Courtney Kerr

Courtney dissects all the ego checks and ego wrecks of the episode.

on Sep 26, 20110

In this world, women are typically the gender that is type-cast as being overly emotional. On this episode of the show, I think that theory could definitely be argued, because when a man's ego is challenged, his emotions kick into high gear. The male ego is a funny thing because as a woman, should we stroke the ego, challenge the ego, or ignore the ego? If you behave anything like me, then you confront the ego and poke fun of it. And throughout tonight's show it was clear that Matt and Drew needed to check their "emotional egos" at the door. But sometimes, can an ego work in your favor? Can it just give you that extra dash of confidence you need? Let's break down the ego checks and ego wrecks of the evening…

Right when I think Drew and I have made strides in our friendship, he has to go and get all emotional on me again. As ya'll can tell, I am really passionate about "ex-territory." I dated someone for several years, fell madly in love, broke up, got back together, and quickly broke up again, leaving me devastated. So when people are considering flirting with "ex-territory," something comes over me and I can't help but feel the need to warn them about how much more painful the experience can be the second time around. And while I was trying to share my experience, Drew lets his ego take control, turned the whole thing on himself, and throws an emotional hissy fit. But I mean, can you really blame him? He's injecting himself with female hormones on a daily basis, so technically he already has me beat in the estrogen department. And when you mix female hormones, a male ego, and a heated conversation, things are bound to get a little out of hand. But luckily, Drew finally put his ego away and we went back to our comfort zone of cracking jokes and poking fun at each other. One major commonality that Drew and I share is wit and humor, so I am glad our friendship can always find common ground amongst a good dirty joke!

43 comments
Sonya
Sonya

Courtney I think that you are beautiful young lady, but you can be extremely judgmental towards a lot of people. Neill is a single mother and not a nun and you should wait till you have kids and realize that sometimes you have to have me time away from them sometimes before you comment on what she should be doing. It is healthy for you and them. She seems like a nice young lady as well and I think that you have been critical towards her because of your true feelings about Matt and you took that out on her. You don't know her or even took an interest in who she was to know if she was the right person for Matt. Get off the pot and tell Matt how you feel towards him or shut the hell up and leave other folks alone.

Sarahkm
Sarahkm

Courtney- You are awesome! Just like me! haha..It's nice to see a funny/sometimes sarcastic, bitchy...whatever.. personality on TV! You are so fun to watch and so relatable! I totally think you can do WAY better than Matt...he's a douche! BUT...I think you both know you'll end up together...and you will! I was in the same situation...and I married my douche!It just takes time to get all your crazy ways out!and...your not mean to other girls...your funny and honest! Good luck with the show! I enjoy watching!

Katie N.
Katie N.

You're beautiful Courtney, and hilarious...which I adore! I had the exact same relationship with my best guy friend a few years ago...and we are getting married in three weeks! So, I'm just tellin' ya lady...you never know! Stay your precious, sassy self! xoxo

Sharon H.
Sharon H.

Courtney, Honey ...Please stop humiliating yourself on National TV with regard to Matt. At this time in his life, he is obviously just not that into you as a serious relationship, and it breaks my heart to watch you suffer each time your hopes are dashed. You've go so much to offer. Please allow someone else into your life at this time; and, if Matt is "supposed" to be your forever mate, I promise you, he'll catch up. As long as you are pining for Matt, which is obvious for all to see (including Matt), its not going to happen. Move on up and out and let love happen for YOU!

Courtney is my fave!
Courtney is my fave!

Courtney, you are my favorite! I love your sense of humor! You say what everyone else is thinking but too scared to say. I love your honesty, but I can tell you really do care about people. I watch just because of you! :)

socal1234
socal1234

Hi, Well obviously you stand out the most on the show. I think it's because you say what you think more than any of the other cast members. As far as Matt goes - look Courtney - he needs to GROW up. You may need to grow up too. I mean what I see is a young woman who is just dying to be with Matt. Or maybe it's not that you really want him? Maybe, maybe it's that you don't understand why he's not chasing you and that makes you feel insecure? I think you and Matt need to just go out and see if you two can be more than friends - naturally. He needs to be a man though and ask you out on a real date. Until then- if that ever happens - i would totally refrain from saying anything mean about Neill or anyone Matt decides to take out, or any bimbos he decides to have sex with. He is insecure. He is NOT as secure and confident as you think. I saw it last episode and I can see it in him. Nothing wrong with that. It's just "an act" that he is real confident. Believe me. He is way insecure that's why he won't let any woman get too close. Except he lets you get close as far as friendship goes. It's like he wants YOU to chase him? anyway..i just think you both have insecurities from your last relationships and it's playing out between you two. Whatever you do - lay off Neill. She is not the problem and she comes off with class - so far lost of class for someone so young!! It could be that because she is a mother she has had to really grow up faster.

