Cast Blog: #MIAMISOCIAL

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Love Life, Shed Light, and the Rest Will Follow

Incredibly Moved

I Choose To Be Me

A Hair Raising Season!

The Usual Suspects

Man in the Mirror

A Clear Picture

Don't Get It Twisted!

Egos Unmask!

A Lot of Fireworks

What a Ride

Spare the Drama!

A Dreamer and a Fighter

Say My Name, Bitches!

Big Egos and Big Shields

A Little Miracle

All You Need Is Love

Rollercoaster Relationship

I Have A Heart

The Power of the Word

Cutting Up On Lina

Too X-Rated

Going Against The Grain

Crazy Energy

Thinking Big

The Little Lies of Miami Social

Take No Prisoners

A Legend In His Own Mind

Glam Oily Bodies

Work Hard, Play Hard

No Place Like It

Whipped

Proud and Privileged

Ouch!

Michael counts down his fave moments from the premiere!

The first question people always have for me is, “How did you get on this reality show?” The answer is I went for it. I knew there was a casting, I called, was interviewed, and shortly thereafter got a call inviting me to join the cast of ‘Miami Social.”

That question is always followed by, “Why are you doing a reality show and opening up your life for millions of viewers?” The general one word answer is “opportunities.” I knew it would be an adventure and that the good would heavily outweigh any negative.

More specifically, I was making a mid-life change from being an entertainment editor for years (I was a Palm Beach Special Correspondent for People and later Miami Editor for In Touch Weekly) to becoming an entrepreneur and launching my own project thestylelabonline.com. And, my dating life is not so much, so maybe this is my own version of The Bachelor, well, the Gay Bachelor.

So basically I’m here for career and relationship purposes and that shouldn’t seem odd because that is what Miami Social is all about, a group of friends that work hard and sometimes even harder at having that right relationship with themselves and someone they love, albeit a boyfriend, daughter or soon to be ex.

But really that’s what life is about – relationships. Sometimes we are poignant and deep. Sometimes we are shallow and catty. I like to zone in on those because they are a lot funnier.

Here are my Top Five Faves from Episode One of Miami Social!

Meet Lina # 2

OMG. Was this girl kidding? She stepped out in that outfit and I was thinking “Now I know her day job.” Those shoes! The white eye-liner! I know you were all gagging. I tried though for a moment to be a horny straight guy like George and find the turn on. Lina does have a smoking body, but using sex as a make up tool makes me think there are some deep-rooted problems.

Ariel. Okay, remember this part? When Ariel meets Hardy to talk about the Puma event and then there is a quick shot to Ariel in one of those interviews? Wearing his little black jacket and so very gay (high lisp day) he says:

“I’m a fashion producer in Miami. I can do anything. Call me, I’ll get the job done…”

At that point I expected to see a 1.800.555.1212 number flash on the screen for a gay sex escort. I don’t know why, I just did.

But I really love what The New York Times had to say about Ariel:

“Ariel thinks of himself as a person of considerable importance: he produces fashion shows in Miami-Dade County. But as long as Miami isn’t New York or Paris or Milan, saying you are the biggest fashion producer there is like saying you are the biggest auto maker in Tuscaloosa.”

I agree. If I ever showed up to an event where there was a make shift picnic with wilted salad included as the installation, I would leave.

Trixia. How much did I love when she was at home getting her hair done for the big Puma night at the Gansevoort and she explains to her friend the trust she shares with Hardy:

"Every bartender, every door girl, every doorman knows me!!! If Hardy's doing something fucked up, I get a text message like that (insert snap).”

Well, that girl snapped so hard to prove her point the curling iron hit her head and she screamed “ouch!” I laughed hard.

But note to your hairstylist Trixia, those blonde curls were so Madonna Blond Ambition tour when she sang “Holiday” and so out.

Trixia.

