In this world, women are typically the gender that is type-cast as being overly emotional. On this episode of the show, I think that theory could definitely be argued, because when a man's ego is challenged, his emotions kick into high gear. The male ego is a funny thing because as a woman, should we stroke the ego, challenge the ego, or ignore the ego? If you behave anything like me, then you confront the ego and poke fun of it. And throughout tonight's show it was clear that Matt and Drew needed to check their "emotional egos" at the door. But sometimes, can an ego work in your favor? Can it just give you that extra dash of confidence you need? Let's break down the ego checks and ego wrecks of the evening…
Right when I think Drew and I have made strides in our friendship, he has to go and get all emotional on me again. As ya'll can tell, I am really passionate about "ex-territory." I dated someone for several years, fell madly in love, broke up, got back together, and quickly broke up again, leaving me devastated. So when people are considering flirting with "ex-territory," something comes over me and I can't help but feel the need to warn them about how much more painful the experience can be the second time around. And while I was trying to share my experience, Drew lets his ego take control, turned the whole thing on himself, and throws an emotional hissy fit. But I mean, can you really blame him? He's injecting himself with female hormones on a daily basis, so technically he already has me beat in the estrogen department. And when you mix female hormones, a male ego, and a heated conversation, things are bound to get a little out of hand. But luckily, Drew finally put his ego away and we went back to our comfort zone of cracking jokes and poking fun at each other. One major commonality that Drew and I share is wit and humor, so I am glad our friendship can always find common ground amongst a good dirty joke!
Now onto the biggest ego of the night: my sweet, handsome best friend Matt. I will start by saying this -- Matt has this incredible ability to walk into a room and own it. He oozes confidence and swagger. He can charm anyone and knock you dead with those baby blues, dimples, and killer smile. But here's the risk he runs…if for one split second his ego gets challenged, his emotions kick in and we are suddenly dealing with a whole other version of Matt.
Matt's ego made two guest appearances tonight, the first being on the double date with him, Neill, Mark, and me. I have to admit, I was kind of nervous about this date, because I really like Mark, and I want my best friend Matt to like him too. In a dream world, by the end of this date, they would be high-fiving and planning on playing a round of golf together in the near future! Apparently, I can lay those dreams to rest, because instead of getting to know Mark and talking about football, beer, and whatever else hot dudes discuss, Matt's ego came to play a game of one-upping. I sat there shocked, unable to interject, because I literally couldn't believe that Matt would act this way. Here I am with this amazing guy who has a lot to offer, is well educated, well-traveled, and has incredible life experiences, and Matt suddenly acts like he has something to prove? For a split second, I felt like he was competing with Mark and trying to challenge him. I can't complain though, because Mark handled it brilliantly. He sat back with his quiet confidence, and just let Matt's ego go to town. As if the accent wasn't enough, Mark just got about a million times hotter in my book!
But there were some moments in tonight's show where Matt checked his ego ahead of time and really let himself speak confidently and with a lot of humility. This is the Matt I know and love. When hearing Matt speak about his charity, you see a lot of passion. You see a man who realized how blessed his life has been and how he should give back to others. Regardless of whatever anyone thinks his intentions are for starting The Leadership Foundation, I know Matt has put a lot of his time and money into making sure this is a blossoming success, and with his drive and willingness to succeed, I know this gala will go off without a hitch. He is an amazing man, and I cannot wait for the rest of the world to see what he can do and how many lives he will be able to touch.
Boys will be boys. And when you are dealing with a group of strong, confident, successful men like Matt and Drew, tempers will rise here and there, and egos will come out from time to time. All I can do is sit back and let them hash it out and love each one of them individually. Every week and every episode keeps getting better and better, and I can't wait for you all to see how our lives will continue to unfold. For more of my thoughts, follow me on Twitter @thecourtneykerr. And for all my fellow fashionistas, don't forget to follow my fashion diary blog at www.whatcourtneywore.tumblr.com.