Cast Blog: #MIAMISOCIAL

The Power of the Word

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Love Life, Shed Light, and the Rest Will Follow

Incredibly Moved

I Choose To Be Me

A Hair Raising Season!

The Usual Suspects

Man in the Mirror

A Clear Picture

Don't Get It Twisted!

Egos Unmask!

A Lot of Fireworks

What a Ride

Spare the Drama!

A Dreamer and a Fighter

Say My Name, Bitches!

Big Egos and Big Shields

A Little Miracle

All You Need Is Love

Rollercoaster Relationship

I Have A Heart

Cutting Up On Lina

Too X-Rated

Going Against The Grain

Crazy Energy

Thinking Big

The Little Lies of Miami Social

Take No Prisoners

A Legend In His Own Mind

Glam Oily Bodies

Work Hard, Play Hard

No Place Like It

Ouch!

Whipped

Proud and Privileged

The Power of the Word

Find out what Katrina thinks of Ariel's cutting comments!

After watching the third episode of Miami Social, Hardy’s words directed at Ariel during our lunch meeting resonate –“your sentiments can be misinterpreted by your choice of words.” Words are extremely powerful as they are the mirror of the soul and the voice of the heart. Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core - the way you express yourself paints a picture to our society of who you are and what you believe. Just as one painting can be interpreted in a myriad ways so can your diction.

A prime example of how words can scar your soul is Ariel’s obsession with people that are overweight. He admits during this episode that he was overweight and subsequently mocked quite frequently as a child. It is from these past experiences that his sensitivity toward the issue arises. I feel strongly about the subject since I work closely with young women in many different forums and I am adamant when I speak to them about respect, morals, ethics and the road to success. I cannot emphasize enough how important the right “focus” in life is – thoughts create reality and our focus determines our destination. When you respect people and accept them as they are you can then be much more effective in helping them to become better than they are.

Ariel is extremely talented and has a brilliant mind. He will accomplish all his goals, no doubt - yet I would love to see him do so while at peace with himself. As a friend that cares for him I wish he would release the deep rooted anger instilled in him by his peers as a child. The fact that he still believes he has weight to lose proves that his wounds subsist. Evidently and best said by Buddha - "Words have the power to destroy or heal. When words are true and kind, they can change the world.”

On another note, I was happy to see that during the third episode, less of my relationship with Ben was showcased and more emphasis was placed on my drive and passion for real estate. The thrill of the deal is very much a driving factor in my success as a business woman and the building of my Campins Company brand is paramount. Challenging myself and knowing that I can overcome any obstacle thrown my way, maintains my focus and fuels me to accomplish more. I have always believed that you will never rise above the image you have of yourself in your own mind as someone once said. Money certainly doesn’t drive me and Ben would be the first to attest to that since I often forget to cash checks. Knowing first hand what hard work and dedication can result in makes me continue to strive for greater things. http://www.thecampinscompany.com & http://www.katrinacampins.com

The two comments I get the most from people I meet are that I am the most driven person they have ever met and that I am much nicer than they had anticipated. As many times as I hear that I am always taken aback because I never associated success with having the right to be rude. As I mentioned to Michael in episode two, I truly believe that we are all made out of the same fabric which is why we must respect each other. Instead of focusing on the petty, people should strive to be better selves.

A good friend of mine commented on my casual statement about gay men not being able to be masculine to Michael during our weekly meeting at the Gansevoort. My bad – the truth is that I had never given it a thought prior to that particular moment and it was a simple and candid reaction to a conversation. Again – I do not focus on others, I do not judge anyone and I certainly do not generalize – therefore, my apologies if I offended anyone! The other discussion I wanted to clarify is the references made regarding Kim Kardashian. Michael and Ariel were simply pushing each other’s buttons- these guys are really good hearted people. Michael was wrong to have said what he said but it was done without malice. I guess he has been in the entertainment business too long. I personally take my hat off too Kim as she has built a tremendous brand - something I do not take lightly knowing how much work going into doing so. Props to you Kim! Keep shining!

In closing, I want to touch on the topic of Miami and the distorted perception we face as socialites in a beautifully produced MIAMI SOCIAL! Having been born and raised here, the stigma that Miami is wholly superficial, competitive, fickle and unscrupulous is disconcerting to me. Miami is indeed “THE MAGIC CITY," one of the nation’s most beautiful, well-rounded metropolitan havens with unique international flavor, pulsating and stimulating with diverse energies and Caribbean rhythms. Miami means big-city sophistication, exciting global marketplaces and seductive beaches. With its diverse population and disparate levels of wealth Miami is a hemispheric crossroads for trade, travel, culture and communications.

Getting back to the power of the word, acquaint yourself with the city, use the knowledge with wisdom, respect interdependence and enjoy the show as well as the scenery – it only gets better!

Do not knock it until you try it!

I Choose To Be Me

Maria reflects on the season, and offers some words of advice.

Please show me a funny movie. After watching the finale of Miami Social I wanted to weep. Weep so hard that wolfs on an imaginary moon would hear me and come play with me and we can make it into a positive experience instead of the earth shattering, walls sweating in tears, give me 11 pills to take all at ones to kill myself, sweet one.

In one of the previous comments on my blogs a "viewer" asks if that is at all possible to be positive and assertive when life is a total mess and you dont see light at the end of the tunnel. My answer is yes. This is one of the two ways you can work this situation. One we all know. A lot of people follow quitting for real route. And I dont blame them. It is an easier way out. We all are going to die one day. I'd rather die knowing I tried to make my life enjoyable first. Another way (BETTER FOR ME) is to stay positive. To learn to twist your attitude around (it's all in your head, trust me) is by doing things that make us want to smile and that change our moods to the right direction. It's that simple and physical. To try and try and try and try and try. I promise there is always sun after the rain. The same viewer asks if that would have really helped if someone was there to tell me to be positive and assertive and pat me on shoulder in my harder days?

