Matt Nordgren

Matt talks about his journey on the show and how his relationship with Courtney has changed.

on Oct 17, 20110

It's nice to see the whole season come to fruition. I look at this process as the journey of a man, which every guy goes through in life at different stages. I can honestly say that there may not have been another point in my life in which there was so much personal growth. The Leadership Foundation is what I believe to be a legacy, one that I hope far surpasses my own life and can be something the Nordgren family and all those involved will cherish and hold on to forever.

Through this process I hope everyone sees that people who are very close can put aside their differences and find the positive in relationships and therefore become closer than before. It's obvious that my relationship with Courtney has evolved tremendously. I don't think either of us will regret taking the steps that we have. I didn't think there was a way for us to become closer, but we did just that. This is a woman that I love and have tremendous respect for in every aspect of the word. I cannot wait to see what the future holds for the both of us. The one thing I know is that it will never be the same.

78 comments
MSMS
MSMS

Taylor??!!! are you for real??? give me a break!!!!!!!!!

LB
LB

Courtney is a good woman, Matt..that's the mother of your children right there. I think you know this inside your gut. Don't sour Courtney's spirit by continuing to string her along, waiting for the right moment. The longer you wait, the more difficult she will be to warm up to the next guy. She's already got walls up. Shake off your nerves man...what you two have is extremely special. You both care for each other tremendously. Trust that you would never ever do anything to permanently damage your relationship and friendship. If you think you can find something better..you're kidding yourself. What's for you, is right there in front of your face. No one in this world is perfect, but there ARE folks that are perfect for each other..that FIT each other..all it takes is working at it, everyday. Man up or you're gonna lose the best thing you ever could've had.

Lee88
Lee88

You haven't had a kiss like that in five years AND she's your best friend? Hello! What more do you want??

totally
totally

I feel like this whole show was an orchestrated event for both you and Courtney....for what reasons?? Who knows other than you and Courtney? Boo!!!

AliciaM.MyrtleBeachSC
AliciaM.MyrtleBeachSC

Your comment on WWHL about you and Courtney never dating, and that, she knows the deal just like all of the others, was horrific. You basically toldf her she was no different then any of the other women. You spoke about your journey as a man in your blog. Well a man takes responsibility for his actions and doesn't try to rationalize his bad behavior. In the wake of your saving face, you insulted Courtney pretty badly. I hope she is smart enough never to swim in the Matt pool again.

KBH
KBH

I hope she moves on. You are stringing her along. She is a woman to be cherised not just respected. She is the whole package. And she knows it. She won't wait around long?!

greenwood3535
greenwood3535

Are you kidding me?????????? I have NEVER seen anything but friendship, for Courtney, in his eyes. I'm not even sure that he's straight!! None of my business, but please STOP!!!! That was the most awkward attempt at romance I've ever had to sit through!!! Move on, both of you, and save yourself the embarrassment!

angee specht
angee specht

You will lose Courtney to someone else if you dont go for this! She is ready for a family, like , NOW, and with YOU! Go get her or someone else will, theres no doubt about it. Courneys like me in a way, not gonnna wait and can easily find love elsewhere!!! lol...serious..get her back to the LAKE w a NCE TEXAS SIZE DIAMOND RING! Best Hurry! That other guy of hers may jump back into the picture and you will be stuck looking for another Courtney! Just do it..Taylor + Big Trouble, omg. Ya nuts, dont go there buddie. omg.. she will eat you up!

YO PAPA
YO PAPA

don't mess this up. you're going to lose her.

La La
La La

Matt,

I have never "written" on someone's blog before. BUT I'm hoping you profess your love and and never look back. You won't be sorry! I married my best friend from UF. We swore we would never ever be more than friends. 13 New Years Eve's ago we kissed and that was it. Our friends were relieved! Once you take the plunge you just have to "go for it". Its not like she has any issues that are going to come out that you haven't discovered in 5 years of knowing her. You know her completely and its apparent that she knows you better than you know yourself. I can honestly tell you that 3 kids and 10 years later, he's still my best friend. If you go "play the field" a little more, I'm sorry to say you're as emotionally messed up as Drew. (sorry Drew, but some counseling might help you discover why you sabotaged your relationship)

Lightning doesn't strike twice. Catch Courtney before she's gone.

daisey may
daisey may

Matt, You know what you want. It will never work with Courtney. You can't marry someone just because they love you. You must feel the same way. If it's not there - it's not there.

