In this case, I was attempting -- and failing, I think! -- to get Sir William out of his super cool, hunky, slightly acerbic son-of-a-preacher shell and into my busted-jeans-pink-cowboy-hat-and-boots-wearing-super-enthusiastic-slightly-more-than-tipsy arms. In my quest -- and yes, I think I did see this as a quest -- I sort of, well, I did it again. I threw myself at my date, but I got that kiss this time! (Note: Sir William is an excellent kisser. Do not tell his preacher dad I said that.) I probably should have waited for him to kiss me first, but, well… baby steps. As I said on the show, it’s hard enough to control myself without imbibing half a vineyard. Also this is the reason I advocate hiking dates. Who wants to throw themselves at a dude when they’re sweaty and gross and sober? NO ONE. NOT EVEN ME.
In conclusion, wine tasting in California is freaking awesome. The whole country should do more of it. Particularly on dates. Although you might not 100% remember any substantive bits of conversation, or, say… much at all from the evening. Other than that the wine was, "Yum!"
So on to the really good stuff, which is to say THE WITCHES! Oh, the witches, how I love them. When I started my “Guinea Pig of Love” series for ELLE, I had a few unconventional expert ideas in mind -- a psychic, a love therapist, a pleasure coach, maybe a tantra teacher -- but I didn’t think of witches! Honestly, I didn’t even know witches existed outside of Wicked (Sing with me now: “Defying gravvvvity!”). Well, they do. And they’re hot, too. (Seriously how pretty were they? It was like Witch Barbie up in there!) Truly, in the months since I met them, that fateful day last fall, The House of Intuition, on a hill just off of Sunset in Echo Park, has become my spot of choice for healing.
Julia, when you are yourself; talking to your friends or in your commentaries, you are so natural and darling, but when you were on your date you seemed very awkward. It appeared as though you were overcompensating for how uncomfortable you are in your own skin around men. I hope you will show your beautiful, natural, cute self one day to the most amazing man.
Julia, you are sweet,but you try to hard !! Slow down, let a guy get to know you. You come on to strong. Try letting the guy talk. Act hard to get.
Dear Julia: I am a happily married 48 woman with boy/girl twins. It's weird that I'm writing you, but I am so compelled by your personality. People may call you a princess, but that is because you are beautiful with life-loving personality. You will find the right person, and he'll be fun-loving, smart, witty, and he will adore you and any flaws. Just when you think he's too good to be true, something will happen and your man will rise to the occasion. There is nothing wrong with you're wearing your heart on your sleeve--that's who you are! I don't get why some have asked if you are authentic--don't listen to that. You are who you are! One woman advised you to lean back--that is as unnatural for you as for me being a contortionist! I actually think you should put a brake on looking for Mr. Right and buy a round-the-world airline ticket (first class, of course) and take a 12-16 months dating tour. Spend time having fun with men of different cultures, write about it, and spend at least six months in East Africa. You're dating some duds--nothing is wrong with you! You are larger than life and authentic! Find your passport and start your dating tour--you will find someone who is larger than life who adores you and is your best friend! Good luck and I'm cheering for you!!!! Pam--a friend that took a dating trip around the world
Girl, if a man is that boring on a date and standoffish, he's that boring in bed. He's a five at best and has the personality of exposed brick. Find one that's electric, one that makes you laugh and displays a pulse...dump the deadbeat.
Watching you with William in the limo and at your apt was PAINFUL. Obviously he was not interested but he didn't even TRY to hide it in the name of being polite!!! He's not that great and average looking so I don't know why he is so arrogant. Hopefully this taught you that when an man really LIKES you, nothing will hold him back from touching you. It's a magnetic force that cannot be stopped (EVEN IF they have stoic, soft-spoken personalities). If I were you, I would NEVER have allowed him to walk me to my door. He deserved the BOOT. You're better than that.
Julia you are beautiful but you are somewhat aggressive. You also kind are confusing you seem to interact with them like you are their "buddy" but you are interested in this guy. So I think you gotta let him step up and be the man. Let him lead you.
You have the most infectious laugh and are so funny, something a lot of women as pretty as you are don't have (no, this isn't your mom). Someone really did a number on you to screw up your self-esteen like this. Someday, a guy who's not threatened by you will come along and you won't have to apologize for being who you are--you'll both just laugh a lot and enjoy each other.
Julia, Julia, Julia, I think you are funny and quirky and fun, the kind of person I would adore as a friend. However, I CRINGE when I watch you around men. Ugh! You become 12 years old. Toss out the girly pink items, truly gain belief that you can wait for true love, and stop trying to control your romantic interests. Notice how it drives them away? You have every reason to be self-confident -- wear it! If you do, I know a fantastic guy is going to fall head over heels for you.
It really irks me that Bravo put some of the most unlikeable women on this show. Julia, I am sorry to say it but that includes you. Amy is just a miserable person who speaks in a condescending tone and Julia is a clingy, psychotic ditz. Emily is the only one of these three ladies who seems the least bit genuine. I remember Julia back in her Gawker days when she posted half nudies of herself as a commenter on their site. Trust me, this woman is more full of herself than you might believe.
julia stop assuming that a guy likes you just because you're pretty! you need to be more patient!
Julia would have better luck with men if she practiced some patience and gained some common sense.
1. You can't make people like you. Certainly, a limo, horseback riding, and wine tasting can't buy you love. If you want to pay for love, hire an escort who will "love" you for one night only.
2. Alcohol is not your friend. It turns you into a crazier version of your already-crazy self. When on dates, stick to water.
3. Be patient with human interaction. Stop asking guys about love and relationships as soon as you meet them. That line of questioning makes you sound like a desperate dimwit--which, in my opinion, you are. But you can change. Instead, find out about the guy. Ask where he grew up, what he does for fun, what types of music he likes, etc. You want to find out what things make him smile.
That being said, I'm convinced that some of this stuff is staged--simply make-believe for TV. I find it hard to believe that a woman who almost married John McCain's son could be this discombobulated. But maybe you just are. After all, you almost married a Republican.
It makes me so sad when you put yourself down! You are NOT overweight AT ALL and you are BEAUTIFUL!! You have a funny and sweet personality... stop beating yourself up-the right guy will be lucky to have you!
Hey, Just let go! Stop crying about haters! I don't spend my days in front of a computer all day and I don't care what anyone else is doing in their lives I follow my life. Honestly I don't know who you are and never heard of you until the show on Bravo. That can be good and bad because that means I never read anything you wrote! I also know 75% of what you are showing us is fake Bravo "reality". Be yourself, be real, make sure you are always greatful for all you have and accomplished. Don't be desperate and love will find you. My final word to you would be not to analyze and write about your first dates maybe wait until the second or third just to see is this man might be the one. Not to many men or people want to be in an article against their will. Coming from someone that has been put down and abused all of her life and now suffers with health problems because of it but I have a wonderful husband now! Hold your head up high and never be ashamed of who you are how you got here and face you daemons head on!!! It will pay off!!! Good Luck!
Julia: Take this advice from an older, wiser female......quit acting sooooooo desperate. To say the least, you're trying way too hard. You couldn't push men away more if you stopped bathing, grew your underarm hair down to your waist, and ate 10 cloves of garlic every ten minutes.....you are obnoxious.