“The Big D”…When it comes to my friends, “D” could be abbreviated for so many things: Dallas, dating, designers, dogs, (car) dealerships, dilemmas, and (perceived) douche bags…the list goes on. But in my mind, it stands for diversity. Anyone can relate to one of our friends. Anyone can look at our lives and see themselves in one of us. We all have ups. We all have downs. And when it comes to our romantic perils, we have suffered the good, the bad, and the ugly.
This group is no exception to dating dilemmas. Tara, who is my female voice of reason, is a genuine catch, and one to be had. I am thrilled to see her giving herself some time and committing to being single. Drew has come into his sexuality, and I hope he can finally find a man who will let his true colors show. Glenn has escaped a four year relationship, and should enjoy being single. But then there’s Matty, who is my best friend. The Matt everyone sees is different than the Matt I see. The Matt I know is caring and is like a big brother to me. He listens and offers up advice. But most importantly, he loves me unconditionally, even when he doesn’t understand me.
But let’s cut to the chase…Matt and are just friends. And any female who has had a male BFF can relate to my frustration with him. The blondes may come and go, but I am there day after day. I’ve seen more blondes in Matt’s life than Hugh Hefner has seen in a lifetime. And although the boy says he isn’t a player, he certainly knows how to “wow” the women.
If you ever had children you would know the importance to getting out and enjoying adult interactions. being with your children 24/7 doesnt cut it it only causes resentment. Grow up and act like an adult.
I can totally relate to how you dealt with Matt and his situation tonight. My advice, women are nuturing to almost everyone that comes into our lives; however, men will do quite a bit for their MALE friends but if you're a female, forget it. Men will go above and beyond in a relationship because they get something out of it (sex). It doesn't matter how long he's known the romantic interest she will always take priority, always.
We're just Queen Bees honey!
Courtney..not a good way to start a show. You don't HAVE a child..what do u know about anything. Neil seems nice..and very patient with your imature behavior.
Do you truly believe you are entitled to your opinions when you yourself are not a mom? You imply a night out some how equates to less love for your child... very offensive, very judgmental. Good luck to you handling all the unwanted advice and judgement you receive after you do become a mother someday.
Stop being the "best friend" of the man who dumped you. Why are you putting yourself through that? He just isn't into you. Go out and get a man who thinks the sun came up because you are there with him. Forget that guy, he's ruining you!
I thought you were adorable in this season premier, Courtney! You were uncomfortable with the surprise of Neill with Matt, and misdirected/mischannelled your shock. Her reaction shouldn't be taken for face value. I can't wait to see more of you!
I appreciate that you are REAL, Courtney, and I enjoyed the show. I loved your attitude and I look forward to watching this season! Don't listen to the haters....
oh Courtney, you definitely did not do yourself any justice. You really need to learn how not to show your true feelings all the time, everywhere you go. Eventually it will only make yourself look like an idiot.
There will be people every where you go that you are bound not to like. However, it does not make you look like a good person if all you ever do is trash talk about other people.
Wow, Courtney you are such a beautiful woman with such an ugly attitude! Bless your little heart you make real southern ladies like me look bad. I have a son who is 3 months old and the father and I did not work out and if you had insinuated that it was tacky for me to get one night out a week I would have shown you a good ole fashion southern ass whoopin...! Hope you loose your attitude cause in Tennessee where I am from, you would not have left that table without saying you were sorry... Good luck in life hope as the season goes on you can learn to go with the flow, I promise you will be much happier with life that way!
Hi. You are obviously the star of the cast. You have personality - possibly a bit neurotic, but who isn't? Dont take this the wrong way, you are like the young Kelly Bensimon of Dallas - you say strange things, seem a bit crazy (not as crazy), but fun. I do hate the way you projected onto Neill though - you seemed really upset about her not doing what YOU would do if you were in her shoes. And you told everyone that was the reason afterwards but just told us a different story - so where is the "being real" part going to come into play? It looked like you were jealous and frustrated.
Courtney, your reaction was typical of any woman in your situation. A little to harsh but understandable. There is always 2 sides to every situation people! Anyways on to more important matters:) Where do you shop?? You have amazing fashion sense, love your style!!!
Please don't call yourself a "Southern Belle." You're ruining the reputation for all the authentic belles out there.
I completely agree with you Courtney, although i think your protective/jealous action comes from a place of love you didn't exactly express it in the best way.
My best friend is a man. There was no way i would have behaved the way you did at the night club and the restaurant. If "Matty" is yah boy you would have took his other female friends in stride. Your "we're only friends" stchick is not holding but hey tonight was only the first episode. Lighten up girl!
Until you have a child, you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. When you have a baby you give up everything including sleep, showers and a social life. It's a known fact that mothers who take time for themselves actually benefit their children. It is so important for mothers to get out, even if it's for one night. Women are supposed to support each other, not judge one another. Give her a chance.
