME SEE YOUR CRACK!”

EWWWW, Who was Ariel’s client? That god-awful underwear designer? I mean seriously. OMG, I felt so awful watching that scene. I actually felt badly for Ariel But least not forget, Katrina’s perverted client, Edmundo when Katrina “apologizes” for coming on a Saturday and he says with his wife around, “looking at you always makes me Saturday.” CREEPY.

BEST USE OF FAILING THIRD GRADE MATH

Ariel talking to me at the Gans: “Half the things you write about are 70% not true.”

BEST “WHATTTTTTT????’ MOMENT

Lina takes it again. I was so confused when Lina was laying in bed and tells George “they lost the baby…God didn’t want it for them.” WHAT? Weren’t you just telling your mom that you were going to head over to the clinic and take some pill? GIRL!

BEST “YOU HEARD ME MOMENT!”

Loved when Katrina was trying on those clothes created by another designer for Ariel’s fashion show. When he was going on and on about how fabulous the clothes were and I said: “Maybe you can pull that bullsh*t with Katrina, but don’t pull it with a Queen!”

BEST USE OF SMOKE AND MIRRORS

Hands down, Ariel’s show. Still, I can’t get over this. Didn’t it go something like this: Welcome to the fashion show – only thing is I didn’t actually design the clothes…

BEST MIAMI SOCIAL DEBATE

Me and Ariel going at it over Kim Kardashian. Remember, I call her a reality whore (I am one too, I get it and accept it) but he’s trying to convince me that she is better than that and she does a lot of charity work. I was like what is your point and that’s when I said, “You Can Still Be A Whore And Do A Lot of Good!”

Speaking of being a whore, I have a lot of things to do. I have to go raise funds for www.thestylelabonline.com. Thanks for all your support and watch those re-runs!!!!!

M