Amy Laurent

Amy explains why she confronted Lewis during their date.

on Jul 9, 2012

Sometimes even the best of us can complicate things that should be very simple. I have my very short, simple rules for women in the early stages of dating: Do not be the one to initiate. Do not send the first text. Do not make the first phone call. And do not ask him out. Ever. Even if you’re feeling insecure, hoping he’ll call, and secretly a bit sad because you haven’t heard from him yet, you need to sit back, keep busy, and stay confident. No matter what. Of course, this is easier said then done. Especially when it’s YOUR heart involved. However, it must be done, and at all costs.

And if you haven’t heard from this person as soon as you expected, you get to choose whether it’s still worth a chance or whether it’s gone too long. If it’s the latter, then you simply have to teach people how to treat you and move on. You can’t, however, have it both ways. As you saw, I struggled after my talk with Lorenzo. I was thrown off course a little bit. At first, I was excited to see Lewis, and the fact that he hadn’t texted or called lately was merely a side thought. However, after my chat with the “prince” himself (I love saying that LOL!) I really started doubting myself, my choice to accept a date with a 28-year-old, and exactly how in control of things I really might be. Our chat stuck with me. But I still did make the decision to say yes to a date with Lewis when he finally did call. Here is where it gets hairy, when I tell people that you can’t have it both ways.