And apparently Neill is someone who was “wowed” by Matt at one point. Although my reaction to Neill was pretty chilly, most of it was directed towards Matt. Everyone knows Matt isn’t looking to settle down. And I hope Neill is smart enough to know Matt isn’t looking to settle down. So to me, they are playing with fire. There is a child involved, and that could make things messy. The “mother hen” in me is being protective -- protective of Matt’s reputation, protective of Neill’s heart, and protective of Baby Major. Unfortunately though my “tough love” approach came off pretty rocky at the dinner table and even continued with tears shed in the bathroom by the automatic hand dryer. (Insert my ugly cry here!)
Ultimately our group is dealing with real issues, and I hope others can see the depth of us. There are no secrets. There are no closed doors. We are a core. We are not the “most eligible” because we have looks, or money, or status, or success. We are eligible because we are real. We are eligible because we offer it all up and put all our cards on the table. No poker face. No bull. We take the bull and grab it by the horns, because we are “The Big D.”
I just think you are mean girl towards females in general. Even with Tara you constantly make sneaky, snide jabs about her dating lifestyle/and or partners, and she's your friend! I'm not even going to get into the Neil situation, that goes without saying. I know this is a reality tv show and drama equals ratings, but if you really DO want that "mommy, married" life. Is this portrayal of yourself REALLY what you want your future kids to see? Honestly, if you spent HALF the time criticizing yourself as you do everyone else, you probably wouldn't be so insecure and venomous.
Don't underestimate yourself. Go find someone else and admit that you are in love with your best friend. Don't be jealous by all of the other girls, just find yourself someone that will love you for you. You seem like a great lady!
Let Matt Go.....you deserve better and if he loves you, he will follow.
Really? Sorry I'm not buying into your excuses or your actions towards Neill. First and foremost, Matt is a grown man. He will and can make his own decisions over his own relationships with other women. Frankly speaking, it's really none of your business. I've seen this type of behavior all too many times before from women like you. Bottom line, you are jealous of Neill and since you weren't center of attention. You made it a point to be the center of attention that night and make this all about you. I saw right through you and I know you made up all those excuses to justify your actions to Matt when in fact it wasn't about Neill having a child or not. Seriously, you need to get a life and grow up.
Courtney, You should be embarrassed by how you acted. But unlike the others who think you are jealous of her because of Matt, I think it is because she is much better looking than you.
You remind me a lot of myself which is good and bad. I understand your situation. I am still waiting for the one..... i want to get married..... have kids. We are the same age. Our generation got screwed up-- guys are working longer and we are too. So they are playing longer... soon women wont be getting married until 40.... I don't know your past with Matt, but he reminds me of one of my guy best friends. I do love him and he is so busy working and he is great looking and knows it. I know we are supposed to be together in a perfect world but something just always gets in the way. I know our connection and I am so aware of our awkward moments but I wont give in and say "I want to be with you." Whatever happens with the show, best of luck, you are not alone with the guys we love that won't grow up. Just sent a text to mine. How much do you want to bet he will disappoint me again? Oh and as far as Neill. Whatever she's just another one that will pass they just put her there for the show, shes not really that eligible. And that whole dinner thing has been so blown out of proportion. Really who cares what you said. You don't need to apologize to anyone for who you are. I know you did it for Matt. Makes me look at myself in a whole new way. Just be you and whatever is meant to happen will. God has a plan. We just don't understand it sometimes.
Bottom line: You took out your frustration on Neil. You need to realize that you are not Matt's girlfriend or wife, and you need to stop making yourself so available to him. You guys are hurting your chances for true intmate companionship because you are basically trying to "cockblock" each other. The crappy reasons why you did not like Neil is PURE JEALOUSY and has nothing to do with what you think a mother shoould do or not do. And how you treated her was shameful, sinful, in bad taste, childish, and just plain mean. You looked foolish asking her those personal and steering questions. One day, if God gives you the gift of having children even acting the way you acted towards that young woman, you will see how you treated her was spiteful and wrong. Why dont you just own up to your true feelings towards Matt and make a decision that until you can truly be can be a purely platonic and non-jealous friend, stay away from him. Explain this to him, and grow into the friend you claim to be. He is also accountable for knowing you feel the way you do, and still parading women around you. He needs to let go too.Sorry this is harsh, but the truth hurts.
Courtney, it is so obvious this is what you are doing: if you cannot have Matt because you two are friends, then noone else can have him either. It doesn't matter who Matt is going to bring or introduce to the group, you are going to give that person a hard time because that person is not you. My advice: move on, better spend your time, energy and obvious passion for the right guy. Good luck to you !
