Cast Blog: #MIAMISOCIAL

Spare the Drama!

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Love Life, Shed Light, and the Rest Will Follow

Incredibly Moved

I Choose To Be Me

A Hair Raising Season!

The Usual Suspects

Man in the Mirror

A Clear Picture

Don't Get It Twisted!

Egos Unmask!

A Lot of Fireworks

What a Ride

A Dreamer and a Fighter

Say My Name, Bitches!

Big Egos and Big Shields

A Little Miracle

All You Need Is Love

Rollercoaster Relationship

I Have A Heart

The Power of the Word

Cutting Up On Lina

Too X-Rated

Going Against The Grain

Crazy Energy

Thinking Big

The Little Lies of Miami Social

Take No Prisoners

A Legend In His Own Mind

Glam Oily Bodies

Work Hard, Play Hard

No Place Like It

Ouch!

Whipped

Proud and Privileged

Spare the Drama!

Maria lets you in on her fave moments from the episode.

THE QUESTION THAT WAS BURNING THROUGH MY HEAD WHILE WATCHING THE NEW EPISODE : Are we really that different from animals? Quoting honest words of TIME Magazine: "No single, essential difference separates human beings from animals." Let's see how we stand up to that one.

The 5 scenes that made my stomach turn upside down.

1. REASONING MIND. There is a little pre-history to the EA lingerie meeting. A grand scheme of Ariel  to manipulate a photographer into Ariel's deal with EA to get national exposure for a couple thousand greens. I have never worked with Ariel and had never been in contact with his work ethic (say what)? I was told by Ariel that we would meet to discuss an editorial photo-shoot with EA lingerie as a good faith start of a relationship between Maria as a photographer, Ariel  as art director (at that point I was under impression Ariel actually KNEW what art direction was) and EA as a client. When we arrived at the meeting all of a sudden ladies from EA started talking about national campaign for next year and asking me what I could bring to the table. None of the questions asked by the EA lingerie team was I able to answer, being interrupted by Ariel over and over and over again.

Usual rule of thumb — do not finalize the money at first meeting, so many things go into the photoshoot — I could not quote them right there and then without additional information. Ariel tried to close the deal there and then and I had to figure out how to get out of that situation all the while 'keeping the face." My reputation is what keeps bringing me jobs. I value the reputation that I had created in professional circles. Situations like that are a great training to master the craft of business of photography and learn to do your study on people you are about to engage in business with as part of your team . No surprises in the future please.

Tiny bit about the whole passion thing. Result of the job is as important for me as a joy that comes doing it. I have trained myself to deliver results no matter what. Passion is one thing. Delivering on the client's goal is something else. Understanding what client needs and putting your best foot forward and making it happen to everybody's satisfaction is all together a different skill usually driven not just by passion only.

2. BOOOOO BABYYYY BOOOO. Hardy giving advice to George on kids, getting married, etc. From one broken winged bird to another one about to be broken. Spare the drama! Learn to live not offer your not-so-positive advice. If you are living and tolerating something that does not make you happy LEAVE IT ALONE. Start anew. Gosh, I know it's easy to say. But honestly we all have to do it sometime. If you learn how to do that clean slate - LET ME KNOW !

3. PASSION CURRENCY. The shock on EA lingerie girl's faces when they get introduced to a new photographer right on a shoot. I would hate to be a client who gets put in a position like that. I think they handled themselves gracefully. Side not: Interesting how PASSION of a photographer was not enough to produce stunning images. I wonder if any of those shots ever made it to print. And the icing on the cake - Ariel praising himself on how well he had done on that shoot in the commentary.

4. LOOK TO THE LEFT, YOU WILL SEE....Kat performing for the camera during the Ben and Kat scene at Van Dyke Cafe. When I was listening to her talk about how great Miami is I felt like I was listening to the radio anchor advertising the next tourist trap, i couldn't help but ask myself "Kat who are you talking to??," its BEN your husband of 13 years. I know I come down hard on Kat in my blog and truly I wish her all the best and especially to be ( if she is not I am sure she is VERY close ) continue being truly happy. NOT TO CALL OUT on all the things that are not making sense after close observation is one of the things I am learning nowadays. Because really what good had it done to anyone?

5. MANIPULATE ME, HONEY. The scene where Lina starts "milking" (George's wording) George for all his sanity with the pregnancy thing. Come on guys. Just run! Opposite direction from each other. Both of you I am sure both of you are BETTER human beings without each other. And now to the good stuff!

