Most of my trips home are all about family. So it was odd to have a date in Michigan, which I’m certain hasn’t happened since college. Not to mention a date with someone I had a crush on in the 5th grade. I dug up the old class photo only to find my 10-year-old hands had scrawled “babe” across David's photo. Just in case I needed any evidence, there it was in faded black marker.
Amy in Michigan is a friend from childhood and I was embarrassed that she picked up the phone and called David. No let me rephrase that: I was mortified.
But the butterflies have returned. From the instant I saw him I remember why I had a crush. David is adorable. Our first date leads to a second and next thing you know I’m inviting him to San Francisco. I’d say this was a good date.
Julia, I'm so glad you connected with love coach Annie. She definitely had some sage advice: “Shame is the biggest barrier to true authentic self-expression.” And this situation makes me this of this truth: “Whatever we resist, persists.” Sometimes the best way out is through, and I think every person on this planet has something to slog through.
Amy this date with Mr. Wrong is so funny. I agree when men talk about their real estate, their cars, or any other worldly possessions within the first few minutes, I’m overwhelmingly unimpressed. It actually has the opposite effect on me. I’m aware there’s an ilk of women who want to check the balance on a guys bank account before accepting a date, but I've never been one of those women. I agree with Amy’s advice that you should continue to date when you first start seeing someone. You never know where a relationship is going to go so why put all your eggs in one basket.