Again, she steals the moment. Arriving at the Gansevort after her getting that hair done, Trixia is pissed Hardy hasn’t complimented her ensemble that evening. Sounding like Dracula (I come to suck your blood) mixed with a Latina twist, she grabs his face begging, “You like my dresssssss? You like my dressssss?”

Watching it I was like “ouch!” - that must have hurt, but that was good stuff.

Me, Maria, Ariel and Trixia. Oh, how the dogs and underdogs stick together. I love Maria and we have a really great time together. We are also, like George, perpetual thinkers of sex and when I tell Maria “I like sexy people and the thing is Ariel isn’t sexy, he’s a bitch,” the cameras pan over to Ariel, hunched over with his potbelly, a plume of his cigarette smoke in the air hovering around his face.

When he proceeds to admire his reflection in the glass saying he looks so hot, he looked anything but! Then when Trixia joined in and the two of them were admiring themselves, that was too genius. I mean ,don’t tell me you really think you looked good?

Okay, till next week. And the only place “Marc My Trainer” has seen me on my back is at the gym. But then again, he is also single now so we will have to see what happens...

Xo Mc

I Choose To Be Me

Maria reflects on the season, and offers some words of advice.

Please show me a funny movie. After watching the finale of Miami Social I wanted to weep. Weep so hard that wolfs on an imaginary moon would hear me and come play with me and we can make it into a positive experience instead of the earth shattering, walls sweating in tears, give me 11 pills to take all at ones to kill myself, sweet one.

In one of the previous comments on my blogs a "viewer" asks if that is at all possible to be positive and assertive when life is a total mess and you dont see light at the end of the tunnel. My answer is yes. This is one of the two ways you can work this situation. One we all know. A lot of people follow quitting for real route. And I dont blame them. It is an easier way out. We all are going to die one day. I'd rather die knowing I tried to make my life enjoyable first. Another way (BETTER FOR ME) is to stay positive. To learn to twist your attitude around (it's all in your head, trust me) is by doing things that make us want to smile and that change our moods to the right direction. It's that simple and physical. To try and try and try and try and try. I promise there is always sun after the rain. The same viewer asks if that would have really helped if someone was there to tell me to be positive and assertive and pat me on shoulder in my harder days?

The answer is YES YES YES. I cant stress enough how important it is to have a support system. Please go out there to cafes, libraries, clubs, just go for a walk in a park, join your local photography club (pick a club for the hobby you have),  put an advert online on dating site, reconnect with your friends that live nearby. Do ANYTHING to start communicating with people and build friendships. Go do fun things together that will help you bond and become better friends. Then in the moment when u feel your throat is tightened by fear and all you can think of is that roof of that building across from yours and flying down like a bird if only for 1 minute until you hit it hard, when you feel your heart squeezed with unexplainable turmoil and the need to flush it out of your chest cavity you can reach out to your friend, stalk their doorway if needed and get that pat on shoulder and help. Sometime when your friend feels low and u want to cheer them up by taking them to new art exhibit or buying them a glass of champagne and share, you inadvertently pick your own spirits up.

Having friends is all around good. For you and for them. I am experiencing highs and lows a lot even now and I am far from where I see myself on life's map. It does not however stop me from enjoying myself in everyday simple things. I do still feel lonely and it's even worse knowing Angelika is far away in school. My cats warm my bed when I come home alone after party or a long photo shoot (to answer numerous questions about where you can see more of my work go to my website http://www.marialankina.com) and there are times when I want to "hang my chaps" and just give up. But I am not letting myself. I feel like I always can go for that later, if ever.

I choose to dream big, do my yoga every day, cycle in gym instead of shrink visits, work on my fine art and have my assistant busy with organizing my jet set travels all over the globe plotting the world take over that's OH SO SWEET and hey everyone can enjoy this ride with me! I choose to be me. When I am on a roller-coaster at amusement park, the one that scares the sh*t out of everyone - baby strapped around me and in for a ride that might make their pants wet, I am envisioning myself getting an Oscar on stage in a beautiful gown and you know what I feel? JOY and overlwelming heart warmth , not fear of the construction falling down and my insides splattering on metal railings of it. Power of visualization takes us to incredible heights. TRY IT. Tell me how it works for you.