My fav moments of the episode 4.

1.Telling to Ariel I cant work with him. It was not easy. But I stood my grounds, I was professional. I loved it. Notice how I take my shades off so he can see my eyes? I like to have eye contact with people. Remember the tip I gave YOU last week on the powdering under the eye area. Yep it def would have helped me in that scene :) I feel like may be I should have taken it more seriously with the make up and looking pristine during filming, just like Kat did. The big lashes and Dewey skin and the whole shebang.

2. Gonzalo giving present to Sorah. It shows he thought of her on his trip and it was a present that was personal. lovely.

3. Watching Kat look at houses. I think you CAN live in a 7 bedroom home as a single girl, Michael. And who cares what people think of you!?

4. Holding Michael's hand during eye surgery. I am glad i was there for him, he is a real girl about things like that :) Dr. Lessner was a true sweetheart and very gentle and professional, let alone good looking ! His wife Maria is a lucky girl :)) I guess we will have to be building more pillow walls in bed in next 10 days between me and Michael, because we both are going to LA! I will be blogging about the trip on my website. Michael and me really bonded after filming. We watched THE SECRET last night and Michael already had been experiencing it in action right next day. His Kabbalah bracelet fell off as a good sign! I have read the book in 2006 and my success today is a manifestation of the Secret - in other words of positive thinking and of the law of attraction. Watch the movie guys ;) You will see what I mean.

5. Watching all the beautiful scenes of scenery of Miami (specially the sun going down aerial view of Miami Beach). I will miss it when I am away for two to three weeks a month starting september (splitting my time between LA and Miami and Lugano). Until next week my friends, drink lots of water, don't overexpose yourselves to sun and spend more time with animals (visit a zoo or pet your cat or dog more often), you can learn empathy, love, tenderness and care from them. Embrace the "ANIMAL" side of you. Because we are not that different after all.

I Choose To Be Me

Maria reflects on the season, and offers some words of advice.

Please show me a funny movie. After watching the finale of Miami Social I wanted to weep. Weep so hard that wolfs on an imaginary moon would hear me and come play with me and we can make it into a positive experience instead of the earth shattering, walls sweating in tears, give me 11 pills to take all at ones to kill myself, sweet one.

In one of the previous comments on my blogs a "viewer" asks if that is at all possible to be positive and assertive when life is a total mess and you dont see light at the end of the tunnel. My answer is yes. This is one of the two ways you can work this situation. One we all know. A lot of people follow quitting for real route. And I dont blame them. It is an easier way out. We all are going to die one day. I'd rather die knowing I tried to make my life enjoyable first. Another way (BETTER FOR ME) is to stay positive. To learn to twist your attitude around (it's all in your head, trust me) is by doing things that make us want to smile and that change our moods to the right direction. It's that simple and physical. To try and try and try and try and try. I promise there is always sun after the rain. The same viewer asks if that would have really helped if someone was there to tell me to be positive and assertive and pat me on shoulder in my harder days?

The answer is YES YES YES. I cant stress enough how important it is to have a support system. Please go out there to cafes, libraries, clubs, just go for a walk in a park, join your local photography club (pick a club for the hobby you have),  put an advert online on dating site, reconnect with your friends that live nearby. Do ANYTHING to start communicating with people and build friendships. Go do fun things together that will help you bond and become better friends. Then in the moment when u feel your throat is tightened by fear and all you can think of is that roof of that building across from yours and flying down like a bird if only for 1 minute until you hit it hard, when you feel your heart squeezed with unexplainable turmoil and the need to flush it out of your chest cavity you can reach out to your friend, stalk their doorway if needed and get that pat on shoulder and help. Sometime when your friend feels low and u want to cheer them up by taking them to new art exhibit or buying them a glass of champagne and share, you inadvertently pick your own spirits up.

Having friends is all around good. For you and for them. I am experiencing highs and lows a lot even now and I am far from where I see myself on life's map. It does not however stop me from enjoying myself in everyday simple things. I do still feel lonely and it's even worse knowing Angelika is far away in school. My cats warm my bed when I come home alone after party or a long photo shoot (to answer numerous questions about where you can see more of my work go to my website http://www.marialankina.com) and there are times when I want to "hang my chaps" and just give up. But I am not letting myself. I feel like I always can go for that later, if ever.

