Couple Q&A

The couple talkes baby plans and apartment hunting.

on May 13, 20130

What is it like living bicoastal? What are the best parts of each coast? The worst?

KIM & ALASKA: It's exhilarating but tiring at the same time. Since we travel together it feels like we're always on vacation. The best part of LA is the weather, the best part of New York is everything! The worst part of LA is the traffic, the worst part of New York the MTA.

What were your expectations going into life after marriage?

KIM & ALASKA: Having a stable life. Living on one coast at time, spending everyday with my husband.

If you if you could have your dream newlywed apartment what would it be? What was the hardest part of apartment hunting in NYC?

KIM & ALASKA: It would be a brownstone with a full backyard! Trying to fine a good price, size, and location all in one!

34 comments
geminilady
geminilady

Honestly, I don't get this relationship at all. I fast forward through all of your segments.

blue42
blue42

Was just catching up on episodes and saw your conversation about his mom's passing, Being family is being generous enough to understand what others are going through. No marriage is perfect. Sometimes it takes years of work to get to where you want. I am not religious. And I grew up with a single mom. So your marriage rules would not work for me. Because I didn't grow up that way.But the only thing that matters is if it works for the both of YOU. Don't let anyone tell you who you are. No one can understand what goes on in someone else relationship. Be happy you found your best friend. The rest will work itself out. You are both blessed.

vertabeary
vertabeary

Kim is not REALLY into submission even though her mouth says she is. Alaska is only thinking about himself.....result.......friction. Both need to get real and be honest about who they really are. It does seem like Alaska has a secret.

DANNYE
DANNYE

A dominant, alpha, Christian male is NOT synonymous with jerk. A man who is the leader of his family, leads because he loves and respects them, not bullies them. They are terribly misguided if they see this as the "Christian" way.

latreese79
latreese79

kim, WHY, WHY, WHY, did you marry Alaska? It appears you wanted to be married and thought " if I stay, one day he'll marry me". He doesn't compromise which is required for a marriage to work. The last episode he stated his mom use to stay up when he would come into town and 2 clock in the morning get up & heat up his food and he told you he expects you to do the same. I think you should re-evaluate your marriage. He doesn't want you in the bathroom with him or shower with you. What husband doesn't want to shower with his wife? That's the perfect "play time". What loving husband doesn't give his wife his flight information? He wears small tight clothes & has different hair styles ( he could be on the DL). I also have to say, you're NOT the power couple you think you are. As a woman of God, I can't tell you to leave but I will tell you to be WATCHFUL.

zoeyblu
zoeyblu

Jeez.....are these two still together ? 

LynnGarrow
LynnGarrow

Wow Kim.  You seem like a strong, intelligent woman, and you are beautiful.  Whatever happens, always remember that.  You have it in you to win.  Don't ever let anyone....ANYONE, including people you love, beat you down.

clovers4
clovers4

Kim, GET OUT !!!! He is NOT the man for you at ALL..I don't think my dog could even deal with how cold, rude, and disrespectul he is. This is NOT an example I'd want for my children & I would NOT have kids with this man. You seem so unhappy...This will never change ..I know its possible that we don't see all sides of Alaska on the show...but he is sure showing his ugly side...He doesn't respect a single part of you or what you do...he needs a real good slap !..

 

Sorry Girl..But you need to get it movin ! He needs to remain alone

 

Pawlover
Pawlover

Kim needs to wake up.  Something is not right if you are left in the dark as to where your husband is living and working in Los Angeles. Why did Alaska get married?  Alaska does not respect Kim and is cold and unloving.  I am sure Kim knew this before marrying him.  If you thought you would change this man, sorry to tell you but you cannot change anyone, BUT YOURSELF!  Kim you are making excuses for his bad behavior as a human being let alone the love of your life!?!  You are young and able to take care of yourself so are you willing to be Alaska's doormat or a strong woman with positive reflections in your mirror?

millie.jacksun
millie.jacksun

Kim, girl you better wake up!  You are young and have a career so why are you letting Alaska treat you like a second class citizen?  I think you suspect that something is not right with your man, stop making excuses for him and start investigating what's really going on in Cali.

Lauralorrington
Lauralorrington

Well, after watching last night’s episode now I really can’t stand Alaska – even more!!  Did Kim really say she didn’t know his address in LA?  Did I hear that right?  OMG!!!  He is so cold, unloving, uncaring and insensitive!!  Who wakes up and starts blasting music while your wife is still sleeping?  And walks away while she’s still in the middle of talking to him?  What an insensitive Jerk!  RUN KIM!! RUN!!