Courtney I think you are awesome! You own the show, and don't let any haters tell you otherwise. Stay true to who you are and the world will see the true person you are. Can't wait to see the whole season. Plus you look fabulous. Hopefully I will be lucky enough to run into you in Dallas.
It was sooooo obvious that you want more than friendship with Matt in the 1st episode. Not to hurt you in anyway, but I'm not seeing you two together because either Matt is BLIND and DEAF or he is just not feeling the same. Don't waste your time on him when you have a lot to offer someone else!
As a mother to an 8 month old little 'nugget', I can tell you that you are absolutely wrong in your assessment of Neill. I rarely go out and have dinner or spend time with friends because I prefer to be with my son. However, when I do go out (which has been maybe 3 times since he's been born), I would be furious if someone immediately crucified me the way you did Niell. Just because you want a family does not give you ammunition to publicly, and then privately, berate someone because she has what you want. Jealousy is never a good color, whether it's because she was with Matt or because she has a son. It doesn't look good on you. When you are a mother you will see that not only do you need to go out to get true 'grown up time', but your child will enjoy spending time with other people. And, I assure you, the smile you receive when you pick up your little one will melt your heart. All in all, I think you will change your tune when A) you start dating someone in real life, not just Matt in your head and B) you have a family and you understand what it takes to have a balanced family.
Dear Bravo..I always try to post on here but you never let my opinion be shown..How bout a break this time???
Courtney...Open your eyes girl...you're jealous of Neill, because you're in love with Matt..and I dont mean in a brother/sister type of way either! Isnt this reality tv?
You're right when you say that Neill has a child and she could get hurt by Matt..but thats something that Neill has to deal with, not you. Let her find out what he is like!
The main thought I perceived from you in the first episode is (like most little girls) living in a Cinderella "fairy-tale" fantasy about what it means to get married, have a baby, and live happily ever after... Life is not a cookie-cutter version of our childhood fairy tales. Everything does not happen in a nice, neat, preordained order. I know this, because I had this same misconception as a young adult. My reality became a life as a single mom that struggles to make "ends meet" and find some sense of normalcy in the world for my son. I, too, had the vision of the white dress, the wedding, honeymoon, baby, white picket fence, etc... That is not a realistic or good view of life. And, you really have no right to judge or criticize another person (Neill) when you have never been in that position yourself. Being a Mom is not an easy job by any means. It takes a lot of hardwork, sacrifice, sweat and tears. And, it's for the rest of your life. So, be careful what you ask for and don't be so quick to judge other single Mom's.
On another note, I really was disappointed with the show as a whole. I am born and raised in DFW area. You all do not represent the area or people in general. You represent only a small population that is fortunate enough to be born into wealthy families and live the life of luxury, but that is not how the majority of this population lives. I thought the cast came across as social snobs with a "better than everyone else" attitude. Definately not interested in watching anymore silly episodes of the dilemma's of the rich and snotty socialites trying to decide on who to date or what to wear to their next fancy get-together. Not realistic to every day life, but then this TV show isn't about being realistic only about getting high ratings and advertisers that pay the big bucks. Good Luck!
I have had a male best friend for many years and never ever have I had to cry in a bathroom over him. The way you acted towards Neil was reprehensible. Don't kid yourself into believing you were tough on her because she has a child and you know Matt isn't ready to settle down. You were upset because Matt was giving her attention not you. I don't know why you think that you need to be her moral compass either. It's not your place to decide what is appropriate for her to do on a night off from her child. It makes no difference in the kind of person she is if she decides to spend her time with old friends or meeting new people. I was truly embarrassed for you watching you judge her and the"blonds" Matt brought to the club. It was cringe worthy the way you made fun of them from their hair color to their clothes. You were at the same bar they were and invited by the same man they were. Why do you think you are better than them? The only difference I saw was that they were having fun and you were a jealous insecure mess. Watching you in action was painful!
I don't think Courtney is in love with Matt and while she didn't handle the situation appropriately, I really do think she was just being protective. For many years my best friend was a guy and I hated watching him constantly bringing around girls he hardly knew and introducing them to our close knit group. I had no problem with other girls (and I was definitely not in love with him), it was just frustrating seeing him with girl after girl after girl who never lasted more than a few weeks. While I never reacted like Courtney, I can certainly see where she is coming from. Don't judge her too much yet! I really think she has Matt's best intentions at heart and just reacted based on his past behavior, not because she dislikes or is jealous of Neill.
Courtney, from the first moment I tuned-in into the show, I fell in love with you and Matt. I don't care if you guys get together or stay friends... I adore both of you! Thank you for giving me a new reason to program my DVR.
Courtney, until you have been in Neill's position and situation, you have no right to criticize what she does with her time.
