Amy Laurent is ready to let her guard down with Kevin.
So things have come full circle for me; I find myself sitting here and thinking about some of the things I’ve gone through and finally trying to understand what has been holding me back with my own personal dating goals. Not by any stretch of the meaning am I used to focusing so much on my own issues or emotions. After so many years of ignoring those issues and just focusing on helping my clients, it’s sort of a scary and uncharted territory for me. Yet, as I’m sitting here I’m recognizing that for the moment I am HAPPY. Do we all deserve to be happy? Maybe my answer for myself is finally yes.
So let’s be honest. I’m not used to a guy like Kevin -- he’s supportive, complimentary, and overall POSITIVE. What the hell do I do with that?! It’s a little bit strange for me to be around someone so nice, but at the same time there is no way I can let this set me back -- I’m sick of having anything good fall to pieces and not making good decisions in the name of self-sabotage. I would NEVER let a client screw this up for themselves. So why don’t I recognize that I deserve that very same consideration too? I better not screw this up now only because I’m used to young, condescending a-holes.
The majority of my day of course has me reverting back to work (sorry, I can’t help it, baby steps!) and the fact that I still get my ultimate joy from seeing my client Tim Sykes and Lauren together. They are truly ADORABLE; I just knew they were going to hit it off and were a match. Tim has really started to grow on me since that first day I met him, and nothing would make me happier then to see him happy! I will make sure that happens for all my clients, but yet with Tim I feel I have really taken him under my wing. He’s finally following ALL of my rules! I am a proud mama hen, and he and Lauren truly seem happy. I love it.OK, now back to Kevin and the fact that when I got home from work there was a package waiting for me. Not only is Kevin super sweet (which I’m trying to embrace), but now he sends me a gift before the second date? Argh, OK I’m struggling here and keep hovering my thoughts between “this is the most thoughtful thing anyone’s ever done” to “OMG this is weird, maybe I shouldn’t go out with this guy?” But I stop myself. Why? Because I refuse to sabotage myself for once in my life when something good is happening for me. Isn’t that part of my past insecurity of “I’m not good enough” that got me into a bad relationship with AB and completely being the kind of withering, meek girl in front of Lewis that is not excusable for any woman?
I’m really starting to think that I’ve avoided my own happiness and dating by hiding behind my work and throwing myself full on into my clients for so many years because some twisted part of me WAS worried I wasn’t good enough. I gave consideration to my clients’ happiness, but why haven’t I given that same consideration to myself? Have I really been treating myself so poorly and beating myself up? And if so, then for what reason? Things are going to change, and they’re going to change NOW. My eyes are wide open, and I probably will never be the same after these past few months.
So damn it, the pajama pants are cute, and I’m going to own this and accept someone giving me compliments and being really sweet to me. You know what? Because I deserve it. There. I said it. I’m finally allowing myself that, because I am worthy. I finally get it.Seeing Kevin for the second date was probably one of the most special and happy moments that I’ve had in a long while, and I’m really proud of the fact that as frightful as it is for me, I’m staying open. I’m not running away, doubting myself, feeling like I need to please someone or that I have to change who I am in order to be liked. Sure, we all have flaws and things we need to work on. I tell my clients this every day and force them to confront the very obstacles that keep setting them back in getting who they really deserve in a relationship. Well now Amy is finally good enough and worthy enough to take Amy’s own advice for once. Thank god, something is finally changing.
After the bumps and bruises, one can start to realize change is good. I am left with so many thoughts after this date with Kevin and the incredible kiss that felt wonderful. My head is spinning right now, but I feel like I’m alive again. And it’s OK to be human with these emotions. In fact, it’s really NICE. I feel like something that was shut off inside of me (without even knowing it) has suddenly been jump-started and is alive again thanks to Kevin and this whole experience. My stomach is filled with a warm sensation and I literally feel like someone flipped the on switch. It’s as if some little part in me I’ve ignored for a while is coming back to life. It’s a bit emotional for me, and I am thankful. I’m HAPPY.
Oddly enough, sitting in a silent room right now with all of this feels good. I have a sense of hope and the realization that good things can happen for me. I’m finally contemplating what it is that I really want for my future and what it really means to be happy. I’m excited about the future and what it might hold for me.