Anyway, you are a cool person and have a good personality...but I hate to see you embarrass yourself by watching Matt and getting jeolous of whoever he is with. Do the opposite. And if you want him...let him chase you. Or just be friends period.

Anyway...you'll learn in time....believe me between my 20s and 30s and now i am in my early 40s...you learn so much and realize how much you just did not know! :-)

Take care, Kim San Diego, CA

Housewife Heidi
Housewife Heidi

Not sure where to even start. You are definitely Dallas' most elligible? That doesn't say much for the Big D! You are a cute, funny girl, but you do not represent strength when you pick on others (like Neill), and fear not being the center of attention. Lighten up, don't judge others so harshly, and just enjoy your fabulous life. Surely your Southern Gentleman will come. Hopefully, without baggage!

istudybones
istudybones

You have redeemed yourself a little bit but I have to agree with everyone when they say that you constantly interupt, judge & act catty to people. As for Matt, its none of your business who he dates, just leave it alone...why would you want to be 2nd, 3rd, 4th or dang 20th best anyway?? it makes no sense! He obviously isn't ready to settle down or be committed to anyone (he makes this pretty obvious). Just try to be nice & courteous, maybe you need a trip to NC to see how real southern women carry themselves.

J.Michellle
J.Michellle

OMG you are fabulous. You are the only reason i watch the show. I love that your so honest, yet still manage to be classy. AMAZEBALLS.

User
User

I love the show and I think your great Courtney don't change a thing

Alex L
Alex L

Courtney, you're a elegant and polite person. You handle the most challengings situations that I don't think that most people would handle do way you do. I'm learning a lot from you. Never had a family or friend to tell me the right from wrong. Bravo & thank you!

Florida_Gal
Florida_Gal

Wow! Matt really surprised me by going to dinner with you and your date. At first I thought that he was wanting to check out the competition for your attentions. But later I realized that once he found out that you really liked this guy, he wanted to give you a taste of your own medicine and let you see what it feels like to have your best friend attack someone you are interested in. Totally not cool.

Regarding Matt and Neill's relationship. Why can't he see that Neill is not the right gal for him. I mean, come on. Since you are Matt's best friend it's obvious that he is attracted to self-absorbed, insecure women. I predict that he will get tired of Neill's considerate behavior and drama free ways. I don't care how beautiful and talented she is, I have to agree, she is not the gal for him.

Viewer
Viewer

You are hilarious and one of the main reasons I watch this show!

le prince
le prince

ooooh child! me and my posse of gays get together every week just to watch you! you are by far our new favorite!! i think you need to ditch retail and get into public relations!! i do pr for a living and you would b a natural!!

Temecula Viewer
Temecula Viewer

Who are you to air Drew's laundry? He should have not made the comment you are exhausting. Neill already knows what kind of guy Matt is. I don't think she is expecting a ring on her finger but some companionship. You look down on her for being a single mom.

You want Matt to be your man. If you cannot have him no one else can. The truth his you all have to big of egos to make it in a love relationship.

Maybe if you learned to listen you would understand other more and maybe yourself a little better.

maria89
maria89

Do you see, when watching the show, how you CONSTANTLY interrupt people and dismiss whatever they are saying, as if they are unimportant???

ShanaWana
ShanaWana

I get what you say about Neil not being right for Matt and you have voiced this to him and the rest of us for that matter. Now as a friend, leave it alone! He is a grown ass man and can make his own decisions about who he wants to kiss, and hug up with, spend time with, etc. You just look like a brat sitting over there telling someone how Matt tells you that he doesn't want to be with Neil. No one wants to constantly hear you say that Neil is wrong for Matt. You have already said it once, stop beating a dead horse. Let him make the decision, it is his call not yours. You have already been a friend by telling him what you think about her and them being together. Cool. Now be a friend and be there for him in whatever joy or saddness comes.