I like you Courtney, although I do have to admit you came off very vapid and superficial. Dallas isn't all that to begin with.
WOOOOAHHH is all I have to say, you are so green with envy its ridiculous. I thought I would really like you from everything I read but you proved to be super crazy in love with your friend. Admit that you're gaga over your guy friend and cut the girls some slack, they don't ask to be invited to your lame dinner parties, the girl came in legit and sweet and you showed your true colors! Get a grip, be honest with yourself and stop crying and saying that this girl has everything you aspire to, you can have that too and thats no reason to be a jerk to the new girl. I hope this is the last time I see you acting a fool b/c I really want to like you!
I Love you Courtney, , i understand why you have feelings for Matt, but he is such a player! Still, he is cute and seems like a gentleman,, maybe wrong. I wish i could hang with you,, you're so awesome.. LOVE U. You deserve a wonderful man, and i know you'll be a great mom!! Don't listen to any negative comments,(they're just jealous) COURTNEY ROCKS :D
You really need to work on your insecurities! You attacked the new girl because she had everything you want, Matt included. You made this show really difficult to watch. Fortunately, underneath the insecurities, you seem like an interesting person. I just hope we get to see more of the interesting girl and less of the insecure catty girl!
I think you were amazing!! Best Dallas girl ever I respect how you presented yourself tonight!! And I love your hair! L
I've never go online to respond to a show but I was so mortified last night at watching you. Your reaction to Neill was trashy and classless and the fact that you are somewhat representing Dallas girls is scary. Go down to Austin Street Shelter...I bet there are homeless people there with better manners than you. Try being loving and kind...it will suite you a lot better...and yes get some manners.
I am a born and bred Dallasite and this show does NOT even come close to what Dallas represents. This show is so insulting to the "class" of an authentic Dallas man/woman. This show is an EMBARRASSMENT to the wonderful city of Dallas, Texas. Also, Dallas in known for their beautiful women. BRAVO...what happened! These women don't even come close to what a Dallas woman really is! Sorry but BRAVO missed the mark on this one.
Courtney, I think the reason you acted as you did towards Neill was not because you thought on her night off she should be with her "best girl friends", I think you acted that way because you were jealous. No matter how many times you say that you and Matt are just friends it won't convince me that you don't have stronger feelings for him than you admit too. And honestly I think that whether he is a "player" or not he has feelings for you as well. I could definatley see you too as a "couple".
Just because Matt says he's not a player....doesn't mean that he's not one...just means he lacks a little self awareness of how he plays. You were awfully rude to a guest at dinner party which brings to question where you learned your manners. Your issues and concerns for Matt, Neill and the baby should have been discussed privately with Matt not at the dinner table. To do so otherwise isn't "real", just leaves ya lookin bitchy and sad and I don't think that's how you really are.....
I LOVED IT!!!! I grew up in Dallas/Highland Park and I love Courtney's honesty! It portrays "The Big D" social world perfect! I think it is a great way to see how young adults deal with life, social/charity events, and real drama everyone has, just on a different scales. I think it also great that they attend so many charity functions, they are not in some bar in seaside fist pumping! They are actually giving back! That goes to show Dallas has the biggest heart!
I cannot believe that you are defending your actions. I actually expected you to be embarrased after watching how you acted. I have had a lot of guy friends and guy best friends and I have never even thought of acting the way you did. You are not a mother so you have absolutely no right to try and tell someone how they should parent. When you have a child you aren't allowed to go out to dinner unless it's with your best girlfriends? That is one of the dumbest things I have ever heard. You were so rude to her for absolutely no reason. I really hope that we see you apologize to her in a later episode. You need to get a grip! You shouldn't treat a best guy friend or a boyfriend like that. People don't like to be controlled.
Coming from Dallas it's nice to finally see an attractive woman that hasn't bleached her hair blonde! You are a very pretty girl so get over that DB Matt and move on. He's a wanna be at best! You can do much, much better!
I'm sorry, but I think you were just rude. It is clear you are threatened, which is sad, because you are a beautiful and intelligent woman. I can't understand why you acted like such an ugly person. I hope if and when the day comes that you marry and have a child, you will understand the need to balance your life. Until that day comes, I really don't think you should stand in judgement.
I would love to know what your mother thought of this episode and if she was proud of your "thoughfulness".
That was REALLY hard to watch... I'm SURE your a good person with a good heart. I'll give it a couple more weeks.
Just curious if you would've acted the same way if your BFF was a woman and she brought a single Dad to dinner? My gut tells me you would not have. As much as you protest about just being friends, it seems you are a bit insecure and jealous of him having any other friends, especially lady friends other than you!
