Amy Laurent

Amy Laurent finally feels that happiness is within reach.

on Jul 30, 20120

Finally getting back to life in New York after my Greenwich stint feels good, and I certainly feel recharged compared to the sullen, depressed mood I was in when I was leaving the city for Joseph’s. I feel regenerated in a sense, more confident that perhaps I too can become a better dater and find happiness, rather than living through the successes that I find for my clients. I’ve relied for so long on my skills as a successful matchmaker, but it’s time to shine the light on my own life and my own dating insecurities. Everyone has them. No one is an exception, even matchmakers.

OK, so I LOVE KELLY WALLACE! Let me just put that out there. Going to iVillage to shoot segments for them threw me right back into what I do best -- giving others advice on how to find true love and be happy. Such a wonderful opportunity, and I felt right at home. It was a little gut-wrenching to be thrown a question about being dumped, yet at the same time it felt good to be giving advice that wasn’t just tied to my experience as a matchmaker, but to my experience as a woman. It felt real at a deeper level; I was giving the very same advice to a woman in my position that I should be listening to myself. And I feel like I’ve grown lately in my personal life over the course of a trying few weeks. Finally I feel like things are changing. And for the better.

So when I get asked out by a guy at my gym (which is clearly against my rule of dating someone from the gym you go to), I find myself presented with an opportunity to do things right -- as I would tell my clients to. Sure, Kevin isn’t my typical type. He’s shorter and actually over the age of 35. Well, perhaps now is the time to be open to changing some of the ways I’ve been choosing the guys I say yes to. Lorenzo would be proud! I find Kevin genuine, honest, and he’s definitely into fitness which is a big plus for me. I also loved his approach to asking me out on a date. He wasn’t slimy, aggressive, or off-putting. I have a lot of respect for a man who knows how to ask.

5 comments
@ALLISONSMILES
@ALLISONSMILES

I absolutely LOVE the way you are willing to show the world that growth is necessary no matter how much expertise one has on a subject!  I am tuned in weekly waiting to find out what will happen in your life!  I felt the shatter of spirit as Lewis began to interrogate your reasoning.  I wanted to fight back when Tina attacked your person. I pull my Maltese closer at the end of the day knowing that dogs really are our BFF!  I am learning and growing with you.  Bravo made the right choice when they picked YOU!

 

All my love, 

 @allisonsmiles 

Cha-Cha68
Cha-Cha68

I have to admit, it wasn't until this epi that I became a fan of yours...I can't put my finger on it, but for the most part, I agree with the other comment that your facade has to do with insecurities.  You weren't coming across very sincere...and really, you weren't a very likeable "character" to me...UNTIL you kinda lightened up on the date with Scott and then later with the curly dude.  You were actually giddy at the gym, and it was nice to see you lose the prim-ish pretense you seem to carry with you.

Hecuba
Hecuba

So far, so good with Kevin! With Lewis, all you could think about was how cute he was. With Kevin, you're talking about how he makes you feel.

LC411
LC411

Amy it made me happy to see your date on this episode. I felt like this was the real you. You seemed cool and fun to be with, and I thought your compliments to Kevin sounded kind and sincere - not at all over the top. I actually thought the rock-climbing date was a good idea: he knew you both were into fitness, and he planned a date that would allow you to focus more, at least initially, on the activity rather than first-date jitters. In the end I think it allowed you to be yourself, which he clearly liked!

And I think he is cute - like you said, what a body! Definitely got even cuter the more he revealed his warm personality!

judyann325
judyann325

i think you're beautiful and intelligent.  you come off as overly confident, and i would probably find you intimidating if i met you.  i think that's a cover for your own insecurities.  maybe if i, as a woman, sense that about you...that's why you have troubling connecting in relationships with men.  it's great that you met kevin at the gym, and he sees the real you, the you that's just there to get centered.  perhaps that's why you were able to just be yourself with him, instead of putting on an act.  btw, i thought that guy lewis was super hot and definitely f-able, and it was commendable that he appeared to be a gentleman and you didn't bring him up to your place after the salsa date.  i thought he was a complete prick and cruel when he lambasted you over burgers on your third date.  if he found your nagging off-putting, then he should have talked to you about it honestly and moved on.  that's what you did at the salsa date.  yes, you were too demanding, but at least you were honest.  he was a real creep and cruel.  you're better off without that jerk.  you seem to be near 40 to me; don't go out with young guys anymore.  you're pretty enough to attract them, but not young enough to keep them.  look what happened with demi and ashton right?  are you going out with scott again?  (the one you went apple picking with.)  you two had fun together!!  you rock amy and i like you a lot girl.