 

chazzmother
chazzmother

Alaska seems like he wants to come out the closet, but isn't ready to turn the knob, I don't believe this marriage is built on love. I don't even understand how they had a wedding and moved into an apartment where he was living with his sister. You find a place to live before you even plan a wedding. Did they not discuss anything? The whole bi-coastal issue should  have been addressed. Ugh...

anastasia0157
anastasia0157

omg-alaska-you are such an azz. who the hell do you think you are?? and kim-not that you deserve much better, but you do. why the heck do you put up with his stuff?? shame on you-i am embarrassed for both of you

mssandee
mssandee

Sorry to say this is not a true marriage. Alaska is verbally abusive to you. Anyone who truly loves you cannot find it in their heart or soul to treat you as this guy treats you. He truly has serious issues and they need to be addressed immediately. It appears that he can't stand to be around you, and it's not the editing. Life is to short. I am a Christian and there is no way that a husband should demean his wife like yours do. It is time for some serious counseling. You two are a horrible example for a newlywed couple. Alaska you need to come to terms with your upbringing and really release your deep seeded hang-ups.

legalmama
legalmama

Why did you two even bother getting married ? It's not going to last !!! He is a complete egotistical idiot !!  Get rid of him before you waste any more of your time on this meaningless and one-sided relationship !!

Lauralorrington
Lauralorrington

Kim, why in the world did you date much more marry Alaska?  He’s not charming, romantic or even polite to you.  Watching you two is very painful to me.  His blatant selfishness is horrible and I want to know why you, a seemingly smart capable woman would put up with such nonsense?  Every scene with him irks me.  He talks to you like you’re garbage and when he said he “fights to win” or “he’s stuck in the four walls with you” or not wanting to hold your hand at the spa or even have sex with you on the regular (just to name a few) makes me wonder how all that make you feel watching it in full color on your TV screen?  And no . . . . YOU TWO ARE NOT A “POWER COUPLE”, AND YOU’RE DEFINITELY NOT LIKE THE OBAMAS!!  

 

For the record, divorce is ALWAYS an option.

 

Beckyy
Beckyy

Kim, I'm not sure Alaska is the one for you.  He is very controlling.  Why aren't you living in your own place.  It doesn't seem that his sister has her son in check.  He seems to be a brat (sorry but for him to throw picture on the floor when he should have been taught to not tough them and it looks like he tore one of your clothing items).....that's not cool !  I would be out of there and fast.  Apparently he has not been taught right from wrong.  I blame Alaska for putting you in that situation.  If he is such the "man" you wouldn't be there.

 

Whose husband goes into t he bathroom and locks the door.  Maybe if he got  the both of you "your own place" he wouldn't have to lock the door.  I hope your marriage lasts.  Right now it is looking kind of shakey.

georgiegirl18
georgiegirl18

Wow, seeing the previews for next week and Alaska's philosophy of fighting to win, I thought, I don't see this marriage lasting.  Why is Alaska fighting with his wife to "win".  Nobody wins with that kind of behavior.  I wonder what Kim was thinking when she thought to marry this man and allow him to make all of the decisions.   I would find that a very hard way to live, and I think Kim is finding that out for herself.

icondoit2013
icondoit2013

I am very sad for Kim.  She's stuck with an abusive husband who's hiding the abuse in his faih.  No man that is a true christian would treat his wife like he owns her. 

 

Alaska has a handle on finances and is being smart in keeping Kim within a budget.  This couple has to sit down and have an agreement BEFORE they go out to find an apartment, find furniture. It seems that she's not respectful of Alaska's decisions about money. 

 

This marriage survival isn't good.  Doesn't look like they had a plan BEFORE they got married.

