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OK, now that we’ve cleared that up (because really, I would generally slap a girl who RENTED A STRETCH LIMO FOR A SECOND DATE), let’s get on to the good bits, namely horseback riding. This was my idea, for the record, and I had a damn good time doing it. I freaking love horseback riding. There are very few things I enjoy more. (Fully clothed, that is… Oh get your mind out the gutter, you, I was talking about a massage. Or something.) All I wanted to do was gallop around with my pink cowboy hat and my pink cowboy boots. Speaking of which, I purchased those both for the epic Wyoming cowboy wedding of my friends Dave (from Montana) and Brit (from Texas), and they are from Sheplers.com, which I’m betting will save you an email to me being all, “Oh hey Julia, um, where are those wicked awesome pink cowboy boots from? I want to purchase a pair for my niece.” Even though secretly you’ll buy them for yourself. I know you. I know your games. Every girl needs a pair of pink cowboy boots for HERSELF! And also for the record, the friend with whom I was watching said they were “trashy.” I thought that was mean and considered having a friend-dumping, but then I decided he was just jealous HE didn’t own pink cowboy boots and a pink cowboy hat. Obviously.
Right, so on from the transport and the costume (Did I say costume? Yes, I said costume.) to the actual date. I’ll tell you, after all that galloping, I was very much in the mood for some vino. Also I couldn’t feel the circulation in my legs. I had insisted upon wearing my college “skinny jeans,” because I feel strongly that they have a “Spanx-like effect” on my gluteus maximus, even though they don’t exactly “fit” in the traditional sense. Meaning they kept busting open in the crotch/zipper region. Awkward. All the more reason to drink those insanely delicious wines!
Other than that, with regard to wine tasting -- and alcohol in general, really -- I don’t really know how to talk about it, per se. If you ask me what flavors I taste in a particular vintage, like bark or citrus or shining star flower meadow dewdrops, I’ll usually answer what I’m thinking: “Tastes like alcohol!” Or sometimes, “Yum!” Those are pretty much the only two descriptive phrases I’m capable of when it comes to this sort of thing, so perhaps I’m not the most exciting wine tasting date. That said, I am good about giving the other party more wine, so they get more inebriated faster. I think of it as “manners” but others, like Sir William, may describe it as “hazing.” It’s really all a matter of perspective, don’t you think?
Julia, when you are yourself; talking to your friends or in your commentaries, you are so natural and darling, but when you were on your date you seemed very awkward. It appeared as though you were overcompensating for how uncomfortable you are in your own skin around men. I hope you will show your beautiful, natural, cute self one day to the most amazing man.
Julia, you are sweet,but you try to hard !! Slow down, let a guy get to know you. You come on to strong. Try letting the guy talk. Act hard to get.
Dear Julia: I am a happily married 48 woman with boy/girl twins. It's weird that I'm writing you, but I am so compelled by your personality. People may call you a princess, but that is because you are beautiful with life-loving personality. You will find the right person, and he'll be fun-loving, smart, witty, and he will adore you and any flaws. Just when you think he's too good to be true, something will happen and your man will rise to the occasion. There is nothing wrong with you're wearing your heart on your sleeve--that's who you are! I don't get why some have asked if you are authentic--don't listen to that. You are who you are! One woman advised you to lean back--that is as unnatural for you as for me being a contortionist! I actually think you should put a brake on looking for Mr. Right and buy a round-the-world airline ticket (first class, of course) and take a 12-16 months dating tour. Spend time having fun with men of different cultures, write about it, and spend at least six months in East Africa. You're dating some duds--nothing is wrong with you! You are larger than life and authentic! Find your passport and start your dating tour--you will find someone who is larger than life who adores you and is your best friend! Good luck and I'm cheering for you!!!! Pam--a friend that took a dating trip around the world
Girl, if a man is that boring on a date and standoffish, he's that boring in bed. He's a five at best and has the personality of exposed brick. Find one that's electric, one that makes you laugh and displays a pulse...dump the deadbeat.
