Tara Harper

Tara talks about the search for the picture-perfect relationship.

on Oct 3, 20110

OK, I'm a bit of a hypocrite, I admit it. While I am the queen of giving great advice, I rarely take it. Regarding our relationships, I'm convinced we have some sort of chemical in our brains that blinds us from what everybody on the planet plainly sees. Sadly, I think we just want (more than anything) for our relationships to be a "love story" and not just a "story" or even worse -- a horror story. So when our hearts are involved, we just can't see the obvious, unlike our friends who are on the outside looking in and can see everything.    

My ex-fiancée and I are the best of friends. We have always been able to give each other wonderful advice about relationships. So Courtney and John clearly don't want me to be with Jody, I get it! But again, when my heart is involved, I just can't help it; I am diving in and I'm looking for the fairytale, storybook ending. Courtney and John, put down the red flags that you're waving in my face and just be happy for me.   

And how about Matt and Courtney as a perfect example of denying the truth? I love how Courtney sits poolside describing to Matt his perfect girl. Guess what? She's describing herself! I love it. I also love how Matt "Mr. I Don't Want A Relationship" can only think about Courtney on the biggest night of his life. Seriously you guys please just see what everyone else is seeing…YOU ARE PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER! You have a love that is based first on friendship, and what could be better than that? Please just go for it. 

9 comments
Monica mom of 3
Monica mom of 3

Tara, You are a smart & beautiful woman, but you want love so badly that your looking in all the wrong places. You deserve sooooo much better than what I have seen you with on the show. Stop looking for Mr right and he will show up when you least expect it. Shoot for the stars and do not settle! You are too important to just settle. Let God work on bringing your prince to you. I know he has someone special for you because of all the great work you do for the animals. You speak for them because they cannot speak for themselves. I really admire the work you do for the animals. Keep it up because for some of them you are thier only hope. Lots of love from GA! xxx

Kathy Smith
Kathy Smith

You are one of my favorites on this show. I like you and Jody together. Now of us know what happened with Jody's past 3 marriages. Who knows maybe they weren't the one. I really like the two of you together and am rooting for you two. You two make a cute couple and I can see how much in his eyes that he cares for you. I don't trust a thing Courtney says as she isn't the best person to get advice from. Follow your heart and see where it leads. Rooting for you and Jody.

Jim E.
Jim E.

Tara, it appears that you are attracted to older men? You're in luck, I'm a 65 year-old widower and relatively new to Texas. I'm very much a gentleman and respectful of ladies. If you want to get together, just let me know and I'll drive to Dallas to meet you. BTW...I'm VERY much a dog lover!! Have 2 of my own, a female Westie, and a male 1/2 Weztie & 1/2 Jack Russell.

MsCaliAly
MsCaliAly

I feel Jody was just trying to get in your pants and that is why he was "rushing" to get into a relationship with you. He does not seem sincere at all.

Neece in TheColony
Neece in TheColony

Dear Tara, you are truely a Texas Lady!! You have the lipstick in one hand and the whip in the other!!

Love the show (of course, its my hometown).

Rooting for You & Mr. Jody. Girl he is a softy, so be gentle with him. I have a feeling he falls in love easily and gets walked on because of it. Not every woman can handle that kind of power.

Good luck!!!

funD
funD

Tara - Do you own a mirror? You are beautiful and seem so kind hearted and sweet you seem to be the complete package what is up with dating the old ugly guys - not trying to be mean but what is up you could have ANYBODY - PLEASE GET AWAY FROM THE FOUR TIME LOSER! he should be ashamed for even thinking he deserves to be with someone like you - CALLING ALL ELIGIBLE DALLAS MEN - FIND TARA AND GET HER AWAY FROM THE OLD GUY!

Morgan A.
Morgan A.

Tara, Not only are you beautiful, but you are a kind and caring person. I admire your commitment to your animal charity and your thoughtfulness towards your friends and family.

As for Jody, you obviously see something in him that others can't. However, Jody being married and divorced three times isn't a good bet. Jody doesn't seem to hold marriage vows sacred and incapable of making a lasting commitment to a woman. It's a credit that Jody loves his children, but 3 kids with 3 women is a sad situation that I don't think you should subject yourself.

One failed marriage could be considered a mistake, but three? You wouldn't buy another Toyota (sorry, Jody isn't a Ferrari) from Drew if three other Toyotas blew up on you, would you? 3 divorces proves Jody is not a man of his word nor a man of integrity - qualities that are important in a checklist for a life partner. Tara, you will be a wonderful wife and mother one day (and Courtney too!). I hope Mr. Wonderful finds you soon.

P.S. Your 3 or 4 engagements are not the same as Jody's 3 marriages. Proposals are not equivalent to actual promises!

Logan27
Logan27

Courtney, you are way to pretty/intelligent/interesting to be picking the guys you do. It almost seems to me like you pick guys you know you can never truly be with for a reason, like you are afraid of being with the type of person you really see yourself with. This way you don't ever get invested and risk getting hurt? I don't know but either way girl, you really can do so much better!

AnneWesley
AnneWesley

Was very surprised to see that Tara's ex (John) is an older guy, too. Tara talks about her father, so he's in her life. Wonder if he wasn't around when she was growing up, so she's looking for a father-figure??