Ladyele
Ladyele

I cannot believe that Alaska said he was stuck with you Kim on the episode where you both are packing for Alaska to leave to Cali. Just because Alaska says he's a christian., doesn't mean he's a nice guy. or a good catch. I know many christians that hide behind the Bible and are hypacrites. He continues to use the Bible and his Father for being the Azz W***e he portrays on National TV ,. I was in a relationship such as you guys when i was younger and it took being in love, young ,naive and stupid. All rolled into one. Well the brain washing out of being young and naive lasted five year and then the light came on in that Ahh Ha moment and decided i'm not allowing another person to destroy my identity and my ideas and my dreams, , while he's living his.  Something wrong with that picture. Such a what i'm watching with your first year of marriage. I'm no longer young and naive but a confident Mother, grandmother , friend , and have acquired much wisdom for experiencing a relationship that was mostly one sided, Love doesn't mean he's going to change while hiding behind the Bible.and using it to have his way and only his way as he stated . All in all i wish you Luck ..You  chose an alpha male. Lets see how long that last. There is only so much a woman can take when he dismisses you so much in your first year of marriage.Your a beautiful , successful young lady. I wish you nothing but the best. You'll know what to do when the time comes , such as i did. Blessings. :)

Gvmeserenitynow
Gvmeserenitynow

Gee....four whole comments. Sounds like not much fanfare for ths show. Maybe you could use few more comments...oh wait. I made one and you didnt post it again. Whose the dbag on your editorial staff? The ones who disregard faithful fan comments so flippantly should be ashamed of themselves. You only hurt the network....I watch less and less. Why bother? Utter disregard and lack of appreciation. There are other networks...and many better shows than some of your filth.

Neszoe
Neszoe

HI Kim and Alaska, I hope your marriage works..I know it will for a few years at least. You seem to be nice people but I fear you are on pathway to nowhere leaving behind kids and family.

Kim is not being real and Alaska is not being realistic.

 

Good luck babes.

tolandcheryl
tolandcheryl

I was married for 15 years before divorcing my ex husband. He was the be head and me the submissive wife. He talked about this a lot when we started out and little did I know how hard marriage would be. Alaska, respect your wife and listen to her. You should not have to keep proclaiming that you are the head. Protect and love her and don't discount what she has to say. You came together in a marriage. It belongs to you both. Being the head does not mean you always get the final say and make all of the decisions. Your are partners and she is your help meet. Kim, have your voice; respect when your husband needs space. He has the right to go to the bathroom without you coming in. Be practical and do what is best for your family. If LA is the home base, then scale back on a NY apartment. What Alaska said makes sense. Best wishes.

hersnhers
hersnhers

Am I the only person that is confused by Kim and Alaska? they both seem like "family" to me, not that it's a bad thing at all I'm a lesbian so I am in no way being negative and I very well may be wrong but they give me gay and lesbian best friend vibes....

angela_sp
angela_sp

For a man that talks about submission I'm really curious to see how long this marriage will last. A woman does not have to be submissive to a man to be a good woman, we are not half nor something that needs to be fixed. I watched once, and never ever again

ennui5
ennui5

 @Lauralorrington It is all about Alaska as he is rather narcisstic. He continues to put his needs first...Kim will tire of this eventually. She should value herself more.

Lauralorrington
Lauralorrington

 @georgiegirl18 Yes, I'd be curious to know what Kim was thinking.  And don't give me the BS that its their religion.  He treats her horribly.  And I don't get why he wears his nasty attitude toward his wife as if its a badge of honor that was passed down to him by his father.  He should be looking to break that cycle.  Ugh!

bravoaddict18
bravoaddict18

 @georgiegirl18 i agree, his behavior seems toxic, the fact that he admits he knows he's acting rude and excuses it with "that's how my father was" "that's how i was raised" is annoying. I hope he'll see himself on TV and have some sort of turn around like Alexis' husband on RHOOC but if not I agree I don't see the marriage lasting at all. 

Lauralorrington
Lauralorrington

@Neszoe

I hope it doesn’t.  I hope she gets out as soon as possible.  If she stays in that for years and years it’ll take everything from her, including her self respect.  She has a lot to offer and there is no reason to “settle” for this kind of nonsense!  Run Kim!  Run!

 

critic
critic

 @tolandcheryl Funny how we see things others don't when they are in love. My ex was also the HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD and I the stupid wife. And when I gave in to something I really didn't want and I couldn't hide my unhappiness anymore he hit the bricks...he screwed up and I wasn't happy and the marriage failed after many years.

Neszoe
Neszoe

 @bravoaddict18  @georgiegirl18

 I don't know it looks kinda desperatre tp me. This young lady had a great job and respect. What does she think all of those who witnessed the marriage are thinking now..????? I don't get why she would even think she could be controlled. That's not being a good Christian...its being a fool. To marry a man who doesn't respect you as an equal or partner for that matter.

 

NOT me....her mother should be afraid for her daughter right now.