FYI: Texas isn't Southern, it's Southwestern. BIG difference. Ask anyone who lives in the South! As stated on the show, Dallas is FlAsHy....the South isn't. Totally different mindset, totally different vibe.
I have had the same male best friend since I was 8 years old, and I am now almost 37. I have never sobbed in the bathroom over him, or the person he brought to dinner. He's just not that into you. Add me to the list of people who can't believe you aren't terribly embarrassed after watching that!
I have a 19 month old, and I am a single parent. My child goes to bed at 6, so there is not bonding time with my "nugget" at night. Lay off, you are coming across as bitter.
Wow, Courtney. A true southern belle would NEVER do or say anything to make any feel uncomfortable, no matter what. Please do a little more research on what it really means to be a southern belle before claiming that title.
Courtney ~ you can be my new female bff --- my real bff is a guy a couple of years older than me. We dated for awhile and then we (he) decided we were better off friends. But he is just like Matt and has a "female' friend that parties all of the time instead of being at home with her 2 year old.... makes me totally sick. Last night's episode was way too familiar!
I totally agree with you....what you said was right and I don't think you did anything wrong....if Neil dosnt like it....she can get over it!end of story!...like you said she should of gone out with her friends(or friend)....if her only friend was Matt...then she could of had another night off and just gone out with him!
There's a great saying that goes something like "I was a great Mom before, I had kids". As a fellow single Mama, I too enjoy the occasional night out with adults talking over wine about adult things. This not in any way takes away fromt he time and love I have for my sweet son. Don't be so quick to judge my friend...
Just want to start off saying that you are very beautiful. I really don't agree with your opinion on Neille going out to dinner with new people. You can't expect her to stay in every night of her life an not get out and meet people. She was probably uncomforatable as it was for her meeting a new group of people without having you attack her. Even though you say it was aimed more at Matt it really put her on the spot.
Sooo many haters...girl you rocked out my Monday night this week. You are absolutely hilarious!!! Love the big personality, love the style, love someone who speaks unfiltered. AND anyone who can say that after a few cocktails they have never cried over something stupid is a liar. Don't worry hunny i spent one night crying in the middle of a restaurant over my aunts cat...he was so cute and it was a tragic garage door accident - sniffle sniffle. Keep it rolling woman!
One of my BFF's is male.. I totally get it! Being over protective doesn't mean your jealous or a bitch. But it does look like you and Matt have some chemistry wondering where if anywhere that will lead.
Women such as yourself is something I never could understand. I myself have been in Neills place poor thing....and oh am a true brunette if you please! No fake blonde streaks or fake anything. What struck me is your insecurity, and jealousy of the nameless ladies who in reality couldn't hold a candle to you in the appearance department as you are much more attractive to them until.....you open your mouth. When you begin with the attitude it makes you the most UNATRACTIVE girl in the room. Beauty is not something that only comes on the outside FYI. If you truly want Matt in your future with further tantrums you will end up out in the cold and lose him as a friend as well. Be the southern "lady" you were taught to be for goodness sake. Confidence is the one thing that attracts a man as well as not being "too available" as in whenever Matt calls you are there. It might be best to make him wonder a bit what you are too busy with. Think about it. You really are prettier than all of these girls physically, but you need to show them how lovely you can be on the inside. Outward beauty fades.
While I agree with Courtney's assessment of Neill, I don't think that it was the time or the place.
Also, she needs to find a girl to be her BFF. Matt isn't sexually attracted to her. I don't think that's a bad thing because he is not boyfriend material. And I think that girls who have guys as "best friends" are not attractive to other men.
Neill is definitely using the show to promote her acting/singing career. I knew that I had seen her some B movie before.
Courtney- I am the same way with my guy friends- I feel like I have to protect them and interfere when I think they are making unwise decisions when it comes to women. However, I recently have been trying to sit back and keep my mouth shut! LOVE your description of your ideal man! When you find him send his twin brother to Nashville!!
Ask any mom out there with a 1 year old, and I'm sure they go out from time to time. Do you expect a mom to stay with their baby 24/7? Can't wait 'til you are in that position - - you'll see.
Funny. My best friend is a man and he lives in Dallas. BUT I go out of my way to make any girl he brings around comfortable because I know how as a duo we can be intimidating -- what with all our memories and inside jokes and ridiculous banter. We can crack each other up just by looking at each other and that would make any girl he brings around crazy. As for the baby thing and your criticism....gurrrllll...come on now! Who ya foolin'? Jealousy is not a good look for you. I think you have a good heart, but if you can't handle being just friends with dude and kickin' it and being a lady towards his lady friends....get out of that situation!
Until you are a mother with a child, your opinion may matter to you, but it certainly doesn't hold any credibility with anyone who is single and trying to raise a child.
Give it a try before you criticize your best friend's new friend.