I choose to dream big, do my yoga every day, cycle in gym instead of shrink visits, work on my fine art and have my assistant busy with organizing my jet set travels all over the globe plotting the world take over that's OH SO SWEET and hey everyone can enjoy this ride with me! I choose to be me. When I am on a roller-coaster at amusement park, the one that scares the sh*t out of everyone - baby strapped around me and in for a ride that might make their pants wet, I am envisioning myself getting an Oscar on stage in a beautiful gown and you know what I feel? JOY and overlwelming heart warmth , not fear of the construction falling down and my insides splattering on metal railings of it. Power of visualization takes us to incredible heights. TRY IT. Tell me how it works for you.

I feel like there is never going to be a boring 100% calm period in our lives. I am learning to feel grateful for challenge. Whether it is in our jobs or personal relationships. Challenges and difficulties meant to make us grow. Our souls and our hearts. I feel it's not about what the problem is, but how you deal with it. So you learn. Learn to appreciate it and embrace it.

I feel for everyone (my friends) on the show. I feel for Lina and George, they are trying and this is admirable. I wish there was someone to REALLY help them figure it all out. I wonder if we can fully UNDERSTAND each other. I felt frustrated numerous times in my life and relationships where I felt I was from Venus and they were from Mars (book by John Gray) and I really wanted to talk to them using language we both would fully understand. I still do not know if that in fact is a possibility. I am also learning there is not ONE truth — mine of-course, but many. As many as there are people involved in one particular argument (reading my friend's autobiography and learning it on the fly). I wonder why I had to meet this guy just now and not 15 years ago when the realization of multiple truths existence would have saved me so many tears (hey I could use them to add on to the ocean's salt, so global warming would not be a real threat :).  Now I also wonder if I can actually implement this thinking in my life??? Can you ??

I feel for Katrina. I have been asked if I am jealous of her and if that is why I pick on her. I dont think i am jealous. It's just my habit of calling people out on their BS (or what I think is BS) when I see it peek it's ugly face out from under the life's regularity. My kudos for Kat's growing experience. Hey when I was 28 (like Kat now) I made a bunch of mistakes too, that are painful to think of, and boy I am not sure I would want them to be documented in areality TV based way. I really wish more of what's REALLY happening in Kat's head and life was out there. It's a far better learning experience for everyone viewing THAT, then something you can only see when u dig an inch deep.

I feel for Michael. He would do so well just being born a girl in 1950s. He would make an amazing housewife with talent to turn into that bitch in bed and glamourpuss on man's hand at the dare events of the year. But he is born in male's body) hot one albeit :) with receding hair (he is working on it and dont u dare to blame him for it, and PLEASE dont tell him to just shave his head, he will cry in response and hate you forever : ) and he has an amazing six pack. He is smart. And a very talented writer and soon to become a very successful business entrepreneur. I wish for the right investor to cross Michael's path and for the style lab online get wider audience! With the right team put together(in place) and passion (in place) and right investment (?) it will grow to become successful business of helping others to be better themselves.

I feel for Trixia because she can join the "my boyfriends is an asshole" club and that is not where we all want to be. I wish for Hardy to stop playing host in his own life and take charge of it and go for what he wants rather then trying to satisfy other people's needs only and then finding himself unhappy with the way it makes him feel. TRAPPED.

I feel for Ariel but u know what? He will be just fine. Because money can always buy you another session with shrink. And money is what he says he has. So all I can give is peck on a cheek and pat on shoulder and Ariel you can always call me for that :)

I feel for Sorah and wish her to let go. I know how hard it can be and I do not know if that is at all possible. Especially when you live in the same building. But I am sure sooner or later things will settle down in her heart and i am sure that will be the right choice.

I read in LA times this week in interview with Criss Angel: "When we're kids, we sit there and play with mom's brush and pretend it to be an airplane, because we're able to suspend our disbelief. But as we get to be adults, society tells us that's wrong and we have to conform." Please don't ever conform.

We are still here - IT IS SOMETHING. Here is my order for you from the menu of life - MAKE IT COUNT! Check back on me often on me on my website http://www.marialankina.com I have fallen into habit of blogging about what had happened in my life and what I am going through and for some of you it can work as an inspiration to go and get it ! I need your support as much as you need mine. Together we can make this world spin! That's what friends are for.