Rosalia123
Rosalia123

I think that you 2 will b able to work through this but I also think that w/loosing the love of his life to NYC he's especially emotional. Be patient w/him=)

Stephanie C.
Stephanie C.

Let's forget about the first couple episodes where you're not sure what to expect of of Neill; I would probably have acted the same way under the circumstances. I just have to say props to you for making funnies throughout the show...it's kinda what keeps me tuned in every week. My husband walked in on one of the episodes and says "huh, that girls reminds me of someone I know" thinking that he's going to insult me, but whatever. My reply, "that's what you get when you marry a sassy Dallas girl!!!" Love ya!

goldie smith
goldie smith

Courtney you are great, yes your not perfect but neither is Drew. His disrespect for you and your opinions are messy. Please dont ever allow him to talk to you like that again.

Brittney in Oklahoma
Brittney in Oklahoma

Hey Courtney, With all the negative comments, I just wanted to say that personally you are by far my favorite reality show girl. You know when to speak up and what to say. I love that you and Matt are close because it reminds me of my relationship with my best friend. Don't listen to the other comments they are really mean and stupid. Keep up with the good work and know that your amazing just the way you are!

Linda Roth
Linda Roth

If you love Matt so much why don't you just tell him and stop being so nasty of everyone. It is so obvious how you feel.

Kiara S
Kiara S

Courtney, Courtney, Courtney, I know you don't mean any harm but it's almost like you do not know how to stop. Yes you are witty and love the fashion but please bring it down a notch. You are so judgmental to Neil and Drew, it makes me cringe. I get we are all human who knows how I would come across on TV. Just try to think before you talk & maybe no wine while filming. Again wine + jealousy+ overbearing personality = no bueno. I know you're a great girl, good luck.

Missbehaven
Missbehaven

Courtney,

I do have to comment on how well I think that you handled the argument with Drew. No woman no matter how much she has angered someone deserves to be called the c word! A lot of class was shown on your part being so accepting of his apology. It would seem from the last couple of shows that just about everyone has been in Drew's line of fire. Everyone except for Cody who I suspect it the real reason for his foul temper. He can't express his anger to Cody.... he might never talk to him again. So he takes it out on the people who he knows love him and will still be there for him.

And bravo for not pointing out how often Neill leaves her child to be out and about. Maybe she is just Major-ly distracted at this time.

LADYBKLYN
LADYBKLYN

COURTNEY ,"JUST SAY ,GIRL "I LOVE YOU MATT" IT IS PLAIN TO SEE AND PLEASE DON'T ON NEIL , SHE IS A GOOD MOM, I HOPE YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SINGLE MOM DOWN THE ROAD YOUR ATTITUDE STINK. GO GET YOU MAN,BUT BE HONEST.

Logan27
Logan27

Courtney, despite some imperfections, I'm a fan of yours. You're judgemental and snotty sometimes, but I like that in a girl friend. However, please move on from matt. I feel like you're the only girl that is willing to put up with his narcissistic attitude. You are a good person capable of loving another person, and you deserve the same... not d-bag Matt.

funD
funD

Courtney you and Matt would make beautiful babies - he is a fool not to go for you - be nice to Drew i love him

atlmom
atlmom

Please NEVER allow anyone to treat you the way Drew did on the last episode. As an alcoholic he is avoiding working on his own issues & instead is taking them out on you. Respect yourself girl...and don't let him EVER do that to you again. Xoxoxo

~AnNa~
~AnNa~

I like you, but sometimes it seems like you're so full of yourself. I think Neill is beautiful, and you shouldn't be so judgemental. I don't think she's a bad mother at all. I give her props for going on a double date with you, ummm....it seems like you want to be in her place. Why not just admit you want to date Matt..? Its obvious that you do...

Lck
Lck

Just a little advice.. You always suck all the air out of the room, which isn't attractive to men or women. You talk over others constantly and try to ram your opinions down their throats. Dial it back a bit, or you'll end up pretty lonely.

