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John's Brownie Disaster

Get the inside scoop on John's Valentine's Day surprise for Kathryn.

Describe what you each felt when you found out the pregnancy test results were positive.

John: The first reaction for me was, “Wow I have supersonic sperm.” I hear from all my friends how hard it is to get pregnant, and this was our first try and we nailed it. The second thing I was thinking was, “Wow I'm going to be a dad.” I really have no idea or was ever trained to be a dad. I usually ask a lot of questions from older, successful people on business. I never asked anyone how to be a dad or read any books. Everyone says it’s instincts. I hope I get it right!

Kathryn: I was in pure shock. I mean, I knew we were trying, but it had not even been a month! I honestly didn’t think the test results were going to be positive or I would have waited and took them with John. A friend of mine that I was having lunch with that day said I looked different, and by different she meant pregnant. I insisted that I just enjoyed myself a little too much on our honeymoon and I was gaining weight, but I was certainly NOT PREGNANT… But that night I went home and thought, “Could I be?” Maybe she did see soothing more than just a few extra honeymoon bliss pounds, so I took the test. I was in shock for the rest of the night, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t believe it, wanted to believe it, but no, pregnant? Not me. I had dreamed of this moment, but the reality was far different from how I thought I would feel…it was simply incredible!Kathryn, why did you get so upset with John’s sister when talking about the pregnancy?

Kathryn: Well first off, let me say this: she could have started the conversation by saying “Congrats, I’m so happy for you guys,” or, “Can’t believe you’re pregnant, way to go!” Any of those comments would have been fine with me. Instead she talks to me -- a pregnant, extremely hormonal sister-in-law -- about her friends having miscarriages and the possibility of the pregnancy test being false. She continued to go on and on about all the negative scary things that a pregnant woman doesn’t want to hear, so who wouldn’t get upset? I could have done without her Debbie Downer advice all together.
 
Did John really not know the proper way to measure half a cup?

John: I knew there was such a thing as a measuring cup. But, I was in the moment and I thought it was close enough.

Did the pregnancy weight gain strain the relationship in any way?

John: The weight gain (and let’s not forget the bowel movements) did strain our sex life, but not our relationship. Actually I can’t explain this, but our relationship got better -- go figure. When your wife gains weight, I learned my lesson that you DO NOT SAY ANYTHING PERIOD! But of course I didn’t listen to my own advice at the time. I can’t hold anything in. I wish I could!

Kathryn: Yes, absolutely. I mean, we stopped being intimate right away. Even before I blew up, I think John was freaked out about getting close to me knowing our baby was growing inside me. As a woman who was newly married, I had fantasies of our first year together as being all about us, me his sexy new blushing bride and sex galore. What ended up happening was I felt gross, bloated, fat, and the last thing on my mind was getting close to John or being intimate in any way sexual. On the flip side, it helped us get closer emotionally. We really got to know one another and be there for one another in more ways than just sexually. We learned about each other and bonded in a very special way. It was not how I thought we would start our first year as husband and wife together, but in a way it was still nice, different but special just the same.Was John glad he approved the purchase of the Valentine’s Day outfit?

John: It really doesn’t matter to Kathryn whether I approve her purchase or not, she will buy it either way. I just like to know a head of time what the damages are before the credit card statement comes in. My advice to others is save your money before you get married and have a child. I had no idea how expensive it is.

How did the rest of the Valentine’s Day night turn out? Did the brownies give John food poisoning?

John: I should have used vegetable oil and a measuring cup. Who knew I would have had a terrible stomach ache after eating those brownies? Hands down the worst brownies I had ever eaten, but I made them out of love and I went to the rest room very nicely the next day.

Kathryn: I think the appetizers, dinner, and dessert at the steak house didn’t help his situation either. We went home feeling full and tired. I didn’t think our romantic night would end with me rubbing his belly, but it was definitely a first Valentine’s Day as hubby and wife to remember. Rubbing his tummy and telling him to feel better freaked me out a bit; I felt like his mommy not his wife. Needless to say I haven’t rubbed his tummy since.

 

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Kathryn and John on the Shower Speech

Get the couple's reaction to John's sister's unusual speech at the baby shower.

Is John still a "Mr. Hire-it" vs. a "Mr. Fix-it"?

KATHRYN: John is most certainly still a “Mr. Hire It.” He has his good friend come over and put together all sorts of things like the T.V. and stereo system in the bathroom, closet rods for me and the baby’s clothes. John even went as far as nicknaming him “Rent a Husband.”