Mississippi Girl
Mississippi Girl

Matt.......You and Courtney HAVE to be together........man, can't you see how much she loves you?? You should sit down and watch this season and you will see with your own eyes. Stay away from Taylor........BAD NEWS!!!!!

clear eyed
clear eyed

I am astounded by how blind everyone is but not you Matt...I understand what you're doing with Courtney and you do too...now. You did ruin "it" by acting on it with Courtney but you will get over it although she probably never will. It was obvious, her love for you, and you knew it all along. Yet you had other "pre-oocupations"..so you kept her hoping, but then when you had a lull in your relationships..what the heck...let's see...she wants it....Her only hold over you and her only hope of ever having you, was in her distance to you. I understand you because I am the same...it's a flaw, perhaps..but one other people find intriguing??

nadz
nadz

Its magical to always see the both of you. i cried when i saw the final episode. when you all went to neils concert and kissed behind the stage for me that was also magical. Mat i married my bestfriend knew each other for 13 years before and married for 12. COURT is your rock MATTY we feel the chemistry. even your parents love that. I ALSO BELIEVE SHE CAME LATE TO THE FUNCTION TO REALLY LOOK GOOD FOR YOU and when she arrived your heart melted. TAKE HER BACK TO THE SPOT AND PROPOSED SHE IS ALL YOURS WRAPPED UP IN A GIFT BASKET. P.S. EVEN THE NIGHT SHE WENT WITH GLEN SHE COULD HAVE BUT BOY SHE HAD U IN MIND. Your always saying good or thank God when she doesnt give in to something eg. when mr SOUTH AFRICA LEFT we saw your face. i love the show and cant wait to see the next season. MATTY PUT A RING ON IT.

AlexisLarbs
AlexisLarbs

Courtney Nordgren...doesn't that just have a nice ring to it? MARRY HER ALREADY. It would make my life complete.

becky west
becky west

Matt- for gosh sakes, grow up already, like everyone else is saying - its clear Courtney is in love with you but for some reason you wont commit!!! Really- Taylor Armstrong???? you must not have enough drama in your life -She has serious issues and then there is her child to consider!! you want your cake... but you dont want anyone to have Courtney!!!! Give her a chance to find a nice guy!!

My Kitchen
My Kitchen

My brothers (both happily married for over 15 years) and my father (who has been married to my mother for over 50 years) all told me this when I asked them why they married their spouse: "I couldn't imagine life without her". If this is what you truly feel, don't let her get away. No relationship ever stays the same, it either moves forward or dies out...Good luck!

My Kitchen
My Kitchen

My brothers (both happily married for over 15 years) and my father (who has been married to my mother for over 50 years) all told me this when I asked them why they married their spouse: "I couldn't imagine life without her". If this is what you truly feel, don't let her get away. No relationship ever stays the same, it either moves forward or dies out...Good luck!

Bravo Fan #1
Bravo Fan #1

I had you pegged from the first episode, all you want is to have a little black book so you can call the ladies when ever you need your ego stroked. I don't see any growth you in at all, Drew said it best, you are in for what makes u look good. One day you will find yourself a lonely little man still calling up to see if any women left. If any women in Dallas have any sense they will block your calls.

Courtney, RUN, RUN away from Matt as far as you can Courtney deserves better than you could ever be. I for one hope Courtney finds the gentleman that is right for her and want ever have to worry about looking over her shoulder.

Someone like you the woman would have to settle for a two timer. And, Taylor from RHOBH, are you kidding??

