Amy Laurent

Amy explains why she confronted Lewis during their date.

on Jul 9, 20120

Sometimes even the best of us can complicate things that should be very simple. I have my very short, simple rules for women in the early stages of dating: Do not be the one to initiate. Do not send the first text. Do not make the first phone call. And do not ask him out. Ever. Even if you’re feeling insecure, hoping he’ll call, and secretly a bit sad because you haven’t heard from him yet, you need to sit back, keep busy, and stay confident. No matter what. Of course, this is easier said then done. Especially when it’s YOUR heart involved. However, it must be done, and at all costs.

And if you haven’t heard from this person as soon as you expected, you get to choose whether it’s still worth a chance or whether it’s gone too long. If it’s the latter, then you simply have to teach people how to treat you and move on. You can’t, however, have it both ways. As you saw, I struggled after my talk with Lorenzo. I was thrown off course a little bit. At first, I was excited to see Lewis, and the fact that he hadn’t texted or called lately was merely a side thought. However, after my chat with the “prince” himself (I love saying that LOL!) I really started doubting myself, my choice to accept a date with a 28-year-old, and exactly how in control of things I really might be. Our chat stuck with me. But I still did make the decision to say yes to a date with Lewis when he finally did call. Here is where it gets hairy, when I tell people that you can’t have it both ways.

7 comments
mcraig.nyu
mcraig.nyu

Ugh! You are really putting successful women to shame with all of your obnoxious insecurities and disfigured beliefs.  You were so rude to Louis and I'm sure you rude to other people you date.   Dear lord, you are more insecure than Julia, which is pretty sad. Do your self a favor and change careers and get off this show.

gabbyval
gabbyval

I am really sorry but the way you come across is very snotty and not all that smart.  You have been very rude and not well liked at all.  I think you should focus on the attitude , feeling like you are an expert, when truely the way it comes across is that you are very negative and not a happy person at all.I hope something changes for you because its very hard to watch your behavior and shake our heads.  Please try to stop being so judgemental and enjoy something in your life. You wont have a problem meeting anyone if you change your disposition.  

gagepetronzi
gagepetronzi

The audience needs to losen up and enjoy the show for what it is. Plus there's some good pointers in there for the hopeful romantics out there. You are a confident and fabulous woman, pay no mind to the negative chatter. You are a joy to watch and it's fun to hear your narratives on dating, both smart and fun. As for you viewers: judging from the nasty comments, some of you negative nellies out there need a man, or ain't gettin enough...capiche?

TXSongbird
TXSongbird

Please hire a voice coach, and follow your own rules. Edit your thoughts before you voice them. If in doubt, don't. You'll find love.

chickenpotpie
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dear god woman. You confirm the belief that most match-makers are either narcissistic or incredibly insecure. Either way, by being a broker for love, it conveniently keeps you out of the game and away from judgement and rejection. Right - "too busy to date." Everyone says that. It also allows you to judge a lot of other women and tear them apart (see: Patti Stranger).

 

The truth is:  you aren't single for the reasons you think you are. It's not because you aren't pretty enough, or smart enough, or thin enough, or young enough. In fact, your disordered focus on these things is what is making you so unattractive. Instead try to find comfort in yourself. Start by being kind to yourself and others so you can enjoy life instead of endlessly prepping for an act that may never come.

gagepetronzi
gagepetronzi

 @chickenpotpie

 she is fabulous. we are only subject to twenty minutes of air-time and in that small time frame, we are only given certain glimpses of her. We all have our faults when dating, she puts it out there for people to see and isn't afraid to share and grow from it..and that's just fabulous.

mcraig.nyu
mcraig.nyu

 @gagepetronzi

 I respectfully disagree.  If you have that many insecurities, the solution is not to go on national television to make yourself look worse.