Tara Harper

Tara talks about the search for the picture-perfect relationship.

on Oct 3, 2011

OK, I'm a bit of a hypocrite, I admit it. While I am the queen of giving great advice, I rarely take it. Regarding our relationships, I'm convinced we have some sort of chemical in our brains that blinds us from what everybody on the planet plainly sees. Sadly, I think we just want (more than anything) for our relationships to be a "love story" and not just a "story" or even worse -- a horror story. So when our hearts are involved, we just can't see the obvious, unlike our friends who are on the outside looking in and can see everything.    

My ex-fiancée and I are the best of friends. We have always been able to give each other wonderful advice about relationships. So Courtney and John clearly don't want me to be with Jody, I get it! But again, when my heart is involved, I just can't help it; I am diving in and I'm looking for the fairytale, storybook ending. Courtney and John, put down the red flags that you're waving in my face and just be happy for me.   

And how about Matt and Courtney as a perfect example of denying the truth? I love how Courtney sits poolside describing to Matt his perfect girl. Guess what? She's describing herself! I love it. I also love how Matt "Mr. I Don't Want A Relationship" can only think about Courtney on the biggest night of his life. Seriously you guys please just see what everyone else is seeing…YOU ARE PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER! You have a love that is based first on friendship, and what could be better than that? Please just go for it.