Julia Allison

Julia really, really loves prom.

on Jul 16, 20120

Cue Peter Crone, the “mind architect” as he calls himself, or “happiness expert” as he is called in the episode. I greet him at my door, furious over my column, which isn’t going “perfectly.” I’m tense, rigid in my body, and Peter calls me out on it.

 

 

“You’re closed up,” he says.

“You shouldn’t be wearing a shirt,” I think.

Yeah, sorry. It’s hard to concentrate on enlightenment when someone that godlike sits mere inches from me on the couch.

As I go through the three-hour hypnosis (OK, OK, so he didn’t TECHNICALLY hypnotize me, but that’s certainly what it felt like), I felt my body -- and then mind -- relax. Sort of the way you feel after a glass of wine or a massage or ... an orgasm. Calm and clear and very UNblocked.

I write more in depth about my experience with Peter in my ELLE column, but suffice it to say, he began the long process of disabling my inner (nasty) critics’ diatribe -- which comes out both when I write and when I date, and doesn’t make either a more pleasant or authentic experience.

19 comments
Hecuba
Hecuba

How can a woman in her 30s "love prom"? It's like loving recess or loving Social Studies class. The great thing about being a grown-up is that you can dress up and hire a car and go out seven nights a week if you'd like. Putting on your old prom dress doesn't take you back to your old prom in a time machine.

 

When you try so hard to be a Manic Pixie Dream Girl, it takes all the spontaneity out of it.

 

I was really shocked to realize that Paris Hilton is in her 30s. All the pink glitter and ruffles and the little girl voice and the little doggies in dresses... not hot, not cute. Don't be Paris Hilton.

LikaLuv
LikaLuv

I read the blog comments, and hate to say it Julia, but I agree with most of them :( Out of all 3 women on the show, you are the most sane, but (big but), I don't think you are truly ready to settle down. Your actions clearly speak louder than words. It's ok to break some rules sometimes, but you have broken all of yours. It was really hard to watch last nights episode. I felt really bad for you. I hope this season turns around for you. I'm still rooting for you.

MaryGates
MaryGates

Julia, your awensome!!! I just love you!!! Keep being yourself!!!!

ashley0h
ashley0h

Holy crap.  Bravo execs, please listen up, this woman is unbearable to watch.  Unbearable.  The concept of the show is fantastic, however, Julia, you ruin it.  I can't get through a full episode because I cannot stand to cringe through your scenes.  You have zero depth, you come across as desperate, needy, and inauthentic...For God's sakes, you are recreating prom?  You wrote most of your blog defending why you love prom?  Grow up, do some eat, pray, love-soul searching, and get off of my tv. 

lulugriffin
lulugriffin

Why do you act so 12 years old?  No wonder you don't have a boyfriend...you push and push and eventually they just go away.  Men like the chase, they don't want to be ambushed and hunted. You seem so desperate and men can smell it.

JoninSA
JoninSA

Julia, you are a beautiful, fun girl but, you are way to aggressive and forward. Please settle down. I really like you so please take the advice of one who is older than you. Don't forget there are 2 people on the date, don't be so pushy and ask for kisses, don't get drunk on your dates. Act your age, I understand you love proms and frilly girl clothes. Most men aren't into that, you have to consider that. I know you say it's all about being yourself but you need to compromise. Take it down a notch and maybe things might work out for you! Best of luck.

epila
epila

Julie you are hilarious and so much fun to watch- please never stop being exactly who you are- it's awesome :).

yellowindmill@gmail.com
yellowindmill@gmail.com

Julia, I don't know how much of this show is real, but if what we are watching is true, you have got to calm down!  You are asking the guys to kiss you for God's sake!  at least one kept refusing, doesn't that tell you something?  You seem like a sweet young lady who suffers humiliation after humiliation because of your own actions.  When you watch the shows, it should show you how bad you come off.  I don't know if I'm investing my own feelings of frustration in watching this show that may not be real, but I have to say your portion of the show is difficult to watch as is the sex expert's.

marcizzz
marcizzz

Julia, you crack me up!  I think you have it right.... keep being YOU!  

 

When you meet  Mr. Right, he will love you for you!!!

You are beautiful, fun and real.  This means never ask a guy for a kiss.  If he's not feeling it then he is blind.  Most certainly he will never be MR. RIGHT.

 

Thanks for making me laugh. 

 

allison15
allison15

You do have a quirky, fun side and that's something that is unique to your personality.  I agree, be yourself on dates.  HOWEVER, I am about your age and have been on several dates in my life, and I can tell you that your overpowering, masculine behavior is probably turning guys off.  I agree with other posters on here.  You are too forward.  Ease up a little.

CindyPod
CindyPod

You are fantastically original Julia.   I loved the prom date!  Your energy has no bounds which is what I think makes you the shining star that you are.   I can't speak for everyone but you are a welcomed beam of light in my eyes.  Follow your heart.   Nobody gets it right until they find the right guy.  Don't change for anybody.

isab7772
isab7772

julia is fun and she was HERSELF on the date' men adore and love people like that.... dont go to crazy girl' because when real life sets in thats when men will chnage their minds.... but all in all you look like your getting your groove back sister! amen!

jerianne
jerianne

When your dating it isn't fun for the other person if it is all about you. Try something either one of you ave ever done. Makes the situaton neutral and not intimidating. Forcing people to do things they are uncomortable with such as kissing, dancing,etc.pus them in a defensive mode.

Jule seems to only think of herself and live in the past(Prom). Her pink bedroom is not inviting to a potential sexual partner unless the partner is female.

KacefromCali
KacefromCali

I think you are an insanely gorgeous and fun girl....but sometimes are a bit controlling on your dates.  As someone who has been like this in the past and married for a little while, I think there is something to letting the man take the lead a little and let him feel like he has a handle on the situation.  From Andrew asking you to get a drink first to asking you if he could plan the next date...you came off as a little domineering.  I think that can work initially, but will not always work in the long term.

jenlabug
jenlabug

This is the second episode that I've watched and I thought you were a total headcase during the previous week. In this episode, however, you came alive and I could see how much you love life! You need to keep being yourself and stop being so self-conscious. Do the things you love and be with people who make you laugh because you love to laugh! I thought you were freakin' hilarious when you were in the tuxedo store and you came out of the dressing room in your prom dress. That cracked me up! You need to do more crazy things like that and some guy is going to fall in love with this carefree young woman who has a great laugh and enjoys life!

monicacc
monicacc

I'm so hoping you find someone Julia!! However you are so insecure that you let it ruin your dates. If a guy wants to kiss you...he will kiss you! Your go to line on a date is "will you just kiss me already!" Its too forward and a bit desperate. The prom date ended so well and instead of answering his question about date 2, you threw out your "kiss me" line. I was like NOOO!! Ease up girl!

JuliaAllison
JuliaAllison

 @MaryGates Thank you Mary!!  I think the key to happiness is just finding what REALLY makes  you happy - even if everyone else thinks you're ridiculous!

LikaLuv
LikaLuv

@yellowindmill@gmail.com Lol! Get out of my head. My thoughts exactly. Emily's parts of the show are embarrassingly difficult to watch, next comes Julia :( and I like her too.

JuliaAllison
JuliaAllison

 @CindyPod "Nobody gets it right until they find the right guy." LOVE THIS Cindy!  And so true. I can tell you from experience, it's true!