Amy K
Amy K

Matt, I have a best friend - HE is awesome and I am happy to have him in my life each day. My BEST friend and I played with the idea, kissed, of taking our friendship to the next level. It is hard not to want to Marry your best friend.

My best friend and I found that we were never single at the same time and many of our relationships ended because either his girlfriends did not understand my place in his life and my boyfriends certainly did not get our relationship.

We have been BFF's now for 20 years (we entered our friendship at the age of 12 and we are 36 and 37 years old). At some point life decided for us that we were not ment to be a couple but we were always to remain best friends. We each found wonderful people to share our lives with. My husband is great friends with my BFF and I adore my BFF's wife. I can tell you that our love runs very deep and if anything were to happen to one of our spouses we would be there for each other and not in a sexual way to take care of each other. Our spouses find this comforting.

I don't know what life has in store for you and Cort but life has a way of working things out. I do believe that she is in love with you. She looks the way I felt for a number of years, and I do believe that you are in love with her. If you do love her MARRY her now or someone else will, this is what happened with my BFF and I. I got tired of waiting.

We are both happy and love our spouses and children but we will never be husband and wife because of his choices. I was ready, real ready for a husband to cuddle up with at night and I was ready for children. He just was not in the same place.

I love my life so don't take this the wrong way but it could have been very different.

Best wishes and I love the show (you and Cort)!

RAK

Jacque Schwend
Jacque Schwend

Matt, quit the flirting with Courtney. If you love her and want to spend your life with her, tell her. If not, tell her. It would truly be a terrible mistake for you to let Courtney go. My God, even through the TV, one can feel the chemistry you have for each other. You were made for each other. When a person finds his soul mate, he'd be a fool to let her go and he will regret it for the rest of his life. Wake up "Matty" and put that ring on Courntey's finger before you loose her. The guy from South Africa is going to steel her away from you. She is a very special girl.

Jacque Schwend
Jacque Schwend

Matt, quit the flirting with Courtney. If you love her and want to spend your life with her, tell her. If not, tell her. It would truly be a terrible mistake for you to let Courtney go. My God, even through the TV, one can feel the chemistry you have for each other. You were made for each other. When a person finds his soul mate, he'd be a fool to let her go and he will regret it for the rest of his life. Wake up "Matty" and put that ring on Courntey's finger before you loose her. The guy from South Africa is going to steel her away from you. She is a very special girl.

Donna2
Donna2

Matt, that show last night was so HOT! You and Courtney definately have chemistry. But I'm confused. You seemed like you were totally into her but yet after 5 years you still can't commit? After being best friends, you should know if she's the one or not. Is this just a committment issue or do you not love her? What's up with that? Courtney is a good girl. You're NOT going to find many like her anymore. They just don't exist! Make up your mind before you loose her. But don't string her along either. Let her go, or commit! You're 29 for goodness sake, when do you think you're going to have kids? Don't wait too long, you'll end up regretting it!

JJKlein
JJKlein

Courtney......you are a beautiful girl! But you are letting Matt have his cake and eat it too. You are making it too easy for him to have all your attention and date other women. I think you need to be honest with yourself and tell Matt that you are in love with him and either he is with you....or he needs to let you go. You guys could be doing this song and dance for 10 more years. And he'll end up marrying someone else. You are a great girl and deserve to be someone's one and only. Good luck to you! I'm really hoping that that Matt see's that you love him for him.....and not for the money etc!

AViewer1
AViewer1

I'm confused, was this love wknd w/ Courney musty for the cameras? You say you don't "play games,"' yet your biggest game is on Courtney. This woman you "have tremendous respect for in every aspect of the word."' Show her that respect & let her go... For her. Otherwise all that's clear is your selfishness.

Christopher84
Christopher84

I find it ironic that this Matt fellow was on the post-show and it was sponsored by Summer's Eve. Bavo, Bravo.

lovelyday
lovelyday

Matt- The effort you put into the date and the way you were with Courtny on the finale was not shown on WWHL. Don't know if it was a front...If you really care about or "love" Courtney as you say you do; you would let her go so she can find the love that she deserves.