The answer is YES YES YES. I cant stress enough how important it is to have a support system. Please go out there to cafes, libraries, clubs, just go for a walk in a park, join your local photography club (pick a club for the hobby you have),  put an advert online on dating site, reconnect with your friends that live nearby. Do ANYTHING to start communicating with people and build friendships. Go do fun things together that will help you bond and become better friends. Then in the moment when u feel your throat is tightened by fear and all you can think of is that roof of that building across from yours and flying down like a bird if only for 1 minute until you hit it hard, when you feel your heart squeezed with unexplainable turmoil and the need to flush it out of your chest cavity you can reach out to your friend, stalk their doorway if needed and get that pat on shoulder and help. Sometime when your friend feels low and u want to cheer them up by taking them to new art exhibit or buying them a glass of champagne and share, you inadvertently pick your own spirits up.

Having friends is all around good. For you and for them. I am experiencing highs and lows a lot even now and I am far from where I see myself on life's map. It does not however stop me from enjoying myself in everyday simple things. I do still feel lonely and it's even worse knowing Angelika is far away in school. My cats warm my bed when I come home alone after party or a long photo shoot (to answer numerous questions about where you can see more of my work go to my website http://www.marialankina.com) and there are times when I want to "hang my chaps" and just give up. But I am not letting myself. I feel like I always can go for that later, if ever.

I choose to dream big, do my yoga every day, cycle in gym instead of shrink visits, work on my fine art and have my assistant busy with organizing my jet set travels all over the globe plotting the world take over that's OH SO SWEET and hey everyone can enjoy this ride with me! I choose to be me. When I am on a roller-coaster at amusement park, the one that scares the sh*t out of everyone - baby strapped around me and in for a ride that might make their pants wet, I am envisioning myself getting an Oscar on stage in a beautiful gown and you know what I feel? JOY and overlwelming heart warmth , not fear of the construction falling down and my insides splattering on metal railings of it. Power of visualization takes us to incredible heights. TRY IT. Tell me how it works for you.

I feel like there is never going to be a boring 100% calm period in our lives. I am learning to feel grateful for challenge. Whether it is in our jobs or personal relationships. Challenges and difficulties meant to make us grow. Our souls and our hearts. I feel it's not about what the problem is, but how you deal with it. So you learn. Learn to appreciate it and embrace it.

I feel for everyone (my friends) on the show. I feel for Lina and George, they are trying and this is admirable. I wish there was someone to REALLY help them figure it all out. I wonder if we can fully UNDERSTAND each other. I felt frustrated numerous times in my life and relationships where I felt I was from Venus and they were from Mars (book by John Gray) and I really wanted to talk to them using language we both would fully understand. I still do not know if that in fact is a possibility. I am also learning there is not ONE truth — mine of-course, but many. As many as there are people involved in one particular argument (reading my friend's autobiography and learning it on the fly). I wonder why I had to meet this guy just now and not 15 years ago when the realization of multiple truths existence would have saved me so many tears (hey I could use them to add on to the ocean's salt, so global warming would not be a real threat :).  Now I also wonder if I can actually implement this thinking in my life??? Can you ??

I feel for Katrina. I have been asked if I am jealous of her and if that is why I pick on her. I dont think i am jealous. It's just my habit of calling people out on their BS (or what I think is BS) when I see it peek it's ugly face out from under the life's regularity. My kudos for Kat's growing experience. Hey when I was 28 (like Kat now) I made a bunch of mistakes too, that are painful to think of, and boy I am not sure I would want them to be documented in areality TV based way. I really wish more of what's REALLY happening in Kat's head and life was out there. It's a far better learning experience for everyone viewing THAT, then something you can only see when u dig an inch deep.

I feel for Michael. He would do so well just being born a girl in 1950s. He would make an amazing housewife with talent to turn into that bitch in bed and glamourpuss on man's hand at the dare events of the year. But he is born in male's body) hot one albeit :) with receding hair (he is working on it and dont u dare to blame him for it, and PLEASE dont tell him to just shave his head, he will cry in response and hate you forever : ) and he has an amazing six pack. He is smart. And a very talented writer and soon to become a very successful business entrepreneur. I wish for the right investor to cross Michael's path and for the style lab online get wider audience! With the right team put together(in place) and passion (in place) and right investment (?) it will grow to become successful business of helping others to be better themselves.

I feel for Trixia because she can join the "my boyfriends is an asshole" club and that is not where we all want to be. I wish for Hardy to stop playing host in his own life and take charge of it and go for what he wants rather then trying to satisfy other people's needs only and then finding himself unhappy with the way it makes him feel. TRAPPED.

I feel for Ariel but u know what? He will be just fine. Because money can always buy you another session with shrink. And money is what he says he has. So all I can give is peck on a cheek and pat on shoulder and Ariel you can always call me for that :)

I feel for Sorah and wish her to let go. I know how hard it can be and I do not know if that is at all possible. Especially when you live in the same building. But I am sure sooner or later things will settle down in her heart and i am sure that will be the right choice.

I read in LA times this week in interview with Criss Angel: "When we're kids, we sit there and play with mom's brush and pretend it to be an airplane, because we're able to suspend our disbelief. But as we get to be adults, society tells us that's wrong and we have to conform." Please don't ever conform.

We are still here - IT IS SOMETHING. Here is my order for you from the menu of life - MAKE IT COUNT! Check back on me often on me on my website http://www.marialankina.com I have fallen into habit of blogging about what had happened in my life and what I am going through and for some of you it can work as an inspiration to go and get it ! I need your support as much as you need mine. Together we can make this world spin! That's what friends are for.