I feel like there is never going to be a boring 100% calm period in our lives. I am learning to feel grateful for challenge. Whether it is in our jobs or personal relationships. Challenges and difficulties meant to make us grow. Our souls and our hearts. I feel it's not about what the problem is, but how you deal with it. So you learn. Learn to appreciate it and embrace it.

I feel for everyone (my friends) on the show. I feel for Lina and George, they are trying and this is admirable. I wish there was someone to REALLY help them figure it all out. I wonder if we can fully UNDERSTAND each other. I felt frustrated numerous times in my life and relationships where I felt I was from Venus and they were from Mars (book by John Gray) and I really wanted to talk to them using language we both would fully understand. I still do not know if that in fact is a possibility. I am also learning there is not ONE truth — mine of-course, but many. As many as there are people involved in one particular argument (reading my friend's autobiography and learning it on the fly). I wonder why I had to meet this guy just now and not 15 years ago when the realization of multiple truths existence would have saved me so many tears (hey I could use them to add on to the ocean's salt, so global warming would not be a real threat :).  Now I also wonder if I can actually implement this thinking in my life??? Can you ??

I feel for Katrina. I have been asked if I am jealous of her and if that is why I pick on her. I dont think i am jealous. It's just my habit of calling people out on their BS (or what I think is BS) when I see it peek it's ugly face out from under the life's regularity. My kudos for Kat's growing experience. Hey when I was 28 (like Kat now) I made a bunch of mistakes too, that are painful to think of, and boy I am not sure I would want them to be documented in areality TV based way. I really wish more of what's REALLY happening in Kat's head and life was out there. It's a far better learning experience for everyone viewing THAT, then something you can only see when u dig an inch deep.

I feel for Michael. He would do so well just being born a girl in 1950s. He would make an amazing housewife with talent to turn into that bitch in bed and glamourpuss on man's hand at the dare events of the year. But he is born in male's body) hot one albeit :) with receding hair (he is working on it and dont u dare to blame him for it, and PLEASE dont tell him to just shave his head, he will cry in response and hate you forever : ) and he has an amazing six pack. He is smart. And a very talented writer and soon to become a very successful business entrepreneur. I wish for the right investor to cross Michael's path and for the style lab online get wider audience! With the right team put together(in place) and passion (in place) and right investment (?) it will grow to become successful business of helping others to be better themselves.

I feel for Trixia because she can join the "my boyfriends is an asshole" club and that is not where we all want to be. I wish for Hardy to stop playing host in his own life and take charge of it and go for what he wants rather then trying to satisfy other people's needs only and then finding himself unhappy with the way it makes him feel. TRAPPED.

I feel for Ariel but u know what? He will be just fine. Because money can always buy you another session with shrink. And money is what he says he has. So all I can give is peck on a cheek and pat on shoulder and Ariel you can always call me for that :)

I feel for Sorah and wish her to let go. I know how hard it can be and I do not know if that is at all possible. Especially when you live in the same building. But I am sure sooner or later things will settle down in her heart and i am sure that will be the right choice.

I read in LA times this week in interview with Criss Angel: "When we're kids, we sit there and play with mom's brush and pretend it to be an airplane, because we're able to suspend our disbelief. But as we get to be adults, society tells us that's wrong and we have to conform." Please don't ever conform.

We are still here - IT IS SOMETHING. Here is my order for you from the menu of life - MAKE IT COUNT! Check back on me often on me on my website http://www.marialankina.com I have fallen into habit of blogging about what had happened in my life and what I am going through and for some of you it can work as an inspiration to go and get it ! I need your support as much as you need mine. Together we can make this world spin! That's what friends are for.