PS...Taylor Armstrong---EWWW!!!!!!!!!!, just shows you will hook up with anyone and will probably hurt Court.

jerryb3333
jerryb3333

Matt, Courtney shows "some" quality traits, but the fact remains that she walks over people trying to have genuine conversations. When did she become a subject matter expert on matters of love and relationships? (or anything for that matter). She and you both are guilty of not putting yourselves out there and you both seem to be afraid of risks that are inherent in a committed relationship. I won't be watching too much more of Most Eligible because it just embellishes the career single mentality. Healthy relationships take emotional work which seems to be a trait that did not present itself well in the series. Good luck to both of you but with a season over and both of you still in non committed role towards each other is more than enough for me.

EBC
EBC

Guys, this episode gave me total butterflies. I love it. God bless y'all! You deserve real love!

funD
funD

Submitted by quinella on October 18, 2011. said it perfect - so true -

chiMOMMie
chiMOMMie

Taylor over Courtney? COME ON!

JRSavage
JRSavage

I'm so mad that you and Courtney said you weren't dating on WWHL! I just knew you were going to say you all were/are together. I mean, I was totally let down and almost turned the show off...LOL (but i didn't)! I got so tickled at Andy for moving the wheel around just to make you all kiss again. I agree with everyone else...GO GET HER! If you wait she's going to slip right past you. I mean what the heck is taking you so long? What are you not seeing here? Y'all are too cute and perfect to not be together. Loved the show! Can't wait for another season.

Concerned but Hopeful
Concerned but Hopeful

You commented that you've never had a kiss as good as the one you had with Courtney due to the 5 years of pent-up feeling/tension. This is not why it was so good. Time/tension can lead to horrible kisses--lots of male-female "friends" try kissing after a long time of wondering what it would be like, and it can be a negative (awkward) to awful experience. It can ruin the friendship (the friends hang out less together afterwards to avoid that situation again) or just be nothing special/a little embarrassing and chalked up to a weird moment. You two have a love and chemistry that is unique/special that makes her kisses that much better for you. But, you clearly don't want to settle down with one person right now and want to "explore" relationships (you call them "friendships") with other women (Taylor, MJ, whomever else). This is SOOO unfair to Courtney, who clearly is "in love" with you. Put all your cards on the table with her. If you want to know if you can have a romantic relationship that can "pan out" (whether or not it leads to marriage), try it! If it doesn't work out, don't be selfish about not wanting to lose her. Let her go so she can have a life; she will never fully commit to a man while hoping you're going to come around. Please look at what you're doing from her perspective--your "explorations of other relationships" while keeping her on hold are so unfair to her. If you're not into her, tell her so she can move on. If you don't think you can ever be with one person, that's OK. Not everyone should get married (anybody that can't commit to one person should just stay single). Don't just lead her on and give her false hope (like you are) that you'll someday propose marriage to her. [You even told her you might propose to her someday out of the blue, and over and over that she was the most important woman in your life!!!] And one of the promos showed you saying that the person you want to spend the rest of your life with might be right in front of you, but nothing became of that comment later (edited out by Bravo due to change in your views?). Clearly you were thinking about the potential with Courtney at one point. Put all your cards on the table, stay in the here and now (not what COULD be in the future). Courtney says she'll be in your life forever, but she may not be. Don't count on it, Mr. I Get Whatever I Want. I think you need to talk to your parents about their marriage and your view that nobody has a relationship like theirs. While I don't know them/their relationship at all, I'm sure they have their arguments/problems/issues. Maybe your dad went through a phase where he didn't think he wanted live with one woman for the rest of his life. How did he deal with it? How about your mom? Most marriages go through ups and downs (I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years, and many have told us that we have an ideal marriage, but others don't know I struggled about 10 years ago with the idea of being with one person for the rest of my life). Instead of cheating on my spouse, I discussed all of my concerns with him and we worked through it TOGETHER. It took some time, but when we're on the resolved side of an obstacle, our relationship is always STRONGER than it was before we weathered the problem. You seem to be addicted to that initial intense passion you get in the early stages of dating/"hanging out" with people you're attracted to. However, intimacy is far better in a committed relationship! That intense initial passion goes up and down, but the emotion and love becomes stronger and more intense in a marriage over time, heightening intimate experiences. Please decide what you want and let Courtney know out of respect for her. If you don't know, tell her you need to explore other relationships with women. Let her decide if she wants to date. You can never be "just friends" (contrary to what you say). Friends don't kiss like you two did. That shared experience will always be in the background of your relationship. What is your issue with dating? What you are doing (your behavior) is in fact dating! You can date multiple people at once without any desire to marry! If you want to date Courtney and other women (if Courtney is willing to do so), to explore several possibilities, talk to her about this. But treat her with class (not a friend "with benefits"). She deserves way more respect than that. You're acting a bit like an entitled man who always gets what he wants (except from the one lady who jilted you). You think your relationship has grown/is stronger? Right now, it appears strained and Courtney is understandably sarcastic/doubtful/unsure. You don't get strength in relationships without resolutions. Please don't just think about your needs and wants right now--your actions are undoubtedly confusing and hurtful to Courtney. It's amazing she's still around, for now...but when she gets smart/tired of waiting, she'll put her attention into someone else and have less time for you. Your significant other SHOULD be your best friend (so you'll probably lose that status anyway when she finds someone else to date/marry). Bottom line: do something to change your relationship with her so you can both move on (with each other or with other people!).