Watching you with William in the limo and at your apt was PAINFUL. Obviously he was not interested but he didn't even TRY to hide it in the name of being polite!!! He's not that great and average looking so I don't know why he is so arrogant. Hopefully this taught you that when an man really LIKES you, nothing will hold him back from touching you. It's a magnetic force that cannot be stopped (EVEN IF they have stoic, soft-spoken personalities). If I were you, I would NEVER have allowed him to walk me to my door. He deserved the BOOT. You're better than that.
Julia you are beautiful but you are somewhat aggressive. You also kind are confusing you seem to interact with them like you are their "buddy" but you are interested in this guy. So I think you gotta let him step up and be the man. Let him lead you.
You have the most infectious laugh and are so funny, something a lot of women as pretty as you are don't have (no, this isn't your mom). Someone really did a number on you to screw up your self-esteen like this. Someday, a guy who's not threatened by you will come along and you won't have to apologize for being who you are--you'll both just laugh a lot and enjoy each other.
Julia, Julia, Julia, I think you are funny and quirky and fun, the kind of person I would adore as a friend. However, I CRINGE when I watch you around men. Ugh! You become 12 years old. Toss out the girly pink items, truly gain belief that you can wait for true love, and stop trying to control your romantic interests. Notice how it drives them away? You have every reason to be self-confident -- wear it! If you do, I know a fantastic guy is going to fall head over heels for you.
It really irks me that Bravo put some of the most unlikeable women on this show. Julia, I am sorry to say it but that includes you. Amy is just a miserable person who speaks in a condescending tone and Julia is a clingy, psychotic ditz. Emily is the only one of these three ladies who seems the least bit genuine. I remember Julia back in her Gawker days when she posted half nudies of herself as a commenter on their site. Trust me, this woman is more full of herself than you might believe.
julia stop assuming that a guy likes you just because you're pretty! you need to be more patient!
Julia would have better luck with men if she practiced some patience and gained some common sense.
1. You can't make people like you. Certainly, a limo, horseback riding, and wine tasting can't buy you love. If you want to pay for love, hire an escort who will "love" you for one night only.
2. Alcohol is not your friend. It turns you into a crazier version of your already-crazy self. When on dates, stick to water.
3. Be patient with human interaction. Stop asking guys about love and relationships as soon as you meet them. That line of questioning makes you sound like a desperate dimwit--which, in my opinion, you are. But you can change. Instead, find out about the guy. Ask where he grew up, what he does for fun, what types of music he likes, etc. You want to find out what things make him smile.
That being said, I'm convinced that some of this stuff is staged--simply make-believe for TV. I find it hard to believe that a woman who almost married John McCain's son could be this discombobulated. But maybe you just are. After all, you almost married a Republican.
It makes me so sad when you put yourself down! You are NOT overweight AT ALL and you are BEAUTIFUL!! You have a funny and sweet personality... stop beating yourself up-the right guy will be lucky to have you!
Hey, Just let go! Stop crying about haters! I don't spend my days in front of a computer all day and I don't care what anyone else is doing in their lives I follow my life. Honestly I don't know who you are and never heard of you until the show on Bravo. That can be good and bad because that means I never read anything you wrote! I also know 75% of what you are showing us is fake Bravo "reality". Be yourself, be real, make sure you are always greatful for all you have and accomplished. Don't be desperate and love will find you. My final word to you would be not to analyze and write about your first dates maybe wait until the second or third just to see is this man might be the one. Not to many men or people want to be in an article against their will. Coming from someone that has been put down and abused all of her life and now suffers with health problems because of it but I have a wonderful husband now! Hold your head up high and never be ashamed of who you are how you got here and face you daemons head on!!! It will pay off!!! Good Luck!
Julia: Take this advice from an older, wiser female......quit acting sooooooo desperate. To say the least, you're trying way too hard. You couldn't push men away more if you stopped bathing, grew your underarm hair down to your waist, and ate 10 cloves of garlic every ten minutes.....you are obnoxious.