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Fear of Rejection
Amy explains why she confronted Lewis during their date.
Jul 9, 2012If and when you do decide to give a person another chance though, there may be a few warning signs he’s not that serious, then you need to mean it. You need to actually go on the date with a positive attitude and trust you’ll make good decisions. I did not. I went into this date with Lorenzo’s voice in the back of my mind. I can’t blame this all on him of course, as I was the one who let it throw me off and let my insecurities set in. As women, we need to keep our eye on this and stay level-headed at all times. We have to trust ourselves. We have to believe that we are confident people, who can have fun simply getting to know someone, without tripping ourselves up by over-analyzing prematurely or feeling insecure about whether someone is liking us or not.
It’s safe to say I have a fear of rejection, made worse by the fact that I have gone a long time being in control of every element in my life and orchestrating the experiences of my clients. So now that I have dusted off my own dating shoes and gone back out onto the dating dance floor, I’m realizing for the first time why I’ve stood so long on the sidelines helping everybody else find a partner -- by not dating, I’ve been avoiding the possibility of rejection. I’ve also been avoiding the fear of the toughest question -- am I good enough for this person to like me? The fear of that question has been keeping me from focusing on my own dating life and behind the matchmaking chair. Yet, in order to be happy, I’m discovering we all have to confront our deepest insecurities to get over whatever is holding us back. Well, this is mine.
I am really sorry but the way you come across is very snotty and not all that smart. You have been very rude and not well liked at all. I think you should focus on the attitude , feeling like you are an expert, when truely the way it comes across is that you are very negative and not a happy person at all.I hope something changes for you because its very hard to watch your behavior and shake our heads. Please try to stop being so judgemental and enjoy something in your life. You wont have a problem meeting anyone if you change your disposition.
The audience needs to losen up and enjoy the show for what it is. Plus there's some good pointers in there for the hopeful romantics out there. You are a confident and fabulous woman, pay no mind to the negative chatter. You are a joy to watch and it's fun to hear your narratives on dating, both smart and fun. As for you viewers: judging from the nasty comments, some of you negative nellies out there need a man, or ain't gettin enough...capiche?
Please hire a voice coach, and follow your own rules. Edit your thoughts before you voice them. If in doubt, don't. You'll find love.
dear god woman. You confirm the belief that most match-makers are either narcissistic or incredibly insecure. Either way, by being a broker for love, it conveniently keeps you out of the game and away from judgement and rejection. Right - "too busy to date." Everyone says that. It also allows you to judge a lot of other women and tear them apart (see: Patti Stranger).
The truth is: you aren't single for the reasons you think you are. It's not because you aren't pretty enough, or smart enough, or thin enough, or young enough. In fact, your disordered focus on these things is what is making you so unattractive. Instead try to find comfort in yourself. Start by being kind to yourself and others so you can enjoy life instead of endlessly prepping for an act that may never come.
chickenpotpie
she is fabulous. we are only subject to twenty minutes of air-time and in that small time frame, we are only given certain glimpses of her. We all have our faults when dating, she puts it out there for people to see and isn't afraid to share and grow from it..and that's just fabulous.
gagepetronzi
I respectfully disagree. If you have that many insecurities, the solution is not to go on national television to make yourself look worse.
Ugh! You are really putting successful women to shame with all of your obnoxious insecurities and disfigured beliefs. You were so rude to Louis and I'm sure you rude to other people you date. Dear lord, you are more insecure than Julia, which is pretty sad. Do your self a favor and change careers and get off this show.
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