If and when you do decide to give a person another chance though, there may be a few warning signs he’s not that serious, then you need to mean it. You need to actually go on the date with a positive attitude and trust you’ll make good decisions. I did not. I went into this date with Lorenzo’s voice in the back of my mind. I can’t blame this all on him of course, as I was the one who let it throw me off and let my insecurities set in. As women, we need to keep our eye on this and stay level-headed at all times. We have to trust ourselves. We have to believe that we are confident people, who can have fun simply getting to know someone, without tripping ourselves up by over-analyzing prematurely or feeling insecure about whether someone is liking us or not.
It’s safe to say I have a fear of rejection, made worse by the fact that I have gone a long time being in control of every element in my life and orchestrating the experiences of my clients. So now that I have dusted off my own dating shoes and gone back out onto the dating dance floor, I’m realizing for the first time why I’ve stood so long on the sidelines helping everybody else find a partner -- by not dating, I’ve been avoiding the possibility of rejection. I’ve also been avoiding the fear of the toughest question -- am I good enough for this person to like me? The fear of that question has been keeping me from focusing on my own dating life and behind the matchmaking chair. Yet, in order to be happy, I’m discovering we all have to confront our deepest insecurities to get over whatever is holding us back. Well, this is mine.