Cyn35
Cyn35

HAHAHAHA!!! You must be joking with all this ego stuff because you are the main one who needs to check it. You were nasty to Neil when you met her and behind her back. So Matt acted like a jerk to Mark, you do the same to his friend. Oh well. There really is no point in saying anything to you because you seem to always think you're right. You are very pretty but your attitude takes from that.

BRAVOismyVICE
BRAVOismyVICE

Courtney, You're awesome! You're impressively witty and I love the bitchiness. You say what everyone else is thinking!

Karen from Phoenix
Karen from Phoenix

Courtney, Let me just say that I think you are a beautiful girl and very funny. However, I agree with the other viewer that I think somethimes you need to just listen and be supportive and leave your feelings aside for when the topic is about you. Just a piece of advice from an older and wiser woman. Maybe be a little more sensative and open to others feelings. The way you came across with Drew seemed more like your opinon was a "fact". There is a big difference so be careful how you come across. Other than that I think you are terrific and make the show really interesting. Take care and be kind.....

julienne
julienne

love you courtney. hope that you will find true love (with matt.)

smitty, utica,ny
smitty, utica,ny

courtney the jealous thing has to go. tell matt how you feel. life is way to short. be good sunshine....smitty

Claudia R.
Claudia R.

I feel you Courtney. You can't ignore your feelings for Matt but you force yourself to. You tell yourself you can't be with him but at the same time it disturbs you to think of anyone else with him. Neill is not good enough for Matt but in your eyes nobody is. It would be nice to see the both of you together but the problem is that you can make or break your relationship so the question is, is this best-friend love worth messing up?

Funkadelic
Funkadelic

Oh Courtney you read so like an open book. Matt is your go to guy, you know the one you have on hold in case you can't find another man out there. That's why you don't like Neill because she is stealing the attention of your go to guy. You have no right to judge her and if she ends up with Matt you need to be supportive. Really if anything the way Matt is, she's lible to get crushed by him because he seems to go through women like crazy and I don't think has a great deal of respect for them anyway.

LovesAndy
LovesAndy

You are a strong woman and I love it!

Danielle Risinger
Danielle Risinger

I've watched Bravo reality shows on & off for years & I have to say I'm a bit smitten & curious about this one. Probably because I'm from Oklahoma & a fan of Texas outside of Football (come on now that's a given) & because I'm waiting for the moment when u either make or break the Matt thing. You seem very smart, capable, feminine & of course as any southern girl u know proper etiquette so A. U & Matt purposely ignore ur chemistry bcuz ur both afraid or B. U two don't see it bcuz ur inside & not looking in from the outside. I hope it's a happy ending for both of but at this stage of the season u 2 seem to be working thru sharing each other with "steady" or possible "serious" relationships with others. I'm rooting for happy endings & ever after for both of you. My husband told me 2 very great things from the get go: "U should be married to ur best friend in life & its important to "be" the right person verses not "finding" the right person." Guess I'll just have to watch all season with my fingers crossed. P.S.Soulpatch is not the guy for Tara, Glen needs to commit or quit his X or it will cause more hurt & poor Drew is just finding his balance. Neil...well single moms aren't out nor do they drink that much if they are doing the majority of raising their own children. Once ur a momma ur job, love & passion should be to be a momma. WOW that's alot for a 1st time blog & a little crazy considering it's reality TV!

socal2hot2handle
socal2hot2handle

So... what you're saying is that Matt acted to Mark the way you acted toward Neill? I almost felt like Matt was doing it so you'd get a taste of your own medicine.

heidi in milw
heidi in milw

Miss C... I'll start with saying that I like you. You're fresh, witty, and pretty. However, I think you need to start thinking of others and just listen! When you and Drew were actually talking about the ex's, it was about Drew and not about you. It's unfortunate that you weren't able to be a friend and listen to his hurt about his ex Cody leaving. Just because you were hurt doesn't necessarily mean that these types of relationships won't work for others. But, please give people a chance to tell their side and their feelings without the harsh judging. You come off as bossy and arrogant, which I'm certain you are not. Relationships teach us to be stronger, not babies. Grow from it - learn from it, but don't hide from it and be scared!

Bring back Jersey
Bring back Jersey

Courtney I love you everything about you! I love your style and your quick wit!