ashleyp789456
ashleyp789456

I thought it was so cute when Courtney and Matt rode off on horses together! So romantic! I really hope they stay together, they're just too CUTE!

chrish
chrish

For some reason, I was watching this show yesterday and I kept thinking "Why am I watching this?" Each person on this show is awful. I feel for the single people of Dallas if they are the most eligible.

SharonS1010
SharonS1010

I'm so sad for the season to end -- just when it's getting to the best part!! I'm so glad to see you two together, realize what you have and what it's worth! I'm married to my best friend and can't imagine it another way.

Mrs LLL
Mrs LLL

Just stop the act. Let her go and you just keep being player.

Nidhi
Nidhi

Matt, if there is one thing that I have learned in life, then it is this. It's one thing where you know what you want and you go for it, it's another thing where you don't know what you want, and you string people you care about along only to end up hurting them. Courtney is an amazing woman from what I have seen on this show and more than a friend, she seems to be that type of companion you need in life to fulfill you. Your parents are right when they say that they work because they are best friends...that is what makes a marriage last. Being best friends with your spouse. In your behind the scenes footage of your date, you told Courtney that it doesn't have to end up the way that she wants...that timeline. Sometimes things are meant to happen in other ways. I hate to break this to you buddy, but if Courtney ends up marrying someone else who truly loves her and takes care of her the way you should, it will totally destroy you! That kiss you had, didn't just say chemistry, it said something more. It totally said you care for her, otherwise you would never have kissed her. Matt, I love my best friend to death, but we have never felt that way for one another. We are dependent on one another but we also are extremely supportive of one another as well. I told him that I am involved and soon-to-be engaged to a wonderful man, the first thing he said was "I have never heard you be this happy about any man. He truly is a keeper! I can't wait to meet him!" Can I tell you, this man is someone who I have chemistry with and is becoming my best friend. Matt, there is nothing wrong with taking things forward with someone who is your best friend, especially when you know that person has qualities you have looked for in a potential partner. Hope this helps! :)

Jamie123
Jamie123

Really, Matt? You are a stupid fool if you let Courtney go. Get down on one knee, ask her to marry you, and get on with what could be an incredible life! Or your can just continue on the way you are until your 15 minutes of fame is over.

nikkiv
nikkiv

Matt, you are a hottie and you know it. You have it all, looks, personality and money. You are stringing Courtney along. Leave her be. You didn't like when she had the South African, he liked her! I am routing for you two. I was soo happy when you kissed (you were the aggressor), I posted my joy on my facebook wall. I think you are too self-absorbed to realize what a great woman you have. You are going to blink and she is going to be gone. Get some therapy to get over this commitment phobia you have. Taylor Armstong is not for you, watch your pocketbook. She comes with much much baggage.