I am kind of over getting him to put together all the baby’s toys and furniture I’ve bought over the internet. One time he spent an entire day trying to fix something and in the end it still wasn’t done. I have to say I prefer to spend time with him and the baby doing fun stuff like going to a fair or out shopping rather than watching him get frustrated over putting something together. John may still be a “Mr. Hire It” kind of guy, but it frees up his time to be there for me and his son just the way we like it.

JOHN: I hate fixing things; it’s a waste of my time. Perfect example: I’m at Glow Tanning Salon and I was trying to replace a light bulb. Simple right? Well it took me two hours because the casing was broken. I had to go to the store to buy a new light casing. I can’t express how much I hate putting together or fixing things, it could ruin my whole day.What's the biggest challenge of working together?

KATHRYN: Working together has definitely gotten better. There have been many times where we go in to work together, he concentrates on the book keeping and maintaining of the beds and I am in the front of the house getting to know our clients and improving our products and customer satisfaction. We have definitely come along way now that we have been co-owners for a year and actually enjoying spending time together growing our business and brainstorming about different specials and ways to make Glow Tanning Salon the best in the area. Two brains are better than one, and together we made our salon one we can be proud of.

JOHN: The biggest challenge of working together is learning to trust Kathryn more. I think she is doing a great job. She surprised me.

What was your favorite baby shower gift? Which came in handy the most?

KATHRYN: My favorite baby shower gift was the Bugaboo stroller my parents got us. I take the baby everywhere I go -- to the salon, gym, and of course shopping -- so the stroller has become his best friend and it rides like a Cadillac, nice and smooth!

We got so many amazing gifts like the swing he falls asleep in, a bouncer, bottle cleaners, baby monitors -- who knew one baby requires so much?! Our home is full with baby stuff everywhere, definitely not the bachelor pad I moved into a year ago.

JOHN: “4Mums” -- it’s a sleeping swing for babies. We put him in it and he’s out in three minutes. Wish I could buy one for myself. What were you thinking during John’s sister’s speech?

KATHRYN: I knew she was bored at my shower and thought it was chaotic, but considering she did not help or give me any kind of support planning it, I  didn’t think she would have the nerve to make my special day about her. She practically begged my guests to stick around after the shower to hear what she had to say, so for a minute I thought it was going to be something important, but in the end it got me furious. At seven months pregnant feeling big, tired, and ready to have this baby, the last thing on my mind was catering to her need to get more attention. At the end of the day I couldn’t be bothered; I was preparing to be a mom not a babysitter to my sister-in-law. I couldn’t be bothered with pettiness.

JOHN: The speech at the baby shower could have been more thoughtful.

What were you both feeling when the pool table discussion came up again after the baby shower?  What did it mean for both of you?

KATHRYN: At the time I thought John was ready to step up and be a dad. For nine months we were planning together, getting ready for our son and to be parents. I was so excited when he told me he was ready to sell the pool table, and after he said he was still thinking about it, I lost it. I freaked out thinking he wasn’t taking being a parent seriously and I needed my partner to be on the same page as me. I felt like I was going through this pregnancy alone and just wanted my husband’s support and excitement, I wanted him to show me he was really ready for our son to be born. Now I get why it take nine months to have a baby, each parent-to-be really needs that time to adjust and change into a responsible mature parent, that way when the baby comes you are ready to leave your childish ways behind A.K.A. get rid of a lousy pool table.

JOHN: When the pool table came up I knew I had to get rid of it. I always loved playing at home. But I do realize I need to grow up, so I don’t mind getting rid of it. I like joking with Kathryn.What was it like preparing for the baby? What was the hardest part? The best part?

KATHRYN: Preparing for our first baby was pretty exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time. First of all my pregnancy wasn’t easy. I was sick all the time, I got really big right away, and hated being pregnant. I thought I would love it and it would be the most amazing thing ever, but the reality was it sucked. Preparing for the baby was a great distraction from how I was feeling and it brought me and John closer; going baby shopping together and picking out the theme for our nursery were all very special and bonding experiences. Unlike our business styles we were on the same page when it came to preparing for the baby.

I think the hardest part was figuring out what we really needed, what type of bassinet? Stroller? Car seat? Monitor? Breast pump? I thought it was going to be easy, but these days there are a million different kinds of the same thing. When the baby finally came, we ended up returning so much; we went for practical and not what looked good, but that lesson didn’t come till later, much later. Parenting is easy, preparing for the unknown is another story.

JOHN: Painting the baby’s room was the hardest part. For some reason Kathryn wanted me to participate -- she thought it would be more sentimental for us. I hated it. The best part was the registry, picking out the furniture and cool gifts.

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