“The Big D”…When it comes to my friends, “D” could be abbreviated for so many things: Dallas, dating, designers, dogs, (car) dealerships, dilemmas, and (perceived) douche bags…the list goes on. But in my mind, it stands for diversity. Anyone can relate to one of our friends. Anyone can look at our lives and see themselves in one of us. We all have ups. We all have downs. And when it comes to our romantic perils, we have suffered the good, the bad, and the ugly.
This group is no exception to dating dilemmas. Tara, who is my female voice of reason, is a genuine catch, and one to be had. I am thrilled to see her giving herself some time and committing to being single. Drew has come into his sexuality, and I hope he can finally find a man who will let his true colors show. Glenn has escaped a four year relationship, and should enjoy being single. But then there’s Matty, who is my best friend. The Matt everyone sees is different than the Matt I see. The Matt I know is caring and is like a big brother to me. He listens and offers up advice. But most importantly, he loves me unconditionally, even when he doesn’t understand me.
But let’s cut to the chase…Matt and are just friends. And any female who has had a male BFF can relate to my frustration with him. The blondes may come and go, but I am there day after day. I’ve seen more blondes in Matt’s life than Hugh Hefner has seen in a lifetime. And although the boy says he isn’t a player, he certainly knows how to “wow” the women.
And apparently Neill is someone who was “wowed” by Matt at one point. Although my reaction to Neill was pretty chilly, most of it was directed towards Matt. Everyone knows Matt isn’t looking to settle down. And I hope Neill is smart enough to know Matt isn’t looking to settle down. So to me, they are playing with fire. There is a child involved, and that could make things messy. The “mother hen” in me is being protective -- protective of Matt’s reputation, protective of Neill’s heart, and protective of Baby Major. Unfortunately though my “tough love” approach came off pretty rocky at the dinner table and even continued with tears shed in the bathroom by the automatic hand dryer. (Insert my ugly cry here!)
Ultimately our group is dealing with real issues, and I hope others can see the depth of us. There are no secrets. There are no closed doors. We are a core. We are not the “most eligible” because we have looks, or money, or status, or success. We are eligible because we are real. We are eligible because we offer it all up and put all our cards on the table. No poker face. No bull. We take the bull and grab it by the horns, because we are “The Big D.”