I've lived in Dallas for a few years. Honestly, I was prepared to hate this show. Overall, the show is "ok". But you were the shining star. I didn't agree with everything you said but you were honest, funny and real. Everyone else was flat and uninteresting. Neill also seems to have potential--but she wasn't given a lot of air time.
Ok I havent reached my teens yet but I am almost there and me and my best friend who is a guy are just like a miny version of you and Matt. I don't know if your telling the truth about not liking him but I can say I have a little feelings for my guy friend and we've had a history but we reliazed that it just wasnt right cause we've been close for a long time. At least your an adult and dont have to go through your last year of middle school with this becasue theres always that "Neil" that gets in the way and you kinda just wanna snap him into reality!
Anyways I think that you are soooo pretty and I wanna be just like you and Matt when I grow up with my guy friend!!! I Love you and everything you do and don't take this the wrong way but honestly you and Matt would be the cutest couple ever!!!!!! In the WORLD!!!! You should seriously think about it because being in the same postition that your in I can tell Matt wants you!!!!! SOOO GO GET HIM
Yes, you are clearly bitter. Lose that and you might find someone interested in you. If girls don't like you, the guys usually wont either. Every guy wants a sweet woman- a genuinely sweet woman, and that means not only to him to get what you want.
This was a difficult episode to watch. I hope you are learning to be a little more forgiving and less judgmental of others (not always easy, I get it). You are a beautiful woman and I hope we can see you blossom and experience some lovin' on the show. It seems you need it!
I hope what you are writing is true about you just wanting to friends, because it obvious Hes just not into you in a romatic way.
I completely adore everything about you! I enjoy your honesty && your humor. YOU ABSOLUTELY CRACKED ME UPP!! You will probably be the only thing that keeps me watching this series.
I am 31, pregnant, and have a 2 year old son who is the most amazing thing to ever happen to me. I always wanted to be a mom but I could not even imagine the amount of love that is possible in life until my husband and I had our son. Yet I have to tell you, moms need a night out once in a while! And it's important for kids to be able to spend time with grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc. Mom (and Dad if they're lucky) are always going to be #1, but the relationship they build with other family members is important too. I spend all day everyday with my son and most nights and believe me, when I find a way to have a night out, I've earned it and need it! If you want to stay on top of your game as a parent, you need to maintain your identity as a person, not just a mom. Don't be so hard on Neill - you should look at it as an opportunity to learn more about what you might feel like when you're a mom, despite your preconceived notions.
Wow I love you, and I'm so glad your standing by what you said. Dont let that heffer steal your man...(( I mean friend))! Keep your head up your a star. Love ya sweet heart :)
Until you are a mother with a child, your opinion may matter to you, but it certainly doesn't hold any credibility with anyone who is single and trying to raise a child.
Give it a try before you criticize your best friend's new friend.
Funny. My best friend is a man and he lives in Dallas. BUT I go out of my way to make any girl he brings around comfortable because I know how as a duo we can be intimidating -- what with all our memories and inside jokes and ridiculous banter. We can crack each other up just by looking at each other and that would make any girl he brings around crazy. As for the baby thing and your criticism....gurrrllll...come on now! Who ya foolin'? Jealousy is not a good look for you. I think you have a good heart, but if you can't handle being just friends with dude and kickin' it and being a lady towards his lady friends....get out of that situation!
Ask any mom out there with a 1 year old, and I'm sure they go out from time to time. Do you expect a mom to stay with their baby 24/7? Can't wait 'til you are in that position - - you'll see.
Courtney- I am the same way with my guy friends- I feel like I have to protect them and interfere when I think they are making unwise decisions when it comes to women. However, I recently have been trying to sit back and keep my mouth shut! LOVE your description of your ideal man! When you find him send his twin brother to Nashville!!
While I agree with Courtney's assessment of Neill, I don't think that it was the time or the place.
Also, she needs to find a girl to be her BFF. Matt isn't sexually attracted to her. I don't think that's a bad thing because he is not boyfriend material. And I think that girls who have guys as "best friends" are not attractive to other men.
Neill is definitely using the show to promote her acting/singing career. I knew that I had seen her some B movie before.
Women such as yourself is something I never could understand. I myself have been in Neills place poor thing....and oh am a true brunette if you please! No fake blonde streaks or fake anything. What struck me is your insecurity, and jealousy of the nameless ladies who in reality couldn't hold a candle to you in the appearance department as you are much more attractive to them until.....you open your mouth. When you begin with the attitude it makes you the most UNATRACTIVE girl in the room. Beauty is not something that only comes on the outside FYI. If you truly want Matt in your future with further tantrums you will end up out in the cold and lose him as a friend as well. Be the southern "lady" you were taught to be for goodness sake. Confidence is the one thing that attracts a man as well as not being "too available" as in whenever Matt calls you are there. It might be best to make him wonder a bit what you are too busy with. Think about it. You really are prettier than all of these girls physically, but you need to show them how lovely you can be on the inside. Outward beauty fades.
