If one of you said to me, “Amy, my ex (who hurt me) is coming back into town and wants to see me,” I would have said “absolutely not” and I would have made it my duty to save you from yourself. I would have set you up on blind dates for every night of the week your ex was here if I had to in order to keep you from sabotaging yourself or falling into destructive behavior!
So what the hell happened to me? I know. Guys, this is a little painful for me. I’m confused as to what just happened. The dinner with AB seemed to be happening in slow motion, and at any given moment I felt like I was being stabbed in the stomach multiple times while trying to keep a smile on my face. I’m wondering why I wasn’t more direct and to the point with him. And honestly, I’m pissed I even went. Never did I think that seeing AB now, after so much time has passed, would result in feeling like this. I was supposed to be over this! I was not supposed to be that same insecure person I was when I was with him a year and a half ago.
Or at least that’s what I told myself as an excuse to go see him. Watching it happen now, it’s tough. I would NEVER advise a client to do that. There are no "special situations," no exceptions to any of my rules. Ever. Myself included. For this exact reason!