Court you are so witty and funny! Run Run fast from him! He likes to play games. He is full of himself and insecure at the same time! Please post this Bravo, you never post any of my comments! Please, please, please!

Ktorres
Ktorres

I have been Married for 13 years to my Best Friend its a wonderful feeling, and the best is the love we share for each other, and the feeling that we have each other no matter what. I tought you have that, and I was soo happy to see you evolved. After WWHL I was sooo dissapointed. You blog about your personal growth, but you are not seeing what your acts may do to people who really love you and support you. Right now it hurts to be Courtney, you can see that she is expecting something from you that you are not willing to give...You shouldnt have gone that path if you were not to finish it. I only hope you realize that fame is not always there, and dont pass an oportunity that will hunt you forever. Everyone sees love between you guys, open your eyes. Remember to seek Forgiveness with an excuse is not a real plead. Man up, do the right thing. Hoping for the best, expecting the worst.

vikki1214
vikki1214

Matt, I've never commented on a blog before, Here goes.... I grew up in the, " White Rock " area. met the love of my life @ 15, stayed together for a few years, and then he broke my heart..That was 39 years ago Matt, I've never forgotten him, always loved him, and had to put him in a place of my heart that no one will ever be allowed to go again. I, had too, in order to move on with my life. He was, MY BEST Friend, ABOVE EVERYTHING ELSE, tHAT WAS A DOUBLE WHAMMY, LOSING THE LOVE OF MY LIFE AND MY BF. Isn't that what we want Matt? To find true love, and have a best friend! You have that with Courtney. STOP, being afraid, and make a committment. You're 29 years old, it's time. The reason I tell you this, is simple. You're still young, BEFORE you know it, you will be 56 years old, and your heart will always be missing something. Dude, YOU TWO " HAVE IT ." WE HAVE NO GUARANTEES IN THIS LIFE ANYMORE MATT, TRUST ME : ) Anyway, to let you in on a secret, I found my true love back in 2009, he will be moving here at the end of November. You can't imagine how many times he has said too me, " I shoukd have never let you go.' LOVE HER OR LET HER GO, MATT BUT, if you do, I believe in MY heart, that you are making the biggest mistake of your life. I watched the show, just because of you two. Good luck : ) Do you even read these comments?

nicbit
nicbit

i can tell she is for real-as for matt i cant, do let her go ud be stupid!! shes great!!!

Erin2011
Erin2011

Matt,

After watching WWHL, it made the last episode feel like a manipulation. I didn't see much of your "personal growth" after it appears you messed things up with Courtney. What is this "exploring" B.S.? You need to let Courtney go because clearly you can't commit to her and don't love her as she loves you. You don't seem to understand how women think. She's not one of the toys in your toy box. Be a true friend to her and let her move on as you are not worthy of her!

atlmom
atlmom

Very disappointed in you. How can you hint that you & Kourt have what your parents have want her then on WWHL you two are not together. Seems like you'll always be "in love" with the thrill of something new.

RebeccaKG
RebeccaKG

I was so excited after watching the Season Finale. I thought "FINALLY"! However, after watching Watch What Happens Live...I was completely disappointed in Matt. Let me also say that seasoned actors cannot recreate kisses like Courtney and Matt shared! Come on get it together Matt, before someone else takes her from you!

keke 2
keke 2

Taylor Armstrong over Courtney? Tell me it isn't so!!

southtexas
southtexas

matt let her go, you will never stop wanting whats around the corner....... be nice..........

Barb548
Barb548

Matt - Courtney loves you. It is quite obvious that you have feelings for her. When Mark when back to South Africa you were glad. Please make a commitment to her or let her go so she can find someone, get married and have the family that she so desperately wants.