One of my BFF's is male.. I totally get it! Being over protective doesn't mean your jealous or a bitch. But it does look like you and Matt have some chemistry wondering where if anywhere that will lead.
Sooo many haters...girl you rocked out my Monday night this week. You are absolutely hilarious!!! Love the big personality, love the style, love someone who speaks unfiltered. AND anyone who can say that after a few cocktails they have never cried over something stupid is a liar. Don't worry hunny i spent one night crying in the middle of a restaurant over my aunts cat...he was so cute and it was a tragic garage door accident - sniffle sniffle. Keep it rolling woman!
Just want to start off saying that you are very beautiful. I really don't agree with your opinion on Neille going out to dinner with new people. You can't expect her to stay in every night of her life an not get out and meet people. She was probably uncomforatable as it was for her meeting a new group of people without having you attack her. Even though you say it was aimed more at Matt it really put her on the spot.
There's a great saying that goes something like "I was a great Mom before, I had kids". As a fellow single Mama, I too enjoy the occasional night out with adults talking over wine about adult things. This not in any way takes away fromt he time and love I have for my sweet son. Don't be so quick to judge my friend...
I totally agree with you....what you said was right and I don't think you did anything wrong....if Neil dosnt like it....she can get over it!end of story!...like you said she should of gone out with her friends(or friend)....if her only friend was Matt...then she could of had another night off and just gone out with him!
Courtney ~ you can be my new female bff --- my real bff is a guy a couple of years older than me. We dated for awhile and then we (he) decided we were better off friends. But he is just like Matt and has a "female' friend that parties all of the time instead of being at home with her 2 year old.... makes me totally sick. Last night's episode was way too familiar!
Wow, Courtney. A true southern belle would NEVER do or say anything to make any feel uncomfortable, no matter what. Please do a little more research on what it really means to be a southern belle before claiming that title.
I have had the same male best friend since I was 8 years old, and I am now almost 37. I have never sobbed in the bathroom over him, or the person he brought to dinner. He's just not that into you. Add me to the list of people who can't believe you aren't terribly embarrassed after watching that!
I have a 19 month old, and I am a single parent. My child goes to bed at 6, so there is not bonding time with my "nugget" at night. Lay off, you are coming across as bitter.
FYI: Texas isn't Southern, it's Southwestern. BIG difference. Ask anyone who lives in the South! As stated on the show, Dallas is FlAsHy....the South isn't. Totally different mindset, totally different vibe.
Just curious if you would've acted the same way if your BFF was a woman and she brought a single Dad to dinner? My gut tells me you would not have. As much as you protest about just being friends, it seems you are a bit insecure and jealous of him having any other friends, especially lady friends other than you!
That was REALLY hard to watch... I'm SURE your a good person with a good heart. I'll give it a couple more weeks.
I'm sorry, but I think you were just rude. It is clear you are threatened, which is sad, because you are a beautiful and intelligent woman. I can't understand why you acted like such an ugly person. I hope if and when the day comes that you marry and have a child, you will understand the need to balance your life. Until that day comes, I really don't think you should stand in judgement.
I would love to know what your mother thought of this episode and if she was proud of your "thoughfulness".
Coming from Dallas it's nice to finally see an attractive woman that hasn't bleached her hair blonde! You are a very pretty girl so get over that DB Matt and move on. He's a wanna be at best! You can do much, much better!
I cannot believe that you are defending your actions. I actually expected you to be embarrased after watching how you acted. I have had a lot of guy friends and guy best friends and I have never even thought of acting the way you did. You are not a mother so you have absolutely no right to try and tell someone how they should parent. When you have a child you aren't allowed to go out to dinner unless it's with your best girlfriends? That is one of the dumbest things I have ever heard. You were so rude to her for absolutely no reason. I really hope that we see you apologize to her in a later episode. You need to get a grip! You shouldn't treat a best guy friend or a boyfriend like that. People don't like to be controlled.
I LOVED IT!!!! I grew up in Dallas/Highland Park and I love Courtney's honesty! It portrays "The Big D" social world perfect! I think it is a great way to see how young adults deal with life, social/charity events, and real drama everyone has, just on a different scales. I think it also great that they attend so many charity functions, they are not in some bar in seaside fist pumping! They are actually giving back! That goes to show Dallas has the biggest heart!